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I work in the community I live, where I also volunteer, run a local jogging group, work with the Hispanic community with my husband, and I am a soccer, track, swim mom.
Yet I like a good laugh and my icon is one of them. If you look closely you can see the big hair, puffy sleeves and shoulder pads of the 80's, hey a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do to pay for school and modelling is a good way to do it. Now my family and I get a good laugh over some of the pictures, they are a riot. |
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She wants her space and freedom but still wants my money
Q. ok now i really don't know what is going on... Me and my gf (ex now...) broke up 2 months ago, she said she wanted some space and that she doesn't have feelings for me anymore. I love her dearly, and treated her with all my love when we were tog...
A. 28 October 2006: There is no romantic future for the two of you as long as she doesn't respect you. You know she is using you that is obvious. If she cared about you at all she would never think of taking your uni money. You're just an OPEN WALLET TO HER. A woman ... (read in full...)
What do you make of my husbands 'slave girls' comment?
Q. What would you make of this comment made by my husband. My husband and i were joking around and he commented that if he had some slave girls they could 'fully turn him on before I entered the room'. I didnt say much about it at the tme but cant help ...
A. 28 October 2006: How fun, your husband has given you a fantasy to play with. This is a wonderful sign of the sexual closeness of your marriage. You should share your fantasies with him.
So what to do? surprise him and become his fantasy, try a costume, word... (read in full...)
Can a man tell if a women has orgasmed?
Q. during sex' is the man know if woman cum or not?...
A. 27 October 2006: After an orgasm most people men and women are extremely sensitive to be touched in their genital area.
When using clitoris stimulation for a quicker orgasm for the woman, the clitoris will get a bit harder when excited. This is very easy for ... (read in full...)
If you don't have sex, is it true that your vagina closes up?
Q. I lost my virginity this july, and i prob wont have sex for a while now! is it true that like your vagina closes up (and what does that really! mean by the way) Advice plzz...
A. 27 October 2006: I assume what your referring to is what some couples play with. They hold out on penetration of the vagina for a month or more with only other play and this does allow the kegel muscle to tighten (when you sneeze, when you need to use the bathroom, ... (read in full...)
Rock Horroe Show Hallowwen party comin up-I want to go as the 'sexy maid'. Any suggestions to doing this inexpensively?
Q. Might be wrong place but... My friend is having a Rocky Horror Show halloween party. I want to look sexy as the boy that i like is going, how can i do this (and go as the sexy maid) inexpensivly?...
A. 22 October 2006: I am not that familiar with this show but, To do a french maid cheaply find a plain or ugly little black dress with short sleeves. Cut it off to make it real short. Get white old lady full coverage underwear sew or fabric glue lace on leg holes and ... (read in full...)
How can I bring spontaneity back into our sex life?
Q. My wife and i have been married for three years,we are like best friends but with no sex life and its really tearing me apart as i love her so much and want to be with her for life. Before we where married sex was spontainious and good then it w...
A. 6 October 2006: Women are seduced by their mind not sight or lingerie. It will take a little time and planning but you can start something. If you need ideas try a book, there are a lot on the market with fun, wild ideas that will get your wife in the mood. It is ... (read in full...)
We love each other, things are great, but the sex sucks!!!!
Q. help me please i am 22 i just got married about 4 months ago my hubby is 27 my prob is that he is very very bad at sex . i would never cheat on him i love him with all my heart and we have talked about this and i tried to help him and every thing ...
A. 6 October 2006: Making Love is not about positions, and it is not some guy's porno fantasy either. To feel fulfilled sexually both parties need to feel the other is enjoying the experience or it is just sex.
It sounds like both of you are inexperienced but want... (read in full...)
I do not want to stand in the way of his future
Q. Please help, I'm 19 and desperately in love with a guy of 18. The problem is he is still in school and I am finished, I am afraid that he will decide not to go to College in favour of staying near me. So i'm thinking of ending things. It is hurting ...
