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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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Am I too optimistic about rekindling a relationship with my ex-boyfriend?
Q. I feel like I either have the opportunity of a lifetime or am just fooling myself, for the second time, by being too idealistic. Here's the situation: Two months ago, my boyfriend dumped me. His reasons were that he wanted more sex than time an...
A. 11 December 2011: haha wilt chamberlain... who ever he is any whoo.. Part of me wants to say fight for your man... but only a small part like the tip of my pinky. The whole rest of me says screw this guy he dumped you because he wasnt getting enough sex.. I say bull. ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or is his story plausible?
Q. Please bear with the long description :/ Any reply is much appreciated. I have been in a relationship for 8 months with a guy who looks great on paper. He's a doctor with a prominent position and good reputation in the community. We met online. ...
A. 11 December 2011: if he needed a story hes cheating. and hes not a good lier so he made up a story instead of just lyin.... (read in full...)
Is my love of Peter Pan healthy?
Q. Ok so this might not be an appropriate question for this site, but I've recieved a lot of good advice on here, so I hope it will help. So, when I was little, I LOVED peter pan. I watched the cartoon version almost everyday, and hoped and prayed h...
A. 11 December 2011: bernard she is in the USA according to her flag... any whoo this is a funny one.. i dont think your any less strange then those people who dress up as storm troopers and wait five hours in the rain to see a movie they could just go home sleep in ... (read in full...)
I can't compete sexually with my wife's former lover
Q. My wife's last lover had a bigger penis, greater stamina and could please her with vaginal intercourse. I feel so inadequate and don't know why I should make any more pathetic attempts. Any advice?...
A. 11 December 2011: Well i asked my GF to give me a rating on how good i was in bed she said a 6.5 compared to the others shes been with. and she said im some where in the middle when it comes to size. now i could be insecure about all this or could take it for what it ... (read in full...)
Can a man maintain an erection for awhile? Or will he lose it if he doesn't "use" it?
Q. Kinda random question, (but there's a valid reason for me asking, honest!): when a man gets an erection, can he hold on to it for a while before having sex, or does he lose it if he doesn't use it almost straight away? To put it into context, if he ...
A. 11 December 2011: yeah it just depends on the man.. and the setting and how into the female he is. Ive had females do certain things that completely turn me off. I think your over all mood makes a difference as well if your tired, or wide awake. If youve been having ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy throw it all away for a random one night hook up?
Q. This may be a brad question, but it just doesn't make sense to me why a guy would cheat on a good girl that hes been with for a few years. I was absolutely good to him. Im as sincere as they get. Im honestly the type of girlfriend most guys are ...
A. 2 December 2011: wow how did he throw it all away? If you love him unconditionally you will forgive him for this an forget it. "Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us". Now if you dont do this it would be you throwing everything ... (read in full...)
How should I deal with a guy who flirts with my girlfriend?
Q. So theres this guy who flirts with my girlfriend and it pisses me off. He bribes her for pictures and tries to turn her on. Just like every other woman, she hides a lot and i know it, and she tells me not to say anything. What should i do?...
A. 2 December 2011: I dont agree flirting isnt harmless... "Though shall not covet" Thats a commandment for a reason.
Im not sure you can do anything about it. If it was your wife i suppose there would be some ways of handling the situation. But its not even worth it... (read in full...)
He seems to like me except when he's around his friends
Q. There's this guy in my classes and he really seems like he likes me. He stares at me sometimes.. When he talks to me, he looks right into my eyes. He teases me in a friendly way. He sometimes "jokes" around about stuff. Um.. Like, for exam...
A. 2 December 2011: Well i wouldn't tell my high school freinds about a girl i liked... because then you have to hear all their opinions an advice. This doesn't stop at high school sadly i think its a life long thing. For example these are some comments that come to ... (read in full...)
My friends don't support my decision to take a year long hiatus from dating
Q. Dear Aunts. I just found out that my bf of 11 months got a new g.f . So i left him last week and decided that i won't date for atleast 1year. But my friends don't accept my decision, they keep reminding me that i am weird, (especially now because ...
A. 2 December 2011: Your love life is your business,tell your so called friends to bug off.When your good and ready youll date again. ... (read in full...)
Is it fair to be with this man considering my state of mind?
Q. Alright, so, background story time. A while ago (a long enough while ago) I got out of a very abusive relationship and moved states. I had been with a man who said terrible things to me and on a few incidences was physically abusive as well. His ...
A. 18 November 2011: It seems like he really cares about you and is willing to accept your scars. No one is perfect we all have scars whether their mental or physical.
Instead of asking if he deserves you be thankful you found someone that accepts you.... (read in full...)
I really like this girl but looks like she has second thoughts about me. What should I do ?
