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I woke up to see my boyfriend feeling up my sister!

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Question - (16 April 2010) 10 Answers - (Newest, 19 April 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, *irstyolicousxo writes:

One nite me my boyfriend of six months and my step sister drank, I could feel something wrong, later that nite we went back to our house watched a movie n I fell asleep, then I woke up to find my my boyfriend feeling up my sister right over me, I was half asleep. The next day he lied about it all and kept denying untill I got him to confess, he cried, I cried it was a mess. It broke my heart and trust, were still together after 6 months that happened. He says he loves me and he would never cheat again, I don't know if I should trust him? Does this mean he does not really love me if he could do this? Why would he want to do this?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010):

Dump him as fast as you can! This is not a guy you should be tied to. You deserve better, much better than this. No, he does not love you. any man who loves you does not grope your sister above you!

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A female reader, single gal Botswana +, writes (19 April 2010):

he s sorry for getting caught not for what he did.

1.he lied to you, point blank when you asked him.

2.he felt up your sister

3.your sister, thats perveted to the bone

they say a sober man s thoughts are a drunk man s actions

think about that

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A female reader, Tt-7 United States +, writes (17 April 2010):

Tt-7 agony aunt I would say dump him and find someone new because you know he messed with someone you thought you could trust. Most likely he is going to cheat again but if he does he is going to do it secertly. So if you do ended up staying with him you mite want to keep a good eye on him.

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (17 April 2010):

raiders agony auntEven if you were drunk half asleep the minute you saw him feeling on your sis you should have gotten up and made a scene. He was groping your sister while you guys were sleeping that is just wrong. Even if your sister was awake you should have said something. Why would you want to give him a second chance I mean why? He has disrespected you, your sister, and your house. Have love yourself don't even consider giving him an opportunity. I agree people make mistakes and deserves second chances but not molester soon to be raper.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (16 April 2010):

person12345 agony auntI'd say if you still love him and think you can get past it, give him a second chance. People do make mistakes. And he was drunk. If this is his first infidelity then it could honestly have just been he was very drunk and truly is sorry and really won't do it again. It might be worth giving it another shot. But if you don't think you'll be able to trust him again, then I'd move on.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2010):

why would you trust somebody that's been feeling up your sister while your sleeping right by you? That's not right. Just leave him find someone new somebody that has eyes only for you that would never ever disrespect you like that with your sister,friend or any female in that matter. There are some men out there that are faithful just take your time to find that person. Leave him..its obviious he don't love you and that you don't love yourself. Have more respect for yourself. Don't be a fool. Goodluck.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (16 April 2010):

I'd just dump him. You're young and you don't need to be tied down to a guy who will stand there in front of you and feel your sister up. Dump him.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (16 April 2010):

chigirl agony auntI'd not trust him. He can't keep his fingers to himself even with your sister and you in the same room! Imagine what he can do when you're not around? He doesn't sound that smart when he can't add up two and two, sister+gf in the same room= trouble? He didn't see that one coming? Find someone smarter.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2010):

First off... you were half asleep. And probably still a bit drunk or even hung over from drinking that night. You were most likely not completely conscience to make a clear judgement of what you saw.

And if you did see what you saw... well he was drunk too.

He cried, doesn't that show enough to you that either a. he really did nothing and was hurt you would accuse him of such, and really does care for you or b. he really regrets his mistake because he really does care for you.

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A female reader, Not My Name Australia +, writes (16 April 2010):

Not My Name agony auntumm, can I ask what your sister was doing suring all of this? Was she awake/aware? A willing participant?

In either case tho, I know I would probably be incapable of trusting a man who acted that blatantly in my presence, ...never mind what else might go on when I was not around.

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