Should I Tell My Friend About her Friend Quizzing Me?
Q. I recently went to an event to support a friend. While I was there I spoke with two of her friends there who were a couple. The wife started asking me multiple questions about my friend including her work schedule. I simply said I didn't know her ...
A. 25 September 2014: I don't think you should bring this up with your friend. You're not 100% sure about the husband being at the singles event, and asking about someone's schedule is hardly an issue to discuss, unless you want to stoke the fire and create some gossip.... (read in full...)
Wife's reaction to my financial problems has left me cold. I supported her decisions!
Q. Hi everyone, I have been happily married for two years now. I love my wife dearly and we have a beautiful 1 year old boy. I am nearly 50 and she is just over 40. We knew we had some baggage when we came into the relationship, most of which was ...
A. 23 September 2014: I think when she heard the news, her first reaction was to lash out at you, because I think the news made her afraid of the future. Her reaction was purely out of fear. It was not a rejection of you or a criticism of you. It was her fear ... (read in full...)
Was it a bet? Or was he genuine?
Q. Met a guy on a train, he asked to share my seat, there were plenty of others spare. We talked he asked questions about my journey,job blah blah had a laugh, he asked if I wanted to go for a drink. He lived too far away, so I said no. He got o...
A. 23 September 2014: He was genuine and he was interested in you. You should have said yes to the drink. You're more attractive than you think you are and you deserve an adventure. Next time you see him on the train, sit down next to him, say hi, chat him up and ask ... (read in full...)
My Russian wife has been watching Russian tv and I think she has become brainwashed?
Q. My wife left Russia some thirty years ago and travelled the world. She was a great conversationalist and worldly wise. Then she discovered Russia Television ( RT )on our TV. Now she watches it for most of the day and seems to be becoming brain ...
A. 19 September 2014: I think it's just a difference of opinion. Many households have different points of view regarding politics, religion, etc. We just learn to live with each other's opinion and take it with a grain of salt so to speak. I actually agree with your ... (read in full...)
My gut is telling me something is up!
Q. Ive been noticing some weird behavior from my fience. Hes always kept his phone with him but just recently he put a lock on it when I asked him he said his president (of his club) said he either needed to get a new number or put on lock on his ...
A. 16 September 2014: Listen to your gut! Something is up. One of the main signs of cheating is being over protective of one's phone. My ex husband cheated on me and he did the same thing. He even carried his phone with him in the shower. Never left it unattended. ... (read in full...)
What does he want from me? I rejected his FWB request 3 times. But I do have feelings for him
Q. Hello everyone, before asking my question, I'll give a 'little' background. I'll try to make it short :) Last year around winter I became closer to one of my friend's friend, and I fell in love, and after awhile he kissed me, and we started dating. ...
A. 14 September 2014: I really like how you've handled him. You set your boundaries. I think you avoided heartache by avoiding this FWB situation. You have a good head on your shoulders. You're busy with your life and you're having fun. This is the best way to handle ... (read in full...)
My married female teacher is about 28 and she finds many opportunities to touch me. I like it. Is this OK? Does it make me a lesbian?
Q. I am a student, 19 years old, good in studies. I am in a relationship with my boyfriend. I have a teacher in my college,she is married and has a year old son. she may be of 28 or 29 years of age. she is a good teacher. she is very friendly...
A. 14 September 2014: From what you described, it seems your teacher's touching and special attention is maternal in nature. I think she cares about you and worries about you, but it's more like a mother would. I may be wrong, but I see it all as maternal affection. ... (read in full...)
I need suggestions for convincing my purely orthodox Indian family!
Q. im in relationship from past 3 and a half years..... and we want to get married.... my parents are not at all getting convinced for this... im facing lot of problems in convincing them bec my mom cries and my dad scolds me as its a question of pr...
A. 13 September 2014: I think you should let him come and speak to your parents. They need to see him, look him in the eye, ask him a lot of uncomfortable questions, to make sure that he is worthy of their daughter. Let him win them over. You can probably prepare him ... (read in full...)
