I don't feel loved and I think he is cheating again.
Q. I have been married for 24 yrs I have two kids, one just graduated from college the other from high school. I caught my husband cheating on me in 2010. He admitted the affair and said he was so sorry and would never do such a terrible thing to me ...
A. 4 June 2014: Well I can't say for absolute certainty, but it sure doesn't sound good.
You could hire a private investigator to check out what he's up to if you really want to know. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to enjoy him when the sex is amazing, even though I find him annoying at other times?
Q. So this guy for quite a while has been hitting on me trying to get it on etc even though he knew I found his personality completely annoying. I don't know what it is but he really irritates me. I got very drunk a few days ago and somehow ended up...
A. 27 May 2014: No, as long as you both are on the same page. As long as you both just want a fwb relationship, it sounds great. ... (read in full...)
I am falling deeply for my older Boyfriend's cousin. What should I do?
Q. I'm 19 and with a 34 year old man a year and half. Please don't comment on the age gap , I prefer older men. About 3 months ago I met his cousin who is 31 for the first time. He told me a lot about this guy how he cheated on his now wife when the...
A. 27 May 2014: Sorry, I accidentally sent that before I was finished. My whole point is that what you are participating in/have participated in would/will devistate and destroy your boyfriend. The fact that it's his own family member actively partaking in the ... (read in full...)
I am falling deeply for my older Boyfriend's cousin. What should I do?
Q. I'm 19 and with a 34 year old man a year and half. Please don't comment on the age gap , I prefer older men. About 3 months ago I met his cousin who is 31 for the first time. He told me a lot about this guy how he cheated on his now wife when the...
A. 27 May 2014: First, I want to address the fact that you say you love your boyfriend so much. If this is true, you certainly aren't showing it very well, by making a fool of him with his own family member. When you truly love someone, you can't ever imagine ... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved and I think he is cheating again.
Q. I have been married for 24 yrs I have two kids, one just graduated from college the other from high school. I caught my husband cheating on me in 2010. He admitted the affair and said he was so sorry and would never do such a terrible thing to me ...
A. 26 May 2014: First, it's good that you realize that your husband is telling lies. The heart often only hears what it chooses/wants to hear. So by him insisting that someone is setting him up (laughable), it's easy to fall into the trap of believing him because ... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved and I think he is cheating again.
Q. I have been married for 24 yrs I have two kids, one just graduated from college the other from high school. I caught my husband cheating on me in 2010. He admitted the affair and said he was so sorry and would never do such a terrible thing to me ...
A. 25 May 2014: either that or he's told her that you two are separated.... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved and I think he is cheating again.
Q. I have been married for 24 yrs I have two kids, one just graduated from college the other from high school. I caught my husband cheating on me in 2010. He admitted the affair and said he was so sorry and would never do such a terrible thing to me ...
A. 25 May 2014: PS: don't tell for his BS.... (read in full...)
I don't feel loved and I think he is cheating again.
Q. I have been married for 24 yrs I have two kids, one just graduated from college the other from high school. I caught my husband cheating on me in 2010. He admitted the affair and said he was so sorry and would never do such a terrible thing to me ...
A. 25 May 2014: Wow, yeah, your husband is full of shit. He's cheating on you again. That much is clear. Some strange woman knows your name and is calling from a blocked number? That's blatant. All of the other little things are just the icing on the cake; the ... (read in full...)
Online friend won't talk to me
Q. I have been good friends with a man online for over a year now, we chat nearly everyday and take the piss out of each other. We sometimes have disagreements but always resolve them by talking. A day ago I posted something funny on Facebook and...
A. 25 May 2014: Personally, I think he is acting like a huge baby. Clearly you were joking. That's pretty obvious.
He is obviously extremely sensitive about his age. Has he given you any indication of this during the time you've spent getting to know each oth... (read in full...)
