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writes:Hi everybody I am a senior in high school and on the third day of school I walked into class and this girl said hi to me and didn't know me and I said hi back. When I walked to the other side of the classroom she asked me to come and sit by her and then started talking to me and wanted to know about me. I am a shy person so I don't talk much and she just wanted to talk to me and kept staring at me. Two days later she gave me her phone number. I have been texting her but not calling her because I am shy and really don't know what to talk about with a girl on the phone. I have finally built up enough confidence to call her but she hasn't returned my phone calls. She claims that the reason she hasn't been answering is because her phone was broke. Right now I have written a love letter that tells all of my emotions about how I feel about her but haven't given it to her yet. What should I do, is she playing me by saying her phone was broke or should I just give her my love letter that tells how I really feel about her which could make her be my girlfriend.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 August 2016):
 No don't send her love letters. It might just freak her out because you don't know each other all that well. You said you where to shy to call her, well maybe she was to shy to answer and that is why she said her phone is broke. You need to take things slow and get to know her, if you come across as to intense this will scare her away. Just keep it simple drop her a message and ask her would she like to meet some evening for some food, or a game of bowling. If she says yes great, take her out and have a fantastic time, if she says no then maybe accept that she is not in to you like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2016): NEGATIVE!
Just ask her out.
"You + Me + Pizza Friday 6pm" etc
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (22 August 2016):
 Pfft, N91; I adore love letters ;) that said, OP, I only love them because they're from my boyfriend, who I know loves me and vice versa, not a random guy I just met.It's not a love letter; it's a crush letter, which is always a bad idea because the feelings are unpredictable on the receiving end. Whilst the thought is sweet, do not give it to her; it'll be embarrassing and awkward because you're still essentially strangers and it could come across as creepy for you to be infatuated with her so soon.Her not returning your calls could mean she's not interested, but her phone could be broken, so stop calling. If she's interested, she'll call or carry on talking to you in person (as some, like me and my boyfriend, find calls difficult).Don't ask her to be your girlfriend; you barely know each other, so ask her on a date. Most of our generation don't date much any more, at least not before they put labels on their "relationships". So many "relationships" break up because people rush into making it official before they know if they're compatible.Relax, talk to her some more and ask her out for lunch. Personally, even as a fan of the romance of love letters, I'd suggest getting rid of it and not writing a girl one until you've been in a relationship for at least 6+ months, just so you know there is a bond there and it won't be seen as too much too soon.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 August 2016):
 No, no no no no do not give her the letter.
Instead GET to know her.
You have been back to school for what? a week or two? It's not love, OK?
It's infatuation and attraction. You really don't know her that well. IF you CAN'T even TALK to her on the phone do you really think declaring your feelings is appropriate?
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reader, llifton +, writes (21 August 2016):
 I second that notion. Do NOT give her a love letter. That will freak her out. If she hasn't answered of returned your calls, it could be because she's nervous, too. But if you give her a love letter, that's a sure fire way to totally screw up. Just be casual and keep chatting with her and eventually ask her on a date.
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reader, N91 +, writes (21 August 2016):
 I wouldn't give her a love letter dude, girls in this day and age may find something like that a little weird. Just ask her out, take her for food or a fun activity like mini golf that you can have a bit of a laugh and get to know about her.
If she says yes, she will probably have a keen interest in you. If she says no, you know it wasn't going anywhere anyways.
Good luck
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