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I work in the community I live, where I also volunteer, run a local jogging group, work with the Hispanic community with my husband, and I am a soccer, track, swim mom.
Yet I like a good laugh and my icon is one of them. If you look closely you can see the big hair, puffy sleeves and shoulder pads of the 80's, hey a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do to pay for school and modelling is a good way to do it. Now my family and I get a good laugh over some of the pictures, they are a riot. |
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My daughter has asked me to be guarantor, what does this entail and what would I be liable for ?
Q. my 19yr old daughter is going to rent a house, she has just had a baby so is on income support. shes putting up the bond and a months rent, but the landlord wants someone to be the guarantor, obviously she has asked me, please can you advise me and ...
A. 13 September 2006: If she doesn't pay the rent, then yes they can come after you but usually they will give a warning then throw her out after too many delinquent payments.
You say you are her mother and yet she is in such a hard position and your not jumping at t... (read in full...)
He cheated and said it was because he was young and I didnt pay him enough attention!!!
Q. Me and boyfriend are young i'm 19 and he is 18. We have been together for just over 2 years. We also have an 8 month baby. And i found out since february that he was cheating on me. Reasoning is being young and also the lack of attention i payed to ...
A. 13 September 2006: You are a mother and need to think of your child. Get a job that will allow you to support your child, find a place to live without BF, and Go to a lawyer and set up child support.
Then give him all the space he wants to clear his head, grow... (read in full...)
Should I finally tell my BF im on the pill ? Will it offend him I didnt tell him before ?
Q. I've been on birth control pills for a year now. My boyfriend does not know about this. Being a responsible adult, we use condoms everytime we have sex. The only thing is my boyfriend doesn't know I also use the pills to be extra protected. I know a ...
A. 5 September 2006: I usually push the honesty card in relationships but...Statistically the pill SHOULD be enough.....but I would love to introduce my two wonderful children that were conceived while I was on the pill.
I took it religiously, wanted nothing to d... (read in full...)
I think I _may_ have married too soon... My wife can't bear to be touched by me!
Q. How do you tell the difference between settling down, and just settling? Married, and regretting it. Finding my wife and I are quite incompatible sexualy, and I often wonder whether I just gave up looking, and settled too early. I feel unwanted, and ...
A. 29 August 2006: People who approach counselling as 'futile' make the odds of it working against them and the relationship. Sometimes a counselor can open your eyes to get you to drop the bad attitude. The better thing is to allow yourself to think that it will ... (read in full...)
My father molested my daughter when she was small. I kept quiet and now..I feel like i should've done something more.
Q. I didnt grow up with my father since he separated from my mum long when we were kids but still we had a good relationship with our father especially after mum passed away. I had a bad marriage since my husband was violent and physically abused m...
A. 29 August 2006: The best thing you can do is support her. If she wants to talk about it be there for her. If she wants to cut ties stand beside her. You can apologize to her if you haven't. She is an adult and now the choices are her, yet hopefully she has gotten ... (read in full...)
Sex and smoking!
Q. I have a question which may sound very weird to some people. It concerns smoking cigarettes and the fact that when I get horny I tend to have the urge to smoke and when I smoke I tend to get horny. I have no idea why this is and I was wondering if ...
A. 28 August 2006: This sounds like you have a smoking fetish. So-called sexual fetishes are much more common than "nice people" have publicly admitted.
Heard of the term "foot fetish," (even though most people don't honestly understand what it means), well for ... (read in full...)
Help me with my list of pro's and con's about him
Q. ok ..tell me if i should or if you would stay with a guy if you had these pro's and con's about him. thanks. some of these things i got over though like the feet thing and i'm getting over the age thing. pro's -he's ALWAYS there for me -h...
A. 28 August 2006: Finding such little things to list as con's really means your not attracted to him and no list of pro's will change that. For he might not cheat on you but if the attraction is not there for you, then you will do the straying.
You might want... (read in full...)
His grandad says we're cousins but I am adopted
Q. im 17 and recently started seeing a lad who lives near me. we were at his grandads one night and thought everyone was in bed when his grandad walked in the living room and caught us laid on the floor kissing eachother, i dont know how long he was ...
