I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 13 March 2014: Good decision. RUN!!!...This guy is a loser!... (read in full...)
Am I just her guy on the side?
Q. Hi, my name is Daniel. About 10 months ago i started dating this girl, i always knew her since kindergarden i just never talked to her until the very end of highschool. So we spent the whole summer together, litterally almost every day, i lost my ...
A. 8 March 2014: You should end it now. She is going to sleep with her cousin again, and they admitted to each other that they still have feelings for each other. Their love is a forbidden kind of love due to the fact that they are close relatives. This makes it ... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 7 March 2014: I think your mom gave you great advice. No one is perfect. There must be something about this guy that makes you want to give him a second chance, so go for it. See where it leads. The best advice you can follow is what your gut (instincts) are ... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 6 March 2014: The way you described the text sound made me howl with laughter. I'm like you. I get annoyed if my significant other can't seem to put the phone down when we are together. I'm blunt just like you. I tell him how rude and inconsiderate it is to ... (read in full...)
I am so low on my fiance's priority list we havent met for a month!
Q. Dead Cupid, I'm in a long term relationship. Engaged last year, will be married next year. I don't know if it's a phase? But I'm starting to get sick and tired of my fiancé's attitude. He always pioritise his friends and will always second me...
A. 4 March 2014: No, this is not normal. You don't sound like you're in love with him anymore. I treat mere acquaintances like this. If I don't communicate with them in over a month, it does not bother me. Those who are near and dear to my heart, I communicate ... (read in full...)
Husband won't have sex with me until I lose more weight, but because I'm not begging him for intimacy he thinks I must be cheating!
Q. Hope someone can help. Here goes: I am currently on a weight loss journey. Though I have already lost 20 lbs, I am still pretty obese. My husband told me that he loves me but doesn't want to have sex with me until I reach my goal weight. Ok, fine , ...
A. 2 March 2014: Tell him you won't have sex with him until he gets a bigger penis. Question for you...Why are you with such a selfish, manipulative loser?... (read in full...)
Do men find it difficult to cope with a very independent woman? And how can an independent woman prevent a partner from being needy?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I wonder if someone can help? I have a mixture of two problems in one. Firstly, do men find it difficult to cope with a very independent woman? Secondly, how can an independent woman prevent a partner from being, for want ...
A. 28 February 2014: Wow! I've never heard a woman complaining of getting too much attention from a man...quite the opposite...Do you know how many women would love to get that kind of attention? Ok so the turning up uninvited may be daunting to you, but maybe it's ... (read in full...)
Help -- my manager is a bully!
Q. Sorry guys not really a relationship question but here goes... I really could do with some help regarding my job. I work in london in a very busy office of around 300 people. I'm in a good job, well paid and stable. However I'm feeling real...
A. 25 February 2014: I endured a bully like that for five years in one of my first jobs. He was my direct supervisor and he was a tyrant. I was sorry I did not stand up to him. Instead, I left a great paying job with benefits, because I was afraid of him. Subsequent ... (read in full...)
Broken up for 1.5 years yet still cry almost every day
Q. Has anyone else ever thought about something an ex did even though you've been broken up for a year and a half? The thing he did was two years ago. I don't want to say what it was. I cry nearly every day. My parents think I'm mentally ill as I ...
A. 23 February 2014: I know exactly what you are going through. It's been about 1.5 years for me since my ex broke up with me, and there are still moments where the pain seems so fresh. It has never taken me this long to get over someone. I have friends who are still ... (read in full...)
Does having anal sex make me no longer a virgin?
Q. I pledged not to lose my virginity until marrige but it has been hard with my kind of personality seeing naked guys and me getting wet. All the thoughts about having sex. I have a guy in my house currently and he has been here for over a week. At ...
A. 23 February 2014: This reminds me of President Clinton swearing on National Television that he did not have sex with Monica Lewinsky, even though she gave him oral sex. I think that if you stick it in any orifice, it's sex. There are many women whose hymen is ... (read in full...)
S true love real or do you think people generally 'settle' with a nice partner?
Q. Hi everyone, I have posted about this previously but I'm still in the same predicament. Basically, I am currently dating a lovely guy but I'm really unsure of my feelings for him. We met online but decided to be friends (he was keen, I didn't feel ...
A. 21 February 2014: I tried both scenarios. I settled with my now ex husband, but it ended in divorce. A few years later, I fell madly, passionately in love, and ended up getting a broken heart in the end. Which experience do I regret the most? Without a doubt my ... (read in full...)
I feel stuck and I would very much like your advice on how I can improve the quality of my life?
Q. I don't know where to begin. I feel empty inside. I don't have any friends and I've only been with a girl for like a month back when I was a freshman in college. Back when I was younger(I am 25 now), I use to blame all my problems on my identity as ...
