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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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What's going on between my old teacher and me?
Q. ok so just 2 days ago i saw my old science teacher who i had when i was in eighth grade. im really attracted to him and i know the feeling was mutual when he was my teacher. but i wonder if the feeling still is? Now I'm 17 and I believe he is 30 ...
A. 16 August 2009: awwww you sound so conflicted, the yearnings of the heart can be so demanding. Your almost 18 in some states 17 is legal so from a legal stand point this probably wouldnt have a problem getting with you. Socially it could be awkward your families ... (read in full...)
What are the best ways to meet new people?
Q. Hi I would like to ask if anyone has any good ideas on how to meet new people. All of my friends are in relationships or are married and have very little time for me, I spend most weekends at home, I have joined a gym, a book club etc but I would ...
A. 16 August 2009: If you want to go on a date ask somebody out.... (read in full...)
Unsatisfied sex with husband has me thinking of a member of the family
Q. Wondering if you could give me some advice, my husband and I love each other but the problem comes with sex. He has never really been able to get an erection in the last 10 years and if he does get one it is not a complete one and dont last long. ...
A. 15 August 2009: Mariage is religious or social it doesnt replace your basic biological ----i had a different word in mind here but it excaped me desires. You need to talk to your husband he took a vow hes your husband he owes it to you to consider your feelings so ... (read in full...)
Dating someone who has been sexually abused..how do you go about it?
Q. hey, this might be on the edge of what this site is for but here it goes: There's this girl that really likes me and i really like her, i'm one of the very few people she has trusted enough to tell that she has been sexually abused by her un...
A. 15 August 2009: Dont worry about it im sure you know plenty of other girls that where abused or are being abused they just havnt told you. I dont know why she told you, maybe its her way of letting you know shes not a virgin so you wont have to ask why etc late... (read in full...)
Advice for meeting a girl I met online
Q. Hi I came across this girl a while ago on a dating site. A long while back. No, sorry that's wrong, she discovered my profile. We've been in contact intermittently since, and I know I want to meet her. I just worry that she might be put off...
A. 15 August 2009: you could talk with her online more webcam and send her pictures this way you will find out how she feels about your weight issue. she could weigh more then you for all you know... (read in full...)
Crushing on guy 10 years old than me and want to get over him!
Q. I'm 15 and crushing really hard on this guy, he is about 10 years older than me so we obv can't date. I'd appreciate all your tips, even the little ones, on getting over him. thanks :)...
A. 15 August 2009: I guess it depends it will be harder if hes a guy you see frequently i would suggest try being friends with him you may see him in a different light and not be so attracted to him.
People want what they cant have im guessing thats why you like thi... (read in full...)
How can I make my friend tell me if she is hitting on me?
Q. i have this friend in school.she is hitting on me without a doubt.she touches my legs at the lunch tables and when she gives me a hug she makes sure i am sitting down so she can snuggle me with her breasts.i ask her a try to drop hints to make her ...
A. 15 August 2009: flirt with her back shell let you kno once she feels comfortble. do you like her if so theres no problem just play her game.
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I like her so much that I'm worried I have somehow messed things up!
Q. Hey, i'll try to keep this short, so i met this girl the other week and got her number, the following week we met up in the afternoon and spent basically the rest of the day just hanging out, we got on great. So we end up at her place and just h...
A. 15 August 2009: Your good dude you worry to much you should have just kssed her. the way you did now you know she doesnt want you to kiss her yet. Next time Just Kees dah Gurl... (read in full...)
She's 13 and she wants me to have sex with her!!!
Q. Hi I'm 16 and my girlfriend has just turned 13 but she wants sex! What should I do? Is it ok to have sex with someone that age cos she has kept asking me almost every night for about 3 weeks....
A. 15 August 2009: The irony of the religious comment is Mary the Virgin was betrothed to Joseph and became pregnant with Jesus the son of God at guess what - 13! So im guessing God wouldnt have a problem with it... (read in full...)