My boyfriend often gets angry at me for no reason and offends me!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years is getting angry all the times these days. He goes on weeks without talking to me. He gets angry if i talk about my work related issues or if i forget to buy his stuff or ask him to pick me up from work or to take me ou...
A. 25 May 2014: Maybe you don't realize this because you're too emotionally involved in the situation to fully see it, but calling your partner names like slut and whore are forms of verbal abuse and completely unacceptable. He has absolutely NO right to speak to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps registering on dating sites and tells me it's just "for a laugh"
Q. Could some one advise me what to do please? I have found my boyfriend to be registering on different date sites. This is the fourth time I found out about it now. He says its just for a laugh and unregisters from them, but then secretly registers on ...
A. 25 May 2014: For a laugh? Who's laughing?
It's time to dump his sorry ass. Why do you keep putting up with his lies? He's not doing it "for a laugh" - he's doing it because he's trying to cheat.
Break up with him. Show him that it's not okay nor accepta... (read in full...)
Mutual close friend spend lots of money on my friend's birthday and very little on mine. Does it mean something about our friendship or am I just being ungrateful?
Q. I feel childish and horrible even posting this but there's something that's niggling at me. My oldest friend (A, whom I live with) and I have a very good friend in common (B). We met B at the same time, work with her and are (as far as I can tell) ...
A. 25 May 2014: Personally, I wouldn't care or think twice about it, as I don't feel loved and appreciated through acts of those spending money on me. Someone could give me a card and I would be happy. I just ask that they treat me well as a friend and we have a ... (read in full...)
I found an empty condom wrapper and a phone number in his clothes after he came home from a stag party!
Q. I think I'm over thinking this but I need another view point on this one. What would you think if your boyfriend came home after a stag party, and then the next morning you found an empty condom wrapper in his pocket along with a phone number ...
A. 24 May 2014: Does your boyfriend usually come home from nights out and instantly jump in a shower like that? That's my first thought. Usually if I'm drunk and coming home from a night of partying, I just crash; the shower comes when I wake up. I don't hop ... (read in full...)
My friend ditched me when I was going to the hospital. Why did she get angry?
Q. A friend of mine recently got very angry with me, without me understanding why. I was wondering if you could help me with this. I had become quite sick, and wasn't getting any better. I was talking to my friend that Saturday, and she asked me how...
A. 24 May 2014: I do see the perspective cindycares is coming from. I think she makes very valid points. However, I truthfully don't believe you've done anything wrong here. If a friend of mine is sick, and they ask me to run to the store for them to get things ... (read in full...)
I've been diagnosed with bipolar but my husband doesn't believe in it
Q. I was diagnosed with Bipolar several months ago, and when I broke the news to my husband he was less than accepting. I told him that I didn't tell him sooner because I was worried he would think I'm crazy, but he said "You're right, I do think ...
A. 24 May 2014: Wow, I'm sorry, but your husband sounds like a real ASSHOLE. Mental health/illness is very real and bipolar disorder is NOT just something a person can "get over." Not without extensive therapy and medication. And even then, you haven't "gotten over ... (read in full...)
My friend ditched me when I was going to the hospital. Why did she get angry?
Q. A friend of mine recently got very angry with me, without me understanding why. I was wondering if you could help me with this. I had become quite sick, and wasn't getting any better. I was talking to my friend that Saturday, and she asked me how...
A. 24 May 2014: Just from what you posted, I haven't the slightest clue what she could possibly be mad about? Of course, there are always two sides to every story. However, like I said, from your account, it sounds as though you did nothing wrong.
I would si... (read in full...)
She stopped texting... What's the protocol?
Q. Hi, so this girl and i have been texting for a few months. She's cool, she's like a year or two younger than i am and normally she'd start the conversation, we talked pretty much every day but she hasn't texted in about two weeks and yeah, well i ...
