Could renting together ruin our friendship?
Q. Just a quick question. Could living with a friend turn out to be a bad idea? My freshman year of college, I became pretty much best friends with my roommate. We have so much in common and had so much fun together, that we decided to be roommates our ...
A. 27 September 2013: I think it's a good match. In a dorm room, you have less privacy than if you live off campus. If you get along now, I don't think you'll have a problem when you move out next year. If there are issues, I think your friendship is strong enough to ... (read in full...)
Block him or fight for him?
Q. I discovered my boyfriend was cheating on me even after he knew my past of being cheated on and how badly hurt I was. I was so surprised because he earned my trust for over a year and a half before we even did anything. I really trusted him because ...
A. 27 September 2013: I think he is a player. He likes the thrill of the chase. It took him a year and a half to get the prize (you). He probably had other women on the go while he was with you. It will be easy to engage in something casual with other women who live ... (read in full...)
Saw him twice in three months so I broke it off -- and he doesn't understand why?
Q. Hi, it's been 3 months now and I only met my bf twice. I understood that he has just been promoted from his job and needs a lot of travel. But then during his free time, he wouldn't at least meet me for an hour or two regardless of the fact that his ...
A. 26 September 2013: That is not a good or proper relationship. I know of some long distance relationships where more effort is made. Your bf is not making any effort at all.
I would not be surprised if he is juggling women. Is this how you want to be treated?... (read in full...)
If I'm a lovely guy then why haven't I had one date?
Q. I've had replies from here before but nobody could suggest anything that worked so I'll try again. I'm 37 now and have never been in any kind of relationship in my entire life. No woman has ever been sexually attracted to me and I have never ev...
A. 26 September 2013: I agree with eyeswideopen. Are you too much of a perfectionist?... (read in full...)
Ideas for special person stuck in hospital?
Q. I need some nice ideas to do for someone close to me who has a diagnosis of terminal cancer and stuck in hospital? ...
A. 26 September 2013: Create a home-made video of cheerful, heartfelt messages from friends and family far and wide. They can tell jokes, sing songs, wish the person well, say something inspirational or talk about their love and admiration for the person. If they can't ... (read in full...)
My "friend" wont talk to me
Q. I talked with my co worker a lot- during shifts, on breaks, and after shifts. It seemed like we were heading down friendship where I got his number and we started texting and stuff. After, it seemed like we were friends, he then suddenly quits the ...
A. 25 September 2013: I agree with YouWish. Something traumatic may have happened. Do you know any of his family or friends to find out if he is OK? Just give it time. I think you'll eventually hear from him when he is in a better frame of mind.... (read in full...)
"I'll love you even if we break up": why would a guy say that?
Q. My boyfriend of 9 months had a few drinks on Friday and said "I love you, I'll love you even if we break up". He also said he's decided he's too "selfish" to have a child. I didn't engage the conversation because he had been drinking. He knows I ...
A. 25 September 2013: He was drunk. I wouldn't put much stock into what he says when he's in that state. I agree with Anonymous. Ask him when he's sober. Look at it positively. The guy said he'll love you no matter what happens:)... (read in full...)
I lost the love of my life and don't know what to do!
Q. Hey Everyone, Where do I begin? I want to try to be as honest as I can so I'm trying to be fair to both the girl I love and myself. It's been almost a year since I lost the love of my life. And yet I simply can not move on. I have tried e...
A. 25 September 2013: You sound like a very romantic soul. Use those romantic energies to create something beautiful. Paint, write poetry or a screenplay, make a video about it, write a song, sculpt. When you think about the essence of what she meant to you, become an ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, then says I'll be amazing for someone else ?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a while now, we want to take things slow but he says things that make me feel like he doesn't want me. I'm left confused about the situation and I need some clarity. Last night he told me how much he Loved me....
A. 24 September 2013: I've been in your situation before. He used almost the exact words. I foolishly chose to stay with him, hoping one day he would realize that he loved me too. The end result? He eventually left me and married someone else. It took me a very long ... (read in full...)
Did I lose out by not dating or having sex?
Q. I am 27 years old virgin boy from India currently I live in Melbourne.In my Home country it is pretty common(no sex before marriage). I feel that I lost a big part of my life with out sex or relationships.Remaining virgin even after20 or 25 is ...
A. 24 September 2013: In my opinion virginity is overrated. True love is what you should be seeking.... (read in full...)
I found out husband is taking viagra. Is he lying to me about the reason?
Q. my husband is way. I found he took some Viagra with him. I asked him why did he need it? He said he need it when he feel like to have a sex and he will do it by himself with out any partner? I don't believe him.To you, it is a case? And do you think ...
