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I work in the community I live, where I also volunteer, run a local jogging group, work with the Hispanic community with my husband, and I am a soccer, track, swim mom.
Yet I like a good laugh and my icon is one of them. If you look closely you can see the big hair, puffy sleeves and shoulder pads of the 80's, hey a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do to pay for school and modelling is a good way to do it. Now my family and I get a good laugh over some of the pictures, they are a riot. |
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How do we get over the religion thing?
Q. hi, my question is, i love a girl very deeply who studey in my college. she is junior to me but we are in same age, but she is from another religion. earlier i was friend of her. later on our relationship got closer and i fell in love with her. ...
A. 29 June 2006: Religion and family are hard things to mess with. Your options are to start looking into her religion with an open mind and not dismiss converting. It would make a good impression on her parents.
If you get some alone time with her it woul... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant on a period?
Q. can a woman still be pregnant even if she is still having her period? or does the period stop straight when a girl becomes pregnant?...
A. 29 June 2006: A woman can get pregnant while having a period, she can have a period of sorts while being pregnant.
She can get pregnant on the pill, or using any other contraceptive. Condoms even recommend to use something with them.
The only way to g... (read in full...)
Have we got enough in common?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 5 months. He is uneducated not "up to date" with general issues because he is from the country. I continuously let these small issues get in the way of my love for him. I am drifting away from him. He knows this ...
A. 29 June 2006: Drifting apart is a natural thing in many dating relationships, it is your mind telling you that even if he is a great guy he is not your great guy. You might need to consider letting this relationship go to a friendship and look for someone a bit ... (read in full...)
What is second base?
Q. hey im with a girl who wants to go to second base. someone want to explain how to go about "second base" with a girl?...
A. 29 June 2006: The terms you are referring to are as follows:
First base-Kissing
Second base-Touching, some refer to this also as 'to cop a feel'
Third base- Petting or Touching under clothes or without clothes
Home run-Sex
If these are terms are a... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend; I'm just not that "in love" with him. And now there's someone else!
Q. Hi. I need some advice. I live with my boyfriend. I've never really had the passionate 'in love' feeling with him. I've known him for most of my life. He loves me, and he treats my daughter well. I feel secure for the first time in my life as a str...
A. 26 June 2006: Love is a choice,
and if you choose to break your boyfriend's heart, we can't stop you.
If you choose to follow this path that pulls you toward another love, we can't stop you.
If you choose to allow your heart to accidentally... (read in full...)
I want to lose it to another virgin
Q. I'm 15 years old and my boy friend is 17. We have been dating for a year in about a week. He's not a virgin (he lost it when he was drunk).. but i am. He tells me all the time that he loves me and that we are going to be together forever. But the ...
A. 19 June 2006: If you want to have "that awkward first experience with another virgin" then wait for it. You're only a virgin once and to give it away just to make someone else happy will never make you happy. It is not a very good boyfriend to try to talk you ... (read in full...)
Do I say something about how I feel to the girl who jokes that we're lesbian lovers?
Q. Just please help me. Yes I have typed this many many times but the answers I have got aren't helping! This girl I like, we are both girls, she recently made a couple of jokes about me being a lesbian and she is my girlfriend. I used to really ...
A. 17 June 2006: It is as easy as; Figure out what you want, then be honest with her.... (read in full...)
I've really been trying to spice up our sex life, but my husband thinks we're "too old"!
Q. Ive been married now for about, going on 7 years now and our love life, I have to say, sucks! I was wondering if there is anything I can do to spice things up a bit? My husband is a pretty modern, or simple man and can be a little boring when it ...
A. 10 June 2006: Here are the answers you need. They work better with the help of couples counselling to get it really worked out.
Men are usually so ashamed of speaking up about low sexual desire, because it violates their own sense of masculinity. But low desi... (read in full...)
Do good manners really exists these days?
Q. If a man really tries to be a gentleman in this stone age like opening car doors for you, let you go first as a lady. Does that mean he is showing good manners or just trying to impress you or hook you?? Do good manners really exists these day...
A. 10 June 2006: If a man opens your door, pays for you, helps you out of a vehicle, comes to the door to pick you up, and treats you like a lady he is most likely not trying to just 'hook you'.
It usually means his father was an excellent example of how a man ... (read in full...)
I want to be with my ex's sister, but she doesn't want to upset her family...
Q. im in love with my friend she is 31 im 43 i use to be with her sister at first we were just friends but it turned into love on my part i told her how i felt and she said that we could not see each other as her mother would not be happy but i still ...
A. 10 June 2006: You have have already told her how you feel and now all you can do is respect how she responds to that information.
You have already dated one of her family members. The family already knows you as that other person's ex and now she has to figu... (read in full...)
