He has bipolar, and sometimes I feel more like a caregiver than a girlfriend
Q. I posted this on another thread. I was replying to someone else who had posted about their problem, and I thought I would start a thread about my own problem. I'm not sure what to do about this situation with him, and I would appreciate some ...
A. 3 May 2014: It sounds like your boyfriend needs an intervention and he needs to be hospitalized. A friend of mine had to do this several times with her boyfriend who is bipolar. When he was acting out of sorts to the point where he could not function, she ... (read in full...)
How to socialize while keeping family stuff private?
Q. I have a big problem separating my private life from my social life. And it is seriously effecting me now. I dint have social phobia in a classic way, but my family life is so full of pain and shame and grief, that basically I'm unable to meet with ...
A. 3 May 2014: I'll tell you something dearheart. Every single one of us has skeletons in the closet. No family is picture perfect, even the ones who pretend to be. Lose the fear of being judged. Lose the shame and the guilt. You have to make peace with the ... (read in full...)
There's a guy I like and I think he likes me too. How should I approach him?
Q. I am a gay guy. There's this new guy at a restaurant I go to. He started looking at me from the first day he started to work. I noticed he looks at me very often and gives me a shy smile. I also showed interest. He shows interest whenever I look at ...
A. 1 May 2014: I think you're worrying way too much and over analysing the situation. He probably told the other guy because he was excited. He can't control how the guy reacts. Just relax and stop creating problems before they even start. You worry too much.... (read in full...)
I'm too afraid to ask him for help financially!
Q. I'm 23years plus i'm dating a guy of 29years plus getting to three years now, l love him so much but despite my love for him i'm shy to ask him when i need help financially because of my two reasons my first reason is that i'm thinking its too ...
A. 1 May 2014: I don't think it's appropriate for you to ask him for financial assistance. If he offers help, then that's fine, but you are not a married couple, so I don't see this as appropriate. If you need more money then get a second job or sell stuff, or ... (read in full...)
There's a guy I like and I think he likes me too. How should I approach him?
Q. I am a gay guy. There's this new guy at a restaurant I go to. He started looking at me from the first day he started to work. I noticed he looks at me very often and gives me a shy smile. I also showed interest. He shows interest whenever I look at ...
A. 30 April 2014: That is awesome! Have a great time and enjoy the butterflies:)... (read in full...)
There's a guy I like and I think he likes me too. How should I approach him?
Q. I am a gay guy. There's this new guy at a restaurant I go to. He started looking at me from the first day he started to work. I noticed he looks at me very often and gives me a shy smile. I also showed interest. He shows interest whenever I look at ...
A. 30 April 2014: I agree with wise-guy. You got some great signs that he's interested. If there were a lot of people around, then it was probably awkward for him to respond properly to you. Be patient and approach him when it is less busy.
You should definite... (read in full...)
How to encourage my significant other to take care of her skin?
Q. I feel bad saying this but... Sometimes, when I am really close to my girlfriend's face, I feel unattracted to her. Well, I find her attractive at a closer than conversational level. But I tend to analyze every detail, line, and freckle on her f...
A. 30 April 2014: When I'm in love with a guy, every supposed flaw of his becomes a thing of beauty, the dark circles under his eyes due to lack of sleep adds an air of sweet melancholy to his expression. The crow's feet when he smiles fills his face with character ... (read in full...)
Should I be selfish for once or be the good girl?
Q. Hi, I have this problem... I have this friend I've known for two years now and we always kind of liked each other. He's much older than I am and is in a relationship. Because we were such good friends, I know his girlfriend really well now too. Bu...
A. 30 April 2014: Are you aware of how much bad karma you are setting yourself up for if you go through with this affair? Go ahead! Try it! See what happens to you in the future, when you're married to a great guy, and then BAM! Your best friend decides to steal ... (read in full...)
Woman I'm sleeping with is becoming weird and clingy, how do I handle it?
Q. Okay, So I have a little dilemma. I've been sleeping with this woman I met. She's cool and everything and when we hang out we have a nice time, but she's becoming extraordinarily clingy. She texts things like "Do you miss me? What do you miss...
