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23 December 2009: Hey all RAINORFIRE here just want to say HAPPY HOLIDAYS Wishing everyone the best in the up coming new year, Spend some quality time with the ones that are important in your life live to the fullest and make the best of life. This is t...
Women who need to take control
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21 December 2009: Hello all RAINORFIRE here, OK Thanks to the Blizzard of "09" i had time to write this. The topic is Women who need to take control. There are many post on here where Females are telling the tail of the jerk boyfriend or husband whose ...
Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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Why is the porn argument so one-sided?
Q. Why is it that when a woman is hurt by porn use it's always about why she should change herself to accept it and how it's her fault that it bothers her and how basically, it's all about the sacrifices she needs to make to accommodate him? Why is it ...
A. 12 June 2010: Theres alot of porn hating female sout there hmm maybe if they went to the gym toned up a bit got rid of that cellulite there man wouldnt be watching porn.... now thats what the jerk in me wants to say but the truth is women need to realize that ... (read in full...)
His low self-esteem is ruining our sex life!
Q. I've been with the same boyfriend for over a year. Over the past few months, our sex drive has steeply decline to where we barely kiss or even hug anymore. Tonight in talking about it he admitted that one of the reasons for this is because he do...
A. 11 June 2010: start going to the gym and dragg hist pot bellied behind with you... (read in full...)
Help! He ignores me sexually!
Q. i`ve been with my boyfriend for over 15 years,we have 2 kids,10 and 7...umm, i really dont know where to start...well,here goes,when we met,i was a normal sized gal,loved to party,worked hard and played hard. we bought our first house when i was 19...
A. 11 June 2010: hmm sounds like he buys you things not everybody s in to sex your guy expresses his love for you in another way. and im sure the weight makes a diffrence personanly could not be attracted by a large woman. do you suspect hes cheating any way ... (read in full...)
I can't find the words to tell him not to come visit me!
Q. When I was a uni, I was in a relationship with this guy for 2 years. He was my first serious boyfriend and I loved him very much. We split up when I graduated and I left to go travelling for 2 years. Over the past 4 months, I finally started dating ...
A. 11 June 2010: oh ive been there im a guy and im telling you to tell him you dont want him to visit your seing someone, your allready leading him on buy not being honest with him. you kno im starting to realze how selfish women are you dont want to hurt him ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of women and the games they play!
Q. hello, Im 26 and ive never had a relationship, every possible relationship seems to hit a wall because, for example a female will give me her number and never answer my call or call me back, she will tell me she likes me and would like to hang out ...
A. 11 June 2010: Get used to it buddy take 20 bucks down to your local night spot get a drink and support a stripper. get the rite drink and the rite stripper and all your troubles are over in fact you got money take a c note... (read in full...)
I'm sick of women and the games they play!
Q. hello, Im 26 and ive never had a relationship, every possible relationship seems to hit a wall because, for example a female will give me her number and never answer my call or call me back, she will tell me she likes me and would like to hang out ...
A. 11 June 2010: Get used to it buddy take 20 bucks down to your local night spot get a drink and support a stripper. get the rite drink and the rite stripper and all your troubles are over in fact you got money take a c note... (read in full...)
Help! I hurt the guys I date!
Q. Well i have a problem i usually hurt guys when i date them.But i have to admit some guys in my past have hurt me to and i have never fully recover from some heartbreaks.At times i look for the guy`s flaws and not good things about them.I think ...
A. 11 June 2010: your 14 stop dating ... (read in full...)
Married twice by 26...afraid that will scare away my chances of ever dating again.
Q. I got married when i was 20 to a guy I was head over heels for. By the time I was 22 I was divorced after he turned into an abusive drunk. I got married again when I was 24 and had a beautiful little girl and now I am separated and on my way to ...
A. 11 June 2010: sounds like your just looking for love, maybe you should take a date from the relationship scene your a young woman you have time to find that rte guy. Personally i thnk its to soon for a serious relation ship sounds like you just want a rebound ... (read in full...)
