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Do you discriminate against obese people?

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Question - (23 July 2010) 14 Answers - (Newest, 23 July 2010)
A age 26-29, * writes:

I am 13yrs old and weigh 105lbs. I know that I am not a fat person but im a little chubby. I think its terrible when people make fun of huge people. Some people even say that they hate fat people. What I want to know is if people really feel this way about people. Do you? I want your opinions on this topic

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010):

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I really appreciate everyones answer. Another reason why I asked this question is because some of my family members are a little overweight and I just wanted to know what people thought about overweight people. I used to weigh 120lbs, but when I hit 12 I lost weight. I myself dont discriminate against obese people. There are kids in my school who are overweight and they get teased. Theres also this really skinny girl who looked anorexic and got called "chicken legs". I know its a persons personality that makes a makes a person "ugly" or "beautiful". I like to know that other people only judge people by their personalities. Thank you.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (23 July 2010):

CindyCares agony aunt Honey what are you talking about ?? 105 pounds ?? This is a healthy weight only if you are tiny, around 5' or 5'1.

But if you are over that height, then you are not chubby, you are underweight !

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010):

No, no, no you're not fat!

When I was thirteen and I weighed nearly 130 (5''2), my best friend weighs 140(5''8). my stomach was nearly perfectly flat and my legs are a little chubby but not that bad. and my friend was the same. I see her body as perfect, she doesn't look anorexic, she looks healthy. and Gorgeous at that. Boys were all over us (: So I have the confidence to say I looked pretty damn good as well.

104 is pretty perfect at that age. So don't worry about it.

And as for judgment against fat people; I'll be honest. I am kind-of grossed out by OBESE people. but people with a little chub are perfectly fine.

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (23 July 2010):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntA lot of people reach a conclusion based on appearances alone. Intelligent people change their opinions based on further interaction.

At your age 105 lbs sounds like baby-fat that you will grow out of as likely as not.

What people dislike about fat people stems from the fact that they perceive such people as being lazy and greedy (which no one likes, even those who are guilty of these vices themselves).

Still, given a choice between being healthy and being obese, I trust you would take the rational choice?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010):

No not at all, considering I have a few people in my family who are on the heavy side. And even if I didn't, I still wouldn't. There's people who are meant to be fat. There's people who let themselves go. There's people who just don't care about their weight and people who have been struggling with it for years, including myself.

No matter what the case is, people shouldn't be discriminated simply by how they look or their weight. Of course they're is also health issues on this, obesity can lead to many medical problems.

But I think it all depends on the person, if they are truly happy with it, and they don't let those rude people get to them. I know there is a lot of great people out there, including those who are overweight so why judge?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010):

We all come in different shapes and sizes- this is what makes us who we are, but it doesn't define us. Some people choose to judge people based on appearance because either they were teased or it makes them feel better about themselves. It's not right, but it happens. People get teased no matter what- they get judged by not only their weight, but their height, hair, accent, teeth, etc.

As you get older, you will grow into your body. Many of my friends who were overweight as kids, grew up to become beautiful, confident women who grew into their looks. They grew taller and their weight adjusted with their body. As long as you are healthy and happy, that's all that should matter. You're still very young, so you still have some more growing to do.

Start a journal and focus on the positive things you like about yourself. Remember that people will always talk and may have something not nice to say, but what matters is that you love yourself and know that you are beautiful, both inside and out.

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A female reader, Nikki Nikkles Canada +, writes (23 July 2010):

Nikki Nikkles agony auntI'm a small person in general. 5'1 and 104 pounds, 16 years old. And you know what? My best friend is 5'7 and around 200 lbs. My boyfriend is 6'4 and chubby. I, personally, don't care. I have never seen a girl more beautiful than my best friend, and I've never seen a guy cuter than my boyfriend. Once you get to know someone - that's when you start to realize how gorgeous (or ugly) they can be. For me, someone can be incredibly good-looking and fit with a 6-pack, but if they're a jerk? Ugliest person ever. Next to a guy who's sporting a big Santa belly but has an awesome personality? Way sexier than the 6-pack guy.

Hun, anyone who thinks you're ugly or gross for being "chubby" or "overweight" and hate you just by one glance are really the blind ones. Because they will never know how beautiful you are until they get to know you.

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A female reader, Oregongrl1 United States +, writes (23 July 2010):

Honey, we live in a world! where yes there is some people who are not so nice. the question is how do you feel about yourself, that is whats important. you!!!!

Sincerely:

Oregongrl1

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010):

I don't hate. That's just me. But, anyway, it depends on the persons story. Have they tried losing weight? no, everyone has "tried" but not a lot have actually put their whole self into losing the weight, which is where i draw a line.

Were they always chubby? Okay, you can't help how you're built, but if you just started eating and got fat, well, your fault.

It's a person to person thing.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010):

While there are a lot of discriminatory persons out there, we are fortunate to live in a time wherein any size is beautiful. Thanks to so many movements, including Dove Real Beauty and other broader thinkers, we have a new springboard to launch what real beauty is. In fact reality television started something this season about Inner Beauty; contestants were originally told they were appearing in an aesthetic show, and it switched and they were informed they are actually being judged for their character.

Anyway, I think it best to shift energy off of any negative position out there against over-weightness, whatever that is, and onto just knowing what you know beauty is. Don't look at hate; pay no attention. See what you choose to love, and go for it.

What is beautiful to you? Then that, my dear friend, is beautiful.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010):

To tell you the truth, I'm not a skinny person myself.

But I sometimes do make fun of fat people to satisfy my need to feel better about myself.

But I dont actually hate 'fat' people. I've got some 'thinly challenged' friends and family members.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010):

Well, my sister is disgusted by overweight people and I'm not too fond of them either.

For me, it's not really the appearance, but the reasons why a person may be overweight. If a person is overweight they are generally, unhealthy. It makes me mad to know a person couldn't realize that they were starting to gain a lot of weight and only started to exercise and eat the right foods once their doctors ordered them to.

Also, being overweight MIGHT be because someone is lazy. No one really likes a lazy person, right?

Don't get me wrong. My best friend is overweight, but I know he's not lazy. Therefore, I don't dislike him for not being slim or skinny as a stick.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2010):

Of course no one should right out "make fun" of a person that is fat, obese, or skinny than usual. You must understand that in this society people are judge by how they look esp. women. If you are fine with your weight then to hell what others think, BUT don't think that everyone else will be kind to you or "accept" the fact that you are "chubby." You must learn to develope thick skin and start showing that you are super fine with the way you look. Confidence can go a long ways let me tell you. As far as those fools who say they "hate" fat people...they are stupid as the comment they made. Who freaking cares? Tell them to go and hate they're Momma!!! LOL...LOL..LOL.. CHOW!

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A female reader, Over..worried.  Canada +, writes (23 July 2010):

Over..worried.  agony auntI do not and I think anyone that says that is probably jealous cause that "fat" person appears to be WAY more comfortable in their own body then they are. I definitely do not feel that way my boyfriend is "chubby" NOT fat. (To me fat is 400 pounds by choice because of how they eat) And I love him to bits.

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