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HAPPY HOLIDAYS, DEARCUPID FAMILY!

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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...

Women who need to take control

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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...

Failure and weak men

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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...

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What is normal...how much is too much

Q.   Quick question, is it normal for a guy to call his girlfriend of 3 weeks, 10 times in 23 hours for a chat, lasting between 4 mins to 1 hour at a time? ...

A.   15 April 2010: Hmm probably not normal im guessing he wants to tell you something that he cant work up the nerve to just tell you. I would suggest being prepared for some shocking news.... (read in full...)

Underdeveloped virgin hates his genitalia and sexual feelings....

Q.   *OP's own title* Hello all, before I go on, here's some specs about me. I'm male, mid-30's, still a virgin. I have an aversion to sex. I do think it's become way too mainstreamed and stripped of any passion and love in today's society; look at toda...

A.   14 April 2010: it seems to me you use this aversion to sex thing as an excuse to actually becoming involved in a relation ship. Underdeveloped im not sure what you mean by that but if your a man and can physically have sex i dont see how your underdev... (read in full...)

Boyfriend in jail accused of rape!

Q.   My on again off again boyfriend of three years has been in jail now for a month he keeps calling, having his family call, and write me i dont think i want to be with him anymore because he is accused of rape and kidnap but he has yet to tell why ...

A.   14 April 2010: hmmm, has he been tried and convicted of rape, first of all rape and kidinapping can net a life sentence, i dont think you should turn your back on him just yet but you need to get all the facts straight, I dont judge people and i beleive in ... (read in full...)

First kiss left me feeling molested!

Q.   I have a question about my first kiss. It happened some years ago. Here's some backstory: I'd met this girl in ychat, and we just started talking. Turns out we had a lot in common. We hit it off. We arranged a meeting. Anyway, that night(H...

A.   14 April 2010: hmmm i dont kno whats normal any more but you kno thats something you really need to get over, time to move on... (read in full...)

I was almost raped by my ex should I tell my new boyfriend?

Q.   *OP's own title* Ok. I'm not sure how to do or say this. It's too hard for me to even talk about it. Writing it I think I'm ok. A year ago I was in a relationship with a guy a year and a half older than me. Kissing was as far as we'd ever went befo...

A.   14 April 2010: No dont tell him hes just a kid he doesnt need the drama what will telling him acomplish. kno guy wants to know something like that. ... (read in full...)

I take care of the kids, pay for everything, and he tells me he wants a girl on the side??

Q.   i wanna to leave my husband because im not happy all we do is argue and i tired of it i support him my two kids and his son every time i turn around im paying for something like child support he can't think for him self i have to do every thing ...

A.   14 April 2010: wow really thats nuts maybe before you do the divorce thing see a marriage counselor, sounds like theres more to this.... (read in full...)

I'm scared of getting pregnant at 14, but I really want to have sex!

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been together 7and half months, he means everything to me and we've started to touch each other but i do want to have sex with him but we're not sure, im scared of gettin pregnant at 14, but do you think im pushing to far ...

A.   14 April 2010: at your age girls falls in love with puppies flowers and rockstars at the drop of a dime. if you love picture him scarred and burned over 90% of his body then see if you can still love him. Your a humanbeing you have needs wants and desire... (read in full...)

He didn't care when we were together..was he really hurt when I dumped him?

Q.   i recently broke up with my boyfriend we were together for quite awhile, the reason i broke up with him is because he never wanted to spend time together he (lived with me)all he did was go to work and as soon as he was finished he went to his ...

A.   14 April 2010: Wow what a turd, any ways of course hes hurt, its sounds like he has a video game addiction and hes not thinking rationally, why is he on your phone plan he should have his own plan what kind of man is he it sounds like your mor eof a mother to him ... (read in full...)

Is there a way to fix this without kicking him out?

Q.   I feel terrible for writing this, but feel I could benefit from some advice on how to approach this situation. I trust my boyfriend, but there is a money issue and I dont want to be taken for a ride. We just moved in together, and he was originall...

A.   14 April 2010: You might not be able to get the money back without a fight. you need to get a record of evrything he owes hopefully your rental agreement with him and any money you lent him you have a written statement form him, also i would suggest getting a lawy... (read in full...)

How to have a conversation with my sister-in-law?

Q.   I know this is a pretty ridiculous question but I’d really appreciate any answers. My brother got married last year and my sister-in-law is a really lovely person but she’s also very beautiful and very, very intelligent and I find her pretty ...

A.   13 April 2010: just talk about normal stuff shes your sister in law she will hopefull be apart of your familly for along time, you it might even just be easier to tell her the truth about how you feel your awkwardness around her may make her feel like you dont ... (read in full...)

Made a mistake and took a drug and then he left me! shouldnt he forgive me?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend broke up a few months back, we were really good together, we were just the same, same interests, same humour and over all he was a lovely guy. We had the odd problem, and when it came down to an end i made the mistake of taking a ...