A. 23 September 2013: I would find it very suspicious. This is a red flag. Is this one of the many red flags you are getting? What does your gut tell you? Do you think he is being unfaithful? How long have you been feeling this way? If you have been suspicious of ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with an extremely moody boyfriend?
Q. How do I deal with an extremely moody boyfriend? I've been with him for 4 years (he is 25, I'm 27) and he has always been moody but it's getting harder and harder to deal with these days. For example we have just returned from a trip abroad to s...
A. 23 September 2013: I have a friend who admits that he is extremely moody, and the person who bears the brunt of his mood swings is his wife. She is the person that means the most to him, and I guess he feels comfortable enough to just be his moody self. She has ... (read in full...)
Can't stop cheating on my boyfriend -- why?
Q. I'm 25 and have been with my boyfriend for 9 years, but I can't stop cheating on him. Our relationship is really good and we love each other so much, he isn't romantic but he is such an affectionate guy. I've been looking on line to try and ...
A. 23 September 2013: You need to address the childhood sexual abuse with a therapist. This could be the root cause of your behaviour. People react in different ways to this kind of abuse. I am also a survivor and my reaction was at the other end of the spectrum. I ... (read in full...)
She asked him to cheat but I don't know what to think!
Q. Im going out with a boy who'd ex is also one of my friends. He dumped her after a huge arguement and she recently told me that she still has feelings for him. Just a week ago she wanted to break up with her current boyfriend. She didnt want to do it ...
A. 23 September 2013: Karma is a b****.... (read in full...)
She rejected me because of the distance, but is still texting me, even after she is dating someone else, why?
Q. Hi, I was wondering what people make of this. About two years ago I met someone when out at a bar. There was immediate attraction, and I thought she was too good for me. Then I found out she felt exactly the same about me. So much so we went ...
A. 21 September 2013: When she calls you a beautiful, sweet man, she is being truthful. She sees you that way and that's her way of saying that your friendship means a lot to her. It does not mean she's in love with you. It's her way of expressing her affection for ... (read in full...)
How can a man say we will always be great friends, then he loves me in the same breath?
Q. Hello all! I am a 43 year old woman who, (after 2.5) years of being single, have met a 46 year old man who is a wonderful match for me. We laugh, and have a killer intimate relationship... We've been seeing each other for about 4.5 months now, ...
A. 21 September 2013: You've been together 4.5 months and you haven't seen his place? Are you sure he's not married or living with someone? That's a huge red flag and could indicate why he's not willing to commit.... (read in full...)
Burdened under high expectations.....
Q. I am 37 year old self made married man with wife and kid. I had a poor living and have been fulflling all responsibilities since years without any expectations and demands even from my wife. Result of this everyone including my wife and ...
A. 20 September 2013: You sound a lot like my sister. My sister is a bit OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) when it comes to responsibilities. She feels that if you have to get something done right, might as well do it herself. End result? She's overworked, ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact, or is she too cold for me?
Q. I have been seeing this chick for 2 months now and the relationship so far has been very boring relationship. She really doesn't communicate. We had sex a week after we met up and it was great. Then we had sex 1 more time but it's always me ...
A. 20 September 2013: I agree with Janniepeg. Sorry buddy it seems there was mutual dislike. You did the right thing.... (read in full...)
What's a woman with all this new-found time on her hands to do?
Q. I suppose this isn't really a relationship question but more a guidance of career choices. I am unsure of what to do, however, so please read. Thank you. I've been in a loving, committed relationship with my partner for 15 years. She is the hard ...
A. 19 September 2013: I think this is a great opportunity for you to explore your passions. What Sageoldboy1465 suggested about volunteering is another way to explore your passions. You're financially taken care of and the kids are all in school. This is a great time ... (read in full...)
Can an affair with a married man ever end happily for the other woman?
Q. Hello everyone. Before I begin, I realize I am opening myself up to a firestorm of very harsh judgment, name calling and comments from Dear Cupid's advice givers and readers. Please do not judge me. We all walk different paths in life and make...
A. 19 September 2013: I have been through thick and thin with two friends of mine who were on opposite sides of the fence. One was the married woman. The other was the other woman (different relationships. Not the same man, in case you get confused). The one who was ... (read in full...)
Getting mixed vibes from this guy who ended things then reappeared. Any advise?
Q. Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice. Posted not so long ago as I had just started seeing a guy who had recently got out of a relationship. We met on a night out and from then he was texting me and we met up a few times. He would message every ...
A. 19 September 2013: The next time he comes sniffing around, play hard to get.... (read in full...)
Why am I fantasizing about a man I don't know?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a really great relationship. We met at college and since we grew up in different towns, he goes back home for his summer vacations so we don't get to spend a lot of time together. I have used the free time away from him to ...