Q. Hi, its been a while since ive been here but, i am stuck on an issue that might have different and better aproaches. I dated my gf for almost 3 years we broke up like 2 months ago things werent going to great.. But i still love her,, now i met this ...
A. 18 November 2011: You messed up... Dude you took it way too fast falling in love and all that. Im sue this girl is gorgeous and beautiful and the sun rises when she opens her eyes and your world revolves around her.
Young pretty girls have millions of options ther... (read in full...)
Does this guy still have feelings for me? or does he just want the best of both worlds?
Q. i just recently been dumped by my bf of two months (we were fwb for 6 months prior to him asking me out) he said that he felt that we would just be better off as friends, and that he doesnt feel like nothing had changed between us when he asked me ...
A. 18 November 2011: HMMM.... I think he just likes having sex with you. and if you like the sex too go for it... other then that keep your eye open for a guy who wants more like an actual relationship. Ive used that tired ole you deserve better line a million times ... (read in full...)
How can I change my G/f's mind about sex? She's had some nasty experiences in the past but my friends' are nagging me about why its taking so long with her
Q. Hey guys, me and my gf have been dating for 5 months already. The thing is she's a virgin and I'm not, I of course care about her and do not want to pressure her into doing anything shes uncormfotable with. We've been talking about sex (well maybe ...
A. 18 November 2011: Stop talking about your lack of sex life with your friend. Your fiends should not even be thinking about whether your girl is a virgin or not.Dude what is wrong with you? I Hope this young lady never has sex with you/
The reason she doesn't want... (read in full...)
He was too cool, but I still see his old personality
Q. My ex and i broke up after a year about a month ago. Hes moved on from me but im still madly in love with him. He broke up with me because he was "too cool" for me, but I still see the old personality in him. How can i get him back? Please answer as ...
A. 18 November 2011: Ive broken up with a hand full of broads, Its something you think about consider and plan, so when you finally commit to it you know there's no going back. In my case i never completely burn the bridge its nice if the chick wants to at least be ... (read in full...)
Me and my friend told our other friend's mom she was cutting herself..
Q. Hey, my friend and I told our mutual friend's mom that she was cutting herself and we don't know what to do! So last year the friend that's cutting herself, aka E, had alot of guy drama. She really liked this guy and a friend of hers told him twice ...
A. 18 November 2011: OK E will probably be pissed an d pretend to hate you guys because E sounds crazy shes a little girl with some serious psychological problems. That said you did the rite thing what if she did cut her self and your going to her funeral with tha... (read in full...)
I will be seeing my ex at a party and I don't know how I should behave around him. Any advise?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me three months ago after we were together a year. He wanted to concentrate on other things and even though I loved him he wasn't the nicest or most considerate person. I do still love him but recognise I'm a lot better ...
A. 18 November 2011: Why are yo going to this party... I think you want to see him. I think you will doll yourself up all pretty like and pray he notices you and realizes what hes been missing.Unless your being court ordered to go to this party dont go you want see him ... (read in full...)
Online dating etiquette...
Q. I am trying my hand at online dating after being newly single and out of an 8 year relationship. I keep getting bombarded with messages from men I am not interested in. If I ignore then they keep messaging me and plus I feel it is better to be ...
A. 18 November 2011: Good post. Ive always wondered what all those females who reject me think now I know sending them rude messages really irks them. But on another note I think your going about this the wrong way when you are in the mall shoe shopping you dont wai... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and in love with 2 men!
Q. im 27 weeks pregnant and am in love with two men, one is obviously the father who i love as my friend the other i am extremly attracted to what do i do?. ...
A. 18 November 2011: First find the father and tell him. then take it from there the guy whose not the father might not even want to be with you, The father might not even want to be with you. i say choose the richest man that will have you ... (read in full...)
B/f will not perform oral sex on me but he did for his ex!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 yrs WILL NOT perform oral sex on me. He use to do it to his past girlfriends, especially this one girl who he had been going back and forth with for like 6 years. He even had an old poem on a blog site about how he wished he could...
A. 17 November 2011: In my experience many females spend all their time in the shower washing their hair. I think some women are just really uncomfortable touching them selves i cant even count the times a female has told me she doesnt masterbate or has never did it or ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will only sleep on the couch, not with me
Q. please help my boyfriend and i have been together for 9 months now been staying together for the past 3 months, in the past month or so he has stopped sleeping in the bed with me and will only sleep on the couch. there has been a few times whe...
A. 17 November 2011: very strange maybe he doesn't like being told what to do i sleep in my car a lot at home and when i visit people. They may find it insulting or something but for me i sleep so good in my car im like well why get up go in the house get get changed ... (read in full...)