A. 29 April 2014: LOL...OP, if you're talking to all of your friends about her and finding it hard to end things and hemming and hawing over her emotional outbursts, and wanting to remain friends even if there is no sex involved...Methinks you also have feelings for ... (read in full...)
Do women care about premature ejaculation from a bj?
Q. I tend to have a problem with coming too quickly and so I expend a lot of effort trying to make sure I don't. Obviously this is an issue with vaginal sex, but what about with oral sex? I try not to orgasm too quickly when receiving oral, but...
A. 28 April 2014: I agree with anonymous...When giving a bj, it's better if the guy comes quickly, because it can be really tiring for the jaw if he takes too long. So don't hold back. I also agree that it's flattering when I get a guy off quickly. It's like Clint ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend secretly meeting up with my ex friend, when we agreed not to see her?
Q. I've got (had) a good friend who made it clear she liked my boyfriend. She instantly liked him but whenever we had an argument she would always side with him and text him make sure he was OK and I wouldn't hear from her for ages! One time she w...
A. 26 April 2014: It doesn't matter what she looks like, her aim is to get your man. Why is your bf hiding their friendship from you? Not a good sign. I agree with Lifton. This deception is unacceptable.... (read in full...)
Have you ever found hard physical evidence of an affair?
Q. My husband had to go to a branch office to concur with people, because the branch office was closing down. It was a day trip. When he got home from work at his normal time he changed into a t-shirt, I noticed 3 long scratches on his left bicep. ...
A. 25 April 2014: When I discovered my ex was cheating, it was not because of hard evidence. It was a feeling. I woke up one morning with the thought that he is cheating. I called him and set a trap. I asked him who was that woman he was with. I lied and said ... (read in full...)
My husband is having an affair. Am I stupid for staying with him?
Q. I discovered when I was 8 months pregnant that my husband of 10 years was cheating on me. I confronted him and his lover in a text message and was assured by both that it would not continue. I had several times where I caught him texting her but her ...
A. 24 April 2014: If you stay with him, the lack of trust that you have in him (and rightly so), will eat away at your soul. You will lose so much of your vital energy over this. It will eat you up like a cancer. Get to that quiet place inside yourself, maybe take ... (read in full...)
No clear discussion of commitment, so is it OK to talk to others?
Q. So I recently met a guy from out of state, and it has been going well but we have only seen each other a few times. The first time we met, we had dinner and a great time, just cuddled and no sex. A month later we meet again and spend a few days ...
A. 24 April 2014: Personally speaking, if I like guy #1, I would not entertain anyone else, but I have friends who have no issue playing the field until someone decides to commit. It really depends on what you feel is right for you. I don't think there is a right ... (read in full...)
We began to get close in our 2 month FWB, now he's completely avoiding me. Is this because he has feelings for me?
Q. So I was in a fwb relationship recently for about two months. We began to become very close. We both ended it mutually last week and agreed to be friends still. We work together so it's very hard to deal with. He's completely avoiding me now. Is it ...
A. 24 April 2014: No, I don't think he has the deep feelings of connection that you want him to have. You both ended the FWB arrangement, so for him it's over. If he did have feelings for you, he would not have ended it and he would have told you he had feelings ... (read in full...)
Should I consider dating my ex boyfriend's best friend?
Q. Hey aunts, so I guy who I used to be good friends with recently got in contact with me. He is my ex boyfriends best friend. We have been chatting on and off for the past few days and met up a few times. We got to chatting about relationships and ...
A. 23 April 2014: Your ex cheated on you and you're worried about hurting his feelings? Girlfriend you are too nice. If you really like this guy and he asks you out, go for it! Don't make yourself a martyr for your ex, who obviously did not treat you right.... (read in full...)
Family or boyfriend?
Q. Should i choose my family or boyfriend. Ill keep it very short my boyfriend is beyond amazing he loves me like hell i adore him and he supports me no matter what and will never ever leave me or my family that considers me as a girl less than my ...
