Why? All my life people have taken an instant dislike towards me and I don't know why. What needs to change?
Q. All through my life I have struggled getting people to like me, people take an instant dislike to me and I don't know why. I'm not rude, I'm polite, I can be painfully shy at times and I think people mistake this as being rude or stuck up. Been ...
A. 10 September 2016: Well that does clarify things a bit. It does sound like you've made a bit of an effort with them.
Some people are just hard to get to know. They may be particularly catty and sometimes, families can be quite judgmental of their siblings or child... (read in full...)
Can people tell when they're "the mutton dressed as the lamb"?
Q. Just in case people are not familiar with the term “mutton dressed as lamb" - it refers to older people who try to appear younger (and usually fail dismally). And it's most often applied to women who wear clothes that are aimed at a much younger ...
A. 10 September 2016: Maybe I'm the wrong person to answer this, but I say wear whatever the hell you think you look good in! Life is too short to give a damn about how people judge you. But this is coming from a person who would probably wear a burlap sack if I felt the ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a total loser I should lose or am I missing something?
Q. I have been seeing a man in his 40s for six months. I am also in my 40s. He has told me he cares about me and we've talked about a future together. Four days ago my father was rushed to the hospital. He had two large blood clots in his lungs and...
A. 9 September 2016: Wow, yeah, six months is long enough to where he should have given at least a litle bit of a shit. That's pretty bad. I'd be incredibly put off by this if I were you. However, someone seemingly so apathetic certainly has shown you signs of apathy ... (read in full...)
I haven’t spoken to my boyfriend in 3 days! I need advice!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. I am in a different state than him now in grad school. I went to see him last weekend and he complained about how broke he was the whole time (something that has been a peeve of mine the last 3 ...
A. 9 September 2016: It's been three days no contact. Maybe he's done? If and when you two do talk, you need to tell him, very calmly (key word being calmly), how you feel. Express to him that you feel he doesn't make you a priority. Explain how you save up to go see ... (read in full...)
What can I do? She can't bring herself to believe me, nor let it go.
Q. The relationship between me and my girlfriend of a little over a year has been pretty rough lately. We recently took a break that was originally supposed to be a month. It ended up only being a week. Anyway, during the break I bought some condoms,...
A. 7 September 2016: Well the first obvious question is: was the box opened and were any missing? If the box was open and it appeared that some had been used, I'm sure that didn't make her feel great. But at the same time, if you two are not together, technically she ... (read in full...)
Is it fair? Is he expecting me to pay more than my share?
Q. Hi everyone my boyfriend and me have just got a house together we have 2 kids we have lived together for 4 months now the problem is he agreed to pay the rent while I pay the gas electric and water food and things for the kids I have 2 jobs only...
A. 7 September 2016: Edit: **taking advantage of you unjustifiably** as opposed to "I'm just a fireplace." Although that typo did make me laugh.... (read in full...)
Is it fair? Is he expecting me to pay more than my share?
Q. Hi everyone my boyfriend and me have just got a house together we have 2 kids we have lived together for 4 months now the problem is he agreed to pay the rent while I pay the gas electric and water food and things for the kids I have 2 jobs only...
A. 7 September 2016: In my humble and respectful opinion, I think things change in relationships. My ex years ago moved in with me on the premise that we split things evenly down the middle. As it turned out, I ended up making more money and she had a bunch of debt to ... (read in full...)
Are we still friends or is it over?
Q. I am friends with a female at work. we have fallen out a couple of times but have always made up. last week i sent her flowers at work in the hope of she would put me back on facebook as one of friends but it back fired on me and things seem to ...
A. 7 September 2016: Dude, it's over. Please leave this woman alone. ... (read in full...)
Why? All my life people have taken an instant dislike towards me and I don't know why. What needs to change?
Q. All through my life I have struggled getting people to like me, people take an instant dislike to me and I don't know why. I'm not rude, I'm polite, I can be painfully shy at times and I think people mistake this as being rude or stuck up. Been ...