A. 5 October 2006: You sound like a very mature and thoughtful person to consider doing such a sacrifice. Most people wouldn't be able to do this.
To be truly committed to a person you must have their best interest close to your heart and it sounds like you have... (read in full...)
Is it ever right for a woman to make her husband choose
Q. Is it ever right for a woman to make her husband choose between her and his mother?...
A. 5 October 2006: I agree with eyeswideopen that more information is needed. What type of relationship does your husband have with his mother? What type of relationship does she have with you? What behavior would you make you think of cutting of ties with family?
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This will be the first time for both of us!
Q. Hi, I've been seeing this boy for about four months now and we are really mad about one another and are thinking about having sex (this will be the first time for both of us!) We have basically done everything else already and both really love...
A. 5 October 2006: Four months is a bit soon to be jumping into bed with each other. It wouldn't hurt to take a few more months to make sure you're really ready. While your taking the time you might want to be prepared.
Talk to your doctor or a local health clin... (read in full...)
what he does wiv me he does wiv other girls
Q. hiya evyone, i am 15.i dnt reali no how to word this but im gonna try my best. there is this lad at my school he is in the yr below me. He seriously flirts wiv me we hug all the ime and he has tryed to kiss me, he puts his hands up my top and on to ...
A. 5 October 2006: Guys like to use the easy girls but they won't take them home to meet mom.
It might feel great to be hugged, kissed, touched, petted, fondled, and have sex but you're not going to get a real boyfriend from allowing any cute guy to do such thin... (read in full...)
Horrible thoughts about something I did as a kid. Any advice on how to cope?
Q. Ever since my ex boyfriend i have been getting unwanted sexual thoughts about anyone. I would never ever act on it but i even get them for a kid i babysit who is 1. I think i only get them for him though because when i was 5-7 i got on top of ...
A. 5 October 2006: You're telling just the aftermath of what happened, and then you're getting upset when people judge you on the symptoms of your real problem. No one can help you if they don't have the real issue, or the whole story. Even then only a few people ... (read in full...)
Horrible thoughts about something I did as a kid. Any advice on how to cope?
Q. Ever since my ex boyfriend i have been getting unwanted sexual thoughts about anyone. I would never ever act on it but i even get them for a kid i babysit who is 1. I think i only get them for him though because when i was 5-7 i got on top of ...
A. 5 October 2006: There is a reason behind this behavior, and you aren't facing up to what happened to you or need therapy to un-repress memories. Children DO NOT act out this way unless shown the way by someone else. Most likely a trusted adult, or a friend.
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Might sound silly but its starting to hurt me that my little girl doesnt say Mummy, when shes says Daddy all the time!
Q. My daughter is 14 months old and saying quite a few words but she wont call me mum/mummy. She can call me by my name and she knows who I am if someone says mum/mummy. I gave up work (very happily)to be a stay at home mum, so I spend all day with ...
A. 30 September 2006: Toddlers use the names they hear. To learn the name Daddy she had to hear you, daddy, grandparents, etc say it. If she is calling you by your name and not by a pet name it is because she hears you being called by your name more then anything ... (read in full...)
My 5 Year old keeps pulling her hair out! Any tips to stop her ??
Q. my 5 year old daughter is pulling her hair out i dont know wat i can do to stop this it started when she went to school she only does this there ive had her at doctors there have given me shampoo to thicken her hair but think that the only way to ...
A. 30 September 2006: It sounds like your daughter might have Trichotillomannia, or compulsively pulls her hair.
Here is a link for some help.
http://www.trich.org/home/
GOOD Luck!... (read in full...)
I am a single mum with a 4 year old son, how will failed relationships affect him?
Q. I am a single mum, my little boy is 4. In the past 2 years i have had 3 boyfreinds and my little boy had a close relationship with two of them. I am concerned about how the relationships ending will affect my little boy,. Any thoughts or experiences ...