A. 21 April 2014: I've been where you are, and I have to tell you that your family knows best. I went against my family and married someone they did not approve of. I lost all connection with my family and when the veil lifted regarding my marriage, I realized I ... (read in full...)
Would you date a busy person?
Q. My son has grown up and left home and I've met someone lovely who works shifts and also does voluntary work leading teens for outdoor awards some week ends. I really like him and he wants it to work. He was being honest saying his last two ex's ...
A. 17 April 2014: It all depends on what is important to you in a relationship. When a man tells me that his work / volunteer life is a priority for him, I see it as a red flag. If your life is just as busy and you don't mind this kind of set-up, then that's great, ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend, other girls and Instagram…. I'm confused!
Q. Hi Everyone - I need some advice on a situation with my long time boyfriend and some conflicting feelings I have regarding it. My boyfriend and I have been dating a total of 10 years, the first few years semi on and off, but steadily for the...
A. 16 April 2014: Your boyfriend is clearly being disrespectful to you. I agree that you should feel uncomfortable with this scenario. It is not silly. You need to put your foot down with him. They are starting to develop a relationship with each other, and it ... (read in full...)
Which woman do I choose?
Q. Hey. I basically need a bit of help and guidance on which girl I should choose to have my future with. So the 1st girl I am in a relationship with, she is amazing. She is like the good wife, she is traditional and can love and look after her ...
A. 14 April 2014: Let go of girl number one, with whom you share a long time friendship and love. Break her heart. Ask your parents to arrange your marriage to girl number 2, whom you barely know, but she seems right for you, culturally speaking. Commit to her. ... (read in full...)
6 months pregnant and my dog has started waking me up every few hours! Why is she doing this?
Q. This isnt a relationship question but i would like some advice if anyone can give it to me. My problem is my dog....shes 3 years old so not a puppy and we have had her for almost 2 years..so she is very settled in the house. No routines have cha...
A. 12 April 2014: I agree with Maureen1979. I recently saw a documentary where they discussed the topic of when a dog senses when something is wrong or different with us, before we even know it ourselves. One lady discovered she had breast cancer, because her dog ... (read in full...)
Do I confront him or ignore him when he makes these snide comments?
Q. Dearcupid, ive just stopped seeing a guy that i never should have seen in the first place. I was very lonely and his company made me feel good. The relationship started off great but it ended. I kno i am better off witout him. He had a lot of ...
A. 12 April 2014: He is saying it to get a reaction out of you. He wants to make you upset and he's succeeding. I think he still likes you and he did not like the fact that you rejected him, so he is being an A Hole about it. You were right to get rid of him. If ... (read in full...)
I found two long blonde hairs in my room and am worried my husband is cheatig again!
Q. Found 2 hairs that aren't mine. My husband of 5 yrs used to cheat on me via Internet and once I found out he apologised and continued it for 2 long years and perfectly made lies although I found them all out. The other day I found 2 blonde long hair ...
A. 11 April 2014: Kudos to you for making such a keen observation. I think finding the blonde hairs is just confirming what your gut has been telling you for quite a while. I think you should do a little bit of investigation, maybe hire a Private investigator if ... (read in full...)
We've been together for three years but he blocked me on Facebook?
Q. This is going to sound as pathetic as it is but it's irritating me. I've been with my partner for 3 years and we have never been friends on facebook. I don't use it much but about 2 months ago I sent him a friend request. Not only did he decline ...
A. 10 April 2014: I think he's hiding something. I know many couples who have facebook pages, some of them even created one facebook page to use for the both of them. Many couples also give each other their passwords as a sign of complete trust.
Your partner ... (read in full...)
Did my B/f enjoy the anal play?
Q. Hi everybody. Keep it simple. I've been with my boyfriend just over four years. We've always had a good sex life but never really experimented with anal play. This was due to a previous experience I had when I lost my virginity with a different...