I have tried to explain to him my needs but he just doesn't catch on.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. When I first started dating him I was dealing with a lot of issues from a sexual assault and being really self conscience about anything sexual. I didn't enjoy anything he did to me no matter how ...
A. 11 June 2010: i dont think hes into it i think you killed it for him, if he was into you he would catch on unfortunately when he was ready you werent now your ready and he doesnt care, you seem sexually in compatible. you could try being a little more aggressive ... (read in full...)
Why is the porn argument so one-sided?
Q. Why is it that when a woman is hurt by porn use it's always about why she should change herself to accept it and how it's her fault that it bothers her and how basically, it's all about the sacrifices she needs to make to accommodate him? Why is it ...
A. 11 June 2010: most of the complaints Ive read on here are women saying their man watching porn makes them feel bad not wanted ETC.... ok thats not the mans fault. its his fault if his porn watching interferes with his husbandry duties ie paying the bills cutting ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid getting hit on when I have a boyfriend?
Q. So, it doesn't happen often, but sometimes guys come up to me when I'm in a public place like a coffee shop or park by myself. Usually I'm reading a book or something but that doesn't really stop them from trying to talk to me. No one has ever ...
A. 11 June 2010: Just tell them off the bat you have a BF and yes there hitting on you where guys we can handle the rejection its a hit or miss. You can find a nice way to bring up your BF for EX say oh yes im an art major my BF loves my work etc think of something ... (read in full...)
Desperate at 13 for a cute girl who isn't a bitch!
Q. im desperate for a cute girl who is not a bitch, im only thirteen and i have no idea what a 13 year old pretty,preppy, hockey playing girl would want in a guy, her past boyfriends are all good looking, kind of douche bags and many are hockey ...
A. 27 April 2010: hmm so you have a girl in mind well theres several aproaches if she likes you it should be easy just go up and ask her out.... (read in full...)
Is it true that for many guys they can totally separate sex from any emotion?
Q. Is it true that for many guys they can totally separate sex from any emotion? I was a virgin before my current BF but he's had three casual sex experiences, one of them a one night stand. I don't get how he could have sex with girls he did...
A. 27 April 2010: yeah its true forget about what heppened with the others hes with you now... (read in full...)
Too hairy down there?
Q. im really hairy down there.. good, bad? im a 16 year old girl and ive been getting really close to this guy he wants to finger me and see me naked but im too scared of him seeing me down there. also i dont know how to ask him if its ok that ...
A. 27 April 2010: he wont care lol seriously he wont care if he cares about your hair theres something wrong with him dont let him touch you. when you say hairy im thinking a bush or something not pigtails down to your ankles. but really dont strees it he will ... (read in full...)
She says that all I can think about is sex
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 9 months, she is my first everything, meaning that she was my first first kiss, my first girlfriend, and my first sex partner. I am currently 19 years old, by the way. To be honest, we have made love so many times ...
A. 27 April 2010: lol think she just wants to have some music she can listen to with you obviously she doesnt like mettalica i would say you dont have to change what you like but theres no harm in trying something new if you love her as much as you say you do why ... (read in full...)
Why do guys assess every female's attractiveness, almost automatically?
Q. Hi. Just fancied asking a question for discussion. I know this is a kind of sweeping generalisation, and I know not every guy is the same, but go with me here... Why do guys assess every female's attractiveness, almost automatically? And why do men ...
A. 27 April 2010: wow good question i never thought about it but you kno your right. Im guessing ts a biological thing since men usually do all the work in a relationship to get it started anyway. i thought women did that to but now that i think about men are much ... (read in full...)
How do I get over the relationship when he made me chose between "all or nothing"
Q. Hey! So my question is how do you get over someone? Like i was in an on and off relationship for about 3 years we were closer than close i even lost my virginity to him. The reason our relationship ended is because i wasn't willing to make the type ...
