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writes: I have been dating my boyfriend since i was 17 i am now 23. We are due to get married next year but recently i have been having feelings for someone else. I have met some new friends and we have been going out more than usual and i'm having a really good time. I have found myself flirting with one of the lads who we have been going out with. I think he likes me, he tried to kiss me but i said no. I'm worried that this is a sign that i shouldn'e be getting married, or is it just pre wedding jitters?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): "Should I Marry my teenage sweetheart ?"
"recently i have been having feelings for someone else"
"I have found myself flirting with one of the lads"
If I were having feeling for someone else, or needing to flirt with other girls then I would be pretty sure that I am not ready to get married. I think you should see these as warning signs that you are not ready either.
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 When people get pre-wedding jitters it is the internal questioning if they're doing the right thing. Flirting with other people is a whole other mess of problems but not completely unrelated.
You need to take a break and figure why you're doing the flirting.
Do you wonder what you missed out on all those years?
Does your subconscious feel too young to settle down and give up the freedom of youth?
If you marry without settling this then the marriage will feel like a burden placed upon you. Marriage is hard enough to make it work but a pre-existing feeling of missing out or having youth ripped from you spells disaster.
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