My boyfriend of 3 years is lying and hiding things? I don't know what to do about this
Q. Hi, I am with my bf for 3 years. We lived one year together after we decided to continue but living in a different places. When I met him he just came to US and all he had were 2 suitcases full of clothes and documents. I said this because last ...
A. 4 August 2016: Im sorry, but any man who keeps a locket of a womans hair in a paper bag is unbelievably creepy. I wouldn't even be worried about the threat of him cheating. What I would be afraid of is it being your hair in a paper bag next. That is not normal ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 3 years is lying and hiding things? I don't know what to do about this
Q. Hi, I am with my bf for 3 years. We lived one year together after we decided to continue but living in a different places. When I met him he just came to US and all he had were 2 suitcases full of clothes and documents. I said this because last ...
A. 3 August 2016: Ummmmm... I can't be the only one who finds this incredibly strange. I'm a bit alarmed. He has her hair in a small paper bag?? That is some serial killer stuff to me. Like taking trophies from his victims. I don't know. I could he wrong. But wow, ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep running into cheap dudes?
Q. Why do I keep running into men that are cheap,they always want something for nothing? I've ran into plenty of guys who want to use me for sex but then if I need something they won't have my back. Like why should I give u what u want but you can't ...
A. 2 August 2016: What is it that you want? ... (read in full...)
He demonstrated flakiness in the past. Yet now he's given me his number? Can I trust him, this time?
Q. The first time he was supposed to call me after he gets off work at 3pm to finalize our plans but I didn't hear from him untill 10:00pm, something had came up on his end. He apologize profusely and asked how he can make it up to me. Subsquently,he...
A. 2 August 2016: If there's one thing I can't stand it's a full-fledged flake. I don't like when people say they are going to make plans and then just completely blow you off. It's very rude.
However, I also recognize that sometimes people go through weird ph... (read in full...)
How can I last longer for her?
Q. So recently, I've gotten into a relationship with the woman of my dreams. She's my best friend, we've known each other for two years, shared ups and downs, been to the ringer and back and now things are amazing. We've also gotten physical a few ...
A. 2 August 2016: PS: just because you get off prematurely, doesn't mean the game is over. You can keep playing. As I said, just go down on her or use your hands. Trust me.... (read in full...)
How can I last longer for her?
Q. So recently, I've gotten into a relationship with the woman of my dreams. She's my best friend, we've known each other for two years, shared ups and downs, been to the ringer and back and now things are amazing. We've also gotten physical a few ...
A. 2 August 2016: Everything doesn't have to be about the penis. Men forget that a lot. So involve your hands and your mouth. Get her off that way multiple times before you even think about getting to the main course.
Women predominantly get off external... (read in full...)
I’m feeling guilty for not throwing my baby a party for her first birthday!
Q. Has anyone here held off the idea of throwing a 1yr old birthday party for tgeir baby? My baby turns 1 next month. Myself and dad mostly dad planned to not throw her a party. For some reason i have started to feel really bad. I feel like i was ...
A. 2 August 2016: Could you possibly have a simple bday celebration with just the three of you and then plan a more elaborate one separately for all of your friends and family that he doesn't have to attend? Would he compromise on that? ... (read in full...)
I’m feeling guilty for not throwing my baby a party for her first birthday!
Q. Has anyone here held off the idea of throwing a 1yr old birthday party for tgeir baby? My baby turns 1 next month. Myself and dad mostly dad planned to not throw her a party. For some reason i have started to feel really bad. I feel like i was ...
A. 2 August 2016: I don't really understand what his problem is. What does he have against birthdays? I have a couple of thoughts on this. First thought is that your child will never know the difference because he or she will never have a memory of it anyway. However ... (read in full...)
Should I keep my distance or try to reconnect?
Q. I'm 19 years old. I've been friends with this girl for a long time (Sense my sophomore year of high school). She means the world to me and care for her deeply. We listen to each other and we had fun together going on walks and hanging out. She was ...
A. 1 August 2016: Keep your distance. If you reconnect with her, the same pain and jealousy will inevitably come right back. I would steer clear and do my best to move on. You will eventually meet someone new and move on. Having her in your life will only make that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend struggles with lusting after other women
Q. My boyfriend struggles a lot with lusting after other women. He sees beautiful women and wants to be with them and gets jealous of their partners if these women are with someone else. He then ends up feeling really terrible about lusting after other ...
A. 30 July 2016: Ummm... no that's not normal. Dump him. Please.... (read in full...)
Best friend or girlfriend?
Q. So I've known my best friend since sixth grade,she moved to our hometown during the summer before sixth grade and every since then we've been inseparable. We've been there for each other during everything birth of her first born the birth of ...
A. 27 July 2016: I'm confused. You're avoiding her because the relationship seems too easy and perfect and fantastic and your families love the other? And your problem is..?