A. 9 April 2014: I think a lot of guys, no matter what their sexual orientation, really enjoy the anal play. Give him some time to absorb this new experience. Maybe even do some research on this erogenous zone, so that you can allay any fears he may have about it. ... (read in full...)
This incident made me question whether our core values are in sync
Q. I feel very disappointed in my girlfriend of almost 4 years yesterday, but I don't think she understands the core issue (or maybe it's not an issue). We are 29 and 28. We were in a car driving to a birthday event about an hour away with my gir...
A. 8 April 2014: I'm going to disagree with most everyone here. I think you are right to feel ashamed of how your gf reacted in this situation. Homeless means destitute, not knowing where your next meal is coming from. We may all have our stereotypes of homeless ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend treats me badly and calls me names when he's drunk
Q. I really need help, I have a boyfriend who treats me bad and calls me names when he gets drunk! He accuses me of cheating and I never have. every thing is fine when he's sober, he says he loves me and wants to marry me, but when he drinks he ...
A. 7 April 2014: I have a relative who put up with a lousy drunk for five years, and it ended in sadness. He was a great person when he was sober, but an extremely mean drunk, who became belligerent and even physically abusive. She regrets not leaving him sooner. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has celebrity crush and it makes me uncomfortable.
Q. My boyfriend has a crush on a TV star, she has been in several movies he watched when he was a child and basically grew up with them. Everytime he sees her on TV he is sooo enthusastic, and goes 'aaaawwwww look, it's ******'. It's extremely ...
A. 2 April 2014: Honey, thank your lucky stars that it's just a celebrity crush and not a crush on some girl who works with him or who knows him personally. I have a friend who walked in on her husband in bed with the next door neighbour. He had a crush on her ... (read in full...)
Can a man control his arousal?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have decided to get married before sex. This is his decision. I am divorced on my mid thirties and he is on his mid twenties and saids to be a virgin. Well turns out he's religious aswell. When we kiss and fondle heavily , ...
A. 1 April 2014: A virgin who does not get turned on by erotic touching? That sounds a bit weird. He may have a sexual dysfunction.... (read in full...)
He treats me like his girlfriend but then says he doesn't want a serious relationship. I'm not sure where I stand!
Q. I have been seeing a guy for 2 months now. When we first started seeing each other I asked him if he was just in it for sex as I don't want a relationship like that, and he told me no. I have also been honest with him and told him that I have had ...
A. 31 March 2014: Walk away now. It's like he's using you for the "girlfriend" experience, but at the end of the day, he's walking away with no commitment. He thinks that by telling you he does not want a relationship, he's giving you fair warning, if he wants to ... (read in full...)
They're getting married in nine days and I KNOW he is cheating on her!
Q. One of my lifelong friends is getting married to the man of her dreams in 9 days. They have been together 4 years and have a daughter who is just 6 months old. This morning I've found out that he has been having an affair. I don't just suspect, I ...
A. 27 March 2014: If my fiance was cheating on me, I'd want to know. If I found out after I was married that my best friend knew all along and did not tell me, I'd be very upset. I'd feel like I was betrayed by two people: My husband and my best friend. You need ... (read in full...)
I want a child and can't gamble more time on dating and ending up alone. Should I have a baby with this guy even though he doesn't want a relationship?
Q. I have been sleeping with a guy from work he is 32 years old and I am 38. and it just keeps going on and on and he says that he doesn't not want a relationship and he cannot be my boyfriend yet we spend weekends together and I go to his parents for ...
A. 26 March 2014: You're the "in the meantime" woman, until he meets someone his age or younger to get married to and start a family. A relative of mine stayed with a guy for 11 years hoping he would commit to her some day, and it never happened. However, they did ... (read in full...)
I ended it with my difficult BF and now he is being so sweet and I'm confused.
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles. Please advise!! I split with my BF of 3.5 years about two weeks ago. The relationship was volitile and difficult. I really loved him , but was not seeing him enough , and did not feel he was making enough effort to keep me in ...
A. 26 March 2014: I think he's being genuine. He does not want to lose you. Maybe he'll revert to what he was before, but I think he'll be a little more attentive towards you in the future. Take it slow with him until you are ready to re-commit. I think it's ... (read in full...)