A. 30 September 2006: Children will bond to the adults brought into their lives. They do not understand why the adults leave them when relationships break-up.
Your son can develop abandonment issues with men and later in life have a desire to cling to men.
Th... (read in full...)
Can the rather kick his 14 year old after agreeing to have them live with them ?
Q. If a father takes a 14 year old child from the family home to live with him, is he allowed to kick them out when he likes?...
A. 30 September 2006: A parents job is to provide for their children until they are of legal age(18yrs). A parent kicking out an underage child isn't a parent as much as a child themselves.
If the parent needs help there is help. Contact your church to see if they... (read in full...)
What sort of confidence do women like in men?
Q. I heard somewhere that one of or the main thing women like about men is confidence. What sort of confidence? And i know I'm not talking about believing in yourself....
A. 26 September 2006: Confidence isn't being conceited, confidence is knowing who you are and where you are going. Most conceited people are hiding a very low self esteem behind the plastic veneer.
I do love a man that is confident with his intelligence, future, ... (read in full...)
We fight all the time and when I leave home I may not bother at all!!
Q. I sent a question in ages ago about me having problems with my sister (12th may) she's 18, im 20 and I've tried to respond and communicate to her with advice i was given on this site and things haven't improved. In fact, they've gotten worse. We ...
A. 25 September 2006: Just apologize for the yelling at her, the arguing, the miscommunication and everything else she has accused you of. Be the bigger man and apologize. Don't point fingers, by pointing out her fault in all of this.
Apologize for your part of dest... (read in full...)
I feel cheated as I am the only one trying to save my marriage--he doesn't want to try! What can I do?
Q. When will things improve? Hi, i wrote a question a couple of weeks ago regarding the breakdown of my marriage, and how my husband of 7 years told me he does not love me enough to have a family with me even though we had discussed and agreed to st...
A. 22 September 2006: A marriage can't work if both people aren't willing to work together. You need to talk to a lawyer ASAP.
Some hints for you to deal with the death of your marriage:
1. Consciously work with your emotions. Face up to your emotions; ve... (read in full...)
I put restrictions on our computers, so my son doesn't see porn sites and my partner is royally pissed off with me! What's up with that?
Q. I'm a female, late 40's. I have a young teen son, who is a sensible, good kid. However, he loves surfing on the net a lot, so I recently set up a new system in my home, where sexually explicit websites can't get into my home. It was a free service ...
A. 21 September 2006: You are the mother of a young son and to leave even one computer not protected would be neglectful on your part.
It is a bad sign that your partner is so selfish that he won't even consider a child's needs over his own wants. You are doing what... (read in full...)
I have some long term relationship questions ...opinions and thoughts wanted!
Q. I just have a few long-term relationship questions that I can't ask anyone I know because they don't seem to know themselves. Answers from happily married women would be most useful. When you start a relationship with the person you're going to...
A. 21 September 2006: Just how Happy are you looking for? I am married to the perfect man, we have a couple kids, and a mortgage. I am now more in love with him then when I married him. I count myself to be one of the very few lucky ones I didn't just find my true love ... (read in full...)
He hid his drinking from me
Q. When my bf and I started dating we were both active in the mormon church. One of the things they believe in is not drinking. I found out months into dating that he drank alot in high school and after hs. Then served a mission for 2 years, and when ...
A. 20 September 2006: Being religious and having those beliefs can hinder the ability to stop a bad habit unless you go to the proper authority in your church and start the repentance process.
Both of you being Mormon there is one thing you can do to make your rela... (read in full...)
The 3 rules for liars... Anyone remember the original post ?
Q. Hi I read on this site a while ago about the '3 rules for liars'. It was something like lying once could be a mistake, lying twice ........, lying 3 times means a problem. I cant remember it and it seemed like a really good maxim to remembe...
