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writes:My fiance sometimes accuses me of cheating for no reason everytime he accuses me of this he suggests an open relationship. An example of why he accuses me of cheating is a cable cord he claimed he never noticed before was in a room we didn't have a tv and he said i must have let some man put it there while he was working. So I told him call the cable company to find out how many cords they set up he didn't want to call so i called for him and let him hear how much they put in and that extra cord fit perfectly in the number they set up. I think he accuses me of cheating just so he can suggest an open relationship without admitting thats what he wants so he can mess around with other women and not feel guilty. I threaten to leave him when he suggests this but he always say he don't want me to leave he just figured an open relationship is what i wanted since he thought i was cheating. does it seem like he accuses me of cheating just because he wants an open relationship it's hurtful to think that he justs wants other women but this is what everything points to
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): Yes, a father figure not living with your daughter will make things difficult. However, by law in the United States, your fiance will have to pay child support to help you take care of your child. Staying together for the kids, and forcing them to live in an unhappy, tumultuous household is not good or healthy. If you get out, make sure you take that man to court to force him to help pay for the care of your child.
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reader, anonomous_1 +, writes (19 July 2010):
anonomous_1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice all of these answers were very helpful the reason it's so hard to just walk away is because we have a child together and we got pregnant within a few months of dating which makes me think maybe he just proposed because he wants his daughter in the same home as him and he's not really in love with me because if he really loved me and really thought I was cheating he would be hurt and ask why are you cheating not suggest an open relationship that's not something that someone in love does
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (19 July 2010):
 I must, reluctantly, agree with person12345 here. Your boyfriend is either cheating or wants to. If he isn't, it's even worse because then he's paranoid-delusional.
You may want to re-evaluate whether you wish to continue in this relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): Your fiance has no evidence against you. His paranoia and accusations are completely unfounded. Whether he is projecting his actions onto you or just wants permission to cheat, you don't want that. If you say you're going to leave him, do it. He doesn't sound like a real winner.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (19 July 2010):
 Wow he sounds pretty delusional. I'm pretty sure I know why though. He himself is cheating. This is classic projecting his own feelings onto you. Either that, or it's exactly what you said. He just wants permission to cheat. Either way this is not a good sign. I would get out now before he does cheat on you. He sounds pretty paranoid too. I mean accusing you of cheating because there's an out of place cable..? What?
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