My boyfriend's dad told him we were sleeping together! We aren't!
Q. I met my boyfriend's dad last year. We have been friends and that's the extent of the relationship. Recently his dad said in front of me and him that I have been sleeping with dad. Why would he say this? Now I have major issue with boyfriend. ...
A. 14 June 2014: He may be experiencing the onset of dementia, as was previously mentioned. It makes people say and do things they normally wouldn't ever say or do.
Your boyfriend should know better than this. Although I have to admit - it would be quite shocking... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps looking at attractive women no matter where we are and its making me lose my self-confidence
Q. I have been dating a guy for two months who I get on well with and really fancy. However, when we are out together he seems to notice every young attractive woman in sight. He doesn't stare but he does notice them and keep looking at them if we are ...
A. 14 June 2014: I don't blame you at all. I think it's incredibly rude and disrespectful. Call me old fashioned, but I think it's completely tasteless to stare at other women like that when you are in a relationship.
To say that he doesn't mean to do it is a cop... (read in full...)
My husband is masturbating ALL the time!
Q. My husband is masturbating ALL the time. He does it 3-4 times a day during the work week and more on weekends. We will just be sitting there enjoying a movie and I'll look over and he's doing it. We have sex regularly. We've had it four times this ...
A. 14 June 2014: Wow, he just reaches down and does that during a movie?? I don't date men, so I really can't answer this question, as I have no idea! Now I'm truly fascinated to hear the answers! I can't imagine feeling the need to masturbate in the middle of a ... (read in full...)
My upbringing makes me feel guilty about using my sex toys
Q. I was brought up with the idea that sex was dirty, porn was unquestionably wrong, sexual expression was shameful (saying "sexy", for example, was taboo in my household), and sex toys were disgusting. Of course, now that I'm an adult (an open o...
A. 14 June 2014: My opinion is that as long as you enjoy it, it's a completely normal and healthy expression of sexuality.
I think it's a shame when people grow up being fed this kind of stuff - for this very same reason. I've had a few friends who experien... (read in full...)
My upbringing makes me feel guilty about using my sex toys
Q. I was brought up with the idea that sex was dirty, porn was unquestionably wrong, sexual expression was shameful (saying "sexy", for example, was taboo in my household), and sex toys were disgusting. Of course, now that I'm an adult (an open o...
A. 14 June 2014: My opinion is that as long as you enjoy it, it's a completely normal and healthy expression of sexuality.
I think it's a shame when people grow up being fed this kind of stuff - for this very same reason. I've had a few friends who experien... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my girlfriend feel better about herself?
Q. I don't know what to do about my girlfriend. When we first got together she was really confident and sure of herself (maybe because she'd just lost a huge amount of weight). About six months into our relationship she got really paranoid about my ex ...
A. 14 June 2014: What can you do? You just said your ex is better looking, smarter, and more popular. I'm sorry, but that's really a terrible thing to think about your gf and it's very insulting. I don't blame her for one second about being insecure. Honestly, how ... (read in full...)
Why would a good looking, successful guy be on a dating site when he can get any girl in real life?
Q. So I met a guy online a couple of weeks ago. He's really good looking (models on the side) has a good job and seems pretty successful. He asked for my number and has been been texting me almost every day ever since but has never called. He always ...
A. 14 June 2014: Maybe he's just really busy? If he's got a career as well as modeling, maybe he doesn't have a whole lot of spare time to go out and meet people. Besides, dating sites are a great way to meet people you never would have met otherwise. He lives two ... (read in full...)
Am I not floating his boat?
Q. Curiosity got the better of me......I met a guy on a dating website and we have been meeting regularly for approx 6 weeks .....I deleted my account as I can only concentrate on one person at a time but today I re-registered to see if he was still on ...
A. 14 June 2014: You don't need to defend yourself about why you use a dating site. It doesn't speak any less of you whatsoever. It's a modern day way of meeting people you otherwise never would have had the chance to meet. It doesn't in any way, shape, or form mean ... (read in full...)
Am I not floating his boat?
