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How do I overcome not being attracted to my wife?

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Question - (22 July 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 22 July 2010)
A male India age 41-50, anonymous writes:

First time i have gone through this site and find it so helpful. Hope i too will get some help

Iam 29 year old, married two years back. it was an arranged marriage and from the day one i didnt liked the girl but the family pressure was so high that i was not able to resist. for which i curse myself everyday. Iam a good looking guy, and wife is totally not.she is dark and with a chubby figure and curyly hair. Marrying her was something like shattering all my dreams.. its been 2 year, but still i never had a good sex with her. I never kissed her lips or sucked her breast. even we have a baby.

I use to have beautiful girl as my girlfriends. and i use to have a great sexual relation with them even i cant express that moment in words. but after marriage i never cheated my wife and i dont want to cheat her. but im dying for sex but i cant do it with my wife even though i tried a lot to get attractd towards her. i know physical beauty is not every thing but how to overcome. for last 2 years everyday i wished to have a natural death.

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A female reader, Gabrielle Stoker United States +, writes (22 July 2010):

Gabrielle Stoker agony auntThose who dig their own graves should not protest about having to lie in them.

Pithy sayings aside, the only way out seems to be a divorce or cheating on her. What else do you expect to hear from us?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010):

Thanks for giving your suggestion. but divorce is not possible. what is the fault of wife. I have seen her before marriage and i was aware of all the facts. Above all she loves me. but problem is with me friends that iam not able to love her. All what left is to live this life till i die. Other than divorce to i have any option ?

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A female reader, karen1989 United Kingdom +, writes (22 July 2010):

karen1989 agony auntYou can't force yourself to be attracted to somebody no matter how hard you try. I agree with the others,Divorce? If you want happiness its the only way.

Good luck :).

Karen.

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A female reader, SallyR87 Australia +, writes (22 July 2010):

SallyR87 agony auntI am not familiar with your culture but if you can divorce your wife as painlessly as possible you'll feel much better. It sounds like you will never be attracted to her and because of this you will be unhappy as long as you are married. You only have one life to be the you YOU want to be.

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A female reader, johannabanana United States +, writes (22 July 2010):

johannabanana agony auntWhy can't you just divorce her if she makes you so incredibly unhappy? Hasn't she ever realized that you don't love her?

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