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writes:I'm 15 years old and my boy friend is 17. We have been dating for a year in about a week. He's not a virgin (he lost it when he was drunk).. but i am. He tells me all the time that he loves me and that we are going to be together forever. But the thing is, I don't want to give my virginity to him because i want that awkward first experience with another virgin. When i told him this he started crying because he does know he made a mistake. He said he understands and if i really want to lose it to a virgin he'll wait and let me do what i have to do. Part of me wants my first time to be with him, but i don't want him to compare me to his first girl. Please Help Me, what should i do?
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reader, hyurhjurui +, writes (29 July 2008):
If You really love him then him not being a virgin is okay.But look at it like this he has experience so nothing should go wrong just double up up to be safe
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reader, bikiniilove_xX +, writes (19 June 2006):
i think you should loose it to him. sure you wanted that awkward moment, but wouldnt you rather have that moment with a guy you really care about then a guy who you barley even know. if your boyfriend is willing to let you sleep with another guy, he must really love you and i definetly think you should loose it to him. in a way, its a win win situation because he lost it when he was drunk, so he probably doenst even remember much and will be pretty much as new to it as you are. i think you should definetly loose it to him.
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (19 June 2006):
 It seems that you are worried that he will compare you to the first girl.
Realistically, if he was drunk, he probably can't really remember the first time, secondly, obviously it wasn't that good if he really regrets it.
I wouldn't worry to much about being compared - if she was that good, why isn't he with her rather than you?
The main thing is that you do it when you feel 100% comfortable and with someone who you feel 100% comfortable with. If you don't feel comfortable with your boyfriend, don't do it, wait.
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reader, Jadzia1127 +, writes (19 June 2006):
 If you want to have "that awkward first experience with another virgin" then wait for it. You're only a virgin once and to give it away just to make someone else happy will never make you happy. It is not a very good boyfriend to try to talk you out of your virginty just because he wants it.
You have plenty of time to find other virgins, who also have saved it for their soul mate. A word to the wise -stay away from alcohol and open drinks (any liquid in cups).
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2006): He loves you. There will be no comparing to this other girl. Besides, drunken sex is horrible and clumsy, so chances are you'll be even better anyway. Surely you would rather lose your virginity to someone you love and who obviously loves you deeply. You'll regret it for a long time if you break from your boyfriend for this, and you will have meaningless sex with another virgin, and then wish you'd lost it to someone who loves you.
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