How close is too close for cousins relationships with each other
Q. My brother is over a decade older than me and married with no children. Because of the economy my brother had to take a job in another state and he flies back home during the month. His first job was by our youngest female cousin who has always b...
A. 8 September 2014: On the surface it does seem like something funny is going on, but if your sister in law is not raising any alarm bells about it, then I don't think it is anyone's concern. Right now it all just seems like circumstantial evidence with no actual ... (read in full...)
Why is it easier texting than talking face to face?
Q. why is it easier texting and communicating via social media/email etc than talking face to face with some people? could be anyone someone you have recently met, or someone you already know. things are awkward face to face, or their maybe sile...
A. 8 September 2014: I don't think this is a new problem. I think of texting as modern day letter writing. People wrote long, luxurious letters in the past, before telephones existed. The letters would be full of ardent expressions and beautiful descriptions, but I'm ... (read in full...)
I am shattered he didn't make an effort to keep his word to me!
Q. Hi everyone, I am one mad girlfriend this morning but I don't know if I can be bothered to fight. I just want some advice on the best way to handle this. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years and had arranged to spend this weeke...
A. 7 September 2014: A friend of mine recently went through something like this with her bf. He promised to show up at her place at 9:30, but ended up delaying. At 12:30 when he still had not shown up, she texted him that she was going to bed and to not bother coming ... (read in full...)
He's popular and I'm not. Are my friends right when they say he'll never like me?
Q. I've liked this boy in my year who i've really liked since year 7. I'm now in year 9. I'm not sure if he likes me. Everyone says he's cocky, but he's always nice to me. He holds the door open, helps me out a lot and he always stares at me. The thing ...
A. 6 September 2014: I also had a crush on a boy in high school, who was in my class. Same scenario...He was in the popular group, star on the football team, and I was not even close to being popular. He was always kind to me. He opened doors for me, sometimes teased ... (read in full...)
Should I Start To Pay?
Q. Hi I am married and my husband is not so rich. He works really hard to provide for me and and our child. Money is a hardship for him. However I have 30,000 pounds in savings. I haven't mentioned it to my husband as this was before we got mar...
A. 5 September 2014: That decision is really up to you. Whatever you decide to do with it, there is no right or wrong, because it's your money. If I were in your position I would use it for the betterment of the family unit. Your idea of putting it towards a home or ... (read in full...)
She wrote me this letter about her marriage. Should I forget about her and find someone who is single?
Q. This may be long enough but i'll try to keep it short and simple. I liked her from school. Never talked to her i was a shyguy. After college we meet on facebook. We started talking. Even she had feelings for me since school. The point now is that ...
A. 4 September 2014: The woman is Trouble. From the letter I can see that she wants her husband to give up this affair so that they can be a happy family. You have no place in this picture. She is using you to vent her emotions and to feel desired, because her ... (read in full...)
My husband looks down on me because I'm a housewife and he puts himself on a pedestal because he is the sole bread winner
Q. I do everything I can to be a positive uplifting person for my husband. I Build him up always say I love you first and I am the affectionate one. He can be affectionate but only on his terms. I can never do enough to please him he is always ...
A. 3 September 2014: Yes, people who don't manage a household have no idea what's involved or how hard you have to work to maintain it. I really think you should get a job, even if it's part-time so that you can be financially independent. This is to safeguard your ... (read in full...)
Should I walk away from the impending wedding or just give him another chance? My life is a total mess!
Q. My fiance and I been arguing a lot lately. We normally argue over the same things over and over again. Such as bills, wedding preps, punctuality and etc. Yesterday, he started to argue with me over my whatapp last seen and accuses me of ch...
A. 3 September 2014: No nonsense Aidan is right...Listen to your gut. Before I got married to my now ex-husband, things did not feel right. At one point I felt strongly that I should not marry him, but I went ahead anyway, because things had been paid for and I was ... (read in full...)
Are soulmates even real?
Q. Hi everyone, my mind has been all over the place lately and i just wanted to ask you some questions about soulmates. Does anyone out there believe they have found their soulmate? Maybe you thought you did but then realised afterwards that they cudnt ...