A. 6 September 2016: You said: "I try and make the effort in getting to know them better as I never bothered before but now I'm trying to get along with them as it's important, but I can just tell they don't like me at all."
If somebody never cared about getting ... (read in full...)
Is it fair? Is he expecting me to pay more than my share?
Q. Hi everyone my boyfriend and me have just got a house together we have 2 kids we have lived together for 4 months now the problem is he agreed to pay the rent while I pay the gas electric and water food and things for the kids I have 2 jobs only...
A. 6 September 2016: Everyone here says it's not fair but if it were the other way around and the man were paying three-quarters of the bills and the woman hardly paying anything I highly doubt anyone would think it was unfair and that she was using him. Like I said I ... (read in full...)
Is it fair? Is he expecting me to pay more than my share?
Q. Hi everyone my boyfriend and me have just got a house together we have 2 kids we have lived together for 4 months now the problem is he agreed to pay the rent while I pay the gas electric and water food and things for the kids I have 2 jobs only...
A. 6 September 2016: It sounds unfair on the surface. But I would say it really depends on how much both of you make. I currently work as a bartender til I finish school and only work about the same amount of hours you work a week. But I also make more than most people ... (read in full...)
Is she in to me and how do I approach her? What can I say to her?
Q. Hey. So I'm back again because I got some good advice the last 2 times I posted on here so I'm hoping for more. So as I first said I'm a African American age 19. In one of my college classes, one of my college classes, there's a girl who on the firs...
A. 5 September 2016: 1. Yes she is interested. She is making it as obvious as possible for you. No doubt.
2. Just get to chatting casually and ask her to study with you sometime. Or just go for the kill and ask her if she would like to hang out outside of school. ... (read in full...)
Was I in the wrong at all here? Should I complain? Should I leave a bad review?
Q. Hi all! Some advice needed please. I've been going to this beauty salon for almost 3 years and they have a very strict policy whereby if you give less than 24 hours notice to cancel your appointment, you are fully charged. I have no problem...
A. 5 September 2016: You are absolutely correct in complaining and you have every right to be upset and angry.
The way they treated you was very unprofessional and very uncalled for. I would definitely write a bad review and not go back. That is no way to treat re... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to rush. I really like him and want this to go somewhere. What can I do?
Q. I've been talking to this guy since December 2015. We have been on two date and speak pretty much every day. He works away offshore so it's hard to meet up with his as he is often away. Part of me wants to ask him what are we? As it has been s...
A. 5 September 2016: I would venture to say that if you have been "seeing" him since December and you have only been out together twice that this is not a relationship and I would move on. It's one thing to move slow and it's another to not be going anywhere at all. You ... (read in full...)
My partner has become evasive. I gave him his marching orders but he wanted to stay. It was too late?
Q. Recently my partner has been going to a new church but he is evasive about where this church is or what it is called. Previously we used to go to church together. Yesterday he went to a church party which was apparently for one hour in the afte...
A. 5 September 2016: My two cents is that he is either cheating or going to some really, really out-there type of church. One that he is too uncomfortable sharing with you for whatever reason or because he thinks you might judge. It's got to be one of the two.... (read in full...)
I can't work out his sexuality
Q. Hello. I am curious or rather confused about my friend's sexuality. I don't know whether he is gay or bisexual. When he is around me, he acts very masculine and straight. I catch him staring at women when we hang out. I am 25, he is 32 and married ...
A. 3 September 2016: FYI I am gay. And I would never be offended about someone asking me about my sexuality. I would much rather them ask me directly than talk about it behind my back.... (read in full...)
I can't work out his sexuality
Q. Hello. I am curious or rather confused about my friend's sexuality. I don't know whether he is gay or bisexual. When he is around me, he acts very masculine and straight. I catch him staring at women when we hang out. I am 25, he is 32 and married ...
A. 3 September 2016: My question is why does it really matter? Either way, if it bothers you that much, I don't see any reason why you can't just ask him. I highly doubt he would be offended. ... (read in full...)