A. 17 September 2013: When I was at university there was this despicable guy who was a member of one of the clubs I joined. The man was an absolute ogre in terms of looks and behaviour. I never felt the urge to go out on a date with him, but OMG I had the best ... (read in full...)
Is this where I draw the line, are there 'rules' for when you are told to F yourself?
Q. My boyfriend has said "fuck you" to me at increasing frequency. I remember the first time being offended, he said it with anger towards me in an argument. The next time it made an impression, I remember thinking I was numb to hearing it, and ...
A. 17 September 2013: I agree with you. That is unacceptable behaviour. My ex husband started off with verbal abuse just like what you described. I ignored the signs. It soon escalated into physical violence. That's when I walked out. Now I'm able to recognize ... (read in full...)
I just want him to let me go!
Q. I've been seeing this guy for over three months now. He has serious commitment issues, which he warned me about. He never had a long term relationship, and less than a handful of them were monogamous relationships. He agreed to be exclusive because ...
A. 17 September 2013: I agree with Honeypie, and the flakiness could mean that he's juggling women. You know what you need to do. Don't waste any more time on this guy. End it. Change his name to "DO NOT ANSWER" on your phone and start dating other guys. Before you ... (read in full...)
Does FWB want more?
Q. Ok.. I'm hoping someone can help... I have a kind of fwb situation going on with a guy I work with. It was him who asked me about it, as we were both single and not looking for an intense relationship, as both of us had been hurt in the past. So ...
A. 16 September 2013: Do you guys go out on dates - Movies, theatre, weekends away? Has he introduced you to any of his friends or family? Does he do stuff for you like fix your leaky faucet or help you with car trouble etc? What I'm trying to say is that if your ... (read in full...)
People think we're crazy...do you think this will work?
Q. Ok, I met someone online and talked to them for about a month. I got him a job working out of town with me (he Skyped with the HR person and was hired). Since this job is 2 hours out of the city, the staff live on site. So "Charlie" came out and we ...
A. 15 September 2013: No, I don't think you can love someone after two weeks, but I admire your courage and fearlessness to risk it all for the possibility of love. Yes it's a crazy idea to live with someone only after knowing them for such a short while, but there's a ... (read in full...)
Why did male friend delete and block me on social media?
Q. I befriended a prominent political figure on social media (Twitter first, then Facebook) and we seemed to get along very well. He started a political news organization and he invited me to work with him and I accepted. He's very, very conservative ...
A. 15 September 2013: You set your boundaries for what you considered unacceptable behaviour from him. It may have been harsh, but maybe it was necessary to be harsh. I don't think he would have listened to a gentle hint. He chose to end the relationship. This means ... (read in full...)
How can an ugly man attract a woman for dating?
Q. Best way of attracting interest from women with my 0/10 looks? I am 45 and have never dated or had sex and have had no opportunities to do either. I have been called ugly since the age of 14. During my 'day' of clubs, bars etc the only women who t...
A. 14 September 2013: Looks have nothing to do with attracting a woman. It's CONFIDENCE. If you really want to give yourself an additional edge then you can improve yourself in the following ways:
1. Style. Go to a men's clothing store and instruct the sales re... (read in full...)
He says I'm smothering him and I didn't realize I was!!
Q. Ive been in a very intense relationship for 4 months. Recently my bf started pulling away. We've had very sporadic contact for the last 4 weeks and haven't seen each other at all. He didn't tell me what was going on until this past Monday. ...
A. 14 September 2013: Wait until he contacts you. I know dating is supposed to be a game, but if you were being your usual loving self in the relationship, and he could not handle it, it just means he's not the right man for you. I mean think about it...Can you handle ... (read in full...)
Am I being shallow? Or is my boyfriend just cheap?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year and in that time we have been in love. However.. something that I tried not to let bother me in the beginning has recently really started to get on my nerves. My boyfriend, I feel, is a huge cheaps...
A. 13 September 2013: You are not being shallow. I'd be irritated with him too. Being a cheapskate is not a great quality to have in a mate, so if after a year, he still expects you to foot the bill for everything, he does not sound very promising. Many women would ... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex? Please help!
Q. I left my ex last January. She moved to be with me from another province 2 years ago. Things were not working, but I loved her very much. After months of still spending time with her bc she had no friends or family here, and her crying and begging, ...
A. 12 September 2013: I agree with Eng Vice. She is trying to manipulate you into wanting her again, so that she can get an ego boost. She owes you an apology for the way she treated you. Take back your power from her. You deserve better.... (read in full...)