Q. Curiosity got the better of me......I met a guy on a dating website and we have been meeting regularly for approx 6 weeks .....I deleted my account as I can only concentrate on one person at a time but today I re-registered to see if he was still on ...
A. 13 June 2014: It doesn't necessarily mean you're not floating his boat. You two just haven't gotten together officially yet and so I suppose it's possible that he's not felt the need to delete it. I've been on dating sites before and met someone whom I started ... (read in full...)
Why am I putting up with bad treatment from my ex?
Q. Hi and thanks, I've known my ex for about 8 yrs. We were on and off about 4 years. I had broken up the first time around because he was cheating with several women and was on a dating site, plus admitted to having feelings for an ex. We managed t...
A. 13 June 2014: Hello.
This man is not a nice guy. No nice guy talks to other people that way. He's abusive. Maybe not physically, but emotionally. He doesn't care about your feelings, as when you express them, he blows them off completely and tells you it's you... (read in full...)
The new guy that I can't trust, or the old guy who hit me?
Q. i had a bf whose name was Rahul of 4.5 years with whom i was sexually involved.he used to love me a lot but we broke up because he had hit me physically four times and used to abuse a lot.then i found a new guy whose name is Ajay,he is very caring ...
A. 13 June 2014: Neither of them. They both sound pretty terrible.
You should never, EVER settle for someone who abuses you. That's unforgivable and a total deal breaker. So that would take ex boyfriend out of the picture for me. But this new guy also sounds a... (read in full...)
He told me he likes my cousin! How do I get over him?
Q. I worked with this guy and we talked quite a bit, we became friends and then things started going quicker. He had/still has a girlfriend and two kids and one on the way. But He would ask me to send him pictures(nude ones) and I did because well i ...
A. 13 June 2014: Hey sweetie. I'm sorry to hear that you're upset. Rightfully so. It seems to me that this guy isn't very nice. A good guy doesn't cheat on his gf like that. Especially not one who is about to have his child. And he also doesn't take someone's ... (read in full...)
Can tall girls get away with heels?
Q. I am 6 feet (183cm) tall and u sometimes wear heels Should tall girls wear heels what do you think ??? ...
A. 13 June 2014: Well, I think it all really depends on what you're going for. Realistically, you should wear whatever makes you comfortable and feel good about yourself! However, at the same time, I also know that many men are uncomfortable at the prospect of being ... (read in full...)
I don't want to live in someone else's shadow!
Q. I've been with my partner for 2 1/2 years now. We've had a baby together and I have lost all my confidence. My ex husband cheated on me all the time and I'm unsure if my own insecurities are the problem or i should be concerned. My boyfriend ...
A. 13 June 2014: Hello.
I don't think it's a big deal. I get that it may not be pleasant for you and I can respect why, but I don't think it means anything at all. I think his line of reasoning about his daughter makes perfect sense. Now, if he's pulling out the ... (read in full...)
My vagina doesn't look so nice
Q. Hey guys I don't want him to see my vagina when i was younger i shaved it and i got shaving pimples and i got dark pimple spot and it doesn't look so nice ... what can i do ????...
A. 13 June 2014: Trust me, he doesn't care. He really doesn't. He's attracted to you and all parts of you. He won't care about a few dark spots. Don't let it get in your head so much that you don't enjoy it the way you deserve to. Believe me, he won't be thinking ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and my best friend live at each others' houses in my absence! What's going on?
Q. So, I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years and she is the love of my life, I can't picture my life without her. but recently she has been hanging around with my best friend alot, I recently found out that (after we had a huge argument) ...
A. 12 June 2014: Yeah. Something is DEFINITELY wrong. She stayed at his house for a week after you two had a fight??? And then he stays with her when you're not there?? Wow. Something is going on behind your back. That's messed up.... (read in full...)
How to make things work with him?
Q. My boyfriend and i met at school. We started dating when we were both 16. We go to universities at opposite ends of the country and have struggled massively with this. constant arguing, barely seeing one another and its reached the point where he ...
