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writes: being raped is it suppose to make me feel so ashamed of myself and my body and hate myself so much i wanna die most of the time because i am getting very depressed but i wont go and see a shrink because i hate them i have been in councelling snce i was about 5 years old and i cant take anymore i just wanna crawl under a stone or whatever and die please help me through this i dont know what to do being raped and imaging being raped are 2 totally different things because i always thought about how can people deal with being raped and then it happens to me and i cant do anything about it my life is at a total standstill because i cant get over it i cant go back or forward so any sort of support or advice u can give is very much appreciated. btw i have all the support my family can give me but they have other stuff to think about.thanks in advance and ill reply back to any comments made chaz x x
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reader, estill_girl  +, writes (8 May 2008):
Here recently...i was raped by two men at the same time. I was drinking and i got drunk way too quick. I don't remember everything but I do remember telling them both no. I passed out and when I woke up...they were putting my clothes back on me.
Since then I have changed. I watch who I hang out with and I don't have the desire to get drunk anymore but I had to realize that none of this was my fault. I do suggest that you talk to somebody because it isn't healthy to keep it all inside you. This is a burden that you shouldn't carry ALONE! It's a very difficult thing to forget because I still haven't but with time...and I'm living proof...life will get easier and you will heal. Even if you don't want to talk to a counselor...confide in a relative or friend. Maybe even a school faculty if you're over 18. There is somebody out there who can help you. And don't rush into anything. Take time to figure out who you are. Because rape changes people. I'm here if you need to talk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): you will get through this. healing takes time; may even years. you need to know that rape ia a feeling that is so powerful, may even so depressing. I reccomend to you a phycologist. I wouldn't suggest any frineds that have been raped because how can you get help from someone who has been through the sAMe transitioNS as you?
I WISH YOU LUCK AND KEEP A SMILE ON YOUR FACE.=]
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007): it is very difficult to get over being raped, you cant just forget or get it out of your head no matter what, you will always remember you can try to get over it...by_getting help from a councilor remember its never your fault no matter what the person says who raped you they will tell you anything so that you dont tell anyone. men who rape females are sick and you should not let them get away with it tell someone who ever it may be there is always someone willing to help they will believe you and do it at your pace.you can tell lots of people confide in someone you trust wether that is.family,teacher,police if you dont feel confident enough to talk to someone face to face then ring childline or any other helpline they will always be willing to help you and will get you through it and advise you on what to do.but please remember that its never your fault and you can get through it if you try with help never try it on your own and dont blame yourself. x
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (29 August 2006):
 well i was raped at 10 by a man 60 odd years older than me he was nearly my grandad at one time. it took me 7 years to get over it because i only told my mom and she liked to go on as normal and pretend nothing happened! but when i was 17 i met my feller who i was just friends with at the start his 40 now im 19 big age gape ye i know but he was there for me when i adventually opend up to him, he gave me life again. maybe thats what you need some one with time and some one you can trust to be there for you. thats how i got through it. and i was suffereing with depresson,suicidal,eating disorder and everything, but i got through it with the help of my feller or else if it wernt for him i proberly would of killed my self and i wouldnt be here today!
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reader, Jadzia1127 +, writes (27 August 2006):
 If you haven't already, tell someone you trust.
If you have recently been raped and have not yet contacted the police, please do so. I know that it is a very painful process, but rape is a very serious crime and the person who raped you belongs in prison. And please keep in mind that rapists oftentimes attack many women, so by going to the police you may be preventing the criminal from raping other women.
Please call the US National Sexual Assault Hot line 1-800-565-HOPE (1-800-656-4673) or for other countries hot lines http://www.rainn.org/counseling-centers/international-resources.html . They can help you in many ways. They are wonderful people who know what you are going through, and can give you emotional support and important resources.
You really need to consider counselling, at least for a place that you can vent the emotions you are feeling.
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reader, marcezs08 +, writes (27 August 2006):
u actually could get over it without personal life, it just depends on what kind of person r u, what i think u should do is let the past die, and dont touch the topic that much cuz if u do ur just opening up the wound in ur soul again, plz rate my comment
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reader, DrPsych + ♥, writes (27 August 2006):
 You cannot possibly get over what has happened without professional help. That doesnt mean a psychiatrist. There are a range of different people out there to help you. If you have been in counselling since a child then it is likely there are lots of issues going on in your life. Counselling may not be effective for you, cognitive behavioural therapy maybe helpful. You recognise you are depressed which is the first step towards getting better. Try antidepressants and try cognitive behavioural therapy which is really meant for people at a standstill in their life. It is not like psychotherapy which dwells on the past - it is very much about the here and now, and how you can improve things in your future. Don't talk to a shrink...go and see a medical doctor to weigh up your options. Your life is too precious to allow it to be wasted on the bad things that have happened to you in your past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2006): I know exactly what you are going through. I have been raped twice (both by ex-boyfriends). At first I just wanted to pretend it didn't really happened and it wasn't that bad because they weren't violent or mean or anything. But, depression soon set in. I would highly recommend getting on anti-depressants and doing therapy at the same time. It will be a long process, and you will never completely forget it, but you will think of it less and less as time goes on. My dad was verbally abusive growing up, so I think that's why I attached to bad guys. My last sexual assault happened in October and I'm still struggling with depression but I'm getting on meds and doing therapy starting monday hopefully. you will be okay and don't give up even when you feel really alone, because you are not alone and some people like me totally understand what you are going through. Don't think of it as the rape defines you, but rather that you are a survivor and that much stronger. GO YOU! Good luck, hopefully that helped.
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reader, SoNzZz +, writes (27 August 2006):
 Darlin...dont worry...being raped is a very difficult situation but the thing you SHOULD do is...tell somebody...let all them inside feelings out. otherwise your goin to get ill and depressed. you need to tell somebody you trust and know whats goin on...that way not only will u have support but also confidence...dont let this ruin your life and plans. being raped is a very hard situation...and the best thing to do is keep yourself controlled. but please...tell somebody you know before something gets out of hand. this way your sure of letting outyour feelings. dont stress...just take take and keep dating guys out for a while until you realise somebody loves you and you love them!!! xx
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