A.   13 April 2010: hmm seems like theres more to the story, i find it difficult to fathom a guy leaving you over something like this. its possible he wanted to end the relations hip any way and this is his excuse. Any ways you dont need his forgiveness, he himself ... (read in full...)

Should I stick around as a friend and risk getting hurt?

Q.   Hi. So, I've just come out of a relationship with the most fantastic person I have ever met. We were together for 3 months and she's beautiful, challenging, intelligent, and has made me feel amazing! She broke it off because of a lot of things going ...

A.   13 April 2010: your the back up plan this girl will probably never get over her ex, you may have a shot at a relationship with her but kno this you will never have her heart fully. i honestly suggest moving on. alot of times people love what they cant have. and ... (read in full...)

Problems with prom

Q.   As many people may know, prom season is now in full swing, with everyone picking out dresses, finding dates, buying tickets and everything. For me, it's more complicated. I'm a senior, seventeen, and I went to the prom last year with my friend ...

A.   11 April 2010: awww hmmm now i feel bad about turning girls down for prom, i didnt even go to mine wasnt my thing, ask tyler and some other lonely looking guy im sure you will find one.... (read in full...)

Casual sex with a stranger.

Q.   Lately I have been having fantasies about random sexual encounters, and it is something I really want to try. But I have no idea how to go about this. I have been in relationships for so long and I find all these men that just want to fall in love ...

A.   7 April 2010: interesting, initially i was going to say that should be easy to do, but i started thinking, if an attractive women walked up to me and said she would like to have casual sex with no strings attached i probably wouldnt go for it, i would be ... (read in full...)

She put my picture on the internet without my knowledge!

Q.   Hi everyone i am 17 and really need suggestions from the parents out there. My mom thanks i have an anger problem. Today i found out 1 of the girls i hang out with at school took a picture of me and put it on facebook.(WITHOUT ME KNOWING UNTIL I ...

A.   7 April 2010: Im with you dude she shouldnt be putting pcs of you up wth out you knowing thats what got michael phelps into all that trouble, but maybe she likes you or something, i would try to get to the bottom of it with out being to mean shes just a kid after ... (read in full...)

Out of the dating scene for awhile, do I just throw myself out there?

Q.   Hi everyone! When I was 15 I got into an abusive relationship [mostly mental abuse], and only managed to get out of it when I was almost 17. I'm now almost 19, and still haven't been out with anyone since. I am now ready for a relationship, but it s...

A.   7 April 2010: you could try that, just let the guys kno your availiable im sure the rite one will come your way... (read in full...)

She informed me after the fact that I was her first, now she's avoiding me! I don't know what I did wrong!

Q.   I met this girl and i thought she was really nice, we became friends and things moved on from there. After a few months she says she's ready to have sex. After she tells me it was her first time, and i thought it was cool that she chose me. But af...

A.   31 March 2010: who knows who cares when a girl starts putting you through this its time to move on your not DR Phil so so stop trying to figure this chick out maybe shell fly in on her magic cloud and explain everything maybe not, stop driving your self crazy over ... (read in full...)

I was mortified by his comment! What did he mean?

Q.   ive known this guy for 7 months and weve become close friends in that time. i really like him but notice sometimes he says things which dont add up for example he owns 3 houses, has 60 k in savings and want to buy a 350 k house in london. hes ha...

A.   31 March 2010: all youve ever done was try to help him, hmmm women typically try to do that, help a guy they care about, and its a good thing , unfortunately most men dont want another mother, they want a hot sexy chick, not some one they have told all there pr... (read in full...)

I was mortified by his comment! What did he mean?

Q.   ive known this guy for 7 months and weve become close friends in that time. i really like him but notice sometimes he says things which dont add up for example he owns 3 houses, has 60 k in savings and want to buy a 350 k house in london. hes ha...

A.   31 March 2010: all youve ever done was try to help him, hmmm women typically try to do that, help a guy they care about, and its a good thing , unfortunately most men dont want another mother, they want a hot sexy chick, not some one they have told all there pr... (read in full...)

Should I make this gigantic life change for the woman I love?

Q.   So I impregnated a woman with 4 kids who is in a verbally and physically abusive marriage. I did not know most of the facts at the time and it was sort of a woops moment, but yea. We always went to my place, etc.. Plus she wanted it. Kept...

A.   31 March 2010: DONT DO IT. you have know idea what your getting your self into. If this woman s even telling the truth or not you dont know, the kid may not even be yours, she has four other little snot nosed bratts that grew up with an abusive father allegedly ... (read in full...)

Is she confused or scared or just playing me up?

Q.   I am a shy guy and this girl found me in office. She seems much younger. There is nothing much charming about me, but this girl went nuts when she saw me. She giggled whole day looking at me from her desk and sent on vibes that were too strong. I ...

