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Women who need to take control
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Failure and weak men
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21 December 2009: Well hello all Its RAINORFIRE, I felt it is about time I jump into the mix. I have something to talk about, Men who are weak Cheating seems to be a huge issue it always has in relationships then there's the porn, post after post wives ...
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He's going to jail... will we ever have a chance of being together?
Q. My long-time good friend always liked me. Our age difference was too much for me at the time, but I did like him back. About 3.5 years ago I got into a bad relationship and lost contact with my friend. We recently started talking again an...
A. 12 August 2009: "he wants me to slow it down (or so he says"
You really need to take him seriously Im sure it will be hard for you since youve become so attached to him, but theres only so much you can do. He doesnt seem to want what you want rite now and ther... (read in full...)
He's going to jail... will we ever have a chance of being together?
Q. My long-time good friend always liked me. Our age difference was too much for me at the time, but I did like him back. About 3.5 years ago I got into a bad relationship and lost contact with my friend. We recently started talking again an...
A. 11 August 2009: I think you should rite him a letter explaining that, exactly how you feel basically what you wrote in here.
if hes smart he wont push you away, it sounds like hes being a little stubborn selfish and immature.
This guy has a good thing going... (read in full...)
I lied and made mistakes, but surely he shouldn't treat me that way? Is he the worst kind of person to be with?
Q. This is my first time to get sme advice, suggestions or ideas. I have a troubled relationship in which has a long story behind it. My boyfriend and i are deaf. I grew up with the public so i have alot of experience with hearing people a...
A. 11 August 2009: GO be with your parents please. Youve wasted to mutch time with this guy you need to get your life back on track and hes not going to help you. your with him becuse you want sense of purpose not becuse he makes you happy.
Your a young woman yo... (read in full...)
Why did he leave his cellphone with me?
Q. ok so if yu guys seen my other question then yull know who im talking about. if not then hes just my lover. ok so the guy that i live with was going to go to work today but he said here take my cellphone, and i was like why?he said idk fer saf...
A. 11 August 2009: He probably doesnt have a real reason it was more then liky an impulsive decision to leave you with a parting gift even if its just for a few hours i think hes probably in love with you that makes people do wierd things.
dont over analyze ... (read in full...)
We've started to fool around in the bedroom, but I have no idea what I'm doing!
Q. Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 2 months now, we're both 16; so of course we're a little 'sexual'. I dont mind when he does stuff to me, but when it comes time for me to do stuff to him, im cluess. I dont know how to give ...
A. 11 August 2009: First tip relax
its not that serious, your bf is not as experienced as you think or he wouldnt be settling for handjobs.
As far as what to do dont try and be an expert just ask your bf how he likes it he wont mind telling you, practice make pe... (read in full...)
Am I Crazy, like he says I am, or is it some one elce hes giving it to?
Q. Im not stupid i think i know whats going on, but my husband says im crazy and its all in my head so I would like to ask some one else there opinion. I have been with my husband for 3 years, over the past few months his sex drive has gone from full ...
A. 11 August 2009: your not crazy , Do you have a job a car individual bank account if you dont you need to get all that.
You need to get evidence of your husband cheating, theres companies that specialize in this private investigators dont try going it on your own... (read in full...)
I don't know how to go about this now I'm pregnant!
Q. I just found out i am 2 mths pregnant....i dnt kno how it happened he used a condom an i am on the pill.......what do i do keep it and put it up for adoption get an abortion or just keeP it how do i tell my boyfriend tht i am pregnant....i am so ...
A. 11 August 2009: Just tell your bf what choice do you have its no ones fault these things happen only abstinence is 100% effective for not getting pregnant unless your the Virgin Mary.
I believe life begins at the moment of conception and dont believe abortion... (read in full...)
My criticism has hurt girlfriend over years-- I've changed, need advice!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years. She is 23, I am 30. She has loved me very genuinely since almost the beginning. Very sweet, good-hearted, supportive, loving woman, who has expressed that she sees herself marrying me. We are a great ...
A. 11 August 2009: wow you sound very genuine if she forgives you i beleive this women will be very lucky to have you in the future.