Is it still my fault that she ghosted me for being a nice guy?
Q. So some time ago, around eight months ago, i was ghosted by a woman i treated with kindest, but a lot of you put me down saying i deserved what i got, so i found out some things about her i didn't know about. One thing she told me she has only bee...
A. 28 August 2016: So my ultimate point is that no one is to blame here. It just is what it is.... (read in full...)
Is it still my fault that she ghosted me for being a nice guy?
Q. So some time ago, around eight months ago, i was ghosted by a woman i treated with kindest, but a lot of you put me down saying i deserved what i got, so i found out some things about her i didn't know about. One thing she told me she has only bee...
A. 28 August 2016: I don't know your story from the past, but I'm going to reply going off of the little bit of information you provided here.
The point of dating is to get to know someone and determine if you two are compatible and could build a life together... (read in full...)
I want romance and committment in our marriage!
Q. I'm having some emotional problems and troubles with my wife. I wanted to post the question here before I seek the support of counselling. My wife and I have been together for 7 years and married for 4. It was rough in the first couple of years ...
A. 26 August 2016: Obviously I meant *hurt* and not birth in my previous post. Additionally, I wanted to ask of there has ever been a history of sexual abuse in her past. I know that's very personal, but that could also cause her to behave that way toward sex. Best of ... (read in full...)
I want romance and committment in our marriage!
Q. I'm having some emotional problems and troubles with my wife. I wanted to post the question here before I seek the support of counselling. My wife and I have been together for 7 years and married for 4. It was rough in the first couple of years ...
A. 26 August 2016: "Am I too sensitive or being too soft as a man to have those thoughts?" God no. Who could blame you? That would be incredibly upsetting and hurtful to anyone, male or female alike.
What that does is chip away at your self confidence and self est... (read in full...)
Can this disagreement with her be resolved? She has a perfect life. What's her problem?
Q. Dear Cupid I got in a big fight with my friend who just got engaged. She was mad over something small and I say engaged people have no reason to be unhappy about anything. Engaged people should be in a state of heavenly bliss. I'm still waiting ...
A. 25 August 2016: What on earth are you talking about? Since when does an engagement equate with the perfect life?? I don't remotely understand your logic or reasoning here.
So by your logic, as long as a woman is engaged, nothing else can really upset her? She... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable wanting to take things slow after our breakup?
Q. Hello to everyone... So I'm looking for some advice... My girlfriend and I had been together for six....almost 7 years. Anyway... We broke up and things got a bit messy. There were a lot of horrible things said.... She was hurting... I wa...
A. 24 August 2016: I think you are being incredibly reasonable and logical, given the circumstances. You have every right to want to take things slow and rebuild after what happened. One day at a time.... (read in full...)
I sent flowers to a girl at work and I didn't realise I had done so. Can the friendship be saved?
Q. I'm looking for some help and advice. I'm friends with a co worker at work who is a female, we agreed to just talk at the workplace instead of facebook as she says gets overwhelmed by receiving messages. I did something I'm not proud of and sent her ...
A. 23 August 2016: I'm confused. For one, you aren't allowed to be friends on Facebook and are only to speak at work? Did something happen to cause this? Have you two already had some issues or run-ins in the past that caused her to need to set boundaries with you? ... (read in full...)
Am I making this about myself?
Q. Can someone please tell me if I am over reacting and making this about myself? My husband's adult children are always in hard times because they don't have jobs or quit their jobs and one of them just keeps having babies that she can't afford. We ...
A. 23 August 2016: I don't see how you're making it about yourself at all. He asked you a sime question of "can we help?" And you replied with asking what was going on. I mean, what's the point of asking if you are only accepting one answer. He should have just texted ... (read in full...)
Is he just using me to forget the girl he used to date? Should I keep seeing him or breakup too?
Q. Hi!i've asked for help here many times,and the advices helps a lot,and I want to ask for help again. I've been making out with this guy a few times,his not my boyfriend neither my friend,our relationship can be called more than friends but less tha...