Funny dating story
Q. When I was in my twenties I went on quite a few dates. I had been meeting guys through the personal ads. I always tried to stay safe so I would take my own car to meet them. I met this guy in the mall and we never talked about what the other w...
A. 11 September 2013: Lol...I once went on a date with a guy who turned out to be a woman pretending to be a guy. I remember looking at the person and thinking something is not quite right here. The date did not last very long:)... (read in full...)
How can you just not care if your partner had orgazm or not
Q. I am in my early thirties, met a guy in his late 30s. Went on a date several times and we had sex. It was so lousy that I am not sure that i want to see him again. I would understand if it was someone young and inexperienced, but he was married, now ...
A. 11 September 2013: I hear ya! I get really irritated when a guy is into his own pleasure. I've stopped seeing guys not because they were awkward in bed, but because they were selfish in bed. I also stopped faking an orgasm a long time ago. But I think maybe you ... (read in full...)
I want to date but when I look at men I feel sick
Q. hi aunts and uncles, its been awhile since i have wrote and asked a question. first off, im doing sooooo much better now since my divorce. my husband had left me for a woman in her early 20s and he was later 40s, and he had a baby by her in june. ...
A. 10 September 2013: You should watch this Woody Allen movie called, "You will meet a tall dark stranger". You will howl with laughter when you see some of the experiences that an ex husband goes through when he chooses to marry a much younger woman.... (read in full...)
I want to date but when I look at men I feel sick
Q. hi aunts and uncles, its been awhile since i have wrote and asked a question. first off, im doing sooooo much better now since my divorce. my husband had left me for a woman in her early 20s and he was later 40s, and he had a baby by her in june. ...
A. 10 September 2013: What a great question! I feel the same as you. I've had my share of loves in my life, and I'm not so sure about any future loves. My girlfriends and I were discussing this the other day. We're all in our 40s-50s and it seems like we're not ... (read in full...)
Are we just playing hard to get?
Q. So me and this guy knew each other back in the day and I'm 99% sure we liked each other but never admitted it to each other (we're both stubborn and play hard to get). Anyways we are both in our early 20s now and it's funny sometimes when we are ...
A. 9 September 2013: It's not what he says, it's what he does or how he acts around you. Does he listen to you intently? Does he remember things that you talk about? Has he asked you out on a date? Does he flirt with you? Does he spend a lot of time with you? If a ... (read in full...)
Husband addicted to autocad and finding a job. How can I help him?
Q. Normally on here you hear about partners who are addicted to World of Warcraft/WoW. I'm 35, he's 32. Well, this one's different; my partner (husband actually)'s addicted to AutoCAD. Is this odd, considering that it borders on workaholism [see bel...
A. 7 September 2013: Book an appointment with a therapist. I don't think it's such a bad thing that he is working on improving his skills. I think he is stressed about being unemployed, and let's face it, it is a very tough market out there for people seeking ... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from my LD friend in over a week?
Q. So what do I do? For the past 3 months I have been talking to someone who is currently out in afgan through email he is a friend of a friend and although I have never met him I thought we were getting to know each other and kind of asumed we were ...
A. 7 September 2013: Just wait for him to contact you. You can send him messages once in a while asking if everything is OK with him. You can also ask your friend if everything is OK with him. There could be several reasons why he's not contacting you:
1. He met s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is clearly attracted to my friend and its starting to bother me, what should I do?
Q. I have a dilemma. My boyfriend and I have been together just over 2 years and in the last 6 months we've been spending a lot of time with another couple. One of my close friends got with a friend of his so we spend a lot of time together the 4 of ...
A. 7 September 2013: I agree with everyone on the panel. He is definitely interested in your friend. I hope for the friendship's sake that your friend does not return the attention he is giving her. If she does, then you've got to walk away from both of them until ... (read in full...)
How to deal with girl always staring at me at work.
Q. What is this girl's problem? I actually hate her.? I got a new job a few months ago and the girls I started all became really good friends and left me out and they don't speak to me at all but that's okay with me cause I love my job and...
A. 7 September 2013: Listen to your manager.... (read in full...)
I feel I made an inappropriate comment on a date and that it might have put the guy off
Q. I went on a date last week with a guy and made an inappropriate comment. I mentioned it being lady's night and the ticket would be less expensive. He said, "you're saved" and I said, "not me, you." He began to laugh but more like a damn haha ...
A. 7 September 2013: I don't think your comment was inappropriate, and if he took offense to it then you're better off without him. If he's turned off by not wanting to pay for your half price ticket, he's a cheapskate and he's not generous at all. I think it was ... (read in full...)
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