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writes:i am feeling so angry and stupid right now, me and my boyfriend broke up, i found out he was spending nights with someone else, he did not tell me,(although they swear as just friends), he knows that i do not trust him yet as he did cheat on me in the past.she never knew i existed until i rang her (i got her number from his phone), she seemed genuine that things were as friends, but shocked that he never mentioned me.i have since found out that he is denying that we were in a relationship for the last year, and denying that he spent a few weeks at mine not too long ago.i know the best thing is to move on, but how can someone be so cruel? why did he not just end things with me? wasnt too long ago he was telling me how much he loved me!this girl naturally has fell for all his lies and believes im some kind of stalker who cant get over him!i feel desperate to email with my anger but im holding back also however childish i feel desperate to try and convince her what he is.thats why i am here i have to get it out.any opinions are very welcome.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 April 2010):
He did it, because he could. That's the way men like him think. He knew he could lie and have his own way, so he did. The best thing you can now do is bow out of his life and cease contact. If you email him to vent your anger, it will look like he is telling the truth. I promise not all men are this bad. Just a few.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 April 2010):
 Dont feel that you have to explain yourself to this other girl. If she can't see him for who he is that too bad for her. No need for you to try and interfere. Unless you feel the need for revenge, perhaps team up with a girlfriend and talk to her, see what she thinks.
I think if you try and puch this matter further you will only end up deeper involved and in a lot more pain than you are in already.
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reader, LarryGalapagos  +, writes (20 April 2010):
Hey girl, I'm a guy, and I don't understand it either. I don't understand how some guys can cheat, lie, and so selfishly manipulate others just to get what they want.
But if he lied to you, he is lying to his current girl also.
It may take a lot of time, but you should definitely get over him and move on. Once your heart heals, you will find a new man who truly deserves you.
There are guys out there who would never even think of cheating. Please have faith in us! :)
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reader, raiders +, writes (20 April 2010):
 Move on let it be don't dwell on anger. Don't make any attempts to communicate or bad mouth him, show class. You will soon find someone worth while not all man are lairs, players, and fools. I wish you luck and unfortunately this girl will find out on her own, you worry about you.
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reader, Tashie08 +, writes (20 April 2010):
girl sorry to say thi but you need to snap back to reality because this person is a player!! i totally understand your anger at him, but this isnt doing you any favours holding onto him. If i were you i would change my number so that neither of them can contact you and sweep it under the carpet, it's not worth the stress!! and this new girl, unfortunately, will learn what he's like the hard way, but at least you can say you tried to warn her. Move on there's plenty more fish in the sea and fortunately they r not all like him!! good luck in the future hun!!x
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