A.   31 March 2010: Stop chasing tail and focus on your job men are so easily distracted for all you kno this woman could be trying to get your job. its better to be a wealthy employed shy virgin then then a unemployed bum chasing sum skirt. this women seems to imature ... (read in full...)

Should I stay over at his house? He says all he wants to do is cuddle.....

Q.   I have been in a relationship with my bf for a month now and he wants me to go to his room and stay over for a night. He said he only wants to cuddle me to bed and won't do anything. Should I agree with him?...

A.   31 March 2010: You obviously dont feel comfortable about this so i say go wth your intuition, if you felt good you wouldnt have to ask, your old enough to make your own decisions and do what you want to do,In inevitably you will be sleeping with this guy ... (read in full...)

I feel sexy in women's underwear, would I be considered a transvestite?

Q.   so here go...i am a straight man that loves women....i have no sexual or emotional attraction to men. however I like to ware womens panties and thongs...they make me feel sexy. not into anything else like dresses, though I've tried it. I am ...

A.   31 March 2010: A transvestite is someone born with both male and female genitalia. Trying on womens clothes wont make you a one. If you feel freaked out by it dont do it Maybe thats Gods way of letting you know notthing good will come of your actions. Im no... (read in full...)

Falling for a guy I have never met. Help!

Q.   Hi, I may sound very creepy. But I have fallen for a guy I have never met. My friends know who he is so he's not a creep. I was talking to him on msn a while back and we kinda arranged to meet and we have been texting a lot. I am always the one ...

A.   28 March 2010: Aww whats with all the msn post so mutch love is lost and found on msn interesting this site should have an msn category. Anywho lets see, im gonna suggest some possibilities, there could be A a logistical reason for him not meeting up with you... (read in full...)

Why did he start a conversation, only to ignore me half way thru it?

Q.   hiya im 17 On thurs night i went to a party n got with this guy who i had been talking to for the past 6 months on and off, there being a definate spark. He wouldnt leave my side and held my hand. But was very into 'going somewhere else' ...

A.   28 March 2010: Maybe he fell asleep or had to go somewhere computter malfunction who knows, im sure if you ask him he will explain, Everyone son msn these days i still cant figure out how it works any oh and to answer the other question of course he wants to have ... (read in full...)

Don't tell me to get over her - how do I get her back?

Q.   Met this girl online over 3 years ago and fell in love. She's perfect for me, the most wonderful girl I've ever met in my life and never have any of my physical relationships before her been as wonderful as my relationship with this girl. We would ...

A.   28 March 2010: Hmmm to be blunt theres another guy, if you met her on the internet so did some other guy, if you feel that way about her so does some other guy. What ever she is telling you probably isnt the truth, shes young and im sure marriage is more then she ... (read in full...)

Will our baby have a birth defect? No judemental answers please.

Q.   im having a relationship with my 1st cousin. I love him so much i would die for him and he would for me the thing is we want to have a baby but im afraid it might be born with a birth defect. I know what people are thinking were sick and its gros ...

A.   25 March 2010: its unlikely, just eat right and take care of your self, im just curious if you love this guy so mutch why arent you married... (read in full...)

I don't want to tell him the baby is NOT his!!!

Q.   I am the one who posted pregnant by my old flame I am pregnant by my old flame and have a boyfriend, we have been together for 5 years and its been rocky, I have messed with my old flame two times, I am pregnant and have not told my BF, he is very ...

A.   25 March 2010: when you live in sin this is what happens, get saved give your life to christ and ask God for a solution cause none of yours will turn out good... (read in full...)

Should I risk removing her from my life hoping it would inspire her to date me instead?

Q.   Ok, so let me just give you guys a little bit of my backstory before I get into my question. I have a friend. She is a girl. I'm in love with her (heard it a million times before, I know). So I asked her to be my girlfriend a couple months ago and ...

A.   25 March 2010: You need to move on being around this girl is a crutch. she is the one missing out trust me most women want someone who will love them the way you love her but if she cant see that then its her loss. I suggest explaining to her your feelings, there ... (read in full...)

The baby girl I had adopted is in my class!!! (I'm teaching her!)

Q.   I'm an 8th grade teacher and when i was younger I had a baby girl and put her up for adoption because i was only 15 at the time i had her. Now I recently recieved an email from the parents of a child informing me that my daughter was in my class. ...

A.   25 March 2010: FAKEEE!!... (read in full...)

When did your little girl start to grow up?

Q.   Maybe this question is irrelevant to the point of this site. But I figure I'll give it a shot. I have four daughters. My oldest is 8-almost-9 and in third grade. A few of her friends are growing up fast. They wear deodorant, bras (even though the...