A. 28 August 2006: Something doesn't sound right. Maybe 'grandad' is having moments of dementia in old age and is confusing blood cousins or, something is not being told to you.
I suggest you talk to your parents. Level with them, ask them them if they know any ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my wife's sister!
Q. My wife and I have been married a few years and things were great in the beginning. She can be a extremely selfless and loving wife. Over the last few years, she has changed though. Now she is materialistic, short tempered and fights with me over ...
A. 28 August 2006: A good rule of thumb is to not cheat, but cheating with a relative in-law or not is an extremely BAD idea. It will blow up in your face, it will cause rifts that can never be repaired completely. Even if she accepts your foolish notion her family ... (read in full...)
He's pushing me to find a new job but I'm trying to adjust to this new country! He's harsh..so how do I deal with this?
Q. Dear All I am 30 yr old woman married with a doctor. My husband is coming from another culture. I am turkish hes indian. We are living in Uk. I just came here 2 months ago. And trying to adjust my new life here. Since I came here hes ea...
A. 27 August 2006: It sounds like you are being mentally and verbally battered by your husband.
Call Freephone 24 Hour National Domestic Violence Helpline 0808-2000-247 to get some help or to just talk.... (read in full...)
My married lover died but is there anything in the will!
Q. My married but getting divorced boyfriend died 6 months ago, since then there has been a void in my life as before he died his parents used to contact me as they were aware of us being together. My sister thinks that he left me something special ...
A. 27 August 2006: He might have not used an attorney and did the will himself. Not a bad idea if no one is going to contest the will or pretend like it doesn't exist.
If he was married, his spouse has the right to claim a certain amount of his property after his ... (read in full...)
Getting over being raped
Q. being raped is it suppose to make me feel so ashamed of myself and my body and hate myself so much i wanna die most of the time because i am getting very depressed but i wont go and see a shrink because i hate them i have been in councelling snce i ...
A. 27 August 2006: If you haven't already, tell someone you trust.
If you have recently been raped and have not yet contacted the police, please do so. I know that it is a very painful process, but rape is a very serious crime and the person who raped you belo... (read in full...)
Boys tease me about having no breasts. What can I do?
Q. im 14 and have no breast and all the boys tease me wot can i do?...
A. 27 August 2006: All girls 'blossom' at different ages. Some don't get breast until 16yrs or even later. A reputable surgeon will not do breast augmentation until after you're done developing.
The best thing to do is to ignore the boys, yet I know that is a hard... (read in full...)
Early marriage, pregnancy - what to do!
Q. I am an undergraduate in love with a guy who recently graduated from my university and that's how we met. We love each other very much. I am only 20 and just started reading medicine, so i have a long way to go. My partner is thinking of marriage...
A. 27 August 2006: Dr.Psych is right about multiple abortions, it's not a good road to go down. It increases the risk of ectopic pregnancy (pregnancy in which the fetus is implanted outside the uterus), subsequent future miscarriage, and adverse effect on low birth ... (read in full...)
Am I being abused, emotionally?? Any opinions would help!
Q. I need someone to tell me I am not going crazy here!! I think I am being emotionally abused. I have never had any experience with this and I can't take it any longer. The stress levels are starting to affect my health and self-esteem. I have a bf ...
A. 27 August 2006: I am positive he was not this way when you first met him, he might have said a few things in the beginning that took you back but you brushed them off as nothing. Those nothings have now grown into a hellish abuse cycle on it's way to the ... (read in full...)
Caught my bf having sex with another guy! How do I forgive them?
Q. i feel used and i dunno how 2 trust ppl again, i recently found my ex bf in bed with my ex best mate and her bf in bed with mine but its worse .then it sounds he wasnt sleepin with her at the time he was havin sex with her bf. I never knew he ...
A. 27 August 2006: Forgiving doesn't mean you forget. Let go of your bad feelings, your anger, your disappointment, forgive them, then let go of your BF and the lot of them.
