My wife just wants to party!
Q. My wife lately start party with her girlfriend mostly every weekend.when i tell her to stop her get upset with me and she dosen't want me to touch her in bed or even to have sex.Please help....
A. 13 December 2013: I think your wife feels like she lacks excitement in her life, so she goes to parties. It makes her feel young, attractive and vibrant again. It may or may not involve another man. For all you know she just loves to dance. Why don't you join her ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a girl whispers to her friend when you are around her ?
Q. What does it mean when a girl whispers to her friend when you are around her ? and?then when you look at her she laughs and smiles at me it happened to me I was talking to her female staff members at the gym this girls friend came in at the gym ...
A. 13 December 2013: She thinks you're hot stuff;)... (read in full...)
Help, I'm being bullied into unemployment.
Q. I'm being pushed out of my job and I desperately need some advice. Now normally, I would never take the treatment I've received. I would never let anyone walk over me as my employers have done. But in the past, if I've been treated terribly...
A. 13 December 2013: They want you out, probably to bring someone else that they know into your position. I don't know how it works in your country, but here's what I would do if I was in your situation:
1. Find a good lawyer who specializes in labour law, jus... (read in full...)
Please help - I found dodgy photos on my boyfriend's computer.
Q. Hi everyone, I'm a bit confused and any insight would be appreciated as I can't talk to anyone else about this. My boyfriend is a sweet guy, I always knew he had a Pervy side but all guys do and that didn't really bother me.... Until I found pic...
A. 10 December 2013: Maybe I've watched too many "Criminal Minds" episodes, but he sounds like he has the psyche of a serial rapist / killer. Like all the other aunties advised...RUN!!!... (read in full...)
I dated a guy who turned out to have a girlfriend. Who, or what, was I to him?
Q. I met this guy three months ago at school. We hit off well and started dating, then he asked me to be his girlfriend. Things went well for the first week we were together, after that he became a little distant and we only saw each other once a week ...
A. 9 December 2013: I don't think the gf was as bad as he made her out to be. Men who cheat tend to demonize their wife / gf to justify their sordid actions. I think you were pleasant company and maybe provided good sex, while he was in this long distance ... (read in full...)
He tried to stick me with the bill on our first meeting ...
Q. I met this guy who I thought really likes me. We exchanged phone numbers, and few days later he offered to meet. So we go for a walk in one of the cool areas of the city, and we walk and walk, walk and walk, talk and around 2 p.m. I felt naut...
A. 7 December 2013: When I read your story, I was cheering for you all the way. You go girl. I don't blame you one bit. The guy needed to learn a lesson in dating. I bet he won't do that to another girl in a hurry:) The guy sounded like a free loader and a scam ... (read in full...)
When dating, does it REALLY matter when you get intimate?
Q. This is mostly aimed at the men on here but women, feel free to give your opinion and experiences as well. I was wondering when dating and hoping to turn it into a relationship, does it really matter how soon the couple has sex? I have read articles ...
A. 7 December 2013: A man who tests a woman on a first date is a hypocrite. It means that he has a chip on his shoulder, and has a deep-seated disrespect / hatred for women (probably stemming from being scorned by a woman in the past). He believes that it's OK for a ... (read in full...)
Do you think he is "into me" beyond just the physical aspect?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about a month and a half now, and we became intimate right away. At first I thought that, perhaps, I'd goofed and "gave it up" too soon, therefore ruining all chances of a real relationship, but this guy has continued ...
A. 7 December 2013: From all that you've said so far, I think he's into you. The fact that he spends time with you outside of the bedroom, and wants to see you when he possibly can, speaks volumes. If he was into you for just sex, there would be no dating. He'd just ... (read in full...)
When dating, does it REALLY matter when you get intimate?
Q. This is mostly aimed at the men on here but women, feel free to give your opinion and experiences as well. I was wondering when dating and hoping to turn it into a relationship, does it really matter how soon the couple has sex? I have read articles ...