He says he's given me 3 chances. Says he will not talk to me any more if I don't allow more than kisses and touching next time.What do I say to him?
Q. I like this guy ever since I was little , we grew up together and Finally one day we started texting dirty and he wants me to do stuff to him and I want to but I'm still a virgin and don't know if I could please him and I don't know how to do a ...
A. 17 November 2011: Hes ready for a sexual relation ship are you, theres some things to consider before saying yes. If you are not ready for a sexual relation ship then you should tell the guy that and call it off with him. In my opinion the biggest reason to be in a ... (read in full...)
Never had an orgasm
Q. Hello, out there. I am a 26 year old female. I have never had an orgasm, either clitorally, or vaginally. I have tried on my own for years, and with my husband, but I just can't do it. Has anyone else had this problem, and does anyone have any ...
A. 17 November 2011: Maybe you cant some women cant. I think maybe you should try to just enjoy what you can of the sex with out putting the pressure of trying to have an orgasm.. but at any rate im sure theres some books and videos on it that my help.. ive never had a ... (read in full...)
How can I stop people from asking when I'm getting married?
Q. I got a question. i have friends and a few family members who want to know when i'm getting married. i have already told them that i am NEVER getting married. but for some strange reason, they keep pestering me about it. how can i put a stop to ...
A. 27 June 2011: im sure they will stop asking when your 50 and still single. on another note punishing yourself because of what others did to you is not wise . ... (read in full...)
My troubled circumstances have been preventing me from dating and making friends.....
Q. Hey everyone, I am a 22 year old man with some very serious social issues despite the fact that I have been very successful otherwise. although this may be extremely hard to believe [it is for myself quite often] but I have never dated, hugged, h...
A. 27 June 2011: you think way to much.. leave the past behind so you can move forward... (read in full...)
Dating advice for someone new to America?
Q. I m really down. Hi everyone. After being dumped by my gf of 4 years for another guy 5 months ago and after most of the healing process, when I tried to look upon someone whom I thought could be a date, it turned out that she was with someone else. ...
A. 27 June 2011: Dude your trying way to hard... honestly i think you should take a break from the whole dating thing make some friends get a hobby enjoy America bit find God and breathe a little whats the rush... ... (read in full...)
Want to have oral sex but worried about the smell coming from my vagina!
Q. I have an issue. My boyfriend wants to give me oral sex but i'm afraid of what he'll think because lately i'v had a wierd smell coming from my vagina. He keeps insisting but i'm too nervous! Advice please?...
A. 27 June 2011: hmm well atleast your worried first go to a DOC make sure its nothing serious... you can try douching too some of them seem to always have a smell of somekind just make sure its clean shouldnt be a problem... (read in full...)
Guys: What's your type?
Q. Im just morbidly curious, other then men who are into the size 0 does it really matter if the girl has a bit of a belly, Im not talking like three hundred pounds really just a little bit of extra chub. And what would be your ideal girlfriend, is i...
A. 27 June 2011: hmm interesting never met a girl better then me at anything so i dont know if it would turn me off..
any way flat stomach firm breast no stretchmarks good teeth thats i deal to me and she doesnt have to be a 0 to have a flat stomach... but im sure... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my stepbrother! What should I do?
Q. My dad is marrying a gal with 2 boys and 1 girl, she is pregnant with my half brother.I am in love with my stepbrother but my other little stepbrother and stepsister have caught us together and now they threaten to tell my dad. It would destroy my ...
A. 21 June 2011: it makes sense your mother likes your stepfather so it would be logical for you to like his son....but i think your way to young for the whole love thing and the relationship is to close to home your bound to get into a fight and break up... But ... (read in full...)
Why the change in his behaviour?
Q. Why would a man (who is a 'friend',more like an aquaintance), who has been ignoring me and being so serious towards me, suddenly finding an interest in me when he realized I have made some accomplishment? I've known him for 5 yrs. At the beginning ...
A. 21 June 2011: maybe he likes you but he doesnt want it to lead to something or he knows it wont so hes just trying to make you not like him even more.. i dont kno well sometimes if i like a woman that i dont want to like ill treat them bad just to make them not ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that a guy can be this shy?!
Q. Is it possible that a guy can be this shy?! Ive been texting a guy i met in a nightclub, he lives in another town almost 3 hours away. He came across shy and awkward, but he was nice. He did explain he really likes me but that he is super shy. ...
A. 21 June 2011: yeah move on... (read in full...)
How can I erase my past out of his head?
Q. well am still in love with my ex boyfriend, he told me he still love me but the problem is when we broke up i cheated on him , he said he forgave but he still bring it up when ever we meet. how do i erase everything that i did in the past out of his ...
A. 21 June 2011: you cant learn from your mistake and move on... (read in full...)
Any advice on having a good time without having sex?