A. 1 September 2014: I've also wondered about this. When I was younger and more naive, I used to believe in the concept of soul mates, but I'm not so sure anymore, or maybe what I believe has changed with time and life experience. I've had many relationships in my ... (read in full...)
Is this a college disaster? How can I spend time with my sister and alone time with my Bf?
Q. Well I need some advice about my boyfriend and my sister We have all recently started college and are attending the same university, me and my sister will be rooming together and my boyfriend will be living in the same building but a few floors...
A. 1 September 2014: Your final statement made me chuckle:)) But in all seriousness, I think you and your bf may just have to tough it out this year until either one of you gets a single dorm room or rent a place off campus where you will have more privacy. Back in my ... (read in full...)
Why am I very very sexually attracted to my x brother in law?
Q. I'm very unhappily married, I recently separated. I have an x brother in law, my husband's sisters x husband I have become very sexually attracted to. I fully intend to ask him for sex. Sex or the lack of really wasn't a problem for me until I ...
A. 31 August 2014: I say go for it girlfriend:))) You're at your sexual peak. The two of you are unattached, and if there is a mutual attraction, hell why not!!!???? It's OK to feel this way. It's OK to want to fulfill your fantasies. Go get him!... (read in full...)
How do I know he'll stick around? How do I tell my parents?
Q. I'm 16 and Thursday I took three home pregnancy test and they all came back positive. My bf is 17 and just graduated high school in June. He is going to college almost four hours away from our home town. I still have one year left of high school. ...
A. 30 August 2014: I think cousin Matt is right. You need to discuss this with your parents to help you make this important decision about whether you want to keep the baby or have an abortion. Ultimately, the decision is yours. It's your body. You have the right ... (read in full...)
Why don't I get approached by normal guys?
Q. I'm a young woman, and let's just say that I am very inexperienced with dating/guys/etc. I do have male friends but I've never gone on a date or had a boyfriend. I don't get out much nor do I meet many new people, but every single time I get hit on ...
A. 30 August 2014: I know exactly what you mean. I've attracted the weirdest men on the planet. For me it was a confidence issue. I think an emotionally healthy man is attracted to confidence in a woman. I found that the more my self-esteem improved, the better ... (read in full...)
Could this long distance guy be interested in me?
Q. I'd like some insight into a crush I am visiting in a few months. We live in different countries and only met at a party last year. We just flirted and kissed a bit -- I didn't want to go any further because I was casually dating someone else at the ...
A. 30 August 2014: Yes, Of course he's interested:) He would not invite you to stay at his place if he wasn't. You'd probably get an invitation to meet for dinner or drinks if he wasn't all that interested.
I think it's wise that you booked a hotel nearby. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never buy me gifts or flowers. Do you think this is petty of me to think this way or is this a problem?
Q. I buy my boyfriend nice gifts, all the time. Golf stuff, beer stuff, nice ties... He really doesn't do anything for me at all. He brought me a book for my birthday and a sex toy and that's about it. Otherwise, our relationship (one year so far...
A. 29 August 2014: Some guys are not gift givers. They show their love in other ways like making sure you have gas in your car or helping you with stuff to do around the house. If a man buys me flowers for no reason, I immediately think, "OK he has a guilty ... (read in full...)
Please help me stop thinking about this amazing guy I met while on a holiday! I'm in Australia. He's in the USA!
Q. I met a guy while on holidays in the USA. We met in Arizona. We had an amazing one night stand and I never thought I would see him again. He flew back to Illinois and I continued on my trip. We exchanged numbers, he changed his flight t...
A. 28 August 2014: Wow! What an amazing adventure you had with him. I don't blame you for feeling all those butterflies. This is the kind of stuff you see in movies or read in romance novels:)) I think the two of you have a wonderful friendship that has the ... (read in full...)
Was this a platonic response or is there more to it?