A. 6 December 2013: From personal experience I would say it really does not matter. I've had meaningful, long lasting relationships with guys that I was intimate with quite early in the relationship, and I've also dated guys who were only interested in the chase. ... (read in full...)
Does he want a relationship or not?
Q. I started seeing this man a few weeks ago, he is not really my type but after getting to know him, I've discovered I really like him. When he texts me, he seems very cool, calm and collected but in person, he's a bit awkward and acts nervous around ...
A. 5 December 2013: This sounds like it's going to be a casual sexual relationship. As SVC pointed out, if you don't want it to be casual, then stop the sexual contact and focus more on dating and getting to know each other. If he likes you as more than just a sexual ... (read in full...)
He never has money for things we do together
Q. Hi. I have been with my boyfriend for 18 months. I'm shy and have not dated a lot. We have a lot of issues. He hardly ever has any money due to debt following divorce, so he doesn't often take me out or buy flowers or gifts, but goes drinking. ...
A. 4 December 2013: Listen to WiseOwlE. He gave some great advice:)... (read in full...)
How do you keep a man happy?
Q. This may be a stupid question but how do you keep a man happy? What makes a relationship work and last? I've been with my bf for 7 months and I really care about him and don't want to lose him, I want to continue to make him happy and make o...
A. 4 December 2013: Great sex
Great conversations
Not being too clingy or demanding. Giving him his space when he needs it.
Being comfortable in your own skin. Being your own person, and not having to rely on him for validation
Accepting / Understanding / ... (read in full...)
I don't want to waste my time on someone who isn't looking to be with me long-term.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been seeing a guy for around 6 months. It was going well until a around a month ago. He told me he was looking to live on his own in future or a buy a place with his sister. In principal, Im not against this but at the time it m...
A. 4 December 2013: Your gut instinct is giving you some pretty strong messages:
1. This guy is not in this relationship for the long haul
2. He is giving you the option to leave him. NOt a good sign.
3. He makes no effort to see you one on one.
4. He offers... (read in full...)
He says he can't marry me because of his parents but we are intimate. Should I stop this?
Q. Well I don't know from where do I start. I'm in a very difficult condition to be understood by anyone. My story has started one year back when I kissed him for the first time. It's not that I haven't kissed any guy before him but with him something ...
A. 4 December 2013: I am so sorry to hear this. It's his loss. This happened to a friend of mine at work. Thirty years ago, the man she was in love with, left her, because his parents did not approve of their relationship. He opted for the arranged marriage. ... (read in full...)
The safe option vs. the one you really want?
Q. Hi, I wonder if any girl has had this situation before? My female best friend I've known for a long, long time. We talk a lot, especially relationships. She asks my opinions on blokes she dates and vice versa. She met a guy two years ago ...
A. 4 December 2013: I chose the "safe option", and it is my biggest regret. The marriage did not last. We had nothing in common. I found him dull and dim witted. We became irritated and frustrated with each other. We grew to dislike one another.
After my divor... (read in full...)
Should I help out my estranged step-son?
Q. Hi everyone, I need really fast advice. I have a step son 24 years ago. When he was a little boy like 2 years old I'm taking care of him. I was pregnant that time and I'm always angry to this boy. Partly my pregnancy and also maybe I'm jealou...
A. 3 December 2013: If you can afford to help him, then help him. Don't view him with the same feelings you view his father. He was part of your family unit at one time. Just give it to him in good faith that perhaps one day he'll pay you back, but don't expect that ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend spends a lot of time with her gay male friend who's almost always semi-naked. Should I be concerned?
Q. My girlfriend often tells me how her male fried walks around the house purely in his underwear. I know this sounds petty but I can't help but let it bother me. I even went as far as to ask what kind of underwear...they're the tight boxer brief ...
A. 1 December 2013: To answer your question, if the tables were turned, I personally would not have an issue with my bf hanging out with a lesbian friend. I've had bfs in the past who used to hang out with their straight female friends, and I did not have an issue. I ... (read in full...)