Q. I am sleeping at my boyfriend's house on Friday. We are having a movie night and he asked me if I wanted to stop over. At first I was a bit apprehensive as we haven't been going out very long (just over 2 months), but it is a very fast paced, ...
A. 21 June 2011: hmmmm.. theres ways to have a good time without sex but you will probably end up having sex.. but any way after your good and drunk you can give him a massage..or a BJ or a handjob but dont ask him just reach down his pants and go for it somethings ... (read in full...)
Almost ended up having sex with an 18 year old guy. Some of my friends tell me that I shouldn't go near him or talk to him again while others say I need to talk to him. What do I do?
Q. Last night I went to a party and there were quite a few people I knew there, and yes this was your typical teenage party with drink but I and the person in question weren't drinking. My friends brother was at the party (he just turned 18 a week ago ...
A. 21 June 2011: its no big deal i think you should talk to him but i dont think you should be sleeping with a guy you dont even kno... (read in full...)
Embarrassed to tell girl I am a virgin - Should I be?
Q. Hi, I'm a 23 year old virgin and couple of weeks ago I meet this chick and for whatever reason she thinks I'm awesome :) anyway we've started to hop into bed and fool around but haven’t gone all the way yet. The thing is she doesn’t know I'm a ...
A. 21 June 2011: you could tell her your a virgin but she probably wont believe you...or she could already know... at any rate you shouldnt be having sex with some one you cant talk to about sex... i think you should tell her this way you will atleast have an excuse ... (read in full...)
I have done the right thing and ended my affair, but how do I now cope with the emptiness?
Q. I am not proud of my affair. I am not that kind of a person. She and I met at work and became close. Her marriage was on the rocks, she has 1 kid and I was living away from my wife and daughter for various reasons. It just happened, first ...
A. 20 June 2011: if you no longer love your wife you should get a divorce... (read in full...)
Should I try being a FWB? None of my relationships work out. Need help please.
Q. well ive recentley gotten out of two relationships the first i was with him for 2yrs. and loved him deeply but one day he just up an left without a text or call or a reason to him leaving .An i didnt know why he left i still to this day dnt know why ...
A. 20 June 2011: WAIT! you said you where waiting till marriage and now you want tohave friends with benefits. i think you should stick to your original plan ... (read in full...)
Trouble with mom and dad. How can I help?
Q. Mum and dad are arguing. No one agrees who is right. Dad is violent (only shouting) and mum just cries. Only way mum can get her way is by refusing to cook for dad when he insults her, but he cant take his wife NOT being his servant. Theres 2 of us, ...
A. 20 June 2011: A wife is not a servant shes a partner... husbands and wives should serve each other..souds like there headed for divorce theres probably nothing you can do... (read in full...)
I regret breaking up with my ex....what should I do?
Q. So 2 days ago i had a really vivid dream that i loved .....about my ex, every time i woke up i would keep going back to sleep hoping it would never end and i was really sad when it did. In the dream I was like 22 or something and I was really ...
A. 20 June 2011: gawdddd.. just be single.. i would never go back to a girl that broke up with me. focus on your homework...okok you mite get him back if you beg i mean really beg well it works for cute little puppies... (read in full...)
Is he just rubbing salt into my wounds?
Q. Hi am just looking for some advice really and im hoping someone could help me. I have a male friend who ive been friends with for 8 years. Im 26 he is 30.Longstory short i met him through a friend, she was dating him at the time. I havent seen this ...
A. 20 June 2011: hmmm... well i think he realizes how much you like him and he is indulging you its nice to be liked.. ive spent time with women that liked me even if i didnt like them as much.. there was a young woman i was freinds with i went with her to her prom ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend refuses to talk about my miscarriage!
Q. Hey guys, I posted a while back about wheather to tell my long distance boyfriend that I'd had a miscariage. I didn't know I was pregnant and there was complications with the miscariage I was very ill. Of course I told him and ever since thing...
A. 20 June 2011: i would guess its pretty confusing for him to you its a big deal the baby was in you you went through all the physical pain, and i would say had a connection with the baby because it was in you. i dont think you can expect a guy to understand how ... (read in full...)
I know I should wait to have sex, but I think I'm ready.....is this the right choice?
Q. im 14 and like other teen girls i think about sex A LOT and i think im ready to have sex with my boyfriend but im scared of the pain or what could happen if we (Im) not carefull......you might think "oh all he wants is sex" not really i told him i ...
A. 20 June 2011: hmmm iguess it could go two ways the sex can be amazing the first time or a complete disappointment... in my opinion when you gotta sneak around its not as fun.. you wouldnt even be able to tell anybody about it. I think you should wait untill you ... (read in full...)
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