A. 24 May 2014: Did you ever actually call her? Or you just texted for three months with no actual phone conversation or in person contact? If you never went on a date or even took the time to call, my guess is that she got bored and moved on. She probably gave up, ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for shaving my head even though my gf prefers it long?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm a young guy with an extremely noticeable receding hairline. I'm cool with shaving my head, I think it's comfortable and looks alright on me..but my gf hates! She makes me grow my hair out and it looks ridiculous. Am I wrong for ...
A. 24 May 2014: My girlfriend has amazingly beautiful, long hair (almost down to her ass) and I LOVE it long like that. I think it's gorgeous. However, she cuts it short and donates it roughly every year or so. I don't prefer it shorter, but I certainly can't ... (read in full...)
How can I help him quit pot?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a month now. We have a past and just happened to come back together and fall in love again. He's 16 and he's been smoking pot since he was 10. He used to sell, too, but stopped for me. I used to ...
A. 21 May 2014: To the anonymous male poster - you bring up some very good and valid points. I definitely can agree to most of what you said. I think you are coming at it from the coping mechanism standpoint - that it's bad to rely on something like marijuana as a ... (read in full...)
How can I help him quit pot?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a month now. We have a past and just happened to come back together and fall in love again. He's 16 and he's been smoking pot since he was 10. He used to sell, too, but stopped for me. I used to ...
A. 21 May 2014: I don't smoke - never have. but I have many friends who do. Some are prominent lawyers, doctors, nurses, etc. Who says that smoking automatically leads to a "deadbeat" lifestyle? It only leads to one when you are a deadbeat type of person, in ... (read in full...)
After 6 months of a great relationship my girlfriend wanted to break up
Q. Ive been dating this girl for 7 months now and everything was great we hardly faught we had great sex and we went out and had fun , right before the summer started she wanted to talk and said she was not ready for this relationship , she said a ...
A. 21 May 2014: She was torn and deciding between wanting to party and hook up with guys or settle down and be with you. She choose option A.
What does that mean for you? It means that, unfortunately, she didn't love you enough to give up partying with her frie... (read in full...)
Did I get played? Should I tell my husband?
Q. i am a married 37 year old woman. my story is complicated. first of all i married my high school sweetheart 12 years after we graduated. we had two different life styles. he was a drug user. i only drank. he got off drugs with my help. we married ...
A. 21 May 2014: Yeah, it sounds like you got played. It's possible that he felt guilty after the sex and withdrew, but most likely, he just wanted sex and once he got it, he was out the door.
I don't think you should tell your hubby. I think you should use this... (read in full...)
Who pays when the guys invite the girls?
Q. We went out with 2 guys yesterday, my friend and I. The whole discussion with her started after I noticed ( I think) that when It was time to pay, the guys were kind of hesitant ( may be I am mistaken). I was ready to offer to pay for my drinks, ...
A. 20 May 2014: Male anon - you act like just because a person has never been to a particular place, that they apparently live in the stone age and can't look it up on their phone or that they have never heard of the place or what it's like. I've never been to many ... (read in full...)
Who pays when the guys invite the girls?
Q. We went out with 2 guys yesterday, my friend and I. The whole discussion with her started after I noticed ( I think) that when It was time to pay, the guys were kind of hesitant ( may be I am mistaken). I was ready to offer to pay for my drinks, ...
A. 20 May 2014: I think that if you agree to go somewhere with someone, you should never assume someone else is picking up the check. If you can't afford to go to that place, simply don't go. Those guys weren't obligated to pay your way. That's absurd. You don't ... (read in full...)
Does this mean it's over?
Q. My boyfriend (of 2 years) and I had an argument last week. The argument was mainly because i started noticing that my boyfriend has been ignoring me lately, reading my texts and not responding, he even ignored me for a whole day. Throughout our ...
A. 18 May 2014: It sounds like your relationship had way more cons than it did pros, and you're much better off without him. I know, however, that's easier said than done.
You shouldn't have to remind your boyfriend to behave like a boyfriend lol. You shouldn'... (read in full...)
Does this mean it's over?