I told her I liked her, now all her friends are unhappy or Jealous, I want a relationship with her, what should I do ?
Q. hi i need some advice recently after i told a girl how i felt about her she said she liked me to but almost all of her freinds are now unhappy with her one of them likes me and is jelous and another one likes her and is no longer talking to her i ...
A. 10 June 2006: If you want a relationship with her, you need to find out what it is about you that has her friends panties in such a twist.
When you do find out the info try to amend the situation. If you can't then you have to look at the big picture if you ... (read in full...)
Did he lead me on?
Q. I started dating a guy (37) 4 months ago. He took the relationship to the next level first. He said he loved me first. I still kept my feelings from him until he insisted on knowing if i loved him. We spent alot of time together either at his ho...
A. 8 June 2006: Congrats!!! I knew something was up when you first wrote and I am glad you figured it out instead of just walking away.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
I can't dump her just because were not having sex
Q. Dear Alice, I'm 21 years old, and i've been dating my girlfriend for about 1 year and 1/2. Aprox 8 months ago we stopped having sex. WHY? She has something called "vaginisme". Basically it means that penatration hurts a lot, she can't enjoy it ...
A. 6 June 2006: Is your girlfriend in treatment? Vaginism needs psychological intervention to reduce the anxiety response associated with sexual contact and to eliminate the muscular spasms that stop entry to the vagina.
The techniques used in treatment of this... (read in full...)
Virgin for the right reasons? I'm not so sure now!
Q. Dear Cupid, Ok.. heres the deal.. Im a 21 year old girl, good looking (or so Ive been told), fun, confident, sporty, smart, great family, on the path to a great career..basically Little Miss perfect.. life could not be better.. In fact Im really r...
A. 6 June 2006: With your religious background there's a good chance you will feel horrible if you just give it away and it will feel that way if you ever break up.
The statistics of someone marrying their first sexual experience is very low.
The only way... (read in full...)
I played strip poker with my Bf and his mate but he now ignores me!
Q. i have been seeing this guy for well over a year now and we split up a while ago but i met him a few nights ago and we had sex and played strip poker with him and his mate as a laugh but he hasnt botherd texting me since..what should i do? I have ...
A. 5 June 2006: DrPsych is right if he wanted a relationship he would be 'knocking your door down'. I hate to say this but honey you were a booty call, a fling, one night stand.
A good rule of thumb is don't jump into bed with anyone that you aren't in a seri... (read in full...)
I've really been trying to spice up our sex life, but my husband thinks we're "too old"!
Q. Ive been married now for about, going on 7 years now and our love life, I have to say, sucks! I was wondering if there is anything I can do to spice things up a bit? My husband is a pretty modern, or simple man and can be a little boring when it ...
A. 4 June 2006: Plenty of relationships sexual activity drops as low as yours but there is usually a reason behind it, and there are many reasons why this happens. Just because it happens often doesn't mean it is normal.
He could have a medical issue and not ... (read in full...)
Am I an alien or is it the alcohol?
Q. I keep having a recurring dream. I'm an alien, I recently landed in this country and have found everything to be so different from home. There is something called grass in places thats green (weird or what) and there's all this crazy stuff ever...
A. 3 June 2006: If you are an alien, please do not pollute the gene pool on earth.... (read in full...)
He doesn't think he is unfair when he won't forgive me
Q. My boyfriend and I got in a fight recently because he misunderstood something I said, that wouldn't normally be taken as offensive to a person, but didn't let me know how he interpreted it. He never asked though, he just got mad and when he finally ...
A. 3 June 2006: Your boyfriend is using a common abusive tactic. He is never letting you know where you stand with him, never letting you be in good standing, and always having to measure up to his requirements. It is unfair and it is very controlling and ... (read in full...)
Do I leave the mother of my child that I love more than anything, for my old affair?
Q. Hmmm... where to start? could fill a novel, but will try to keep it as short as possible. Worked with a particular girl for 3yrs. Grew very close became best friends. eventually this led to more. an affair of 8 months eventually led to me leaving my ...
A. 2 June 2006: Are you really willing to lose everything you have, for this slim chance of being with a woman that didn't like you enough to break up her last marriage?
Let me break it down for you. If you do choose to follow your 'heart', your little girl... (read in full...)
If they are trouble,but I love them, do I go for it?
Q. If there's someone who you're totally in love with, your heart says go for it but your head says that the person is trouble, do you go for it?...
A. 29 May 2006: You must be one of the smart women in the world to ask this question. Some girls blindly follow their 'heart' or hormones and never ask the question should I?
Listen to your head!!!!
Your heart runs on hormones. Chemical... (read in full...)
My girlfriend confessed all about her past abuse... How can I make her feel secure?