I'm an openly gay female and have been out of the closet for about 14 years. And it sound... (read in full...)
Did he really want to date me? Or is it the cable that he wanted to watch? How do I hint that I want to go out with him?
Q. Help .... I'm dating a guy who only wants to sit on my sofa and watch tv... How do I hint to him that I want to go out ??? We have been dating a month I have known him for years he is a friend of a cousin , in one month we have only gone out 3 ...
A. 24 July 2016: You've only been dating for 4 weeks and you have gone out 3 times. That's almost once a week. What exactly do you expect? I work a lot and when I come home at the end of the night, I like to relax and watch TV also. I go out about once a week with ... (read in full...)
Dating 101 help please. When women dump a guy do they ever consider how much it hurts?
Q. Do women ever think about the guy they dump, who treated them like they were an angel, am talking about lets say six months down the road, after being with other guys, like I seen an ex this weekend, but I didn't talk to her, she didn't deserved ...
A. 17 July 2016: More often than not, if a woman (or man) breaks things off, they probably aren't going to be super regretful of the decision. They probably had a legitimate reason for doing so. They may feel bad for having hurt the other person, but not necessarily ... (read in full...)
He wants to be friends but I’m not sure what to do!
Q. Ok so I was seeing this guy for about 3 months. I met him in work and he found me on Facebook to ask me out so he did all the chasing. Things started to get kinda physical a few dates in so I had to tell him I was still a virgin because I just ...
A. 16 July 2016: You could text him and ask him to chat. It couldn't hurt to try to gain some clarity and closure. However, I think what happened was that he was looking for something more casual and to hookup. You aren't that type of girl. So you both are looking ... (read in full...)
I told the truth about her boyfriend, now our friendship is over!
Q. Hello. My friend whom i met this year at uni is mad at me. We are now on school holidays. Through text last week she told me her boyfriend kissed one of her ex friends. I texted her back what i truely felt and told her she deserves better. Not so ...
A. 13 July 2016: Didn't you have to learn this lesson the hard way? By being in her shoes and have it happen to you? You were once her, so I think you should understand where she is.
No, you're not wrong for telling a close friend they don't deserve to be cheat... (read in full...)
Can't understand why she cheated with a homosexual?
Q. Hi. What does it mean when that my wife has cheated me with a gay guy, and prefers gay friends?...
A. 13 July 2016: Sexuality is not always quite as simplistic as everyone is making it out to be. Most of my gay male friends actually do, very seldomly mind you, sleep with women. Far from regularly and they don't prefer it. Nonetheless, they have done it and still ... (read in full...)
O reply from potential date with friend do I block them
Q. Hi , i recently asked on here for advice about asking a friend on a date he said he would think about it and the advice was to let him have 3-4 days to get back to me . well its been 8 days he hasnt made any effort to contact me at all , i have ...
A. 13 July 2016: Telling him you are too good for him is definitely childish. I agree. It's just completely unnecessary.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's boring stare at other women is really getting to me!
Q. Hiya I've been with my boyfriend now for 4 years it's always been a happy relationship up until recently I've noticed my boyfriend has a wandering eye he told me at the beginning that he likes pale blue eyes and long blonde hair I've got dark blue ...
A. 12 July 2016: That's so insanely disrespectful. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do at all. I wouldn't be able to tolerate this, personally, if I were you. Not out of jealousy, but rather, out of a total lack of respect and general manners on his part. I ... (read in full...)
O reply from potential date with friend do I block them
Q. Hi , i recently asked on here for advice about asking a friend on a date he said he would think about it and the advice was to let him have 3-4 days to get back to me . well its been 8 days he hasnt made any effort to contact me at all , i have ...
A. 12 July 2016: Don't say anything at all and don't block him either. Just go about life as per usual. ... (read in full...)
Should I disown her for rejecting my name?
Q. This may be an inappropriate question for this site but I am furious with my daughter. She is 29 and she has recently announced that she plans to get a legal name change, and I am boiling mad. I have a mind to disown her. Even though her mom and I ...
A. 11 July 2016: Wow, you need to get a grip and get over yourself. You all but clearly stated you abandoned your own daughter for your new wife's ridiculous and absurd insecurities. How dare you abandon family over such a ridiculous reason. You ought to be ... (read in full...)
I'm having trust issues with my girlfriend, is she cheating?
Q. I recently had my phone stop working, so i was using my girlfriends phone to contact people for awhile and she recieved a message of a screen shot of a message she had deleted on her phone. The message was her trying to pick up a guy she met at a...
A. 9 July 2016: She's a liar.... (read in full...)
Is it OK for the guy I am seeing to keep on texting his ex when he is on a date with me? What can I do?