She's 13 and she wants me to have sex with her!!!
Q. Hi I'm 16 and my girlfriend has just turned 13 but she wants sex! What should I do? Is it ok to have sex with someone that age cos she has kept asking me almost every night for about 3 weeks....
A. 15 August 2009: I say go for just make sure its good because its her first time and she will never forget hopefully. and use protection and be safe.... (read in full...)
How do I break up with my girlfriend without breaking her heart?
Q. So me and my girl been together for about 6months. 3months into the relationship i moved away and we kept going as an LDR. For some wierd reason After I moved away we started talking on the phone for like 12hours straight everyday and got really ...
A. 15 August 2009: You just gotta do it man doesnt make since being with her, shell survive every girl goes through this guess what her future bf and all the other men in her life will have you to thank for all the emotional problems she drops on them.
Nah im kiddi... (read in full...)
Watching him masturbate was hot, but now I'm obsessing and feeling useless at sex.
Q. I would like to start out this question by saying I think masturbation is healthy and I never used to have problems with it. Now the question. I never even bothered to think about whether my boyfriend masturbated, because I really didn't care if he ...
A. 15 August 2009: Theres nothing you can do really if he still satisfies you sexually then dont worry about it but if you have a gf masterbating is like cheating lol ... (read in full...)
I'm 33 and have never been in a serious relationship. Am I doomed to be an old maid?
Q. Okay. So I am 33 years old and have never been in a serious relationship. I feel like most men my age would not want to be with someone who has so little experience. I think I'm a great catch. I am a little overweight which tends to hold me back ...
A. 15 August 2009: whats a little over weight? any way some wont care the main thing is what have you been doing to change your circumstance have you ever asked a guy out men have to work so hard these days to stay ahead they have less energy to be bothered with ... (read in full...)
My parents won't allow me to hang out with my friends because of the things they do, but I'm not like that! What can I do?
Q. Hai. Well..Obviously i have a problem..Its not that big i think..But i need to know yr opinion..I have this group of people i call them 'friends'..they have really bad habits.They drink,they smoke and others are doing drugs i think.But it kinda ...
A. 15 August 2009: At 16 her parents are still in charge unless he is an emancipated minor but my rule is if you live under my roof and eat my food you do as i say.
hanging around people who do this stuff could put you at risk but i think your parents should t... (read in full...)
I'm having serious problems with my kids, and now I don't know if I wish to see anyone in my family again. Please help
Q. [MOD NOTE: Two questions posted together] I know my children will be fine, son of 17 and daughter of 14. They went into independence early and their social skills are advanced. Knowledge has been fed into them. I studied psychology etc... But what...
A. 15 August 2009: Never heard of ODD but ADD, you need to get these children to a psychologist asap. You should be in counseling im not sure how things work in new zealand but what youve been through is domestic violence sounds like you have battered woman syndrome. ... (read in full...)
Want to be with my stepsister how do I get her?
Q. Okay i know it may sound a little sick, but i want to be with may sister... Granted she's my STEP sister, but still, i know she would be against it if i told her that i secretly love her and want to be with her because she considers us siblings even ...
A. 15 August 2009: Dude read what your wrote 10,000 times and if it still makes sense to you hell go for it maybe by then your sister will have learned to tie her shoes.
Seriously man nothing good will come of this, It will be like being married since this girl wil... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I'm interested now?
Q. im 21years old and i've been friends with this guy 5yrs nw and he said he really liked me but i didn't like him in that. till now i started to see him in a different way and don't know how to tell him. can you help me?...
A. 15 August 2009: Just tell him you dont have to come on to strong just try to establish a relationship with him. you can start hanging out and being in his life a little more if he liked you then he may still like you now. he may have moved on and if so you have to ... (read in full...)