A. 22 August 2016: I see no reason why you can't keep talking to him. Just try to keep it casual and see how it goes. You don't have to dive head-first into a relationship. Just take it day by day and gauge his feelings for you from there.... (read in full...)
Is this marriage worth saving? 11 years together, married eight years
Q. When I met my husband I fell madly in love with him, I was still a Virgin he was my first love. Life was good.....two years later I realized my husband LOVES attention from females, we fought and fought about it so he called me names..... I'm j...
A. 22 August 2016: I may sound like an asshole here, but that man absolutely does NOT deserve you. People like to say "stay together for the kids," but let me tell you, as someone who's parents were miserable, that staying together for my brother and me was not in our ... (read in full...)
Was my Bf being insensitive for not texting me all day? Or am I expecting too much ?
Q. I need some objective advice. I am too close to the situation and too emotional I think. My boyfriend and I have been together for more than 3 years. Yesterday, he had family over for the day and did not contact me at all. I texted him at th...
A. 21 August 2016: Everyone has different opinions about this type of stuff. You and I are moderately within the same age range. The majority of our adult life consisted of meeting people and texting as a form of communication. That is what we consider normal dating. ... (read in full...)
Is she playing me? Should I send her my love letter to her?
Q. Hi everybody I am a senior in high school and on the third day of school I walked into class and this girl said hi to me and didn't know me and I said hi back. When I walked to the other side of the classroom she asked me to come and sit by her and ...
A. 21 August 2016: I second that notion. Do NOT give her a love letter. That will freak her out. If she hasn't answered of returned your calls, it could be because she's nervous, too. But if you give her a love letter, that's a sure fire way to totally screw up. Just ... (read in full...)
Am I despicable for wanting to change my name? How to handle my family's potential response?
Q. I have a dilema. I feel like I have to choose between hurting my family and being miserable for the rest of my life. That's what it comes down to. I feel like I was born with the wrong name. There are people who are born the wrong gender, an...
A. 18 August 2016: This question reminds me of one I read a month or two ago, but from the other perspective. It was a father writing in about how angry he was at his daughter for wanting a name change and how he took it as a rejection of him. We all told him how ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't help with our daughter in any way and I feel like a single parent
Q. Hiya everyone I have 2 children a boy and a girl my son doesn't see his father as he didn't want him I met a man 4 years ago and we have a little girl who is now 20 month we live together the problem is he will not do anything to help me with our ...
A. 15 August 2016: You say he's so "laid back." No, what you really mean is he's so LAZY. Laid back has got nothing to do with it.
You can't force him to be a part of his daughters daily life if he doesn't want to partake. The man's not stupid. He has to know he'... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend always want to cum on my face?
Q. When me and my boyfriend have anal sex, he always wants to cum on my face after. I don't mind once in a while but not every time. I have blown him many times and swallowed many times. Can anyone tell me why he wants this all the time ? ...
A. 15 August 2016: I'd have to agree with male anonymous. I don't see it as a sign of disrespect or trying to assert dominance. He obviously just finds it incredibly sexy. I'm into women and I absolutely love it when it gets "messy." I'd think the same would apply to ... (read in full...)
I am falling for her hard, but I have a boyfriend!
Q. So I'll get straight to the point...I met this chick on snapchat...I tell her everything and she tells me everything...well we have known each other two months but we talked everyday all day even give the kiss emoji with heart when we went to ...
A. 13 August 2016: Sounds like she likes the attention she's getting from you. I would totally back off. I know that's easier said than done, but in the end it's for the best. She's dragging you along. ... (read in full...)
Everyone thinks I’m weird, and I feel lost!
Q. Okay but everyone thinks I'm weird. I'm not too extroverted but I'm pretty much a sociable person. And whenever I socialize with people, they always seem really pathetic and always bringing up useless topics and chatters a lot. Every time I meet new ...
