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writes:She let's me do it in her mouth everytime I ask, even swallows sometimes. She let's me do it on he rear all the time and once I did on her breasts but she will not let me ejaculate on her face. Isn't it unusual? Why do you think that is?
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reader, pursuit of happiness  +, writes (22 August 2008):
I'm 30 years old and about as liberal as you can get. But I simply don't understand why you would want to cum on a girl's face. They do it in porn movies because it would be pointless to cum inside her etc... they have to make everything graphical, but...
I can't help thinking it is something to do with degrading a woman or having power over her, even if it is just roleplay. Perhaps its a fetish which has developed by watching porn movies. I just don't get it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): The first time I came on my wife's face we were masturbating together and I just said, I'm going to cum on your face" and did it. She smiled but didn't say anything about it. I did it again a few weeks later. Later that day I apologized, thinking maybe she wasn't into it. She said, "Why are you apologizing? I love it! It makes me feel so slutty." She is not a slut at all (except in the bedroom) so this fullfills a fantasy for her. She now asks me sometimes to come on her face. The larger the load the better she likes it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): Although I have not let it happen to me yet, I want to touch on the idea of cumming on your girlfriend being degrading.
More than anything, I really think it depends on the depth of the relationship. In a healthy relationship where both partners love each other and have no urge to harm the other, what makes us (as females) think that all the sudden our men want to degrade us? We have to stop thinking that anything that we are uncomfortable with has intention to harm us. Many men think it is very attractive for their gf/wives/etc to be WILLING to do these things, not because it shows "who is the boss" but because it shows she loves him enough to try something that she may not be into. It shows that because he is interested in it, she will give it a try, for him.
Conversely, in instances such as porn, it can be labeled as degrading, as more often then not parties are being paid to do these acts, likely out of desperation. But even in porn, I wouldn't say its purpose is to degrade, but rather to show dominance. Which are two totally different things. Dominance and submission are forms of play
Thats what sex is, what part of sex isn't rooted in dominance and submission at least in a small way? Giving, receiving, in a way, its all the same.
I urge you all to think about the other side of this idea.
The one that has nothing to do with degradation, and more to do with curiousity, and love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): Be pleased that she lets you cum in her mouth. Cum on your face is degrading...no matter what you see in films. If you really want to push the agenda let her squirt on your face see how that feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): as a girl I thought it was weird at first too. Now I just make a game out of it. Like if he wants to get off on my face, he better make a big mess out of me. I he's not allowed to masturbate a few days beforehand and I def take my time with it when its time to get busy. I found that the longer I play with it before getting him off, especially teasing, like stopping when he's getting close, then making him cool down before we start again. I enjoy watching the porn too, so I wear some really slutty make-up for him. Its just a game, the more he cums the better I feel I did my job. Tell your girl to get over it and just have fun with it. Before you know it, she'll be on her knees begging you to cum on her face so hard she can feel it running down her back.
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-suz
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): with my ex she would do everything sex in every position oral antyhing and eveything. But not cum on her face she would have anal sex or even a 3some but cum on her face would be disguating and degrading that was what my ex thought of it !
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): Unreal or not - a wuestion which brings forth debate. Porn, semen, degradation, horiness, etc. Here's a book:http://www.archive.org/details/PornTheMalePsycheAndOtherKinkyStuff
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2007): Getting cum on the face is degrading. Maybe she dosn't want to feel like a porn star. Respect her, if she dosn't want to, deal with it. If you want someone more freaky in bed then brake up with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): I think you should talk to her. Explain why you want to do it.
The first time my boy friend asked me I was kinda scared. I didn't know what to say, but wanted to please him so I said yes. He stood above me and I kneeled down while her jerked off all over my face.
It was quite a shock. But the warmness and the texture is really kinda sexy.
My bf is kinda obsessed with it now. Most times we have sex he shoots his load on my face when he's ready. I think I've drunk and play with more cum in the last 3 months than I ever have in my life. Can't get enough of his cum all over me. I just like feeling like a complete mess - like he's made a mess all over me.
So yeah - maybe if you ask her she'll say yes. Maybe she'll understand better if you talk about it. Maybe she'll like it as much as I did/
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): depends on what 'grabs' you. I kind of just fall into oral with my girlfriend and sometimes she swallows and othertimes she likes tht cum as she says it makes it like a porn movie. horniness is what determines the semen path
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reader, hurnapup  +, writes (19 September 2007):
ALL I CAN SAY IS , WHEN YOU'VE GOT SOMEONE OF PASSION ENOUGH TO GET YOU TO CUM ,LET ALONE IN HER FACE, BE THANKFUL YOU'VE GOT SOMEONE MY WIFE OF 20YRS HAS LET ME DO THIS, BUT I TRUELY THINK IT'S BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T WANT ''YOU'' TO SEE HER LIKE THAT. YOU'VE GOT TO ADMIT, 'PRETTY' GROSS. TRY IT IN THE SHOWER SO SHE CAN GET OFF QWUIKLYNo all caps please
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): I can understand a girl not wanting to allow this, especially with somebody they are not comfortable with. My girlfriend and I do it sometimes. I always ask first. If she says no that's fine. Sometimes she isn't in the mood and on occassion she asks for it because she likes to dirty feeling. It's not about degrading her. Her asking me is the hottest thing ever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2007): I'm a married woman and love having my husband cum on my face....and anywhere else for that matter. We've been having great sex for 8 years and it just keeps getting better. I don't find it disgusting or degrading to have his cum on my face, and it's never stung my eyes. Just one womans answer here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): have you asked her why yet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): I'm not even sure why I'm bothering to respond to this. I guess because as a 37 year old male, I think I have the experience and security in having explored my own and other's sexuality. I'd like to share my thoughts for those of you that truly struggle with this issue.