Q. My girlfriend who I have dated throughout College (2 years now) recently revealed to me that she was sexually molested in her early teens. I've had my suspisions since the beginning, and done my best to show my concern but never probe figuring that ...
A. 29 May 2006: There are typical steps in revealing such a secret. After a secret is revealed they will feel closer to you for a brief second then the worry and distrust will try to push you away. This is going to be a rough ride but if you love her and stick ... (read in full...)
Did he lead me on?
Q. I started dating a guy (37) 4 months ago. He took the relationship to the next level first. He said he loved me first. I still kept my feelings from him until he insisted on knowing if i loved him. We spent alot of time together either at his ho...
A. 29 May 2006: The situation needs clarity. I agree it is baffling and something is not sitting right. If you are still talking to him you might want to take the time and try to get out of him what happened between the hours of the weekend plans and the ... (read in full...)
He never hurt me before but now is playing games
Q. dear cupid the situation is as follows my relationship with my b/f is hanging on by a thread it has been a v difficult relationship to let go of.i have had quite a hard time with people so far in my 26yrs but i am not bitter or anything and don't ...
A. 29 May 2006: Listen to your head, you know what is going on. Actions speak louder then words.
He might have treated you well back in the day but he is not now. Everyone changes over the years and it sounds like his changing was not for the better.
You... (read in full...)
My teacher is not legal but I am so infatuated
Q. Overall, I am a few months shy from eighteen years of age, and just happens to be infatuated with my literature teacher (who is single and in his mid thirties) for a year now. Before you render this situation as another teacher/student ...
A. 29 May 2006: It sounds like you have a very good head on your shoulders and you are trying to think this through.
Just as a rule of thumb you should wait until you are legal and out of the class before pursuing a teacher. As long as you are underage and in h... (read in full...)
Could he snatch my babies if they have his last name?
Q. Hi there, I have a new problem. Im due to hace twins next week. The babies' dad and I split up when I first became pregnant and he has someone new now. I decided I would bring them up myself, I am a mature woman with a good income and these are my ...
A. 29 May 2006: As I have pointed out before, It is easier socially for children if they have the same last name as their mother. Mother's are more hands on then fathers usually, and so have more awkward moments with a different last name. Having a different last ... (read in full...)
Should my baby have my surname or his??....
Q. I'm pregnant and my babies father 4 years older than me and he wants the baby to have his last name......
A. 29 May 2006: It is easier socially for children if they have the same last name as their mother. Mother's are more hands on then fathers usually, and so have more awkward moments with a different last names. This also causes children feelings of shame and ... (read in full...)
Is there hope to find the one??
Q. Is there hope to find the one? Is it rare to find a girl who values her viginity or is only willing to settle with the one special person? I'm don't want to go out with a chain of girls and I'm saving myself for the right girl, where and how do...
A. 27 May 2006: It is not rare to find people who value their virginity, who keep it pure and clean until marriage with that one special person. There are millions of them but they stick together usually. Out of luck you might find one lost in a crowd but there is ... (read in full...)
Should I let my 39 hear old brother know how I feel about him dating a sixteen year old?
Q. My older brother is 39 and is seeing a 16 year old girl. He doesnt see anything wrong with it but it is weirding me out! It doesnt seem right. Should I ignore my feelings of disgust and push them aside or should I let him know my feelings? He ...
A. 27 May 2006: You are legally bound to report any lude act towards a child to the proper legal authorities.
If these parents file charges and it comes out you knew, you could be looking at jail time also. Molested children cases get very tough on the part... (read in full...)
Why is my wife so turned on all of a sudden? Is something going on?
Q. Should I be concerned ? About a month ago I stopped by my wife's office to see her. I could see that one of her female coworkers was in her office so I waited in the hallway until they were finished. While waiting I overheard my wife describi...
A. 27 May 2006: Men hit their sexual peak in their late teens, women hit it around their 30's.
If this is around the age of your wife then she could be hitting her sexual peak. Try to remember your sexual peak and then enjoy the ride with your wife.
This is... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, but I was on the pill......what can I do?
Q. Hello, this has taken me alot of courage because i know what people may think but i am asking you all to please not be judgemental of me. I have been with my partner for 2 years, i really care for him alot, the problem is that i got together with ...
A. 27 May 2006: Do you want to keep this baby or not? This is decision will completely change your life one way or another and it has nothing to do with what guy you want to be with. You didn't mention it being a dilemma so I'm assuming you plan on keeping your ... (read in full...)
Mum has crossed the line. She puts me down and snoops in my stuff!
Q. I am a seventeen year old girl. I am getting really fed up with my mum! She is constantly on at me about stupid things (apparently I'm lazy (I do all the housework), fat (bit of a podgy stomach but I am happy with it, why can't she be?). She is...