Isn't it better to have loved and lost then to have never have loved at all?
Q. I met this girl while I was traveling in Thailand where I ended up saving her life, 3 months later she leaves Canada and comes to Australia for a year working/traveling. Everything was going great for the first few days then when we talking about...
A. 20 March 2014: I agree with Sugarplum786. This girl is trying to let you down gently. Right now she does not see you as boyfriend material. Maybe as she spends more time with you, she may change her mind, but right now, you cannot force her to see you as more ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stalks his male friends!
Q. What does it mean my boyfriend is obessed with his guy friends. He even stalks them guy friends and paces when they go somewhere without him. It is creepy is he gay? Does he not like me? he need to be cool. Wth is wrong with him. He does think ofof ...
A. 17 March 2014: I think he sounds very insecure and has abandonment issues. It sounds like he'll do just about anything to belong to a group, which is why he has become obsessed with his friends. He wants to belong. This has nothing to do with sexual ... (read in full...)
Old me vs new me. He loves how I used to look. Should I stay with him, now that he's so critical?
Q. I have had a boyfriend since highschool six almost seven years. We have a daughter together, and in the first 5 years of our relationship I was in shape and fit and he was chunky. Now the tables have turned and he is the one in shape and im the ...
A. 16 March 2014: If a person can't love you no matter what you look like, then is it worth being around them, while they make you feel like something is wrong with you and that you are not good enough? Sweetheart, if he does not find you attractive, there are lots ... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 13 March 2014: Good decision. RUN!!!...This guy is a loser!... (read in full...)
Why would he delete my number after all this?
Q. Hey, so I've been dating this guy for a month we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend but he likes to say we are and act like it. Anyway we cut things off a while ago and decided to just be 'friends' his choice not mine (He's muslim and said we can't be...
A. 13 March 2014: Oh sweetie, I feel for you. OK to answer your questions...No I don't think he was sleeping with anyone else. He was probably texting a family member and didn't want you to know. I'm sure he made sure to keep you totally separate from his family so ... (read in full...)
Don't tell me to get over it because I want him back!
Q. hi, I am in a really difficult situation right now and would need some advice. I was seeing this man for over 3 years, we had quite a big argument which was kind of the last straw for him. In my opinion I was only bit sarcastic and his reaction...
A. 9 March 2014: Sorry to say, but you sound really controlling and seem only interested in what you want. You don't seem to care about what he wants or feels in the matter, as long as you get what you want...sounds a bit like a tantrum you're throwing.
OK so... (read in full...)
Need help deciding on my 30th birthday plans!
Q. I'm not sure what to do for my 30th birthday. It is on 16th May, so I don't have much time to plan this. I hope you can help. 1 . My favourite singer is doing a concert on my birthday in London. I could go to London from Wednesday or Thu...
A. 9 March 2014: Do them all!!!:))) Oh My! I love your enthusiasm and energy. Now that's what celebrating is all about. Take a couple of weeks and do them all girlfriend! It will be a birthday you'll never forget! Have a great time:)... (read in full...)
Am I just her guy on the side?
Q. Hi, my name is Daniel. About 10 months ago i started dating this girl, i always knew her since kindergarden i just never talked to her until the very end of highschool. So we spent the whole summer together, litterally almost every day, i lost my ...
A. 8 March 2014: You should end it now. She is going to sleep with her cousin again, and they admitted to each other that they still have feelings for each other. Their love is a forbidden kind of love due to the fact that they are close relatives. This makes it ... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 7 March 2014: I think your mom gave you great advice. No one is perfect. There must be something about this guy that makes you want to give him a second chance, so go for it. See where it leads. The best advice you can follow is what your gut (instincts) are ... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 6 March 2014: The way you described the text sound made me howl with laughter. I'm like you. I get annoyed if my significant other can't seem to put the phone down when we are together. I'm blunt just like you. I tell him how rude and inconsiderate it is to ... (read in full...)
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