A. 18 February 2014: I think to a certain extent we all experience this angst about fitting into society. It is not just limited to being Sikh or Muslim or Christian, Atheist, etc...so the first thing you must realize is that you are not alone in how you feel, and ... (read in full...)
Should we stay 'just good friends' at the expense of my heart, or should I cut & run, even if it hurts both of us?
Q. I'm romantically interested in a guy who isn't over his ex, who left him in extremely abrupt circumstances approx. 4 months ago. We get along brilliantly and he's the first person I've ever truly 'clicked' with in terms of personality. The problem ...
A. 10 February 2014: This is tough. I've been on both sides of the fence. I've been where you are and where he is. When I was in your shoes, I wasted a lot of time waiting for him to make up his mind about whether he wanted to be with me or not. I ended up getting ... (read in full...)
He turned me down for a date so what is with his new attitude toward me?
Q. I asked a guy out a while back and he politely declined me, so I kind of accepted it and got on with things. I still liked him, but I'd understood that he didn't feel the same way, so I never mentioned it again. About two weeks ago, though, his atti...
A. 7 February 2014: I agree with sugarplum786. The man has no balls. You've obviously peeked his interest, but he lacks the courage. Just ignore him. Let him chase you.... (read in full...)
Why do women at night clubs dress provocatively?
Q. Why do the girls at the clubs dress like sluts?? We went to a club last weekend and there were many women barely dressed. One had a dress on so short that her ass was showing and she bent over a few times. Do they really need that much attention?...
A. 7 February 2014: Please excuse my really bad spelling on the word provocatively...this is the result of typing too fast on a phone with small letters, and no spectacles:)... (read in full...)
Why do women at night clubs dress provocatively?
Q. Why do the girls at the clubs dress like sluts?? We went to a club last weekend and there were many women barely dressed. One had a dress on so short that her ass was showing and she bent over a few times. Do they really need that much attention?...
A. 6 February 2014: I love dressing provatively, even when I'm not clubbing. I'll exercise restraint while at the office, but I love to show off my curves, skin and cleavage. Call me a slut if you want. I really don't care. A provative style of dressing makes me ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if my boyfriend is a manipulator or not?
Q. Hi I'm not sure if my boyfriend would be considered an emotional psychopath/manipulater. I am quite insecure and hyper vigilant so I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid or not. He is a personal trainer and has told me that he has to use some form of...
A. 6 February 2014: I agree with honeypie. He sounds a bit narcissistic, but I don't think he is a psychopath. If you have a tendency to be with guys who make you feel like something is wrong with you or that you are not good enough, then you need to figure out the ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if my boyfriend is a manipulator or not?
Q. Hi I'm not sure if my boyfriend would be considered an emotional psychopath/manipulater. I am quite insecure and hyper vigilant so I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid or not. He is a personal trainer and has told me that he has to use some form of...
A. 6 February 2014: You need to give examples of his manipulation. From what you've written, which is very vague, I would say that you're being paranoid, probably a symptom of the PTSD. Therapy is a good thing and will help you to sort out your emotions and analyse ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like he's pulling his weight. Am I being petty?
Q. I’m a 42 year old successful single mother of two teenage daughters. I have been divorced for 9 years and focused all of my energy on raising my daughters alone. I own my own home, two cars and have been blessed enough to provide my children with ...
A. 4 February 2014: A relative of mine used to live with a guy like this. Same scenario as you...successful single mom who worked her butt off to attain the great standard of living she enjoys today. Her live in bf was a moocher, much like your guy. He paid money ... (read in full...)
I can't move on I love him!
Q. Dear agony aunt I really need help. I met a guy and we broke up in less than two month. He use to contact me but it wad now and then. He broke up with me because he said he didnt know what he wanted. After 5 month being seperated i contacted him and ...
A. 3 February 2014: You really won't know any answers until you talk to him either on the phone or face to face. Texting can be misconstrued and you won't know if he's sincere or not with his words. By his actions I would say that he's still unsure about you, but you ... (read in full...)
How do you feel about social media? It seems to cause problems for me.
Q. How do you guys feel about social media, especially Facebook? Do you think it's worth it to have one? Has it ever caused any problems for you? I'm asking this because it seems to cause a lot of insecurity within myself and other problems. I am n...
A. 31 January 2014: I have 2 social media accounts - Facebook, and I most recently joined instagram. Facebook is really to keep in touch with my friends and family who are scattered all over the world. I enjoy photography, so I like instagram for that. It's like my ... (read in full...)
I'm not so interested in sex and I'm afraid my boyfriends desires will lead him to cheat
Q. Hiya aunts and uncles, my fiancé of 4 months and dating for 3 years has been talking in his sleep and has expressed the same concerns in his waking hours. He is 26 and im 23 on valentines day. well, its like this: he doesn't feel like we are inti...