A. 20 September 2006: I am not familiar with the post you are referring to but I have heard 'First lie: you could be mistaken, second lie: be on guard, third lie: it's time to walk away'.
In my experience, the lie itself is just the tip of the iceberg. The real issu... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 20 September 2006: I meant that the ratings could still be anonymous but it would be nice to see what answers are being rated lower and what ones are getting top ratings.
As a moderator I would LOVE the ability to block those annoying anonymous spam IP addr... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 20 September 2006: Since I have been here, the rating system gets brought up every time you ask for suggestions. It really doesn't help anyone to be rated and not have a clue what they did to get a low rating. It is like a teacher giving you a low grade but not ... (read in full...)
He is marriage phobic! What can I do?
Q. my bf is already divorced for very long years., when we meet he said he got no problem anymore and it is really true since i meet personally his ex-wife and we are ok. but my bf has a trauma in his life. he is scared of getting married again worried ...
A. 20 September 2006: Typically a man who has been married before is more likely to want to remarry then not.
For him not to want to marry you and for him to tell you to trust him, sounds like many pieces of this puzzle are missing.
There could be many rea... (read in full...)
He cheated on me and I saw him doing it...but he doesn't know that I know! How do I tell him?
Q. I have a problem that I do not know how to solve. I have been dating an older (I am 26 he is 43) and divorced guy (no children) for almost a year and about two months ago I found out that he cheated on me (I spied on him in front of his appartment ...
A. 20 September 2006: He is playing a classic control tactics on you with breaking up with you then letting you come back to him on his terms.
As much as you don't want to hear this, he is playing a cruel game with you and your self-esteem will be damaged if you ... (read in full...)
He's in college and he wants to meet me
Q. hey guys help me out here, i met this guy on myspace and he wants to meet me,heres the catch...hes in college and im in high school.i dont know what to do!!!...
A. 20 September 2006: Meeting anyone from online is risky, and an age and life situation difference makes you an easy target. You didn't state your age but if you are old enough to actually consider dating this guy be very careful.
If you are serious about meet... (read in full...)
My parents would flip if they knew I was dating 'Superman"...what should I do? (long post)
Q. I need help. I am 20 years old and so is my boyfriend, I'll call him Superman. We started going out on 20th March 2004. I have been with my boyfriend for exactly 2 years and 6 months on 20th September. I love him so much and I would do anyth...
A. 20 September 2006: You are in an unhealthy relationship.
Your first warning sign that your boyfriend was no good was that he wouldn't introduce you properly to his parents.
Second he wouldn't forgive you for an over sight. Yes it was silly of you but you ... (read in full...)
I only use the pill when I see him, could I get pregnant?
Q. okay here's my question, I really hope that someone has any advice for me. Me and my fiancee are in a long distance relationship. I was on the pill last time I saw him (mid august) but messed up on it a couple times while visiting(time change, only ...
A. 19 September 2006: The pill is not to be used off and on again. You need to be on the pill or not. Most birth control pills need to have at least one consistent month in your system to be fully active and working.
If you want the option of once in awhile being prot... (read in full...)
He is getting divorced and seems less happier
Q. i live with a man who is getting divorced now and ever since we have moved in together he seems less happier to see me each day....
A. 19 September 2006: He is going through a divorce or a better way to put it the death of his marriage. He is dealing with some powerful emotions no matter how pretty, smart, or sweet you are. He has to go through the steps of grief, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, ... (read in full...)
What is this white stuff?
Q. hello, i was just wondering if anyone knows what this white stuff is that i find in my underwear sometimes. its like a paste almost and some days there's more than others. thankyou!...
A. 19 September 2006: I am assuming your young, and your mother hasn't talked to you about your body yet. Girls are becoming young women so fast that it is hard for many mothers to gage when to talk to their daughters, so don't blame her for not talking to you ... (read in full...)
My friend lost her virginity even though she is a Christian and now she has lost all self respect! I want to help her get it back!
