| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: There are times when my bf seems to good to be true: meaning that he listens, is considerate, takes time to come see...we've been going out for about 6 months..could I confidently say that this is a part of his character and be confident this good behavior isn't just a way of impressing me and would ultimatly stop once he feels he doesn't have to try so hard anymore? And why is it that some guys start being lazy when they are in an established relationship with a girl? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Mirabell +, writes (1 December 2005):
 I was in the exact same place as you . . .and then I made a grave mistake. I kept telling myself he was perfect and I made unreal standards for him. I kept waiting for him to mess up. Of course, he could feel it and so he was walking on eggshells while I was getting overly upset over every imperfect thing he did (a year after we got together, mind you. People can't be perfect all the time.) Tread lightly. You have a good guy. Don't look a gifthorse in the mouth. Just enjoy and take it easy. Keeping the relationship low stress is the least you can do for a guy that treats you that sweetly!
A
female
reader, happytochat  +, writes (1 December 2005):
Hello,My first question to you is, what is making you have doubts? Is it that you see something in him that might make you believe he will turn out not to be the oh so perfect partner, or are you just looking other peoples bad experiences with males and is that what is making you question who he really is?Honestly darl, no one here can tell you the answer to that with accuracy. None of us know him and even if we did it wouldn't be the best indicator. You seem to be fearing that this might not work out, but its a chance you should take. Don't go and end this relationship on the basis of what alot of other men do once the relationship is established. Base your actions on what he does. Don't predict what he may/may not do as assuming often leads to bad things.I say take a chance, put your heart and soul into him, because if you don't then sure you may be protecting yourself from geting hurt but in the long run your taking away yourselfs chance to have love and be in a very liekly healthy and happy relatioship. All good things in life come with effort and risk. Remember that. And if thats not enough, then look at his relationships with his mother, and sisters, girl friends. Does he treat them well? Ask them how they feel about him? Because often a males way to treat his gf is a reflection of how close he is to the other women iin his life. Im sure you will be fine, i think there seems to be a very likely chance that things will turn outgood and if not, God forbid, you will get through the heartbreak, you will! I hope this helped :)
...............................
|