A. 27 April 2010: oh ive heard this before you wanted to play the field a bit b ie sleep with the guy keep him on the back burner and keep your options open, hes a smart man thats an unhealthy situation and he got himself out of it.
We always want what we cant hav... (read in full...)
Husband moved out with another woman!
Q. Me and my husband have been together since 2003 and married in 2004. We knew each other as friends for at least a year before. I was the one who initiated everything pretty much but he also wanted the same thing. We were crazy for each other at the ...
A. 27 April 2010: It sounds to me like your husband cant deal with your depression/anxiety issues, i dont understand the whole grocery sex thing, im thinking he brought you the groceries because he felt guilty im thinking he may have had sex with you out of pity too, ... (read in full...)
I tried to forget that teacher but now he's coming on to me.
Q. Hey, i'm a 14 year old girl,, I wrote here before,, about teacher/pupil chrush,, and everybody just told me to forget him (my teacher), it would never work so, I belived them,, and tryed to forget him, but it was really hard. And when I was u know, ...
A. 27 April 2010: he kissed you
How old is this guy either way hes an idiot.
what does he make as a teacher 40 50 thousand Australian dollars a yr, so basically this guy wants to be poor jobless and on a sex offenders list idiot.
My problem here is this guy... (read in full...)
I cant stop eating!
Q. hey im turned thirteen 2 weeks ago and i am 200 pounds..... i know this is really big and i really need to lose weight! i dont wanna go through my adolescent years fat, but i cant stop eating! my mom thinks not eating will help but then ill s...
A. 27 April 2010: Canada has an army? oh any way hmmm are you a single child usually people stuf there stomachs and face because there hearts are empty, sounds to me like somebodies a little lonely. any way you need to practice self control only you can control your ... (read in full...)
Longing for a boyfriend.
Q. Hey, I have been single for as long as i can remember, and it's beginning to make me feel bad. All of my best friends have boyfriends that are hanging around them everyday, and i always feel somewhat awkward. Sometimes I even cry a little because...
A. 27 April 2010: hmmm have you ever tried asking any one out?
Well your a girl so i would say dont ask any one out aggressiveness could turn a boy off because there not used to some hot chick actually talking to them moreless even asking them out.
I would say fi... (read in full...)
Attracted to fictional characters
Q. Thanks for all help in advance. Recently, I've started to become attracted to ficitonal characters. I've done so in the past, but not to the extent I have now. I just... feel some sort of chemistry (personality-wise, not like we're communicating or ...
A. 27 April 2010: Most characters though fictional are based on human elements lol i think everyone has a fictional character crush i admit mine was princess jasmine ive come to terms with the fact no real woman could take her place.
dont let it get you down cha... (read in full...)
13 year old boy cant stop thinking about masterbating..
Q. *OP's own title* ok, i am 13 years old and i recently hit puberty to the point where i can now ejaculate, its been about 1 and a half months and since the first time i did ejaculate, i have not been able to stop myself from masterbating on a dail...
A. 27 April 2010: its probably normal i wouldnt worry about just be sure to wash your hands. LOl @ outcast thats funny. but foreal its all good, and your allready addicted you cant help that but there's plenty of things you addicted to once you try it like food water ... (read in full...)
Ex wants secret meetings
Q. My ex boyfriend and I finished in January and him and his sister put me through alot of things that hurt me and on Easter he texted me sayin he wanted us to meet again but not go steady and we've been meetin since Easter and I don't know wheter am ...
A. 27 April 2010: Hmm i would say break up with him focus on your studies go to UNI graduate then meet a man that knows what he wants. this guy is bad news. but you already knew that... (read in full...)
Little sister gets away with everything
Q. My friend is having issues with his little sister and I don't know what to tell him. He's 17 and his little sister is 9. She is getting away with a lot of stuff and he's been attempting to correct her but then he just get's yelled at by his mother...
A. 27 April 2010: Maybe thats the problem he doesnt like her so the things she does bothers him more, secondly kids can pick up on things like that they kno when there not liked ive seen it in many children.