I want my brother put away before he can abuse his own kids like he did to me
Q. My brother has assaulted me when i was a child In front of a few of his high school friends and he tore my underwear off and threw them in the middle of the street and made me get them while i was naked and a few years later my brother was very ...
A. 14 August 2009: dude your just pissed first of he was drunk for that one incident from what you say he hasnt done anyhting to be registered as a sex offender ripping your underwear of wasnt sexual in nature he just new the tactic would humiliate you. following... (read in full...)
How can I get her back she won't even talk to me
Q. it started out i was working for a golf course with a couple of friends of mine, and there was this girl i found quite attractive so i would see how it went through the year. a few weeks in, my friends were telling me "man you should really go for ...
A. 14 August 2009: wow chicks are like that man you just gotta let this one go theres 30 million people n canada you'll find another girl mght not be easy but now you have a reason to go back to mexico think about how much you will enjoy t knowing your single. Forg... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says "You would try if you wanted it" way too much..
Q. Ok so it's perfectly fair to play hard to get, it's a real turn on in the bedroom and can make the average romp become a wild night to remember. This is NOT the case when she says it every time you want to do something, holding hands is a prime...
A. 14 August 2009: I think your girl doesnt take you so seriously and she thinks its a funny im pretty sure she gets a kick out of it or maybe she likes you to be aggressive. I would say just go without sex for a while it wont kill you you still have two hands p... (read in full...)
My husband keeps suggesting that I find a boyfriend to have sex with. Is this normal in a marriage?
Q. I'm not sure if I am in the minority or not but here goes. I am a sexually frustrated wife. I have been married for over 17 yrs. with kids. My husband has suggested to me over many years that I find a boyfriend that can keep up with me. Is there ...
A. 14 August 2009: Oh i think you called his bluff and he got mad and instead of swallowing his pride hes wlling to let you go out and find a BF... (read in full...)
My husband keeps suggesting that I find a boyfriend to have sex with. Is this normal in a marriage?
Q. I'm not sure if I am in the minority or not but here goes. I am a sexually frustrated wife. I have been married for over 17 yrs. with kids. My husband has suggested to me over many years that I find a boyfriend that can keep up with me. Is there ...
A. 14 August 2009: wow thats interesting well personally i could say why he said that though and theres a huge possibility he ment it. Im sure he wants you to be satisfied sexually if he cant do it hwy not get some one who can hes had you all to himself for 17 y... (read in full...)
GUYS: what do you do when a platonic friend confesses she likes you?
Q. what do u do when a platonic friend confesses that she likes u more than just a friend? - do u tell her that ud like to stay friends? - do u feel awkward and avoid her? i am especially interested in knowing why the guy would avoid his good fri...
A. 14 August 2009: Hmm think it could depend on the guy and his personality, but heres a theory if your realy good friends with a girl you tell her alot of things you show her weak side tell her all your secrets things you possibly wouldnt want a lover to know, ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and addicted to porn
Q. Hi i'm a 15 year old girl and i am addicted to porn! i dont know what to do! everytime i am alone or someone is downstairs i always turn to porn! i always masturbate while doing it. i am really afraid that i will grow up to be one of those bad nas...
A. 14 August 2009: "i am really afraid that i will grow up to be one of those bad nasty people and i dont want to be."
whats that supposed to mean Who are the bad nasty people,and what do they do.
well i think thats a misguided thing to say but your a child and... (read in full...)
It's a constant struggle trying to lose my tummy fat and it won't go away! What can I do?
Q. Hi there =) I have struggled with weight maintenance for as long as I can remember and I have pretty bad genetics. Everyone is obese with diabetes in my adult family (aunts, uncles, grandparents) and an aunt on both my mother and fathers side have ...
A. 14 August 2009: you have to tone up your muscle starving your self alone wont help get you a flat tummy have you ever seen an old skiny person there all saggy they may be skiny but they have no muscle, you can try diffrent things theres tons of stuff on the market ... (read in full...)