Wife admitted she used to be a prostitute! Should I cut my losses and leave?
Q. My wife and I have been married now for 23 years. When we began dating I realized she was probably more worldly than I was used to going out with. However , I was starting to fall for her, and at 27 I wasn't meeting anyone that came close to her . ...
A. 30 November 2013: Your wife sounds very kniving / manipulative. The trust is gone. It's not the fact that she used to be an escort. It's the fact that she lied about it and still continues to lie. She just dropped this bombshell on you and does not want to talk ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend spends a lot of time with her gay male friend who's almost always semi-naked. Should I be concerned?
Q. My girlfriend often tells me how her male fried walks around the house purely in his underwear. I know this sounds petty but I can't help but let it bother me. I even went as far as to ask what kind of underwear...they're the tight boxer brief ...
A. 30 November 2013: I'm very much like your girlfriend. I'm very friendly, flirtatious and I do have gay male friends that I'm very comfortable around...even went to a couple nude beaches with them. There is absolutely no threat of crossing over to the other side. ... (read in full...)
I feel like my sou lmate is at the wrong place!
Q. I have posted on here a lot in the past, and I am posting again because I need some help, or words of courage. My ex of one year and I broke up. It was mainly because I was going to the Marines Reserves. I gave that dream up so that she would b...
A. 29 November 2013: People come into our lives for a reason, a chance to learn something and grow from these experiences. It is good that you are confronting the pain head on, but what lies deeper than the pain is the lesson. What have you learned from her (about ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure what the next move is....Do I just leave her alone and let her come to me?
Q. I saw this really attractive girl at my train station last friday she got on my train and she got off at the same station as me as well. As i was on the train i wrote her a note saying that i though she was very beautiful and i gave her my number so ...
A. 28 November 2013: That was a really sweet thing you did:) If she is severely depressed, then most likely she is talking herself out of starting anything with you. There is a sense of unworthiness that you feel when you're depressed, and a sense that you don't want ... (read in full...)
Is this marriage over?
Q. I have been married second time round for 2 years, my wife is Jamaican and we met online, we met for the first time in Jamaica on holiday and it was great and had sex 11 times in the first week. She then came over 7 months later after sexy texts, ...
A. 27 November 2013: You need to have a good heart to heart talk with her to find out why she is unhappy. Maybe on your day off you could take her for a nice drive up the coast. Stop at a nice restaurant and have a lovely meal, and get some good quality one on one time ... (read in full...)
Suggestions for handling difficult co-workers?
Q. Hey I have worked at my job for 14 years. When I started working there I enjoyed it a lot. My supervisor was very nice and he would encourage us to work together as a team. We all got alone very ...
A. 27 November 2013: I would advise that you not be a "friend" to either of them. Continue to be professional and civil with them in the workplace, but stop hanging out with them after work and stop lending them money. Treat them like you would a colleague that you're ... (read in full...)
I have a chance to be with someone nice and I don't seem to want it
Q. I'm sitting here and i hope that i can get some advice as i don't know who to ask. I'm 26 and apart from a 3 year relationship, i'm just being honest, i have been with a lot of women. I look after myself and am good looking and i love going out t...
A. 25 November 2013: Let her go. What you are doing to her is awful. How would you feel if she were sleeping with other men on the side, and hiding it from you? This kind of deceit will knock the wind out of her, hurt her so deeply. It will linger in her like a ... (read in full...)
Why can't I seem to he over my first gf?
Q. I was in a relationship with who I was convinced was "The One". We were together for 6 months and 8 days. It was the happiest I've ever been. I loved her more than life itself. She always called me on my break. And we always talked. I didn't smother ...
A. 23 November 2013: You sound like a romantic soul who gets easily swept up in the fantasy of love. This is not a bad thing. With all the bitterness and harshness that's going on in the world today, it is refreshing to see that there are still people like you who ... (read in full...)
Is there still a chance for us? Should I contact him again within a few months? Or should I just forget about him?