I think it's important not to make light of it. Women need to understand that the male sexual psyche is often very centered around a graphic stimulation. We are also devided into many other areas, including the emotional. But the "idea" of being able to cum on a woman's face is an intense stimulation to the graphic part of what turns us on. Now, your kink may be fueled by degrading your partner. That isn't necessarily a bad thing if it's done in play and there is adequate communication and love and everything else where both partners are "into" that. But it doesn't have to be degrading. In fact, I tend to identify that particular "kink" with quite the opposite. For me at least, the woman I am with is so sexually appealing, beautiful, erotic ... that to see her with such blatent sexual "evidence" on her body or on her face, or anywhere is incredibly sexy and stimulating to me. She is the epidomy of what is sexual and erotic in my male psyche. This is why I am with her and why I feel so attracted to her sexually. I'm not attempting to degrade someone I feel so incredibly close to. I'm exploring a sexual "kink" that can be extremely erotic to both partners. It's got nothing to do with porn .. BUT .. let porn be a very LARGE clue to insight on the male sexual psyche. Why DO so many porn stars end a scene with cum on their face? Is it that the majority of males out there want to degrade women? I would argue no. That's rediculous. Sure, some do ... some even do on a playful level ... I don't criticize for what is enjoyable between two people. The important thing in that is consentuality and comfortability with your partner.
I might be a bit blunt in my opinion. But I'm no stranger to sex, to many partners over the years ... and I tend to find those women that do not like cum on their face tend to feel this way for a couple reasons: 1) they're not truly comfortable with sex, meaning they have some hangups. (that's not a bad thing .. just means they have their own reasons for finding it gross, degrading or whatever). Or 2) They're not truly comfortable or communicative with their partner.
I think when you have great communication, a close comfortable relationship with each other, and an open mind and desire to explore your sexuality as well as your partners .. you have a great recipe for exploring sexual fantasies and kinks together. It doesn't mean it will always lead both to enjoy the same things ... but it tends to allow that kind of thing more often.
The answer is not to guilt, yell, be angry or hurt, nag, force or anything like that. The answer is communication, patience and two people that truly WANT to explore each other's sexuality. Not just their own.
I think when you love someone and you are sexually attracted to them and feel extremely turned on to them ... there's nothing gross about their body, their smell, their taste, etc. Sex can be a wonderful way to explore each other and yourself. And if you do find some part of them "gross" .. you really should explore why. Maybe it's not your preference ... but gross? Sex is so much about giving to each other. It's hard for me to understand being with someone where you don't have that. And if you find yourself in that position, you're missing out on an incredible level of closeness with your partner. Talk to each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2007): its what you see in porn she loves you stop pushing and she will let you trust me
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): "degrading" ? I never quite understood that either. Can anyone please explain to me why it is degrading, rather than stating that it is? Vice versa, it's not degrading for a man to go down on his woman, cover half of his face with her secretions and stick his tongue into an orifice of her body? Personally, I think the equivalent would be for the man to withdraw his attention from her clitoris right before she comes and use his fingertips instead to bring her over the edge (because female orgasmic secretions on his tongue are "degrading").
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2007): you should not complain,i been married for 17 years, and i am lucky to get my wife to go south, and if she does it is very short and never complete, i tell her that it is half head, also told her that after going south on her for 17 year and swallowing who knows what (does anyone know what comes out of a twot pee,dome sort of discharch, who knows) but i love it, she just does not know how to satisfy her husband i guess. when dude your lucky.
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reader, luckygirl84 +, writes (23 May 2007):
 It does not feel right to have cum on your face. My ex boyfriend did cum on my hair gross. That is one of the reasons he is now the ex lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2007): please, you both need to grow up! You need to be more savvy having sex and explorative. Try to talk and be open while respecting each other. My wife did not like it at the beginning but now is a normal act between us. Just respect each other and give it time. Never push anyone to do something she/he does not like. Sex is always great when you finish up and hold each other at the end.
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reader, TasteofIndia + ♥, writes (21 May 2007):
 Okay, clearly you've never gotten semen in your eye.
If you really want to know why she doesn't want it in the face, it's because taking it in the face is kinda gross, stings the eyes, messy as hell, and not to mention, it can feel pretty degrading to some.
Yeah, they all take it in porn like champs. Well, maybe if you offer your girlfriend a buttload of cash, she'll smile and take it too.
If she doesn't want it in the face, be a gentleman and don't give it to her in the face. You should respect her that much.
xxIndia
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (21 May 2007):
 I guess everyone is different, some girls like it, some don't. She obviously dosen't. Have respect that she dosen't like it. She lets you cum everywhere else, be happy with this.
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reader, stina +, writes (21 May 2007):
 Ponun!! lol
(And I can't believe I'm even looking at this question page while I'm at the office! Well, at least it makes the day more interesting, I suppose. haha)
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (21 May 2007):
 Stina - I think they like to "stimulate" some responses when things get a little slow around here. LOL.
Questions like "How come my girlfried screams when I put a hot branding iron on her ass?" always get a lot of responses. LOL.
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reader, Yos  + ♥, writes (21 May 2007):
 Unusual? No, its very usual. Many (most?) people find coming in someones face degrading, not least because it stings if it gets in someones eye. Yes it happens in porn (mainly because its degrading), and those women are paid a lot for the 'pleasure'.
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reader, mitch +, writes (21 May 2007):
er, maybe just because she doesn't like it? and no, its not unusual for someone not to do something they don't like.
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reader, stina +, writes (21 May 2007):
Why do questions like this keep being approved? This is obviously not real. "Isn't this unusual?" Give me a break.
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