A. 30 January 2014: Regular sex has so many health benefits for you and for him. If your libido has taken a nose dive, and you feel tired all the time, then you should get yourself checked out by a doctor. Do bloodwork to make sure that everything is OK. Also give ... (read in full...)
What takes away attraction and charm suddenly when you actually want to take things forward!
Q. Hello cupid I have read a lot here where people mention they really hit it off until suddenly the girl or the guy becomes distant after two three months. Okay my question is that I understand when there is mystery,we are attracted to the unknown...
A. 28 January 2014: Maybe he / she is interested in someone else.... (read in full...)
Why do girls suddenly distance themselves from a guy, when things seem to be going great?
Q. Dear cupid I have experienced during my dating that sometimes girls suddenly distance themselves without any warning or explanation whilst you are dating a girl. (She doesn't like anyone else and she's single ). Why the sudden change in attitude w...
A. 28 January 2014: When I do that with a guy, it means I'm not really interested in him. He's great to pass the time with, but he won't get 100% of my attention. There is just something about him that doesn't grab me (meaning it turns me off).
When a girl is into ... (read in full...)
NEVER will do anything for a woman unless there is sexual intention involved.
Q. I had a discussion with a friend today about my upcoming trip, and she said that men NEVER will do anyhting for a woman unless there is sexual intention involved. I told her that I had and have plenty of guy friends. She asked me to think under w...
A. 27 January 2014: I think all men think about having sex with their female friends at one time or another. This guy has probably thought about it before and is probably considering the possibility of sex on this trip, but you guys had a great time before, and are ... (read in full...)
I love my wife, but I am in love with her sister
Q. I think I have fallen for her. Six and a half years ago I found out that my wife had cheated on me, prior to this our relationship had been cold for a while and I found myself having lustful feelings towards her sister who used to stay over fairly f...
A. 22 January 2014: I think you and your sister in law are in love with each other. Your sister in law is trying not to rock the boat, because it would mean betraying her sister. Blood is thicker than water. It seems like you're trying to find excuses to be with your ... (read in full...)
Should I continue seeing this guy?
Q. So I met a guy on this dating site and and we started talking and we exchanged numbers and went on one date- the date actually went great we spend 5 hours talking it felt really comfortable and at first I never took it serious because I thought omg ...
A. 21 January 2014: Relax! You sound like you're going to have an anxiety attack over this. So you slept with him on the second date...no biggie...He's obviously still interested in you, so just relax, enjoy and see where it goes. Don't feel like you have to play ... (read in full...)
She has a boyfriend, so why does she keep telling me I'm sweet?
Q. Women are very confusing to me My friend has been telling me I'm very sweet lately when we talk or text. Last time I texted her , she told me I'm sweet like 4 times. I know she is going through a tough time but still. She talks to me when I'm ...
A. 20 January 2014: It's a form of endearment to a dear friend. I say this to both male and female friends of mine, and it's my way of showing my appreciation for their presence in my life. She is saying it to show verbal affection towards you. It's like hugging you ... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance?
Q. We dated for a two years it was great until the last 6 months. He started to mistreat me such as not wanting to hang out with me and talk down to me. I broke up with him and went no contact for four months. He recently sent me flowers apologized ...
A. 20 January 2014: If you really like him, then yes, you should give him a second chance, but the minute he starts talking down to you again, dump him and don't give him a third chance.... (read in full...)
Why would my Facebook friend make this comment?
Q. I am in my 40s and the question I want to ask is not actually a love question but I am querying a comment someone put to me on facebook. A friend posted about cheap travel on facebook and I replied about how cheaply I had travelled as wel...
A. 20 January 2014: I don't see anything odd about that comment. They're probably hinting for you to meet up with them.... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before contacting her? Even though she went "no contact" due to my actions.
Q. When she deleted you and you went no contact, how long would you wait to contact her again? We were friends before and I somehow hate the thought of losing her totally.... ( I made a terrible mistake. I talked to her sister about it and I might h...
A. 18 January 2014: Not only did you betray her as a boyfriend, but you betrayed her friendship. If I had a friend who did this to me, I'd never want to speak to them again. I could never trust them ever again. What you did was stab her in the back.
As Aunty Em... (read in full...)
I lent my online bf money for the trip to meet me...am I being used?
Q. I've been in an on-line relationship for 2 months. My bf and I decided to meet, so we went ahead and made plans. But a few days before he realised he doesn't have enough money for the trip. I have agreed to lend him but I keep wondering if I am ...
A. 18 January 2014: You are being used. Do not lend him the money.... (read in full...)
I can't deal with the poop streaks he leaves on the bed!