Just remember the saying 'fool me once bad on you, fool me twice bad on me'.
Don't ... (read in full...)
Wife refuses intimacy so I moved out. Still want to be with her but should I go back?
Q. i have been married 11 years I love my wife but she is never intimate with me anymore. I know some women go off sex after having a baby, but we have not had sex now for nearly 2 years,we tried talking about it many times but always end up arguing ...
A. 27 August 2006: There are many reasons why a woman doesn't want sex. A woman's libido is stimulated different then a man's and it takes a lot more work to get it going.
The lack of sex decreases a woman's libido, body image, stress, lack of sleep, depr... (read in full...)
The two men in my life are winding each other up...
Q. My son is six and I am in a relationship with someone for the last 18months who is in the army and based in Germany but he comes over whenever he can. I am finding that the two males in my life are winding each other up and I get put in the middle ...
A. 26 August 2006: It is a good rule of thumb for single parents for the mental well being of their child, to not have their dating partners meet their children until it get serious enough that marriage is on the table. Children don't understand breaking up, and ... (read in full...)
My ex was the biggest slob, we have a kid together - how do I act around her now? (long post)
Q. SOMEONE HELP. I KNOW IT IS LONG, BUT I NEED HELP FAST!!!! I was with a girl for three and half years, living together for 3. We have now split and i am heartbroken, although i am starting to think, "lucky escape". She lived like a slob, never c...
A. 26 August 2006: As I stated no ending of a relationship is one sided. Neither you or her came out of this looking as a saint. Put downs and discrediting her character just makes you look bad.
Because you really aren't looking for advice here, you would be bett... (read in full...)
My ex was the biggest slob, we have a kid together - how do I act around her now? (long post)
Q. SOMEONE HELP. I KNOW IT IS LONG, BUT I NEED HELP FAST!!!! I was with a girl for three and half years, living together for 3. We have now split and i am heartbroken, although i am starting to think, "lucky escape". She lived like a slob, never c...
A. 25 August 2006: This might seem harsh but No ending of a relationship is one sided. Cheating for most people is a way of looking for some attribute that they feel they need that is missing from their relationship.
You're legally and financially resp... (read in full...)
Should I deceive my partner and get pregnant?
Q. If you were to get yourself pregnant on purpose without your partner knowing your intentions, and you had their baby and loved it with all your heart because it reminded you of him, is it still a wrong thing to do? Considering that this kid will...
A. 15 August 2006: Look into a sperm bank, if you want to get pregnant that badly. Only if you are in a financial and emotional position to support the child and yourself.
Do Not trick your partner!!!... (read in full...)
How do people make friends??
Q. I don't have many friends, well I don't have any best friends, e.g. people I would see over the holidays to meet up with etc. I just wanted to know how people make friends and if people can give me any advice? I know people say I should be myself b...
A. 15 August 2006: This will probably be out of your comfort zone and not be like you. All good politicians and businessmen know this tip and work it until it becomes them.
The best way to make friends is talk to everyone. Just start chatting away if they igno... (read in full...)
I'm 34, he's 42, 4.5 years together but no committment from him! What should I do?
Q. I have been in a serious relationship for 4 and 1/2 years, but i am thinking of ending it because there seems to be no commitment from his end, and no talk of the future. I am 34 and he is 42. We have 4 kids between us. I would like to have mor...
A. 15 August 2006: The chances of a man proposing after two years of dating is extremely slim.
Statistically men propose in the first two years, after that they have become comfortable in the relationship as is. Statistically a proposal will not happen afte... (read in full...)
I sent a lad dirty texts and he showed his sister...
Q. I sent dirrty texts to this lad i no cos e asked me 2 n im nt bovered bout that, bt his sister has read them and she's also my best friend. I dont no how shes going 2 act when she sees me because their both on holiday and im really worried even tho ...
A. 15 August 2006: You need to choose which relationship is worth saving. After your last entry I would think that the friendship with the sister is your best bet.
Let this guy go and make amends with your friend. Tell her you were stupid for doing it, beg for her ... (read in full...)
