He's becoming too "friendly" for comfort!
Q. Dear all, I have a problem and would like some advice. I am a mum of 2 and have been with my partner for 15 years during this time I have also had a male friend who I met through my sister. Even though we are the same age I have always thought of...
A. 11 March 2013: I agree with Honeypie. You need to tell him that his behaviour is making you feel uncomfortable and to stop it. He's feeling vulnerable and reaching out for any scraps of womanly affection. He just needs to reach out to single women. Perhaps ... (read in full...)
How to let go of feelings you have for someone I'll never meet?
Q. So my problem is pretty straightforward.. There's a guy at my school who passed away about two years before I got there. I did not know him, I didn't even almost know him, but I find myself very attracted to him. Even though I've only seen ...
A. 10 March 2013: I feel this way about Che Guevara (famous Cuban / Argentinian revolutionary). He died before I was even born. Yes, a lot of folks feel this way about celebrities. Elvis Presley is a prime example.
I remember once when I was a young girl jus... (read in full...)
He sent me a naked photo with a comment about his penis. I was unimpressed. Shall I just give up? What do you think he's playing at?
Q. Hi, I have been dating this guy for nearly a month now. We had three dates only. First one, we just got to know each other over coffee and it was good, we liked each other! Then, before the second date, he wooed me by texts, we then saw each ...
A. 10 March 2013: OMG...he's totally trying to play you and he's not even doing a good job at it. His only goal is to have sex with you. If you're looking for a sex buddy or a one night stand, then he's the guy for you. If you are looking for a relationship, look ... (read in full...)
What are the sexual needs of men and women???
Q. hi all, ok so i was going to write a long post about the issues between me and my partner but instead first i would like to hear some view points on sex and i would like if possible equal input from men and women, women... how important is it to ...
A. 10 March 2013: Sex to me is like a creative outlet. I like role playing, outdoors, different locations, even a little bit of S&M. I even went to a swingers club a couple of times, but just as a voyeur. Swinging is not my thing, but I don't mind watching other ... (read in full...)
Why is he being so unkind? How can I get over this? He met to tell me that I'd been 'replaced' by the 'perfect girl'.
Q. I've been with a guy since February 2012. We went to college together but he dropped out as his course was too much for him, he visited me regularly during the college year and over the summer he was the best boyfriend I could have, we were jus...
A. 9 March 2013: Have you told him how you feel? Have you gotten angry at him and told him off? Have you stood up for yourself? Don't be afraid to let him know that what he's doing to you is hurting you. And the next time he tells you he loves you, find out if ... (read in full...)
Looking for a simple solution to my complex problem - life advice please
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a complex situation that’s ruining my life and I need some advice or answers to get me out of the hard situation I’m in. I’m depressed, stressed and so confused, and it all boils down to my past experiences growing up and t...
A. 9 March 2013: I remember feeling the same way when I was your age. I sought out therapy with a therapist who gave me a sliding scale cost per session, so that I did not pay the high price that a normal client would have to pay. That was the best decision I ever ... (read in full...)
Did my Ex really care about me?
Q. I was in a relationship for 8months we lived together and everything. We split up about a month ago three days later he was seeing somebody else. When people ask him about me he say that we were just friends and that he was just renting a room from ...
A. 9 March 2013: If he started seeing someone else three days after breaking up with you, he was probably seeing her and you at the same time. He is probably lying about his living situation with you, because that's what he told the other girl (that you were just a ... (read in full...)
Is our relationship in trouble? After he returned from a trip away he was a changed man. Now he's distant and hardly talks to me.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost a year now. We shared a great relationship until he went for this trip with his girl friends. After coming back he has started acting really weird. He doesn't have anything to talk...
A. 8 March 2013: Has his interaction with any of these women changed since the trip? Is he closer than usual to any of them since the trip?
Maybe on this trip he decided that he doesn't want to fight with you anymore, but it is rather strange for such a sudden c... (read in full...)
Housemates being horrible. Should I confront them about the way they are behaving towards me? What would be the best way to deal with their continual disrespect towards me?