I think you can salvage your relationship but its time to move on and grow up. I bet if you let her read what you read in here tha... (read in full...)
Does this mean he cheated on me?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for three and a half years and i got tested for s.t.d.s two years ago and was clean. Now I just got chlamadia and he's the only guy I've been with. Does that mean he cheated on me?...
A. 11 August 2009: what do you thinkk? hmmmm you said you havnt been with anyone exept him im sure the tooth fairy didnt give you an std, your man is a cheater confront him and dump him.... (read in full...)
My children are horrible, my husband is impotent.. I'm lost.
Q. I have very serious problems with my 5 children. They are all totally messed upon different ways. None of them has a relationship, and all of the dysfunctional on different ways. They had been in therapy, and several other ways to help them. We t...
A. 11 August 2009: If you think its spiritual have you ever tried praying did you ever go to church or read the bible with your family, you should bring God and your family togather to get through this. ... (read in full...)
How do you know that something bothers a guy?
Q. How do you know that something bothers a guy? My friend his friends like to pick on him by calling him fat and poking him in the stomach. Or sitting on him and I feel really bad about it. Even though he looks at me or laughs. I feel like it bothers ...
A. 11 August 2009: This s a great question not just the question but the context and meaning behind it.
Guys are human with feelings and emotions just like girls what ever would bother you would probably bother him.
As far as being made fun of hes probably use... (read in full...)
My friend and I kissed, and may have done more but I can't remember...what should I do?
Q. I was round my mates a few nights ago drinking and well, he turned and stared into my eye's stroked my leg, i was taken by the moment and let him kiss me. I woke up in the morning in his bed naked, i snug out, i dont remember what happened after t...
A. 11 August 2009: If hes gay and wants a relationship hell eventually approach you. If your straight then then you now kno the dangers of getting plastered. Forget this ever happened and never speak of it again cuse being drunk is not a good enough excuse for ... (read in full...)
He just wants to cuddle because of my age, but I want more.
Q. I like this lad but i'm not sure if he likes me. He says he does but hes 18 and i am 14. He says if i was older he would defiantly date me. He says he doesn't want sex he just wants a loving relationship where he can just be with me cuddling me and ...
A. 8 August 2009: wow ok i agree with all the other posters here.
this guy is probably crazy about you but morally and legally he dosnt feel sex with you is a good idea at this time.
theres no big rush to have sex you have plenty of time you should stick by ... (read in full...)
I've dated, inpregnated, in love with, and proposing marriage to a possible half sister!
Q. hi. i'm 23, male, and looking for some advice for a situation that could be really great, or really awkward. i was adopted and raised an only child. i had a vague recollection of my birth mother having another child before me, by a different bio ...
A. 8 August 2009: that sux you might not be able to marry her unless you can pay off somebody when you do the blood work.
Your girl is allready pregnant so i would say stick with her whatever happens you two seem destined for each other.... (read in full...)
Is it OK to be 34 and be strictly platonic friends with a 15 year old girl?
Q. I know that guys in their mid-30's shouldn't really be friends with teenagers (especially girls), but one of my friends has a 15-year-old daughter who really wants to be my friend. I think she is really awesome and I would like to be her friend ...
A. 8 August 2009: Well if you wait untill she becomes a legal adult that would be a few years by then she may not need or want your friend ship.
who cares what people think or say if her parents dont have a problem with it there isnt a problem.
just remember... (read in full...)
I need to know some good "make-out' do's and don'ts..any advice?
Q. what are some good make out do's and dont's for me? (a guy)....trying to please my gf. and if we have only made out once in 3 months- is that moving too slow? and if my gf doesn't express her feelings for me as much as i do to her....is there ...
A. 8 August 2009: yea theres something wrong, girls usually move faster in a relationship then guys, if you have only made out one in 3 months you need to evaluate your relationship,
talk to your girl dont worry about tips and things and having a good make out sess... (read in full...)
What can I do about my our sex life? Our honeymoon period didn't even outlast the honeymoon!
Q. My wife and I have been married just over a month now and the "honeymoon period" as it were, didn't even last through the honeymoon. We had sex on the wedding night, which by mutual agreement was fantastic. However on our honeymoon, which lasted o...