How can I find out what people really think of me?
Q. How can I find out what do people REALLY think of me??? This is really a huge secret, what sometimes we don't find out even before we die,Or never. Not even from your family... Did you ever hear this things, when someone has a nick name,behind...
A. 14 August 2009: You have a point theres no way to really kno how some one feels about you unless they tell you or you hear them mean ts just one of those things n life fck what people thnk about you just live your life... (read in full...)
Will this regret ever fade away?
Q. I’m 28 and newly married. I love my wife and the life that I have with her except that I am riddled with regret over missed opportunities. I can’t go a minute without wishing I had sowed my oats before getting married. I never had the desire t...
A. 14 August 2009: If she is a good woman and makes you happy stick by her leavng her now will not make you happy youll just end up alone and miserable or with an std from sleeping around,
If you really want to fall from grace maybe you could get your wife to ... (read in full...)
He's going to jail... will we ever have a chance of being together?
Q. My long-time good friend always liked me. Our age difference was too much for me at the time, but I did like him back. About 3.5 years ago I got into a bad relationship and lost contact with my friend. We recently started talking again an...
A. 12 August 2009: "he wants me to slow it down (or so he says"
You really need to take him seriously Im sure it will be hard for you since youve become so attached to him, but theres only so much you can do. He doesnt seem to want what you want rite now and ther... (read in full...)
How can I get my dad to stop touching my butt???
Q. Okay.. well this is really awkward, but i've been having a major problem with my dad lately. He always touches my butt! Not like grabbing or anything like that, but he always bumps his hand into it when i'm standing next to him, or walking by hi...
A. 12 August 2009: lol i think hes doing it to annoy you its not right though how is your age range correct, well your a grown woman i would say slap him and mean it. or you play his twisted game touch his but he probably wont like it when the shoe is on the other ... (read in full...)
Need some good advice on getting and keeping a boyfriend?
Q. I;m an 18 years old girl, turning 19 very soon,and I feel very sad about my future boy- friend issue. I' don't know what am I doing wrong, but everytime,I have a ""chance'' it turnes out nothing at the end... Usually ,the guy already has a gi...
A. 12 August 2009: Have you ever dated older guys. Guys your age are going to be on a different maturity level then you usually. At your age guys are not ready to settle down and make long term commitments to one girl and many men have a fear of commitment.
Meet ... (read in full...)
He put his penis inside me. Am I a virgin?
Q. I was on my summer vacation and I was fooling around with the cutest guy and we got naked and all. He fingered me and one thing led to another and umm he put his penis in my vagina (his penis was maybe 9 cm long, I dunno and I'm a virgin, or at ...
A. 11 August 2009: Shes still a virgin if she wants to be a virgin... (read in full...)
I just want to know the truth, how do I get her to come clean?
Q. I have a serious question. I know that as men or humanbeings in general, we have a tendency to over react or feed into our doubts. Let me tell you the story. I meant and married my wife via the internet. When I met her I was done. Totally in love....
A. 11 August 2009: hmmm she has to kno you kno im guessing shes not ready to admit it to herself yet she doesnt want to ahve the talk either. just tell her you kno theres no sense in her hiding it women are great liars even if she tells you you probably wont be ... (read in full...)
My wife finally confessed about her affair, do you think we could ever be happy again?
Q. i am married for the last twenty two years to a beautiful woman who i taught was my soulmate for life. for the first fifteen years we had a wonderful marriage and have five beautiful children. seven years ago my wife started a new job and everything ...
A. 11 August 2009: You sound like a nice guy even called your children lovely sigh. you need to forgive your wife remember for better or for worst, so she messed up you have been married along time this man was exciting and new im sure there wasnt any love ... (read in full...)
How do girls feel about shy guys?