A. 13 August 2016: I'm a bit confused. Is your question about making friends in general, or is it about your friend annoying you? If you could clarify a bit, I could respond more articulately.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 3 years is lying and hiding things? I don't know what to do about this
Q. Hi, I am with my bf for 3 years. We lived one year together after we decided to continue but living in a different places. When I met him he just came to US and all he had were 2 suitcases full of clothes and documents. I said this because last ...
A. 4 August 2016: Im sorry, but any man who keeps a locket of a womans hair in a paper bag is unbelievably creepy. I wouldn't even be worried about the threat of him cheating. What I would be afraid of is it being your hair in a paper bag next. That is not normal ... (read in full...)
Why do so many men believe they have a right to sex without a condom?
Q. I'm sorry if this comes across as a rant but I'm really annoyed at the moment and looking to hear opinions around whether I've been unlucky or if what I'm experiencing is the norm. Why do the men I meet seem to think it's their right to get to ...
A. 4 August 2016: This is random, but here in the United States, the right to contraceptives is actually a Fundamental Right under our Constitution. This includes the right to procreate, the right to an abortion (not procreate), and access to contraceptives (avoid ... (read in full...)
Is Facebook the way forward for me to meet him?
Q. I recently met a guy who works at a hotel bar/restaurant (he's 18, the same age as me) when I visited the bar for a drink with my mother. At first we were all just introducing ourselves (we're regulars at this bar and he's fairly new) but gradually ...
A. 4 August 2016: Add him! I totally think you should do it. What's it hurt?... (read in full...)
Is it odd to contact him out of the blue
Q. HiGuys! I have this guy on my Snapchat and Instagram. We used to talk because we used to work near each other. We haven't spoken for over a year, but I would like to contact him again. He's a good guy and I think it is boyfriend material lol. How I ...
A. 4 August 2016: I don't think it's weird at all to message him. What's weirder to me is that you have someone on snapchat or instagram who you've never spoken with, yet continue to like each others posts.
Just message him! It's not weird at all. Just say hey ... (read in full...)
My ex has changed so much since our break up and it really disturbs me
Q. Me and my boyfriend broke up a couple of months ago now due to the fact he didn't want a relationship. Since, we have occasionally met up and spend time together which we should not of.. As it only continued to hurt me, not bother him. He has ...
A. 4 August 2016: You said it yourself: he's young. This isn't unusual. You said you were each others first love, so after this ended, he probably decided to enjoy his youth, as many young men and women his age do, and play the field; date around and see what's out ... (read in full...)
His ex girlfriend wants him back!
Q. I have been best friends with this guy Jimmy for 5 years,ever since we attended Marquette together. We just recently started sleeping together about 6 months ago because we were both lonely, and we agreed that we would never turn it into a relati...
A. 4 August 2016: Friends with benefits surely can get complicated, can't it? I say this from personal experience. I started off seeing a girl who I was close friends with. We agreed it was purely sexual in nature and nothing more. And all seemed to be fine and dandy ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to not like my boyfriend's very intrusive room mate?
Q. Did I overreact? My fiancé and I have seperate places. He has an apartment with roommates as do I. One of his roommates rubs me the wrong way. She's a girl. One time he invited me over to cook me dinner for a date indoors. As he was preparing our ...
A. 4 August 2016: hmmm this is an interesting one. I have to say that I somewhat do see where you're coming from. However, I also see the other side of this and have had friends who are somewhat in her shoes.
This is my take.
You say that she has a sense of e... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 3 years is lying and hiding things? I don't know what to do about this
Q. Hi, I am with my bf for 3 years. We lived one year together after we decided to continue but living in a different places. When I met him he just came to US and all he had were 2 suitcases full of clothes and documents. I said this because last ...
A. 3 August 2016: Ummmmm... I can't be the only one who finds this incredibly strange. I'm a bit alarmed. He has her hair in a small paper bag?? That is some serial killer stuff to me. Like taking trophies from his victims. I don't know. I could he wrong. But wow, ... (read in full...)
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