Q. This is a gross question but I really need advice. Sorry to be graphic. Basically Ive been seeing this guy for 3 months and on 3 occasions when he has stayed over at mine he has left poop streaks in my bed. He did it lastnight and I felt sick. He is ...
A. 17 January 2014: I also experienced something similar with a former love interest, except he totally messed up my bathroom, and left it for me to clean up. I stopped seeing him after that incident and was very blunt with him about it. Hygiene is so important to ... (read in full...)
Self esteem in women:is it biological, is it cultural, is it our upbringing, ,... is it a jinx ?!
Q. DC community, please help me out in figuring this : why is it that lack of self esteem , at least in relationships, is such a pervasive FEMALE problem ? I mean, just look at the posts on DC and a huuuge quantity of them basically says ...
A. 17 January 2014: I think both men and women suffer from self esteem issues, but women tend to express themselves more openly about it. Women are more comfortable talking about their feelings and insecurities. Men are emotional creatures too, and they feel the same ... (read in full...)
How to recover from an emotional second date (ending)
Q. So I went on two dates with a girl I really like this week. The first went well. The second went well...until the very end. How can I recover (avoid scaring her off)? The Second Date: We went out to see a jazz show at a local bar. The show was gre...
A. 11 January 2014: No, you are not sunk. I think showing your vulnerability would make her like you more. A lot of guys seem to think that showing themselves off as this macho, alpha male is what is going to get a woman to like them...yes if you're into the ... (read in full...)
She's no good but I can't stop loving her.
Q. I've no idea what to do? I feel like I've tried everything. I met a girl years ago who I thought was the woman of my dreams. She's beautiful, and she's been successful in life. I discovered she was cheating and as a result we split up. For...
A. 28 December 2013: I'm going to suggest something a bit unorthodox here, but maybe you should try a combination of therapy and hypnosis to get to the root cause of your addiction to her. It sounds like you're trying to beat an addiction.... (read in full...)
I am terminally single and want a surrogate baby!
Q. I am 30, straight male, never had a girlfriend or relationship and I have come to a point where I am thinking, I want a baby of my own. I have given up on the prospects of finding a girlfriend. Dating game has always been my weakest point. I have b...
A. 27 December 2013: I have a female friend who actually went through what you are thinking of doing. After many failed relationships and even a short-lived marriage, she gave up the idea of having children within the standard nuclear family unit. She did not want to ... (read in full...)
I drove him to the airport, so why isnt he texting how he is away?
Q. My bf left for vacation to see his fam n hasnt txted me or anything. I tried texting him bt he doesnt reply. I know he is with his fam n his enjoying his time, bt just texting to know how I am is not much. Afterall, I was the one who volunteered to ...
A. 27 December 2013: Maybe he doesn't have a long distance plan on his phone, so he turned his phone off, or maybe he unplugs from technology when he's with family, especially if his phone is also used for work purposes. I know when I'm spending time with family I ... (read in full...)
He says his use of gay sex sites is an addiction
Q. I'm engaged to this really wonderful man. We've been in a relationship for 2 years and counting. We hit off really well as a couple and have had really good times together. The problem started when I discovered that he had online sex chats with ...
A. 19 December 2013: I agree with WiseOwlE and SVC. Your fiance is sexually attracted to men. That is never going to change.... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my girlfriend because of her family's reputation?
Q. Helo friends today after a lil bit of long time I again want your help.....actually i m in a relationship with s gal from last 1 nd half year,we both are happy together but their is a big problem about their family that I came to know before a week ...
A. 15 December 2013: If you can't handle what other people say or think of you, then break up with her. Going against the norm and living your life by your own code of ethics require strength and chutzpah (courage). If you know you can't handle it, then leave this ... (read in full...)
Is this desire to leave my husband a temporary phase?
Q. I don'tknow if i am the only one Who experience this feeling, but lately it overwhelms me and makes me feel restless. Short story: 20 years of marriage, 2 kids are in college, last year we are empty nesters. I was stay at home mom. When first ...
A. 14 December 2013: I know a lot of people are going to disagree with my advice but here goes. Your husband is not abusive, does not have an addiction problem, is not cheating on you. He's basically a normal guy with normal flaws. Ok so he's annoys you, especially ... (read in full...)
My wife just wants to party!
Q. My wife lately start party with her girlfriend mostly every weekend.when i tell her to stop her get upset with me and she dosen't want me to touch her in bed or even to have sex.Please help....
A. 13 December 2013: I think your wife feels like she lacks excitement in her life, so she goes to parties. It makes her feel young, attractive and vibrant again. It may or may not involve another man. For all you know she just loves to dance. Why don't you join her ... (read in full...)
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