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anonymous
writes: Hello,I am 24 yrs old virgin guy. Am sort of confused on sexual matters between me and my girl. I find it uncomfortable to make any sexual moves towards my girl, simply because i have been compelled to be suppressive of all such desires of my own. It is something that is unacceptable for my sexuality. At the same time, i like it when my girl makes the move and infact, i expect her to take me through the entire thing of having an intercourse. It is kind of burden for me to do it myself and would not do it if there was no strong motivation from my girl. It seems to have been learnt from my mothers attitude towards sex, as she seems likely to think of it to be a burden and same about her children who are the outcome of this burdensome and tiring process. I wish to get out of this thinking as i know it is not really a burden for all males and females. Any advice on how do i break free? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2007): MAKE A MOVE ON HER WHEN SHE LEAST EXPECTS IT!!! i was the same way with my bf becuase i was shy but when i finally gathered up enough courage too it was very freeing i felt amazing and he was shocked and it was the best!!!
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reader, penta  +, writes (11 May 2007):
 So you want to have your gf make the first move, and you want her to read your mind that this is what needs to happen? Sounds like you're setting the relationship to fail.
Talk to her! If you can't talk to her, you probably shouldn't have sex with her anyway. Maybe once you've talked, she'll take your hand and drag you into the bedroom. Wouldn't that be cool? But she won't know that you're okay with it until you tell her. She might figure that you're not making any moves so maybe you just want to be friends. Then where will you be?
She can't say 'yes' unless you ask, you know. And if she says 'no' then at least you'll know!
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