Q. I'll keep it short since our 'relationship' was short too. I met this guy at a party 3 weeks ago. We had an instant click and an amazing evening. He told me he came just out of a long relationship and was single for just 1 month. He's 23, i'm 26 ...
A. 21 November 2013: Give it time and let him contact you. The same thing had happened to me, except it was the reverse. I met an awesome guy on the rebound, but I was still not over my ex, so I broke it off with him. It took me almost a full year to feel the urge to ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to believe all lesbians are of the lower class and are unmotivated without ambition. Where are all the stable single lesbians?
Q. Why is my dating pool so tragic? It's like all the women I've tried to take serious were going nowhere in life. I don't judge never did but today I realized they all have the no drive in common to be and do something greater in life. My first chic ...
A. 20 November 2013: Maybe you are subconsiously choosing losers because you feel you don't deserve someone better. If you are choosing the same kind of woman over and over again, then you need to take an inward look to find out why you are repeating the same ... (read in full...)
How do I realize that marriage isn't as important as I'm making it out to be?
Q. Hello, all. I regularly give advice here, and now I need help myself... In short, how do I let go of the fact that my life partner and myself may never get married? I am in an extremely happy, close (when I let it be, more to come on that), fa...
A. 17 November 2013: I have a friend who has been living with her boyfriend for a decade now. They have two kids, a home, a dog, two vehicles. He is a good provider, loves her very much and takes good care of his family. The only issue that has nearly killed their ... (read in full...)
Am I being clingy and controlling? Do I care too much?
Q. hi quick question, my boyfriend and i have been together now for 2 years. Whenever time he goes out, whether to his dad's house or out with friends he does not like to tell me and we live together. I find it disrespectful and rude. I compla...
A. 16 November 2013: I agree with anonymous. Texting you is informing you. If you're fussing about this, then yes, you're acting like a control freak.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a friend to mention your skin color?
Q. I invited two friends over...I am of a mixed background, roots-wise, one of them who doesn't know the people of my country, told me though cautiously gentle polite inonation and all whether that my people had darker skin than I do..I am not dark but ...
A. 14 November 2013: I think what CMMP mentioned is true. It's just curiosity, and I think it's an opportunity to educate her about your roots. I live in a very multi-cultural city, where you can hear at least five different languages being spoken at the same time on ... (read in full...)
All I want is someone to love me! I need some advice!
Q. Here we go, I am going to try and do this without breaking down into tears . I have only been divorced since May of 2012 however my husband left in 2008 I met this man and started seeing him and at the time i didnt know he was married because he ...
A. 11 November 2013: The solution to your problem is as easy as packing up his things and telling him to leave. I know that emotionally it's not that easy. You are living in fear - fear of being alone maybe. If you need the courage to make this next important step in ... (read in full...)
Straight Girl Secretly In Love With Bisexual Girl Bestfriend
Q. I'm a girl. I've always classed myself as straight, it wasn't until recently that this was challenged. I met this girl 2 years ago at a party, we got on straight away and continued to meet up as friends, just hanging out. 2 years on, me and this...
A. 9 November 2013: You are very much in love with her:) Take a deep breath and tell her how you feel about her. She needs to know and you need to put yourself out of this misery. Take the risk. In the long run you won't regret it.... (read in full...)
I have a lady friend for 25 years. I don't know why she just disappears from my life.
Q. Hello, one more question. This lady and I have been friends for over 25 years, great friends. WE were perfect for and with each other. I truly had the love of my life. She said we go together so good, that I was the best thing that ever happened in ...
A. 6 November 2013: The only reason I could think of why she may be acting this way is illness. Can you inquire through family or mutual friends why she suddenly cut contact with you? At least find out if she is OK.... (read in full...)
How can I get my dear bunny girlfriend back?
Q. Six weeks ago, I met a beautiful young woman online who I ended up falling head over heels in love with. She was affectionate, caring, beautiful, we got on fantastically, the sex was amazing, and she seemed to be into me just as much as I was into ...