Q. One of my best friends has been dealing with the loss of her virginity for the last 8 months and I have a question about trying to advise her. She is a very christian girl that believes in waiting till marriage and that her virginity was the sing...
A. 19 September 2006: Her being a christian makes a huge difference how she deals with losing her virginity.
She will need to clear her conscience and lay her burden on the lord, first by praying for the strength and reading scriptures, then by confessing her sins... (read in full...)
How do i cope with a long distance marriage? I don't feel missed very much. What should I do?
Q. How do i cope with a longdistance marriage? Well ive only been married for about a year 1/2 now and we have a 18months daugther. The problems i have is this is the first time my whole family have been separated and its affecting my marriage with...
A. 17 September 2006: You didn't state why the long distance. The reason makes a huge difference if it will work.
Long distance relationship are extremely hard to maintain. Considering that she is going out every weekend and has new friends then some of her need... (read in full...)
He doesn't treat me like a girlfriend, but I've fallen in love with him
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, but during that we kept breaking up because he never treated me like a girlfriend, but now ive fallen in love and just cant bring myself to end i havent seen him in ages to talk about it and when i ...
A. 15 September 2006: It would be proper to do it in person but if you can't then write a letter explaining your feelings.
It would be best to deliver it in person with an apology as you hand it over. Yet if you can't then send it to him by mail or email.
Good l... (read in full...)
Do you think he fancies me or are we just good mates???
Q. hi im 15. Would u say my boy mate fancies me cos if he sees me in the corridor he pokes me or bangs into me as a joke and smiles. hes the same age as me. And sometimes when i am sitting down eating my lunch he says to one of his mates "oh if u w...
A. 15 September 2006: This boy is disrespecting you.
He is talking sexual harassment trash about you by saying "oh if u want any sexual advise then go to her"
He is physically assaulting you by poking you or banging into you.
This boy doesn't know how to ... (read in full...)
Does every guy really watch porn ?
Q. Is it possible to not watch porn as a guy? My bf told me he's not interested at these things. He admitted he was curious about it when he was 16, but he absolutely shows no interest about it now. I love him very much and I'm lucky that I found so...
A. 15 September 2006: Trust your boyfriend and stop listening to your 'guy friends'. It sounds like you have a great boyfriend and he has never done anything to make you think he would lie to you about this.
These guys aren't your friends if they are saying thin... (read in full...)
What are these red lines around my thighs and bum???
Q. Hi I have noticed i have little red lines around my thighs and on my bum. I told my mum and i said they look like stretch marks or scars. She laughed and said they couldnt be as i've always been very skinny. She mentioned it may just be some kin...
A. 15 September 2006: It is normal for teenagers to get some stretch marks. The marks occur when a person grows or gains weight in a short period of time, such as during puberty. However, getting stretch marks does not necessarily mean a person is overweight. Thin ... (read in full...)
My husband is a voyeur on the internet..he likes viewing women. What can I do?
Q. My husband is a voyeur on the internet watching women etc. I caught him viewing one evening and he got very upset. And denied he was viewing women. He does not make me feel loved or attractive and seems to be only getting pleasure from this. W...
A. 15 September 2006: This is an emotional betrayal of your marriage. It will effect your marriage as much as if he had slept with multiple women. You do have choices, you can treat this as the cheating it is, or try to help your husband and marriage.
If you want... (read in full...)
My daughter has asked me to be guarantor, what does this entail and what would I be liable for ?
Q. my 19yr old daughter is going to rent a house, she has just had a baby so is on income support. shes putting up the bond and a months rent, but the landlord wants someone to be the guarantor, obviously she has asked me, please can you advise me and ...
A. 13 September 2006: If she doesn't pay the rent, then yes they can come after you but usually they will give a warning then throw her out after too many delinquent payments.
You say you are her mother and yet she is in such a hard position and your not jumping at t... (read in full...)
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