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writes:I have been dating a 44 yr old divorcee male. We are the same age and have alot in common. He has told me that he "IS" my boyfriend and will date no one else. He tells me that I have not pushed him into anything as far as a relationship goes. Now, all of a sudden he says, 'I like to have "me" time sometime". The only time I see him is on the weekends when I am not working. What is he trying to say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): He sounds like a bit of a loner and he`s just in need of his own space and thoughts. I would in any case,make up a good excuse to be passing by,and turn up,to make sure there`s nothing being hidden.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): Sorry, "anonymous" was me, Friend Tom, agony aunt. I am usually logged in, but (oops!). See? Nobody is perfect. (wink)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): I agree with my compatriot. It makes sense to me. Don't read more into it than what your friend said. You are probably the only lady he sees. You have no reason to doubt that at this time. Most men need a lot of "private time" after a divorce, especially if it was a painful one. Let him have it. He needs it to sort out his life right now. It is difficult to become mentally "single" after years of being half of a couple. If you truly care for him you will understand and give him the benefit of the doubt. You will know in reasonable time if he is interested in forming another permanent relationship with you, or anyone else. You need not wait "indefinitely", but take it slowly and patiently right now.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (11 April 2007):
 I think he told you what he is trying to say. He wants some time for himself. After my divorce, I was in no hurry to get involved in a new relationship. I have dated some, but like my free time too. I don't see anything wrong with seeing someone on weekends only. You work during the week. I assume he works. Enjoy the weekends and stop trying to read something into it.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): Why don't you ask him? We can't guess what he's trying to tell you.
Nevertheless: is he someone who has a very demanding job that keeps him busy all day, every day, and into the evening hours as well? If so, he might not have much free time for his own non-work activities during the week.
If you and he are comfortable together, I really do think you should talk to him about what he wants.....good luck.
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