Little sisters can be spoiled brats sneaky and down rig... (read in full...)
Custody and domestic violence issues
Q. i have never been to court for the custoday of my 5 yr old and my 2 yr old and im there mother but when me and there father split up my son was in pre school so we decided together to let him finish the last yr of his pre school in the same school ...
A. 27 April 2010: Glad to be of service hope things work out for you... (read in full...)
Why don't guys text you back?
Q. This will possibly amuse most of you but im asking one of the most common questions in history.. WHY dont guys text back?? and even when they do 30% of the time its atriaght away 70% of the time it can be hours later. Thye even do it to girls ...
A. 27 April 2010: I agree with all these answers, i will ad my input i hate txting my hands like most guys are to damn big for one i play video games since i was born so i have arthritis txtng suxs its only meant for emergency situations when you cant have an actual ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says flirting is just a "guy thing"
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and my boyfriend have been dating close to 8 months now. he is 35 and im 21, but age doesnt seem to be a problem because we both agree its just simply a number and we both love each other. Anyway some of the stuff he does sort of ...
A. 27 April 2010: hmmm i think hes to old for you your both n two diffrent phases of life i think he just enjoys having a barely legal GF he probably would go for 18 if he could.
as for the flirting i think its natural to some extent its kind of fun, and even if ... (read in full...)
Why did wife lie about her past? I have a right to know!
Q. I found out my wife lied to me about how many guys she slept with before me. When the topic first came up when we were dating she told me there was three. I had a very hard time with this because i felt very insecure about myself. At that point i ...
A. 27 April 2010: hmmm i think i would jsut get a divorce, the problem is your not going to believe any answer she gives you she probably s just trying to say what she thinks will calm you down if she says three and you call her a liar for an hour and then she says ... (read in full...)
Problems galore--B/f has no job, obsessed with playstation and porn!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for nearly ayear and a half, I live at his house at the moment as he likes me to be here and i love bieng with him!! I and would like to have our personal space in a flat. I am finding it very claustraphobic living ...
A. 27 April 2010: 1 You cant change him 2 things wont change 3 move out 4 you getting having a baby wont change things 5 you need to love your self before you can love some one else if you loved your self you wouldnt stick around in a bad situation.... (read in full...)
Problems galore--B/f has no job, obsessed with playstation and porn!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for nearly ayear and a half, I live at his house at the moment as he likes me to be here and i love bieng with him!! I and would like to have our personal space in a flat. I am finding it very claustraphobic living ...
A. 27 April 2010: 1 You cant change him 2 things wont change 3 move out 4 you getting having a baby wont change things 5 you need to love your self before you can love some one else if you loved your self you wouldnt stick around in a bad situation.... (read in full...)
I usually text him first
Q. I have a huge crush on my best guy friend. I am usually the one who texts first, but he always replies almost immediately. He will sometimes text first and sometimes calls. Many of his responses are short, but he keeps the convo going and I'm ...
A. 15 April 2010: hmm you kno this is a good question i wish i had the answer but i kno exactly where your coming from.
My guess is he likes you he cares about you but he doesn't think of you the way you think of him he answers you back quickly because hes ... (read in full...)
Custody and domestic violence issues
Q. i have never been to court for the custoday of my 5 yr old and my 2 yr old and im there mother but when me and there father split up my son was in pre school so we decided together to let him finish the last yr of his pre school in the same school ...
A. 15 April 2010: I would suggest getting your lawyer or get one if you dont have one and find out the deal before you go and dont go buy your self bring some one another man if you can. im not sure what your legal rights are, who has legal custody of the child if ... (read in full...)
Could an unrequited love be your soul mate?
Q. Hey, I was just wondering what people thought about soul mates. Do you think it's possible for an unrequited love to be your soul mate, even if he/she has a different soul mate they found first? I like to believe evryone has ONE soul mate, but ...
