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writes:My husband told me that one of his fantasies is to watch me with another guy! Im not a prude by any means, but this is something that makes me wonder 1) Is he bi-curious, why else would he want another guy in the picture? 2) Does he really love me? I just think that if you really love someone, how can you enjoy watching them with another person? Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Another thing is that if you're excited and on board, even if it is for him, he may start to wonder why. "Does she really just want to cheat on me?" Like I said below, this is a pandora's box. I'd suggest keeping it closed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Yes, he really loves you, but it's just a fantasy he has. I would strongly suggest that unless you're down with it 100 percent, don't do it, because it's playing with fire, since alot of great relationships go downhill after that. It seems great in his mind, but I can guarantee you even he's second guessing if he really wants that, and why he's even thinking like that. It's part of being horny and happens to alot of comfortable relationships. It's a "where do we go from here" fix.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (20 July 2010):
 It's a fairly common fantasy but not recommended unless both partners are on board and agreeable to it.
Further, as dirtball said below, your husband might find the 'act' is very different from his 'fantasy'.
Speaking as someone who's been in 'social sex' situations, let me assure you that not all men enjoy them and that they often have consequences for people who are in committed relationships.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (19 July 2010):
There are things you can't see while you're in the act yourself. This is a common fantasy, however not one that I understand myself. Your concerns are valid, but I don't think they are the ones you should worry about. What happens in this kind of situation is that he'll think it is a great idea, until it is actually happening. He may start feeling like you cheated, even though he asked you to do it. He may start to wonder why you moaned a particular way that you haven't for him (in his mind). Ultimately, this kind of thing drives relationships apart.
As someone who had my own fantasies bite me once, I'd avoid this. I don't like sharing my lovers with anyone. That way I can avoid all kinds of dilemas.
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