He says to get married one day, but not yet till its right, not sure how to feel about that ?
Q. im in a relationship and my partner wants for us to get married one day but i asked if he was ready now and he said not yet because he has a gut feeling inside about it and i was wondering what or how should i feel about it because im thinking that ...
A. 7 August 2006: If this conversation of marriage has come up in the first few months of your dating then you are pushing it. If this after a year of dating and he hasn't proposed because of a gut feeling then get your own gut feeling that he isn't going to.
... (read in full...)
Should I believe my brother's friend about the guy I've been chatting to?
Q. I've been talking to this guy I know from school online and on the phone for a couple weeks. He's really interesting to talk to and we get on really well. He has been bugging me to hang out with him. He's 18, I'm 16. Only thing is, my older ...
A. 7 August 2006: Get a second opinion. Ask your brother what he thinks of this guy you have been chatting with. If he agrees with his friend then go with the advice and stay clear of the guy.... (read in full...)
I'm nearly 16 and he's 22, is that too much of a gap?
Q. I like this 22 year old man and i am turning 16 soon.. is that too much of an age difference and how do i explain it to my parents?...
A. 7 August 2006: At age 15 almost 16, even a mature 15 you have not even had the taste of freedom of driving your own car you bought with the money from your first job. At 15/16 you're still in school and still under the power of your parents. At 16 you should be ... (read in full...)
I miss my daughter now she is married!
Q. How do I deal with my jealousy towards my son-in-law? My daughter (I'm her dad), whom I love with all my heart, has been married for 2 years and it unfortunately has had a negative effect on our relationship. I feel jealous of her husband. Now she...
A. 6 August 2006: Empty nest Syndrome is useful phrase for identifying and encapsulating the feelings of sadness and loss that many women or men experience when their children no longer live with them, or need day-to-day care. This condition that can affect a ... (read in full...)
Conservation and animal welfare?
Q. I am looking at studying animal welfare and conservation but am unsure what course/s would be best for obtianing the correct skills. What courses or traineeships would you recommend?...
A. 3 August 2006: This is the best way for obtaining the correct answers to your question.
Contact a school that teaches this and ask them what the program consist of. They will probably make an appointment with you to walk you through it one on one. Then they... (read in full...)
Any suggestions to use my IT skills to get a job?
Q. THE GOVERNMENT SAYS RETRAIN I am almost 50 and I am a dyslexic despite this I have obtained a 2:1 homers degree in computer studies and a Teaching degree in ICT also 4 grade C GCEs including Maths and English and at the moment I am studying...
A. 3 August 2006: Down size your living conditions. If you own a large house sell it and buy a small one outright. Pay off all debt that you have with the profits. If you owe on your car sell it and get a used car you can buy outright.
Then you are in a posi... (read in full...)
Looking for a change from office work but need ideas!
Q. I am 30 years old and I have been a secretary in various establishments (education, accountants, architects, technology to name a few) since leaving university 7 years ago. I have always hated working in an office and have stuck with it because it ...
A. 3 August 2006: Your skills whether you like or not give you an easy in, into the industries your interested in.
Apply at photography, or music studios, animal rescue or hospital for office work. Then on the job you get all the training you can to advance your... (read in full...)
Any tips on HR training?
Q. I would like to train to work in Human Resources. I am prepared to study for any qualifications but would like to be trained whilst working for a company who would in turn sponsor me for the cost of the relevant qualifications....
A. 3 August 2006: The only time I have ever heard of that happening the person already worked in the company, they had made the right connections and friends, and had the job and schooling offered to them on a silver platter.
Some companies do have educatio... (read in full...)
How could I gain experience to become a marketing manager?
Q. Hi I'm a year 10 high-school student with hopes of one day becoming a Marketing Manager, I know you have to work your way up to get that job, and do a commerce degree (majoring in marketing and possibly management) but I'm not sure how I would 'get ...
A. 3 August 2006: You are at the perfect time to get 'your foot in the door'. Find a company you would like to someday work for and tell them you want to volunteer for their marketing manager.