A.   25 March 2010: WOW youve really put some thought into this, Well i dont have kids i have four cars and a yacht im tryng to keep it that way, and yes its possible to have four cars and yacht even if you spend most of your time on the computer, and no helicopters ... (read in full...)

I really like this guy, but he's always coming up with excuses to not have sex. Help!

Q.   Hiya all at cupid Im being stupid hear but theres this guy i like a lot slept with him like 4 times, Talk throughout the day but thats only short conversatings Anyway the only way i think i can see him is ask him for sex and yes last week...

A.   22 March 2010: Sounds like he wants more then just sex casual sex from a chick is great for a one night stand but if you keep having eventually your feelings will get deeper for each other. PLus the fact that he doesnt have to chase you and he cna seemingly have ... (read in full...)

How do you react when you cause your girlfriend to cry?

Q.   from a guys perpective how do u react when your girlfriend cries because of something you did to her? ...

A.   22 March 2010: Good answer quiet, I have made girls cry but im not sure it was me they just cried for what ever reason to try and make me feel like im the bad guy, But really i dont care if she cries im not going to do anything wrong so if shes crying i kno its ... (read in full...)

Signs of attraction?

Q.   Hi. I was wondering if any guys could help me out. Are there any body language signs that guys give when they are attracted to a girl? What are some signs of attraction? Thanks!...

A.   18 March 2010: staring,smiling,talking,flirting,blushing, etc Guys arent that complicated if they like you you will kno they will certainly make it known. There was a girl i liked very much she finnaly noticed me and realized i liked her but she had said som... (read in full...)

Had sex with my step brother then he got mad when he found out I was a virgin!

Q.   Ok I am not here so people can say rude things I am just need a little advice form OPEN MINDED people. My step brother is 10 yrs older then me. (We have the same dad). I am 18 and he is 28. He recently moved back home because him and his gf broke up...

A.   16 March 2010: Very few people are even answering the question, The poster didnt come on here to be judged shes looking for advice, all you people condeming here have your own closets full of skeletons so stop acting like your so difrent. Any wya to the poster t... (read in full...)

I want so much to be with my cousin...

Q.   I'm 20 and I had never been in love until I met my cousin.. I was free guy who always believed in SEX and FOOD. I have never been involved in much girls. But my cousin is sexy and smart and right now I am just feeling for her very much. She's ...

A.   16 March 2010: Good story, your a talented writer. Fiction writer any way... (read in full...)

I'm worried I have chlamydia again!.

Q.   almost a year ago i had a boyfriend who i loved so much, but in the end things never worked out and i found out that he had passed me chlamydia, i didnt know i had it until a few months after we broke up. i went to the clinic and took anti-biotics ...

A.   16 March 2010: Just tell him he didnt use a condom either so dont let him put the blame on you you need to tell him so he can get checked, if he breaks up over this so be it but you need to tell him your a tart if you dont.... (read in full...)

What is the 'secret code" in finding a girlfriend???

Q.   Dear Cupid, I am having a lot of trouble finding a girlfriend. I have to admit I am very shy going up to a complete stranger and asking her on a date. The only girls I have the courage to talk to are the ones that i meet at classes or in sh...

A.   10 March 2010: Why do you want GF again, i think you just need to get laiid more often doesnt mean you should go out and get a gf, you had bad experiences with gf in the past you will just make the same mistakes again, there are plenty of hot women that will sleep ... (read in full...)

"Brace" yourself!!!

Q.   I am 27 and have horrible upper teeth, I have just seen an orthodontist who has said I need a fixed brace for 12-18 months, I have always felt awkward about my teeth and want them straight but I am constantly worried what people think of me and ...

A.   10 March 2010: braces are popular now and guys will tease you but secretly they will think its cute plus they take like fve yrs off your age, now all you need is a cheerleader out fit and you can be my date ok joking but seriously get the braces youll be fine... (read in full...)

Was my cousin trying to have sex with me?

Q.   Was my cousin trying to have sex with me? About 4 months ago me and her and the family went to France and stayed in a hostel one night our parents left and there was a friend sleeping on the sofa and my cousin was taking a shower and came out nake...

A.   10 March 2010: OH wow to bad your dad came back your never gonna kno the answer to this unless you get it from her, my question is would you have had sex with her. I suggest asking just be slick about next time you see her say something like nice outfit but you ... (read in full...)

I don't know if I can wait 3 years...

Q.   I'm 17 years old and live in the UK. I met a friend online a year ago, he lives in saudi arabia and is the same age as me. we have been in a relationship for just under a year. i love him a lot and the feelings the same, but we are not going to meet ...

A.   10 March 2010: i wouldnt wait if i where you you hvnt met this guy he might be nothing like what you expect plus hes from suadi arabia they dont have a track record of treating women to good, 3 yrs isnt that long if the guy is really into you stay freinds and time ... (read in full...)

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