A. 12 June 2014: Our first real love is so hard to get over. It's because it's the first time we have ever experienced these types of emotions and aren't yet familiar with how to deal with them or why we feel the way we do.
Losing someone you love can feel lik... (read in full...)
I went into my boyfriend's mail and closed down all of his online dating accounts!
Q. So my boyfriend of one year has always had dating profiles since he was 13. (He is 21 now). He likes to talk to people though he's never met up with anyone from online since he just simply doesn't believe that something like love could come from ...
A. 12 June 2014: Am I the only one who thinks it's odd and completely inappropriate to be on dating sites whilst in a relationship? I'm not condoning what you did - I think you should have spoken to him about how it made you feel and hopefully he would have taken it ... (read in full...)
How to make things work with him?
Q. My boyfriend and i met at school. We started dating when we were both 16. We go to universities at opposite ends of the country and have struggled massively with this. constant arguing, barely seeing one another and its reached the point where he ...
A. 11 June 2014: Hi,
I have to agree with the others. Love does change over time, but it certainly doesn't feel like falling out of love. When you've been together for a long time, you get a certain degree of comfort. It feels like your security blanket like whe... (read in full...)
My wife is worried I'm going to act like our vacation is spring break
Q. Me, my wife and step-daughter have a trip planned to Cancun next month. I am 61, very young at heart, and my wife is 51, much more reserved than I. I am extremely concerned about this vacation due to the fact my wife seems to think that I want to ...
A. 11 June 2014: That's a real shame, as you both should really be excited for this trip! I've been to Cancun a couple of times and it's great fun! What does she want/expect you to do exactly? Sit and be miserable? You should be able to go out and have some drinks ... (read in full...)
Should I stay in contact with the guy I have a crush on in case things go wrong with my current partner?
Q. My age is 28 years old. I have a partner; we have been living together for a few years. However we have relationship problems and family tensions; and we have given ourselves a one year deadline to sort out our problem. This has been discussed by ...
A. 11 June 2014: While I am pretty much always one to advocate back up plans for most situations in life, back up plans for relationships is never one that's a good idea nor is it fair.
When you are in a committed relationship, you are committing to only that one... (read in full...)
I was in denial when I got married but now I'm in love with a girl
Q. Hey so I'll try and keep this short. Basically when I was a teenager I always liked girls but I didn't want to be gay I guess so I kept myself to myself messed about with girls but nothing serious. And then I meet a guy one i finally thought I could ...
A. 11 June 2014: This is a prime example of why it's not a good idea to supress ones sexuality. Because then, you wind up married with kids and realize you were gay all along and want to leave. At that point, however, it feels really difficult.
You aren't t... (read in full...)
I'm confined to my own room while my roommate gets to decorate and furnish the rest of the apartment...
Q. I'm at a crossroads at the moment and it's stressing me out. I don't know what to do. My college roommate and I lived in our dorm room for two years and got along great so we decided to rent an apartment so we could increase our living space a bit. ...
A. 11 June 2014: She sounds perfect to me! I would have killed for a roommate like that in college! Lol.
If you're upset about the money, as was mentioned, give her some money when you move in or see her next. That way, you don't feel as though you took advantag... (read in full...)
Does it make me sound like a bad mother if I ask my neighbour out? How do I do it without making myself sound desperate and cheap? And would a younger man even be interested in spending time with a woman 11 years older?
Q. Hi everyone I'm a 46 year old divorced working single mom of 4 kids, so needless to say I'm usually very busy with everything. I've been divorced for 3 years now. Here's my dilemma, about a month ago I just moved into a new place that I'm renting ...
A. 11 June 2014: "So is this bad of me?? Does it make me sound like a bad mother?" - of course it's not bad of you, nor does it remotely make you a bad mother. Just because you're a mother doesn't mean you're supposed to be alone and lonely forever. You deserve ... (read in full...)
Would it be right for me to break up with my boyfriend of 7 months?
Q. Would it be right for me if i broke up with my bf of 7 months? I dont knw but i am so confused. I love him so much, no doubt, and he is the reason why i am not double dating, but im really getting hurt. The worst aspect is dat he doesnt trust me, ...