Q. I'm in my third year at university and this year I moved in with a new group of people as my female flatmates from last year went on years abroad. One of my friends from a sports club was looking for one last person to fill a really nice house he...
A. 8 March 2013: I totally agree with Honeypie. This environment sounds very toxic (smoking and emotional torture).... (read in full...)
Straight female with lesbian tendencies? Wtf?
Q. Good evening everyone, Thank you for stopping by to read my post. I am having a hard time explaining my sexuality. I classify myself as a straight woman, as in if I were to marry I would choose a man. I don't care about labels, but if you do th...
A. 8 March 2013: I'm the same way. I think a lot of women are. I consider myself a heterosexual who is bi-curious. I find masculine lesbians totally hot.... (read in full...)
I think he ran but I also think I pushed my b/f away. Did I just mess up a great thing?
Q. I met the man of my dreams 6 months ago. We have been inseperable since our very first date. I spent two years single before meeting him, one year by choice, the second because I didn't met anybody. And then he came into my life. We clicked on every ...
A. 7 March 2013: It was not your fault. Do not blame yourself. You are experiencing Step 2 (Pain and Guilt) in the 7 stages of Grief process.
Let him go peacefully and with love, knowing that you loved him with all your heart. He was just not ready to take the... (read in full...)
How do I stay away from this married man???
Q. Hello. I am involved in an emotional affair with a married guy. We haven't had sex or anything like that. But the attraction and chemistry between us is strong. We work together and used to speak more but recently because of the chemistry he has...
A. 6 March 2013: There is a psychological reason why you find yourself attracted to unavailable men. You need to talk to a therapist to get to the bottom of this.
Regarding your current situation, if both of you go ahead with your urges it will not end well...g... (read in full...)
Should I move to be with him in a culture that will stifle me?
Q. Dear Cupid I was living abroad the last 5 years and only this year i came back to UK, when i was abroad I met an Arabic guy and we developed a friendship, he is unlike the majority or Arabs he is kind of wild, out going and he loves a party as ...
A. 6 March 2013: Cindycares, with all due respect, we are not as young as you think we are. We just realize the valuable life lesson of taking risks, espcially at a young age, because when you become middle aged (like I am), too safe a lived life is more dangerous ... (read in full...)
No contact now for 8 days -- is he ignoring me?
Q. hey everyone.. i will try to make this short as possible... and i am not tryin to make this a big deal but i want to know what you guys think..ive been talking to this boy for a while.. its been about 7 months now and about in february, my au...
A. 6 March 2013: Is it possible for you to see him or enquire through friends if he is OK? He is probably going through a depression. At this stage, just be a concerned friend. Maybe he cannot handle a relationship right now. Maybe he just needs a friend. So ... (read in full...)
Which label do I apply to myself? Am I bi or lesbian?
Q. In the past, I've identified as bisexual. The thing is though, I don't like to date guys. (I mean maybe that will change, but he'd have to be pretty amazing.)I only find them attractive physically. When I've done things with guys, I picture a girl. ...
A. 6 March 2013: I think you are a lesbian who is bi-curious. If you were bisexual, you would be able to fall in love with men too. I may be wrong, but that's just my take on it.... (read in full...)
Should I move to be with him in a culture that will stifle me?
Q. Dear Cupid I was living abroad the last 5 years and only this year i came back to UK, when i was abroad I met an Arabic guy and we developed a friendship, he is unlike the majority or Arabs he is kind of wild, out going and he loves a party as ...
A. 6 March 2013: I'm a die hard romantic. If you say that you're a wild girl, then being with him in Jordan could be one of the wildest things you ever did. If you don't follow your heart with this one, down the road you will always wonder "What if". I say take ... (read in full...)
Why am I always the one making the effort with my so called friends?
Q. I'm in a friendship group of 5/6 girls at school and I feel like that I'm the one making all the effort with them, and that if I didn't talk to them first then we wouldn't talk at all. Like they usually don't even acknowledge me if I'm stood with ...
A. 5 March 2013: In time you will build the confidence to attract and hang out with true friends who understand you and want to be around you. You are experiencing the typical high school "cliques", where either you fit in or you don't. I'm sorry you have to ... (read in full...)