Q. hi! how do girls feel about shy / quiet guys? just thought id keep this one short and sweet! ...
A. 11 August 2009: how do you feel about shy girls. I wonder girls will agree with me on this. shy guys are generally insecure lack confidence/self esteem there rarely likely to ask a girl out or even approach one. i could go on and on. If your a shy guy do your... (read in full...)
I might be in love with my female teacher...what should I do?
Q. Okay, so here how it goes. I am female! I am 16, 15 when it happened, 2 days before my 16th birthday i think :/ I had to swop tutors because mine was away for a little while. And i had a new tutor for about 4-5 months... At first it took a ...
A. 11 August 2009: sincerly yours you always give sutch good advice well i dont i hve anything to say, now. I hope things work out for the poster... (read in full...)
Boobs.
Q. My boobs are the size of a 15 yr old is there something wrong with me?...
A. 11 August 2009: sincerly thats a great response thats exactly what i thought when i read this post.
And to the poster if you think somehting is wrong go too a doctor, look at your mother and females on your fathers side do they have large breast. you can get ... (read in full...)
My pregnancy hormones are making me want sex all the time, but I'm worried my boyfriend will be unsatisfied once the baby is born and my urges go away!
Q. I am 7 months pregnant and about 900 miles away from home with my fiance because he's a worker for traveling company(welding co. )and so obviously in a hotel. Well, since we have been up here I've had this sex kick to where I'm into porn and ma...
A. 11 August 2009: enjoy your self fullfill your burst he can masterbate for the six weeks of withdrawals or you can atleast give him a hand job he needs to learn to control himselfbetter though ... (read in full...)
Am I gay if I like anal sex?
Q. she was on her period so we had anal sex, it was all good but afterwards she asked if she could bum me, i've always wondered so i let her ( she used a strap on ) It felt so amazing, i started thinking afterwards, does this mean i could be gay?...
A. 11 August 2009: This is interesting what will the kids think up next my first though is to say your gay, but i have to evaluate what makes some one gay, in my opinion sexual attraction makes one gay not sexual satisfaction. for instance if a str8 man was blind fo... (read in full...)
He's going to jail... will we ever have a chance of being together?
Q. My long-time good friend always liked me. Our age difference was too much for me at the time, but I did like him back. About 3.5 years ago I got into a bad relationship and lost contact with my friend. We recently started talking again an...
A. 11 August 2009: I think you should rite him a letter explaining that, exactly how you feel basically what you wrote in here.
if hes smart he wont push you away, it sounds like hes being a little stubborn selfish and immature.
This guy has a good thing going... (read in full...)
My friend stopped talking to me when I told her I had feelings for her!
Q. I told a friend i liked her i had emotions towards her. she stopped talking and doesnt want anything to do with me. what should i do?...
A. 11 August 2009: wow thats harsh maybe a girl can answer this better then a guy.
Its possible that its happened before i imagine its hard for a woman to have many guy freinds if shes attrative. maybe she didnt like you and she and didnt kno how to tell you real... (read in full...)
I lied and made mistakes, but surely he shouldn't treat me that way? Is he the worst kind of person to be with?
Q. This is my first time to get sme advice, suggestions or ideas. I have a troubled relationship in which has a long story behind it. My boyfriend and i are deaf. I grew up with the public so i have alot of experience with hearing people a...
A. 11 August 2009: GO be with your parents please. Youve wasted to mutch time with this guy you need to get your life back on track and hes not going to help you. your with him becuse you want sense of purpose not becuse he makes you happy.
Your a young woman yo... (read in full...)
He's going to jail... will we ever have a chance of being together?
Q. My long-time good friend always liked me. Our age difference was too much for me at the time, but I did like him back. About 3.5 years ago I got into a bad relationship and lost contact with my friend. We recently started talking again an...
A. 8 August 2009: This is deep wow, now that im all teary eyed, im going to say fight for your man, this guy has alot on his plate right now but you just keep it up. He probably doesnt realize how mutch you care about him, Be there for him let him kno your true fe... (read in full...)
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