Q. My boyfriend (of 2 years) and I had an argument last week. The argument was mainly because i started noticing that my boyfriend has been ignoring me lately, reading my texts and not responding, he even ignored me for a whole day. Throughout our ...
A. 17 May 2014: By the way, in no way was I attempting to make you feel at fault for how you felt. It's completely natural to feel as you did. I was just simply attempting to give you a potential explanation for his behavior from his perspective. ... (read in full...)
Does this mean it's over?
Q. My boyfriend (of 2 years) and I had an argument last week. The argument was mainly because i started noticing that my boyfriend has been ignoring me lately, reading my texts and not responding, he even ignored me for a whole day. Throughout our ...
A. 17 May 2014: I don't know about your boyfriends depression or how serious it is, but in my current relationship, my partner suffers from depression, and it's not uncommon for her to completely isolate herself for a week or more at a time. She doesn't completely ... (read in full...)
How do I ignore the judgmental and stupid comments she makes and how do I get past it?
Q. I've been with my bf for over four years. I know his mom very well too. Over the course of our relationship I found that she is really difficult to talk or relate to. Overall she is a nice lady but ALL (and I mean ALL) she talks about is Gucci this ...
A. 17 May 2014: There's really nothing else you can do, except for what you're already doing, unfortunately.
God, that must be tough. I really don't care much for snobby, conceited people who think they matter just because they have money. Having money certainl... (read in full...)
I don't know how to cope with these feelings of being too small!
Q. I need to know who feels the same and how to get rid of these feelings. I feel below women who are more attractive than me (pornstars, glamour models) I feel like they have more power over men, it hurts me. I feel small. I want a boob job. I'm ...
A. 17 May 2014: Cut myself off before I was done. I was going to finish by saying, if it will make you feel better, get the boob job. However, I hope you can realize that you don't need to look like a super model to be beautiful.
Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to cope with these feelings of being too small!
Q. I need to know who feels the same and how to get rid of these feelings. I feel below women who are more attractive than me (pornstars, glamour models) I feel like they have more power over men, it hurts me. I feel small. I want a boob job. I'm ...
A. 17 May 2014: So you equate power and your self-worth on whether or not you can get mens attention? I think you're worried about the wrong things in life. Looks fade. I judge my self-worth on who I am as a person and what I can do for others. I worry about my ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to fall in love with someone else while you're in a relationship?
Q. This is going to sound depressing but... Is it normal to fall in love with someone else when you're in a relationship? I see it happen ALL the time...Where one partner stops loving their partner and falls in love with another person. In fact,...
A. 17 May 2014: I have been there, myself. Love is a gamble. No body ever knows how it's going to turn out in the end. All you can do is put your heart out there and hope for the best. The alternative is to be alone and single forever, which is also unpleasant in ... (read in full...)
He wanted to bottle me up?
Q. Today was the last day with one of our college tutors and so we planned to go out for pizza at one of the local bars after class. I said I'd maybe join a little later, if I didn't have too much work. I did, but came when everyone except or tutor had ...
A. 17 May 2014: Could mean he thinks you're adorable and cute like a little puppy. Or it could mean that he thinks you're hot. It's hard to tell. It might have been his way of admitting he has a little crush on you. Either way, I wouldn't over-think it. ... (read in full...)
He spends most of his time on the phone to her when I am with him
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly two years, I found out he'd cheated on me 3 times during the first 10 months of our relationship both physical and emotional cheating. He 'realised his mistake' and I took him back. Our relationship ...
A. 16 May 2014: Yes, you should just move on. Your boyfriend is a cheating liar. He's proven it already and he's only furthering that proof.
I wouldn't even give an explanation. I would just dump him. He's not worth a second of your time. ... (read in full...)
Married to a man but confused about my sexuality!
Q. I've never felt as troubled as recently. I'm married for about more than a year and a half to a loving man. He's one of the greatest thing ever happened to me. He loves me, makes me smile and always gets me the best things. I think i love him...