A. 10 June 2014: Hey there.
It sounds to me as if this relationship may be more trouble than it's worth. Granted, not all relationships that begin with trouble, end with trouble. But the way in which the trouble is dealt with is important. If you can grow and... (read in full...)
I'm baffled by her logic!
Q. So there's this girl I've known a couple of years, last year we made out while drunk a couple of times, one of those times I confessed that I had a crush on her, and she seemed to be open to me, we even spent the rest of the night holding hands, of ...
A. 9 June 2014: Who knows what her logic is. I think she just said she didn't remember so she had an escape. Basically, if she said she didn't remember, she could pretend it didn't happen - making it easier for her to shoot you down.
I wouldn't give a second t... (read in full...)
Should people have to change their personalities for others?
Q. Hello people. I was reading an article about relationships today, and it said that you can't go into a relationship expecting that you won't need to adjust your personality. This seems like a pile of horse turds to me, but I was wondering what y...
A. 8 June 2014: Hey there.
I agree with you that you should be able to be yourself in regards to your partner. You should be able to completely relax around them 100% and have a great time. I feel that they should compliment you in that way. However, sometime... (read in full...)
Now that he's gone I realize what I gave up
Q. So I was in a short relationship with a guy, at that time I was not ready and I broke up with him. He was my first boyfriend. I didn't realise then, but after almost 6 months I have realised that I really love him. I miss how in love he was with me ...
A. 8 June 2014: "I have no idea how to convince him that I love him and I miss him and I deserve a second chance because I regret what I did to him." - sadly, you can't convince him of something he's not interested in.
I think this may just have to be one of t... (read in full...)
We get on amazingly and we're fun together but sometimes I just feel a bit down about the relationship. Any advice?
Q. I need some help. Ive been seeing my boyfriend since august and officially been together since november. Hes 8 years older than me. We spend alot of time together but usually spend approx 2 evenings per week apart. We get along brilliantly! And its ...
A. 6 June 2014: Hi there.
It sounds to me as if there are basic incompatibilities here between you two. He doesn't seem to notice them or care about them as much as you do, I suppose because they don't effect him like they effect you. You have needs that are... (read in full...)
How can I make my mother understand that my cousin is like a best friend to me?
Q. my cousin recently got out of prison. he was there 3 years for sexual abuse. he is like a best friend to me. he is 26, and im 14. everytime i even sit near him my mom practicley yells at me! she thinks he would do something to me but i believe he ...
A. 6 June 2014: And to your mom, it's not disliking him for no reason. There's a darn good cause here. This man sexually abused someone. That's a horrible thing to do. So don't downplay that.
I wouldn't care if they were family or not, if someone I knew got out ... (read in full...)
How can I make my mother understand that my cousin is like a best friend to me?
Q. my cousin recently got out of prison. he was there 3 years for sexual abuse. he is like a best friend to me. he is 26, and im 14. everytime i even sit near him my mom practicley yells at me! she thinks he would do something to me but i believe he ...
A. 6 June 2014: You don't. It's your mothers job to protect you at all costs and that's what she's doing. You'll understand some day.
Maybe you two are just legit close friends. However, you're still very young and your mom knows best. Listen to her.... (read in full...)
I don't understand what this teacher is doing
Q. hey, so i have never really told any one this , atleast not all the details and i really need some advice , honest advise so all this started last year around this time, my tutor commented on one of my pictures which i set, i was half asleep w...
A. 6 June 2014: You posted on here earlier. Maybe two weeks ago. It's alarming because you have opted not to do anything about this situation yet and it's only getting worse. You need to report this creep. You think he's nice but he's not. The fact that you know if ... (read in full...)
He didn't call when he said he would and his phone was off ...
Q. Soo my boyfriend is on Holliday with his friends. We have a really good relationship and hasnt done anything in the past to make me doubt him at all, its my own insecurities. I have ben abused with past boyfriends and cheated on a lot. He does is ...
A. 6 June 2014: You've got to try to calm down just a bit and relax. You can't take past insecurities out on current relationships. It's not fair. You say he's never done anything to make you not trust him. So give him the benefit of the doubt he deserves until he ... (read in full...)