A. 3 November 2013: I've been where that woman is, and deceit is a huge turn off. It's like a switch. One minute I think this man is amazing, and when I find out he's been lying, all feelings drain out of me and I cut him off like she did with you. I think it all ... (read in full...)
My boss/manager is so hot! What do I do?
Q. Okay so I started a new job and the guy who interviewed me was so hot. It just so happens that he is the manager, head hancho in charge if the top top people aren't there, and MY department manager In the department store. I always see him a...
A. 3 November 2013: As long as he's not married, dream away. I've had loads of crushes in the workplace. There is something really captivating about a hot guy who is in charge:) Since we spend most of our time in the workplace, I'm not surprised that workplace ... (read in full...)
Should you reveal what you did in the past?
Q. What does everyone think about revealing a shameful episode of cheating on a previous partner to a future partner? If cheating took place in a long , supposedly committed relationship, and went on for a few months then is this something that n...
A. 3 November 2013: I also have a secret from my past and felt morally obligated to reveal it, but my therapist advised me not to, unless I am asked directly about it. In other words, don't lie if your current partner asks. Now if you're in a truth or dare game, do ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how to create the perfect fantasy for my boyfriend while we are away?
Q. I could use your ideas everyone. Me and my guy are going out of town soon. We are going to be spending a weekend away. I want to plan something brilliant for him while we are away... something to do to really blow him away while we are in th...
A. 2 November 2013: You could role play...pretend you're strangers at a bar meeting for the first time. Wear a trench coat, with nothing underneath, except some lacy underwear, stockings, a garter belt and high heels. I love some of the ideas given by other ... (read in full...)
He's a great guy, except for his sex drive
Q. I am frustrated beyond belief and the worst part is, I will NEVER EVER cheat. My boyfriend (who is, admittedly, a very good guy) and I have been together almost 3.5 years. No engagement ring yet and he always claims it's money which I get because ...
A. 31 October 2013: It sounds to me like you're trying to convince yourself that you are happy and this man is the love of your life, but what if it isn't?... (read in full...)
I found a sex video on my boyfriend phone and it has just devastated me
Q. I recently found a video on my boyfriend's old mobile phone of his ex giving him oral sex, and a few photos of her just in her underwear. I can't help feelings like he kept them because I'm not enough for him. I've never had much confiden...
A. 27 October 2013: Chances are he totally forgot about this video. I don't think he saved it to watch over and over again. If that was the case, he would not have let you borrow his phone. He forgot the video was there. This is not a reflection on you as a lover, ... (read in full...)
I am really stressed over my bi polar boyfriend behavior
Q. What should I do about these problems with my boyfriend?. He has Bipolar Disorder. He was very drunk a couple of nights ago. I was on the phone to him. He was shouting and swearing at people going past. He put the phone down for a second , and I ...
A. 27 October 2013: I have a friend who is bipolar, and if he is not on his medication he becomes unpredictable with spurts of aggression / violence. When he gets like this, similar to the state your boyfriend is in, he has to be admitted to the hospital. We have had ... (read in full...)
My parents abandoned me and now they are asking me for help! Please help me deal with the anger?
Q. I have a little issue - I was raised by my grandmother because I am the 1st born child and both my parents remarried after I was born. I never really had much contact with both of them growing up and actually thought my grandma was my mother until I ...
A. 24 October 2013: If you were not rich and successful, would your parents be contacting you? Are they reaching out to you because they want to get to know you again, or are they using their bloodline to coerce you into buying them stuff?
You don't owe them a t... (read in full...)
He says he can't marry me because of his parents but we are intimate. Should I stop this?
Q. Well I don't know from where do I start. I'm in a very difficult condition to be understood by anyone. My story has started one year back when I kissed him for the first time. It's not that I haven't kissed any guy before him but with him something ...
A. 21 August 2013: You need to leave. I speak from experience. Your heart will be shattered when he eventually leaves you to marry someone else. He's not going to change his mind. He has already told you that he does not intend to marry you.
I don't want you... (read in full...)
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