Q. I am friends with a man through an acquaintance of mine and most of our conversations have been work related (although glances and smiles between us have indicated otherwise and there might be an unspoken attraction). The other day I confirmed my ...
A. 28 August 2014: I agree with highmaintainance101. So far it all sounds very friendly. If he's interested in you, he'll ask you out.... (read in full...)
Is it a question of time or is she really just not interested?
Q. So I was really into this girl who I had been talking with awhile and we went out last weekend and had a great date. It was amazing chemistry and we both really seemed to like each other. The thing is she recently got out of a relationship abo...
A. 27 August 2014: It means that she is interested in you, but can't deal with it right now. She needs to sort through her feelings for her ex. She may even reconcile with him. I would say to keep in contact with her, but keep your options open (meaning if there is ... (read in full...)
I think my B/f might he seeing this other girl but I don't know what to ask him.
Q. My boyfriend and I normally have a great sex life. We would have sex maybe 2-3 times a day when we first met, and although nothing too kinky, it was adventurous. When we moved in together it slowed down, and he almost stopped wanting it as of...
A. 26 August 2014: I don't think there is enough evidence to suggest that he's having an affair. It all sounds like friendly banter with maybe a bit of flirting, but it could all be harmless. 2-3 times a day is A LOT of sex. Nobody can really keep up with that for ... (read in full...)
What does a women do if her BIOLOGICAL needs clash with her psychological UNMET NEEDS
Q. What does a women do if her BIOLOGICAL needs clash with her psychological UNMET NEEDS. The problem is that I stayed in a long-term controlled relationship for 8 years and made many attempts to leave but I was way to brainwashed and it was only ...
A. 26 August 2014: You live your life to the fullest and stop trying to control the outcome of everything. I have friends and relatives who are single moms. They take their kids on vacations with them all over the world. They date. They party. They study ... (read in full...)
How should I tell this woman that the man she loves isn't who he says that he is?
Q. I am in total shock. I was dating a really wonderful, fun man for 10 months, who was doing important research in the medical field. We saw each other about once a week, and rarely on weekends, as he was always working on grants and papers, trying to ...
A. 22 August 2014: I was in a similar situation to yours. He dated me intensely for a year. We spent practically every day together. Never once did I suspect that he was with someone else. He suddenly broke up with me and two months later he was married to someone ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend might be cheating but I haven't confronted him yet. Should I?
Q. Dear Cupid I have been dating this guy for almost 6 years. We live together. He works for a pool company and is forever driving around to sites. I found a pink envelope in our car in March this year and when I confronted him he said it was money ...
A. 21 August 2014: Finding a blonde hair in his underpants is pretty damning evidence. If you confront him, most likely he is going to deny it. The only way to find out if your suspicions are true is to do a bit of investigative work (phone records, credit card ... (read in full...)
Is using the services of a prostitute OK?
Q. I've been separated for years, I find sex is hard to get with out being in a relationship. I don't think it's fair to get into a relationship until my divorce is final. The only sex I had any chance of getting was with 2 married women, I won't have ...
A. 18 August 2014: I know many will not agree with me, but I think it's OK. A lot of men (all ages, all income levels) utilize this service for different reasons. Forget about what other people think. It's about what you need for yourself at this time. You are not ... (read in full...)
The girl I like hardly replies to my texts, but once I stopped texting she wanted to know why I was ignoring her! What does this mean?
Q. I Like this girl very much! and its been almost 3years i haven't admittd it....yet!I think she knows that i have a crush on her. we 'used' to chat a lot, but then after a while she hardly replies to my text! so, i stopped texting her for the past...
A. 18 August 2014: She likes getting attention from you. It boosts her ego. It does not necessarily mean that she likes you in a romantic way. The fact that she referred to you as her best friend means that you are in the friend zone at the moment. I think you ... (read in full...)
After dating him for several months I've learned he lied about his age!
Q. Hi I'm 35 I met a guy he said he was 33 and we began dating. A few months later he tells me he had lied to me he is only 28 and his reason was that if I had known his age I wouldn't have dated him. I don't know what to do the age difference scary.....