A. 15 April 2010: I believe in soul mates, but im not sure the science behind it on the other hand theres soul ties and thats in the Bible and you can soul tie with more then one person a soul tie is a strong bond you have with another more then just physical or ... (read in full...)
Men don't cut it any more, is same sex the way to go?
Q. Dear cupid, I am sick of men I am sick of boys I am sick of bad relationships, broken hearted, being used, lied to, cheated, strung around, toyed with, abused, abandoned, and every Tom Dick and Harry that tries very hard to impregnate me. This has...
A. 15 April 2010: Hell this world is nuts most of what your saying seems possible, but... sounds to me like your just hurt and venting though not actually into a lesbian relationship ,also i dont quite understand what you mean by
"but it’s not that I cant find thi... (read in full...)
My mother slanders my cooking
Q. O.K. this is kind of childish I know. I live with my parents cause I'm jobless and have a lot of debt. My mother told me a friend of hers ask her if I know how to cook and my mother told her I knew how to but my food was always 'tasteless'. I'm ...
A. 15 April 2010: you should be offended if its not positive its negative your mother should not be making little negative comments about you bottom line put your foot down.... (read in full...)
This is abuse, right? And I should leave?
Q. Getting right into it...(sorry, it's a long question) I met this guy four months ago through a mutual friend. At first he came off as a bit cocky, but overall, a nice guy. I started seeing him, and things got comfortable pretty quick, (as in...
A. 15 April 2010: Hmm well it doesnt sound like you have made an official comitment to this guy he is a jealous type the wrong type to play emotional games girls like to play with. i would suggest leaving him or seal the deal.
for nstance tell him his jealousy... (read in full...)
Don't want to lose her forever
Q. I have a broken heart because my ex girlfriend has a boyfriend and I truely love her and want her back. What can I do?? I dated my ex girlfriend for a year in a half. I'm 32 she's 24 and we were a very good looking couple. She always talked ab...
A. 15 April 2010: Hmm i agree 24 is to young to get married 30 is pushing it but women have a bio clock thats ever tiking, so they try to speed things up i mean you can have kids at 40 theeese days so whats the rush right.
any whoo, suggest being very agressiv... (read in full...)
15, don't like the life I live, and want a baby
Q. I am 15 years old and want a baby. I do not beleive i am completely ready to have a baby, but what parent is? I have recently moved away from all my family and friends due to my parents divorce. Having parents that were together was really diffacult ...
A. 15 April 2010: The thing is you want a baby great but is it fair to a child to bring it into a world when your not prepared for it.
I believe in marriage and that if you have a child you should do so out of that union.
BUt... it seems like you have really ... (read in full...)
Have I lost interest in sex?
Q. Something strange has happened to me, after a strange first relationship at 16 I ended up celibate for a year BUT now I have no sex drive and I find sex a chore, argh!! Have I lost interest in sex (i still enjoy the emotional aspet)...
A. 15 April 2010: interesting well in my opinion sex s suposed to amplify a relation ship make two people closer spiritually physically and emotionally. so maybe its possible that if the sex you where having in your relation ship wasnt doing all that then i can se ... (read in full...)
Is it natural to feel bad after rejecting someone?
Q. Well, I was just wondering. How many people out there after telling their exes to get lost are only happy for a while but the not for long? Believe me, I know my ex isn't good for me. I know there's no way to avoid him but to politely tell hi...
A. 15 April 2010: very interesting, well it sounds like your a very caring and sensitive person, I guess its possible to feel bad if you say something hurtful to some one you should feel bad if you have a heart. The thing is in your situation you really need to let ... (read in full...)
What is normal...how much is too much
Q. Quick question, is it normal for a guy to call his girlfriend of 3 weeks, 10 times in 23 hours for a chat, lasting between 4 mins to 1 hour at a time? ...
A. 15 April 2010: Hmm probably not normal im guessing he wants to tell you something that he cant work up the nerve to just tell you. I would suggest being prepared for some shocking news.... (read in full...)
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