Would it be alright to date my father's much younger ex?
Q. My question: is it okay for me (male) to sleep with my father's ex girlfriend? How would look on my side and her side to other people? How can we (me and my dad ex ) get pass this and move on with are lives together? Background: my dad is in his...
A. 5 March 2013: I think it would be alright if your father tells you it's OK. If you really like this girl and you think it's more than just an infatuation, then the honourable thing to do would be to tell your dad about how you feel about her and ask for his ... (read in full...)
Sex was bad with my ex. So why am I still fantasizing about him?
Q. Sex with my ex boyfriend was horrible…we had no chemistry…I was shy to tell hm what I wanted and he was also shy. Since our break up, I still fantasize about having sex with him every single day and imagine this to be good sex whilst i know he kills ...
A. 3 March 2013: It sounds like you're still in love with him. Maybe it's the connection that you miss.... (read in full...)
Should I settle down with my boyfriend even though I am not physically attracted to him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now. He loves me a lot and wants to be with me forever. I'm not sure if i want to stay with him though. His character is great, loving, caring, clever, honest etc but i don't feel that sexually attra...
A. 3 March 2013: This is a great question to ask. I think a lot of women face this dilemma. I've always heard the saying that it's better to be with a man who loves you more than you love him. The relationship works out better. That may be the case if you treat ... (read in full...)
I am married. But I still have a crush on this guy from the past. Can I get over my crush? Or what should I do?
Q. I’m a married woman with two children. My husband is good but not so romantic. He loves me, but he does not show me that he loves me. When I was in school I was proposed to by a boy who self-harmed himself. I loved him secretly but I was suspecte...
A. 1 March 2013: This guy is just a fantasy, an escape, like a romantic novel. I read this saying somewhere, "Pretty words are not always true and true words are not always pretty". If this guy really loves you and wants to be with you, then why doesn't he do ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with my husbands older cousin.
Q. I've been with my husband for 5 years, married for 1. Even before we got married I was having doubts. I still love him and would never want to hurt him, but I don't love him the way I used to. But now we are staying with his cousin. His cousin i...
A. 1 March 2013: I smell trouble with a capital T. You're bored. You crave excitement. You crave adventure, but here's the thing. Are you willing to hurt your husband to feel that temporary rush of excitement? By asking advice on this website indicates that you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gives her phone number out to other guys and texts them!
Q. My Girlfriend and I have been dating for about two months now. I dont talk to any other girls but she talks to other guys. what pissed me off to get mad at her and write this was she said something like "why wont this guy leave me alone, I dont want ...
A. 1 March 2013: I really don't think she's playing you. It's a little unnerving to see other guys interested in your gf, but please don't be that insecure boyfriend who tries to control who she speaks to. All you have to do is ask her how he got her number. ... (read in full...)
Didn't think he was the cheating type but I've caught him in lies and strange women answering his voice in the early am!
Q. I feel like im going insane. I do. I come from a conservative family and always thought I would be with (in regards to sex) one man. I like about the idea of only knowing one person intimately and vice versa. Me and my current boyfriend wen...
A. 28 February 2013: I can hear your instincts screaming out in your letter, "He's cheating on you and he's lying about it". I experienced the same thing with my ex husband. You are getting all the signs honey. You seem to be a very principled woman. Believe me when ... (read in full...)
We are yin and yang sexually!
Q. my boyfriend just doesnt get me sexually. He likes it hard and fast and athletic and it takes him a very long time to come, I like it soft and slow. I try and guide him but he just takes over!! and Im swore and eager for it to be over :( tried to ...
A. 27 February 2013: Are you sure that you are communicating directly to him or are you dropping hints and hoping that he picks up on what you want? You have to be extremely direct in your communication during the act. If it hurts, you push him off and tell him it ... (read in full...)
My bipolar boyfriend keeps disappearing!
Q. My boyfriend has bipolar disorder. I know that causes mood changes. Every time he gets paid ( he is on disability benefits ), he disappears. It's usually for about three or four days. Sometimes, he texts and calls me during that time, but sometimes ...