A. 17 August 2014: It all depends on how much you like this guy and what kind of character he has. A friend of mine was dating this girl who told him she was 30, only to discover a few months later that she was 35. This made her 5 years older than him. He almost ... (read in full...)
I think my friend stole from me ......
Q. I think my friend may have stolen from me and I feel awful thinking like this so I need some advice... A mutual friend of ours was getting married and we were both invited to the wedding. Unfortunately I wasn't able to attend as I was going o...
A. 17 August 2014: Yes, that is very suspicious. If I were in your situation, I would confront her and let her know your suspicions. Of course she's going to deny it, but at least you put it out there that you don't trust her and this will eat away at her ... (read in full...)
Why am I so uncomfortable with one of the most natural things out there?
Q. Okay so this might get a little lengthy but I have to share it because it's bothered me all my life and currently I can't sleep at the moment because the thoughts won't leave my brain. I do have to give some background about myself but to su...
A. 15 August 2014: I don't think anything is wrong with you. Now I'm no expert, but from what you described, you may be Asexual in nature. Asexuality is the lack of sexual to anyone. It is considered a sexual orientation like heterosexuality, homosexuality and ... (read in full...)
How has the porn industry shaped our view on relationships?
Q. I would like to know woman's view on the porn industry and how it has shaped our view on relationships. Are we being forced to believe that this is the way we should be having sex and to like it? Porn has changed over the last 20 years, the acts ...
A. 15 August 2014: Porn / Prostitution / Sex Industry has been around forever. I don't think there is anything new about it, except maybe in the way it's marketed, and how lucrative the industry is becoming. In fact, I would venture to say that it's becoming more ... (read in full...)
Sad love story, what should be my happy ending?
Q. I'm a devout Catholic and married in church. I'm here because I feel like my life has had so many twists and turns and I just don't know which way to go anymore. All I want is peace. Happiness and love also, if possible. Should I do the right ...
A. 14 August 2014: I think you are doing yourself an injustice by living your life to please other people. If your husband does not want to go to couples therapy, then I would suggest that you seek therapy on your own. You need to figure out what makes you happy and ... (read in full...)
What's the point of my existence?
Q. Hi all, I've been very down in myself lately. I've been wondering wat was the point in putting me on this earth? I live alone and I've no kids. I'm not in a relationship. The world could do without me. I really dont make a difference to anyone's ...
A. 13 August 2014: You are going through an existential crisis. We all go through periods like this, even people who have kids, a husband, a best friend and a full life. Here are some suggestions to lead a more fulfilling life:
1. Adopt a puppy or a kitten f... (read in full...)
I want to explore this new girl but don't want to lose something I already have
Q. Hello readers. I hope you can give me some insight in the hope that I would understand my feelings and know what to do. Firstly I have a gf, been together for 1.5yrs. I don't know if I love her or if I am emotionally attached. She says she loves m...
A. 13 August 2014: I don't think you're in love with your gf anymore. She is just a safety net to you. The honourable thing to do would be to end your relationship with your gf before you start dating this other girl.... (read in full...)
He wont say we are girlfriend and boyfriend!
Q. ok so my partner say we are dealing but not girlfriend and boyfriend. I tried talking to him about this, he says he cannot deal with the girlfriend/boyfriend thing but i get dealt with, sort out and treated better than anyoneelse but i still have ...
A. 7 July 2014: He wants to get all the benefits from you that a proper relationship should have (emotional support, sex, companionship), but he wants to do this no strings attached. This means he is free to "deal" with other women as well. I would not be able to ... (read in full...)
Does not wanting to to work outside the home make me a bad person?
Q. Does not wanting to to work outside the home make me a bad person? My husband barely makes enough to support us. We don't even have children. We have talked about adoption in the future when we are better off. We're in our mid twenties. I ofte...
A. 7 July 2014: What if, God forbid, something happened to your husband? How would you support yourself then? You need to become independent, so you don't have to rely on anyone else to support you. There is no guarantee in life, and the economy is so bad right ... (read in full...)
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