My cheater ex-boyfriend will do anything to have me back!
Q. I have a dilemma! My cheater ex boyfriend wants me back! Here's some background information on my sad little life... He was my first EVERYTHING. We we're together for 3 years and we we're mainly happy. There were times when I doubted his love for...
A. 6 June 2014: I think you're being very nature and wise about this whole thing. I think what you really need to do is discover what you can and can't deal with. If you don't believe you can rebuild the trust or that the damage is so far done that trying to build ... (read in full...)
My cheater ex-boyfriend will do anything to have me back!
Q. I have a dilemma! My cheater ex boyfriend wants me back! Here's some background information on my sad little life... He was my first EVERYTHING. We we're together for 3 years and we we're mainly happy. There were times when I doubted his love for...
A. 6 June 2014: This is a tough situation. I'm usually of the mindset that once someone cheats, the relationship is over. That once the trust is destroyed, it's irreperable. However, I also do truly believe that people CAN and DO make mistakes. I think that's what ... (read in full...)
Is he treating his friend unfairly now that we are back together?
Q. Hi everybody, I'm not sure If I have a question or whether I would just value your views on this matter. Me and my boyfriend got together at 18 and have been together just under 5 years. Back last October our circumstances changed drastica...
A. 5 June 2014: My vote is count your blessings. It's rather noble of you to want to be as open minded as you are. However, I get the impression that your bf only ran with this guy because he was on the rebound and hurting. I don't think he's the type of guy your ... (read in full...)
I feel I am already in the friend zone ...
Q. So what makes a girl contact you relentlessly for a week (she initiates almost every conversation), invite you to her grad party, and ask you to go to the movies with her (which I did on Monday) after almost 8 months of no contact? I had a great ...
A. 5 June 2014: You say it's been 8 months of no contact. For me? If I contacted someone out of the blue as feverishly as she's been contacting you, I would say it's an ego boost.
The times I've done that in the past were when I'd been dumped or hurt in some way... (read in full...)
I am looking for the outsider's view.
Q. I have a friend who initially started out as someone I had a flirtation with. It was very intense and we became emotionally involved with each other. For various reasons her and I being together is not possible. The flirting and telling each other ...
A. 5 June 2014: I don't know why you two couldn't take it further, but if I had to guess, it was about the whole gay issue? Being gay, myself, I've experienced women who had hesitations. They usually were overcome. However, it was still really hard.
Anywa... (read in full...)
I know I should just suck it up, but I am JEALOUS!
Q. Hi there, I have come here to get feedback on what really is just me being silly, but I can't seem to help it. I'm 21 years old and my boyfriend is 22. We're both postgraduate university students. We've been together for two years and during that ...
A. 5 June 2014: I suppose my advice is probably the the wrong to take, as I won't be able to provide you with the "it's all in your head" feedback that you're seeking. However, I don't think it's appropriate for someone in a relationship to speak like that to ... (read in full...)
Friend with benefits has an ex visiting from overseas and told me not to contact him or visit him while she's here! What should I do?
Q. I have been seeing and sleeping with a man for just over 9 months now. Just out of the blue, he told me his ex from the USA is coming over to stay with him for a month. First he said it was without warning, and then his story changed, saying it was ...
A. 5 June 2014: No, you definitely do not go over to his house and show your ass. You said it yourself - you and him have made no formal commitment to one another. So you have no claim of right. You were perfectly happy with this arrangement until another woman ... (read in full...)
Should I trust my own opinions about my new manager, or believe what the secretary says about her?
Q. I recently started a new job (office work). The manager is nice at a glance. She is a bit picky and micromanages but what manager doesn't? Anyway there is a secretary working here and from day 1 she has tried to misguide my opinion about my mana...
A. 5 June 2014: Well, if the secretary has worked for her for two years, she's most likely seen sides of her you haven't. So I wouldn't just assume the secretary is crazy and making this up. However, I always like to formulate my own opinions of people. So I would ... (read in full...)
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