A. 26 May 2006: Most people are going to tell you, your mum snoops because she loves you, you're over reacting because of your age, and you must have misunderstood her when she said mean things. You probably feel like no one understands what you're going ... (read in full...)
Three in a bed, but I don't want to!
Q. I'm 26, my boyfriend is 29, and he wants us to have a threesome with me and another man. I told him no, and said it would cause harm to our relationship, but he still wants it to happen. I asked him why he wants to do this - and he refused to s...
A. 26 May 2006: Most men fantasize of a threesome with two girls (not another guy) but don't act on it for the sake of their relationship.
For your BF to be so callous to your feelings makes me wonder what is really going on in his mind. Does your BF have a pa... (read in full...)
having sex is physically damaging me! What should I do?
Q. I recently entered into a new relationship and have not been sexually active since falling pregnant with my 3 year old son. My partner is very well endowed and when we have sex i tear each time and am left in pain and feeling very uncomfortable. ...
A. 26 May 2006: It usually doesn't take much time to have your body adjust to a large size penis if you can relax. Sex is such a mental and emotional journey for women that if a prior worry is on the mind it is almost impossible to relax.
Here is an idea tha... (read in full...)
An emotive issue - support please!
Q. I found out 2 days ago that I am pregnant. My boyfriend has 3 children already and I don't want us to have anymore children around the house right now. He's asked me if I want to have an abortion and we have both agreed. I made an appointment, but ...
A. 26 May 2006: Governments have made rulings that it is a woman's choice to have an abortion not the man's. The man's rights to choose to have a child or not end the second he gets the woman pregnant.
Women who make the choice of abortion with a clear cons... (read in full...)
Alone after abortion and feel so low.
Q. I have recently split up from my boyfriend of a year because he wanted to go back to his home country. I offered to go with him but he said he wasn't ready for that kind of commitment because we would have to get married. This was back in feb that i ...
A. 26 May 2006: There are people out there that understand and you need a place to talk. Try,
http://www.4exhale.org/
This is an after abortion toll-free talk-line.
The most important thing right now for you is for you to find the support you need... (read in full...)
An affair which makes her happy - but what about the fallout?
Q. A question for you all, I think I am far to close to the situation to see straight to be honest. A relation (genuinely! - that is why I have not posted this anon)has been married for 20 years. Their marriage hasd been going stale, but they have fou...
A. 26 May 2006: Sorry I guess I took the 'stroppy teenager' comment to heart. :) Though I know the feeling I have felt that way too, with my mother. No matter what age the mother daughter relationship can get very sticky without the problem your dealing with.
... (read in full...)
An affair which makes her happy - but what about the fallout?
Q. A question for you all, I think I am far to close to the situation to see straight to be honest. A relation (genuinely! - that is why I have not posted this anon)has been married for 20 years. Their marriage hasd been going stale, but they have fou...
A. 26 May 2006: Oh you are in a REALLY sticky situation. You still need to somehow remove yourself from the situation.
Summer vacation is coming up and maybe you have a friend or other family member you trust that might let you stay with them for that time... (read in full...)
Does true love come back??
Q. Advice needed. That saying "if you love something, let It free, if it comes back to you its yours" Would that apply to love? If a loving relationship was really meant to be, and the one partner needs time to re-evaluate the relationship, and thei...
A. 26 May 2006: That statement is often misunderstood.
To love someone so much you set them free doesn't mean kicking them out of your life. It is giving them the room they need to be who they are, the support to grow and change, and the love to become the best... (read in full...)
An affair which makes her happy - but what about the fallout?
Q. A question for you all, I think I am far to close to the situation to see straight to be honest. A relation (genuinely! - that is why I have not posted this anon)has been married for 20 years. Their marriage hasd been going stale, but they have fou...
A. 26 May 2006: As much as you want to help and love this person you need to remove yourself from this situation.
There is more going on then you know, and you're being put into the middle of a very bad situation.
Do not give any advice if you care for... (read in full...)
Should I Marry my teenage sweetheart ?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend since i was 17 i am now 23. We are due to get married next year but recently i have been having feelings for someone else. I have met some new friends and we have been going out more than usual and i'm having a ...
A. 24 May 2006: When people get pre-wedding jitters it is the internal questioning if they're doing the right thing. Flirting with other people is a whole other mess of problems but not completely unrelated.
You need to take a break and figure why you're doin... (read in full...)
Every problem we have he makes my fault!
Q. I have been with my bf for quite a while now and every problem that seems to arise he always puts it out on me! for example i asked him to not ever do drugs around me because it hurts me to see him do it and he promised that he would never. well ...
A. 22 May 2006: How someone chooses to act, it is not your fault, and it will never be your fault.
This is using a typical abusive style of control, shifting blame and not accepting responsibility for their actions. I do wonder how long you've been dating, beca... (read in full...)
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