A. 8 August 2009: maybe she wasnt ready for marriage you need to talk to her shes your wife time for games is over if she doesnt want to be married you need to kno now... (read in full...)
Would you consider my boyfriend a paedophile because of the age difference?
Q. My boyfriend is about ten years older than me. The thing is, he and his parents are good friends of my mother and father. I've known him my whole life. Would you consider this a violation of trust? Many of my friends have called him a pedoph...
A. 8 August 2009: I wouldnt consider him a pedophile, thats someone who strictly prays on young children under the age of 13 in my opinion,
you can look up the exact definition if you want
Pedophilia is a disease and most pedophiles seek out children young o... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do about the lying and cheating I've done!
Q. Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. I love him more than anything in the world, and care about him immensely. We have an amazing amazing connection and are best friends. HOWEVER, 5 months ago he moved away for ...
A. 8 August 2009: you seem to easily excuse your behavior by saying all you did was kiss, you never spoke to him again etc. Your a young woman you have faults, so you went a stray a few times it happens you should be able to tell your bf this and he should be abl... (read in full...)
I can't get up the nerve to tell him I want more from our friendship
Q. My childhood friend and I have always had a strange relationship. We called ourselves boyfriend and girlfriend from the time we were 2 until we were 7 and ever since we have always been completly comfortable around eachother , I am normally ...
A. 8 August 2009: wow this is interesting, ok first off you need to take things slow i dont kno any blu blooded teen that wouldnt want the opportunity your offering so would say go for it but start by flirting and hanging out with him more dont tell him you ... (read in full...)
He's going to jail... will we ever have a chance of being together?
Q. My long-time good friend always liked me. Our age difference was too much for me at the time, but I did like him back. About 3.5 years ago I got into a bad relationship and lost contact with my friend. We recently started talking again an...
A. 8 August 2009: This is deep wow, now that im all teary eyed, im going to say fight for your man, this guy has alot on his plate right now but you just keep it up. He probably doesnt realize how mutch you care about him, Be there for him let him kno your true fe... (read in full...)
I like my teacher... but I'm not sure if he likes me back
Q. Hey, look it's another teacher/pupil love question, though infinitely more complicated than others. And sorry. Well basically, my teacher is 26 (male) and all the pupils seem to hate him, he is quite irritating in truth sometimes, and quite geeky. ...
A. 8 August 2009: hes married thats all i have to say, if it wasnt for that i would say go with what your heart tells you but hes married so that means hes devoted himself to another woman. Im warning you not to pursue this any further forget about this man for your ... (read in full...)
How can I distance myself from my toxic Sister?
Q. I have an older sister. We're 3 years apart. We spent a lot of our younger years (before she was 10) being really close. Then, when I was in high school and my first few years of college, we became close again; even closer this times. We partie...
A. 8 August 2009: wow, your sister needs professional help she needs to confront her depression and deal with it. You need to be honest and open with her just tell her what you wrote her, whatelse can you do its not fair for her to bring you down, dont worry about ... (read in full...)
Years of unprotected sex and never got pregnant?
Q. For a few years now I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend. The odd thing is I never got pregent once. That's always makes wonder is something wrong with me or is it him? I am thinking of getting myself checked out. You advice wou...
A. 8 August 2009: do you want to get pregnant, are you prepared for a baby? if the answer is yes then you should both get checked out by a doc.... (read in full...)
I finally acted out my fantasy and now I feel sick and disgusted
Q. To cut this as brief as possible,i had always had a fantasy of being gangbanged. I decided to do it with 6 guys. Unfortunately,i feel ill with disgust,the reality is i was lying there and they were just taking turns. I feel violated,it wasnt what i ...
A. 8 August 2009: I agree with lazy guy excellent answer btw, as for the poster just get over it you cant take it back you learned a lesson spread your knowledge and move on. As a Christian i will say the Bible clearly tells you to not take part n sutch activities ... (read in full...)
Erection problems are ruining my sex life!
Q. I think I have somekind of erection problem and it is embarrassing me and somewhat ruinging my sex life. I thought maybe someone might have some good advice because I'm too embarrassed to go to the doctors unless absolutely neccessary. I'm ...