Q. If the guy you are seeing, keeps texting an ex while he is spending time with you,would you be okay with it. Is it disrespectful to the girl? Would you turn a blind eye to it? Will you date a guy who is bff with his ex?...
A. 5 July 2016: It honestly really depends on the circumstance. If they are truly just friends or if they are texting about things that are genuinely important, like if they share kids together, etc, then I'd say let it slide, as it is justified. However, I don't ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to stop jumping for anything his wife wants and see that his wife is trying to control him?
Q. I am married and have been dating a married man for 3 yrs.Neither of us are having sex with our spouses. He says he doesn't love her but if she wants to do something and we have plans he just doesn't call me to let me know. He waits until after ...
A. 3 July 2016: "Par for the course" is what I meant to say. ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to stop jumping for anything his wife wants and see that his wife is trying to control him?
Q. I am married and have been dating a married man for 3 yrs.Neither of us are having sex with our spouses. He says he doesn't love her but if she wants to do something and we have plans he just doesn't call me to let me know. He waits until after ...
A. 3 July 2016: I'm a bit confused. So she found out about you. Does she think he stopped talking to you? Or does she know he still does?
Also, you want him to focus his attention around you, yet you are still married, as well. I get that you make yourself... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 23 year old guy not to want to talk or think about the future?
Q. Is it normal for a 23 year old guy not to want to talk or think about the future? I've dated my boyfriend for 5 years and today I asked him where he saw himself in 5 years. He described all his ambitions and goals but only added afterwards that he ...
A. 2 July 2016: You said it yourself: you're both still quite young. I think it's very normal for him to not know where things will go. I'd make your decisions about yourife based on what's best for YOU. ... (read in full...)
What does the appearance of her toothbrush at my place mean?
Q. I've got a bit of a humorous question, however, it's also a serious one. Ladies, what does it really mean when you leave some of your belongings at a guys place? The girl I've been sleeping with for a while now just left (Cue the music: "Don don ...
A. 28 June 2016: I'm actually in a bit of a similar situation, so I can kinda relate. And as goofy as it sounds, I actually understand.
I've been seeing a girl for a while now. We both said we wanted it to remain casual friends with benefits type of stuff. B... (read in full...)
Would you go to a reunion with a brother who blames you for Dad's alcoholism?
Q. Hello, I am the youngest of four. I have two older sisters and a brother. My dad passed away in 2008 and my mom in 2013. When my dad passed away my brother called me two days later blaming me for his death. He died of a bad liver due to drinking. My ...
A. 27 June 2016: I wouldn't blame you for not attending under these circumstances. It is completely unreasonable, unecessary, and completely uncalled for for your brother to have blamed you for your father's alcoholism. There may be triggers and outside factors that ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend selfish ? He is happy to receive, but will not reciprocate following times when I pleasure him
Q. my boyfriend never goes down on me. one day i asked why don’t you do it, he said he is not comfortable..so he don’t to do it. BUT i love doing it.. i more than comfortable doing it . one time he asked me.. i thought he will reciprocate so i did it.....
A. 27 June 2016: Honestly, it sounds like you're messing with this guy's head a bit and being a bit manipulative. You know that he's not going to reciprocate and he's made that very clear. Whether it be because he's uncomfortable or whatever other reason it may be. ... (read in full...)
Why do some young women go out to night clubs dressed they way they do?
Q. Why do the women at the night clubs dress like s^^ts?? So I'm talking here about women who wear clothes with plunging cleavages, booster bras, short skirts and the like. We went to a club last weekend and there were many women barely dressed. ...
A. 25 June 2016: I suppose because they like the way they look and they feel comfortable and attractive in it. Not everyone's cup of tea. However, live and let live. ... (read in full...)
Can they really expect more hours without overtime pay?
Q. Hello, I moved to the US few months ago and I'm working in financie field and have an exempt full time position. I was hired for 40 hours work per week but my supervisor stating that we all must put some extra hours every week. I do come early ...
A. 21 June 2016: The answer is it depends. It depends on your contract you signed with them when you joined their company. I encourage you to pull that out and reread over it. If you don't have a copy of it, ask your employer to print you off a copy. Take a look at ... (read in full...)
Why would my therapists become cold and distant towards me?
Q. I've been in therapy for a 1 1/2. I've had a psychologist and a family therapist who I've grown close to which has given me strength to get to where I am now. However, I've had to be passed onto a psychotherapist because I was having problems...
A. 1 May 2016: I understand the relationship of therapists can often times get confusing, as these are people you grow to trust with your deepest, darkest secrets, and are sometimes the only ones there for us at our lowest points in life. However, it's important ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend suddenly has a fantasy about a MFF threesome and won't let go of it!
Q. Hi I have been with my girlfriend and soon to be fiance for 6 years Through out the relationship she has been very possesive and jealous, to the point where if i looked at porn or say another girl in the shopping centre, had pictures of a bi...
