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writes: Advice needed. That saying "if you love something, let It free, if it comes back to you its yours"Would that apply to love? If a loving relationship was really meant to be, and the one partner needs time to re-evaluate the relationship, and their lives, and you feel that your loosing each other and they come back was it meant to be? would they come back? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (26 May 2006):
 That statement is often misunderstood.
To love someone so much you set them free doesn't mean kicking them out of your life. It is giving them the room they need to be who they are, the support to grow and change, and the love to become the best person they can be. After each and every adventure the person takes to advance who they are whether in work, school, life (this doesn't include cheating) they come back to you. This is giving them true freedom, and that can be found in all good loving relationships. Both people helping and supporting the freedom of the other.
If a person doesn't have the freedom in the relationship they need and take a 'break' the chances of them coming back are slim. If this happens then people says this statement to console themselves, that if it was 'meant to be' they will come back from having freedom. Second chances do happen but it is more a form of forgiving or trying to forget the faults, then willingly giving up 'freedom' to be with you.
I suggest if you are in the middle of something like that, take the time to become a better person. Thus increasing the chances of a second chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2006): Think it depends on the situation, why the need to re-evaulate the relationship etc?
If you part company both understanding each others reasons for doing it, and the aim is because one person needs to re-evaluate then perhaps so!
You said it was a loving relationship, if you love each other then when you are seperated you will probably think of each other and that feeling of missing the other person will make the love feel stronger. hope it works out ok!
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reader, Lostandalone +, writes (26 May 2006):
 I sure as hell hope so as I have recently let my girlfriend go because she wants to find herself or something like that. If you feel that way give it some time and if she doesn't make a move you should.
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