A. 8 August 2009: sex seems to be an important force in your life. my advice to you is to focus on some other things. This can go either way it could be medical or mental. I would suggest go with out sex for a few weeks you could be going through a phase after two ... (read in full...)
26 and tired of being a virgin!
Q. Hi! I'm 26 years of age male and really tired of being a virgin! have had opportunities in the past but it never felt right so I didn't do it! Lately though I'm becomming incresingly horny 4 it n feel like my lack of sexual experience is holding ...
A. 8 August 2009: Well i would have to say that your looking for companion ship rathere then just loosng your virginity. if your horny masterbating will solve that if your lonely thats a diffrent situation. If you have a car and a job i dont see any reason not ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a guy who moved to my country to be with his girlfriend
Q. I met a fantastic foreign guy randomly on a night out when drinking with my work mates. He was by himself at a bus stop, and I started talking to him. We found out we had heaps in common, like music, favourite literature, travel, sense of humour ...
A. 6 August 2009: you seem a little caught up. This guy seems like bad news hes moving all the way to Aussie land to be with his GF yet hes making out with you. Something doesnt seem rte here he could be lying about the gf all together. he wants to be friends or have ... (read in full...)
Is he playing games, or does he want to get back with me?
Q. Why does my ex keep calling me twice a month and talking for only about 10 minutes when he has told me he doesn't want to be together anymore? Sometimes he says things to make me feel like there may be a chance for us and then he does the same thing ...
A. 6 August 2009: Why do you let him, why do you play his game, your asking us these why questions like any one here can answer them you need to ask this guy these questions. or stop answering the phone.... (read in full...)
She's beautiful , popular and I trust her, how can I stop being jealous?
Q. My girlfriend and I recently started dating, but we have been friends for a long time and we know each other very well so I know what kind of girl she is and I know that she is COMPLETELY trustworthy and I do trust her 100%...however, I have been ...
A. 6 August 2009: first of all you cant trust anyone 100% exept Jesus, your fears an concerns are natural but while you spend time embellishing in your agony over them your missing out on time with this girl There is only one guarantee in life the rest is a blessing ... (read in full...)
Love thy neighbour... why hasn't he approached me?
Q. I have this big crush on my neighbor i'm sure he's interested in me but never has made a serious move. It's the little thing he was doing like watching me jog on the track,staring and smiling all the time but why hasn't he approched me? ...
A. 6 August 2009: theres a million reasons, most likely hes shy but at your age he should have outgrown it. he might not kno if your single or maybe he just likes to watch. Dont think about this to hard youll be all day i suggest initiating something with him if your ... (read in full...)
Forced to raise a brat!
Q. I have lived with my bf for almost 6 years now. We have been thru a lot and I really love and care for him. The problem is he has a 14 year old bratty son who no one has ever diciplined and now the child's mother wants to give up custody and have us ...
A. 29 July 2009: You seem like a very cold and selfish person a few things arent going your way and you whine about it poor you you cant even see things from another perspective. you hve an unatural disdain for this child. i think you should move out a bad spirit ... (read in full...)
Why are boys like this?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 months now. He usually comes around mine and we will watch movies and play games. My siblings always seem to get in the way though. But whenever we are alone in a room, he will get on top of me and its like ...
A. 29 July 2009: Well hes being a pretty normal guy, if your not ready tell him your not ready he has to respect that basically you should tell him exactly what you wrote in here. i think oyu should wait to have sex but making out shouldnt do anyharm you might learn ... (read in full...)
Husband never wants me...
Q. I am a married woman of 5 years, been with my husband for 6. I have noticed in the last like 3 months, maybe 4 that he has not been acting what I would call "normal". I dont know if its just me, or is there anything I should worry about? Typically ...
A. 28 July 2009: he could be having a problem at work, he could be sick say cancer or somehting, or he could be cheating, theres definatly somehting going on . you need to start thinking strategically first get your self straight financially so you can function... (read in full...)
Confused and Frustrated in San Antonio
Q. I've been in an relationship for 3 years and we finally moved in together and she has a 13 year old son. We all get along for the most part. MY concern is that our finances are starting to be a problem, she hasn't been paying her part and I'm ...