A. 15 May 2014: Hi there.
You sound a lot like me when I was 18. As you can imagine, it was much easier for me to explore at that time than if I were already married and in a straight relationship. So I know that must be a bit tough.
I always dated men and en... (read in full...)
Wife said I could leave so she can take care of ailing mother.
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years and been together for 6. We are very happy and close and I couldn't ask for a better partner! Sometime before we met her mother was diagnosed with a rare cancer and given a very brief life expectancy, ...
A. 15 May 2014: It doesn't sound as if your wife wants to be without you. Contrary. I think she loves you enough to look out for your well-being. She feels bad because she feels like she's burdening you.
You need to sit down with her and remind her that you made... (read in full...)
Boyfriend showers with his friend?
Q. My boyfriend was telling me about a drunken night the other weekend, and told me he ended up showering with his (guy) friend. Then he told me that he'd also showered with a different (guy) friend on a couple occasions. I was confused, and as...
A. 15 May 2014: I have had some guy friends that I could totally imagine doing stuff like that - and they are completely, 100% heterosexual. So I'm sure it's nothing to question him over. Some people just have fewer boundaries than others and it sounds as if your ... (read in full...)
I said he wasn't making much effort so now I'm judgemental
Q. Im in a bit of a dilemma. I met a guy online for the first time Saturday. We got in really well talking. He was late and texted me on the way. Then he turned up and hadn't shaved or had his hair cut or ironed his shirt. Hes a nice looking guy so he ...
A. 15 May 2014: If the guy doesn't want to cut his hair or shave his beard, that's his own business. Maybe he likes his hair like that! And if his car is a bit messier than your standards, once again, it's his business to keep his car how he likes. He also sounded ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend, he won't forgive and forget...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about four years. Two years ago, I cheated on him. My boyfriend is much older than me, and as far as I can remember our age difference had nothing to do with me cheating on him. I also have borderline personality ...
A. 15 May 2014: On a side note, I also know enough about BPD to know that your family life must be turbulent - as you say it is. That's usually where the disorder originates - from an unstable and abusive childhood/upbringing. So I'm sure you need to get out of ... (read in full...)
What does it mean?
Q. What does it mean when a guy does these things? What does it mean? So my boyfriend of 9 months (we didn't have sex) started acting distant and irritated with me and I couldn't stop hurting:( He'd ignore me for days when we argue and get ...
A. 15 May 2014: He was being an asshole. You said you were going to find someone else and so he sent you the video, implying you need tips on how to be better in bed (or sexually, in general) with your "new boyfriend" you claimed you were going to get.
He wa... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend, he won't forgive and forget...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about four years. Two years ago, I cheated on him. My boyfriend is much older than me, and as far as I can remember our age difference had nothing to do with me cheating on him. I also have borderline personality ...
A. 15 May 2014: I know BPD well enough to know that a defining characteristic is to not take perceived criticism well. I think that's what happened here.
Youwish was attempting to give you solid advice and I think you took it very personally and as an attack, ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend, he won't forgive and forget...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about four years. Two years ago, I cheated on him. My boyfriend is much older than me, and as far as I can remember our age difference had nothing to do with me cheating on him. I also have borderline personality ...
A. 14 May 2014: You say "I didn't realize at the time that it would hurt him so much." As this is your first and only relationship, you have never been cheated on, so you realistically can't imagine how truly heartbreaking it is. It's utterly devistating. Not to ... (read in full...)
He found a smudge on the wall .........
Q. I have been living with my partner for 10 years. We have 2 kids. My name is not on anything because I am trying to up my credit score (bad credit). He is an ocd neat freak. I am messy. The house isn't a nightmare, but it's not pristine either. He ...
A. 14 May 2014: Just because your name is not on the lease, he can't just kick you out on the street. You've become a common law resident of that dwelling. You'd at least have enough time to find a new place, worst case scenario, if he tried to get you to leave. I ... (read in full...)
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