Yes that is right NO PAY! Yet wait it does get you where you want... (read in full...)
Any advice for a girl with dreams to open up a beauty salon in the US?
Q. Dear sir/madam, I am not too sure if I have e-mailed the correct place for the ‘advice’ I am looking for. However, I would be very, very grateful if there is any info you can give me, whether it is via the post, websites I can visit or books I ...
A. 2 August 2006: You seem to have a great plan but if your not going to relinquish your citizenship then legally a work Visa is your only choice.
Work Visas are required and they are expensive, and complicated yearly fees. Some business when desperately need... (read in full...)
How do I become a midwife?
Q. How do I become a midwife? What qualifications and/or training is required?...
A. 2 August 2006: Every area has different requirements, which makes it hard to give any exact answers to your question.
The first thing is find a midwife, in the phone book is the easiest. Talk to her about what is required in your area.
Then consider... (read in full...)
I snooped into his email and found he's gotten another girl pregnant!
Q. I think I already know what I should do, but I just need some opinions! I am a mother of three, my youngest is 2. I have been in and out of a relationship with their dad for a long time. He left us in January of this year and after a couple of ...
A. 27 July 2006: You don't need this in your life. You are the mother of three children and they need you to be strong and have a backbone so they will grow up and emulate you. If you let this schmuck stick around your children will think this type of deceitful ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me on messenger! I hate the way we ended this...should I call him?
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me a week ago on instant messenger well we actually both broke up with each other. we went out for almost two years and during that time he moved and the only way i got to talk to him was over the phone..we broke up cuz he ...
A. 27 July 2006: What can anyone say to you? It is hard to be at the end of a relationship but it is over.
The only reason why you could be hopeless is if your trying to hang on to a dead relationship. Let it go, have a good cry, and get on with your life.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is wary and thinks I'm not over my ex
Q. my new b/f and me have been going out for about a month now and I feel like he's very wary of things since he seemed to say "if this works out" and "we'll see how it goes" it sounds negative and I think it's since I compared the first time he said ...
A. 27 July 2006: First thing you are no paranoid and you can't fix this. You boyfriend is using a control tactic of making you always in the wrong and being the one trying to make up for what you have or haven't done.
This will only get worse and you will lose... (read in full...)
Her feelings for me are fading, so can I un-fade them?
Q. hi,a girl recently told me she liked me. I was chuffed cause i think i like her to. i think shes starting to go off me though because she doesnt act like she used to. what can i do to help her to not go off me ...
A. 27 July 2006: This a touchy situation for if you didn't give the girl the response she wanted it could have quickly dampened her feelings.
You can talk to her but don't get your hopes up.... (read in full...)
My partner does not want my adult son, in our house, because he pulled a knife on his gf!
Q. My partner will not allow my son to our new home because he pulled a knife on his girlfriend in a moment of madness he did not harm her they are soon to become parents i want to be apart of this would like my son to be able to visit me his life has ...
A. 27 July 2006: The actions of your son are not the actions of a responsible adult. The actions he took are extremely dangerous. He is in the wrong and shouldn't be rewarded or coddled at this time. The police should have been called and a record of it should ... (read in full...)
My roommate is a potential love interest, but she's really selfish
Q. my roommate and i are both gay, and have been friends for a while. we both had feelings for each other a while back, but had relationships that kept us from taking things any further than just friends. well, recently my relationship ended, and we ...
A. 27 July 2006: Don't plan your life on her's or anyone else's words and promises.
Her actions are speaking volumes of truth.
... (read in full...)
I sent a lad dirty texts and he showed his sister...
Q. I sent dirrty texts to this lad i no cos e asked me 2 n im nt bovered bout that, bt his sister has read them and she's also my best friend. I dont no how shes going 2 act when she sees me because their both on holiday and im really worried even tho ...
A. 27 July 2006: You are mad because your trust was broken it is only natural. You're probably worried for now you might not have a friend in his sister depending on her reaction.
This is a hard lesson to learn, but never again do anything you don't want eve... (read in full...)
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