A. 23 April 2016: Sounds like she's somewhat curious about experimenting with women to see if she likes it. You two are fairly young and have been together since teens. Not trying to alarm you, but a woman who is doing this just to please you or to spice things up in ... (read in full...)
How many women get pregnant because they hate their jobs?
Q. Im curious what people reckon is the proportion of women that have a baby because they don't want to work (or hate their job)?...
A. 23 April 2016: This is a thing people do??... (read in full...)
I believe my sister has Boderline Personality Disorder
Q. Hi there, I would love to hear from anyone who either has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or has some understanding of this complex mental illness. My sister suffers from BPD, which seemed to develop around the age of 15. We grew up...
A. 20 April 2016: Nobody could rightfully diagnose her through the internet. However, she seems clearly troubled, and you do come off as a very level-headed woman.
Regardless of any diagnosis, what I can say, is that her behavior need not be passified. What I'v... (read in full...)
Do I end this friendship with my ex? I'm feeling very hurt and confused
Q. I'll start off by saving for the past 5-6 months I have been in an emotional tornado regarding my ex boyfriend. It has been hell for me, seriously. And I'm extremely confused about everything I was with my ex boyfriend for over 3 years, HE broke ...
A. 19 April 2016: I believe that people can be legitimately confused and unsure of how they feel. He seems to feel this way. He says he still loves you, and he very well may. You two were together for a good span of time and only been broken up for 6 months. But he's ... (read in full...)
Should I accept? Ex bf has a gf, but wants to start over with me as friends and see where things go
Q. I need to start off by saying I am emotionally in a bad place these last few days, and I may be all over the place with this. I severely need help from unbiased views. I feel uncomfortable talking with friends about this. An ex bf of mine (was ...
A. 19 April 2016: You are certainly correct in saying something doesn't seem right. Because it isn't. Sounds like he wants the best of both worlds; to have the comfort of his gf, whom he doesn't want to leave, while also having you there, securely placed aside, in ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I no longer trust my ex. He's now posted naked pictures of me online and parts of our private conversations too
Q. I had a bad break up with my long term boyfriend and he decided to post a few naked pictures of myself that I've sent to him over the years online. He did this to 'get back at me' even though I did not do anything wrong. I'm very concerned as I n...
A. 4 October 2015: It's a civil violation, even if it isn't a criminal one. Check out invasion of privacy laws and contact a lawyer. ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to another mother at the school. I want to make a move, but how?
Q. I have recently met a mother at my children's school. I am so attracted to her. I first met her when I was just coming in from an errand and I was parking my car and then I saw her stop, waiting on me to park. She was one of the most beautiful woman ...
A. 30 September 2015: That's always a tough one when it comes to being gay. Straight people don't typically have to fear that when they make a move on the opposite sex, they're going to be gay and make a fool out of themselves. The likelihood is slim with such a higher ... (read in full...)
I don't have a college degree, is this why I'm not being hired?
Q. This isn't a relationship question but I could use some advice. I was laid off from my job of 4 years almost a year ago and since then have had no luck finding a new job. I believe I have a great resume, I have put in applications both on...
A. 21 September 2015: It all depends on what you're applying for. Of course there are some positions that require a degree or special licensing, like nursing, law, or real estate etc. But there are certainly plenty of other fields that don't require it. However, having a ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love someone and NEVER be jealous?
Q. Is it possible to care deeply for or even love someone and NEVER be jealous? I have always thought that being jealous meant being afraid to lose someone. That is because you love or care for them so much. And it is a feeling which overcomes us, wh...
A. 21 May 2015: Allow me to further explain. I agree with youwish. Jealousy can often times be a cancer in relationships. It can be a catalyst that destroys what would otherwise be a happy, healthy love. There is jealousy that clouds the mind and takes over your ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love someone and NEVER be jealous?
Q. Is it possible to care deeply for or even love someone and NEVER be jealous? I have always thought that being jealous meant being afraid to lose someone. That is because you love or care for them so much. And it is a feeling which overcomes us, wh...
A. 21 May 2015: I disagree with those that say jealousy has no place in a loving relationship. Now, I'm not saying that extreme, possessive forms of jealousy are acceptable or healthy - they aren't. However, I believe there is some sort of an evolutionary aspect ... (read in full...)
I feel very guilty after I watch porn. How can I resolve these problems?
Q. Hello, I feel very guilty after I watch porn. I typically only watch it once every few months, so it is by no means a habit or addiction. I have been single for a while, and don't feel comfortable with random hookups, but I do get rather sex...
A. 11 May 2015: I've had friends experience this same type of shame. They had families guilt them and shame them, as well, growing up, for having natural sexual urges. It turned into many adulthood sexuality problems for them that they eventually had to overcome ... (read in full...)
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