A. 27 February 2013: I'm not sure if any of this behaviour has anything to do with him being bipolar. I have a couple of friends who are bipolar and the only time that their behaviour becomes erratic is when they're not taking their medication. I think this guy is ... (read in full...)
The man I'm supposed to marry in 2 months has been cheating on me!
Q. I need help. I love my fiance and he loves me. We have been together for seven years. I recently found out he has been flirting on his job sites and got a girls number and was texting her. And he hit on a friend of ours. He keeps telling me how ...
A. 27 February 2013: You're probably thinking that you invested all this time into this relationship and it was always your dream to marry him. If you lose this opportunity, you feel like you'll regret it the rest of your life. If you marry this man right now, I gua... (read in full...)
I'm so scared we made a mistake. Yes we married. But was I his "last resort" choice?
Q. I met a man two years ago during a year long course. For the year he would follow me out for breaks, chat, flirt. I gave him my number and he called and invited me out. First night he told me about his drinking, drugs, problems with his dad, ch...
A. 27 February 2013: Out of all the women he could have been with, he chose you to spend the rest of his life with. He chose to commit to you. So what if he had a history with other women? I think he was with these women during his dark periods, and none of them ... (read in full...)
I thought he was the one. How could I have been so wrong?
Q. We were together for a year. We connected on so many levels (emotionally, intellectually, physical intimacy). I've had many relationships before. I've even been married once. Never have I been so happy as I was with him. He broke up with me on the ...
A. 27 February 2013: Thank you all for your great advice and support. I especially like Chigirl's advice. Chigirl I think you're very intuitive.... (read in full...)
What we had together was amazing. Why did my commitment phobic guy cut me off the way he did?
Q. I dated this guy for a year. He was commitment phobic from the start because he had some horrible experiences in his past, but we decided to go with the flow, because the chemistry and compatibility between us were very strong. In fact I woul...
A. 25 February 2013: Thank you all for your straightforward advice. It is helping me to let go and move on with my life.... (read in full...)
I know I must move on from him. But I need help on how to love on please?
Q. How can I move on from a straight-gay men relationship? I've had this boyfriend whom I loved so much (till now). We were friends for like 3 years. We study in the same University and we both belong to the same section. He was one of ...
A. 23 February 2013: I think he is gay and is struggling with this. I feel sorry for him, because he does not have the courage to accept himself as he really is. He is pushing you away, because right now he cannot accept the fact that he's gay. I think he does love ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend on site to cheat with married man. Is it time to end things?
Q. I have found out my girlfriend of 2 years went onto a site that is designed for married people to cheat on each other. Her friend told me. I am surprised she told her anyway. She wrote that she is single and looking for an uncomplicated no strings ...
A. 23 February 2013: Listen to your gut. It sounds like it's telling you that it is time to end this relationship.... (read in full...)
What's your opinion on his actions on Facebook? we are dating but he "likes" girls on FB.
Q. I noticed theres a girl that my boyfriend works with and he "likes" a lot of her photos on facebook. Should i ignore it or ask why does he always like her photos and tell him i dont like it? (even though it may start a fight) I dont "like" or comme...
A. 23 February 2013: I think you are being insecure and controlling. Has he given you reason to believe that he and this girl are more than just work colleagues?... (read in full...)
Two days ago my online guy was distant. What should I do?
Q. I started dating a guy about 2 months ago and we hit it off immediately. He would text me everyday and our conversations lasted all day and all night. He works, goes to school, and has an 8 year old son. For the first month he was off of work ...
A. 23 February 2013: I think your friends are right. You are over reacting. His life sounds really busy. The fact that he introduced you to his son was a great sign that you are important to him, so don't fret.... (read in full...)
Should I reconsider or consider reconnecting with my ex again?
Q. I've been on a constant cycle of emotions this past month and a half, it seemed that every time someone spoke about my ex, or when i talked about him, or of course just thinking about when we were together, all of this always made me feel upset or ...
A. 23 February 2013: I think you are getting over him. It's great that you can wish him happiness. You are letting go with love.... (read in full...)
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