A. 28 July 2009: I think she is using you you didnt even say if you love this woman or not your not married so she should be paying her share, sine your ask this question
"should I cut my losses and get out or should I continue to help her out"
i would say g... (read in full...)
She wants to have sex with no strings but I'm not sure I can do that.
Q. A girl i met and have been talking to as friends wants to be my first time having sex but doesnt want a relationship and just wants to be friends with benefits at least for the time being. She has said she would possibly date me in the future but i ...
A. 28 July 2009: If you have to ask then no dont do it with her since you only get one first time wait untill its with someone you care about since that obviously matters to you, i think this girl just wants to do it with a virgin what if you sleep with her an she ... (read in full...)
Problems with pornography!
Q. I have got a problem. Last thing I would ever have expected, but there you go… Pornography. Yeah-yeah, you’ve heard it all before, right… But listen. About 6 month ago I find porn on my married-for-a-long-time husband's computer. I try not to over ...
A. 28 July 2009: WOW well im thinking your husband will be thrilled he doesnt have to hide his pornwatching habits from you and the two of you can act out some of your fantasies togahter.
You should confront your husband tell him how you discovered his porn and... (read in full...)
Forced to raise a brat!
Q. I have lived with my bf for almost 6 years now. We have been thru a lot and I really love and care for him. The problem is he has a 14 year old bratty son who no one has ever diciplined and now the child's mother wants to give up custody and have us ...
A. 28 July 2009: You really dont like this child, but have you tried to see things from his perspective, Hes 14 years old the world is so big and small at the same time at his age his parents are seperated and now his mother wants to abandon him. As a christian... (read in full...)
Why does he always LAUGH at me?
Q. Why does my boyfriend laugh at some of the stupid things I say. I know I'm a bit ditzy but he makes it worse; it makes me feel more stupid and lowers my self-esteem. Especially when it gets serious it upsets me so much... ...like the time we were...
A. 28 July 2009: Your bf is a jerk, Its probably his way of dealing with his disatisfaction with the relationship, you probably cant imagine how bad he wants to have sex with you and putting it off is frustrating him. But its your body you dont have to do anything ... (read in full...)
How can I change the way things are with me and my girlfriend? We argue all the time now!
Q. Please help ok I have been in a serious relationship for 6 years on and off the girl I am with is a very nice caring person. That being said she has failed to have a job for the last two years that we have lived together she has nowhere else to ...
A. 28 July 2009: maybe your gf has a medical condition she may not even kno whats wrong bipolar depression etc it could be something. what happened to her family you may be able to find out through her family history. You have been with this woman a long time no ... (read in full...)
I need tips on how to get over my ex!
Q. I donno what to do anymore, its been almost 5 yrs since ive had strong feelings for this guy, we started out as friends first, then we dated a lil then broke up cus he cheated on me, then i forgave him, and broke up with him cus i didnt wanna get ...
A. 28 July 2009: Stop trying to get over him thats the first tip, hes apart of you, youll never forget him when you have a deep emotional connection with some one its like having learned to ride a bike you never forget, this guy made you happy at one time, so ... (read in full...)
Want to have sex but am afraid of getting caught
Q. Ok, so my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. we're both college students and during the summer its hard to find places to have sex. Sometimes we try to have sex late at night after everyone in the house is in bed ( poor college ...
A. 28 July 2009: Go on google earth look for secluded areas in your town drive out there with a blanket KY and some condoms. many places have rooftop acess where no one ever goes, Parks and beaches are great just go late after the kiddies are alseep depending on the ... (read in full...)
He goes too quick and sometimes I just want sex!
Q. So my boyfriend cannot last during sex at all. I can tell if he kept going for like a good 15 minutes I would probably be able to finish and be satisfied, but he can only last about 30 seconds! He doesn't finish after 30 seconds, but we have to stop ...
A. 28 July 2009: He doesn't finish after 30 seconds, but we have to stop and take a quick (minute or so) break
Why do you have to take a break.
I was thinking you where describing premature ejaculation untill i read that line witch i dont understand
... (read in full...)
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