My younger boyfriend told me I'm ugly, stupid and I'm not smart enough for him! How do I cope with this?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years tod told me that i look ugly, im stupid and i dont measure up to him and he wants to break up. We had problems before like he never spent anytime with me, always ignores me and never responds to my mails or texts. ...
A. 14 February 2013: Dear OP, The solution is pretty obvious: This man's toxic to you so YOU have to break up with him. You struggled way too long to please this man and he's not treating you like he should. The time to be nice and patient and waiting for him to chang... (read in full...)
Best friends nightmare son affecting our friendship! Help!
Q. My best friend whom I love to bits has a four year old son that is a NIGHTMARE... I am pretty sure he is ADHD.. and I have commented about this before and she rejected that so fast! But he is such a nightmare to be around. When they come to my ...
A. 14 February 2013: Dear OP, You can't diagnose a four year old with ADHD just by looking at his playing behaviour when he's with his mom. So I understand why she rejected that. ADHD kids can't help their behaviour, they couldn't be more quiet if they were in sch... (read in full...)
I am doing something wrong and I can't figure out what it is.
Q. Hey folks, thanks for taking the time to give me some advice on helping my husband-like boyfriend. This post is long, but I feel like if you, lovely helper, are going to give me some great advice you might need some details first. My boyfriend a...
A. 14 February 2013: Dear imtryingsohard,
You are already giving your best, so there's no use giving you anymore advice on what you should improve. Really, I see no point there.
You are not to blame for his lack of social life, so don't beat yourself up abou... (read in full...)
Got involved with married woman.... Big mistake!
Q. Dear Cupid, Aunties and Uncles! Please help?! I imagine this will be quite a lengthy question so please be patient with me. I am looking for some serious, honest advise. This will sound like something out of a movie but what I'm about to tell...
A. 13 February 2013: Oh my god dear OP,
I feel so sorry for you.
If I were you, I would not write that letter, cause these people are clearly insane and they won't respond to reason anymore. If they were capable to think normally, they would leave you in peace and... (read in full...)
Is my weight putting boys off?
Q. I am 17 and i am 5'7" and nearly 160lbs. i have always been bigger than my friends but now its really getting me down. right now all my close friends and sister have boyfriends and i really want one. is my weight putting boys off? it makes me feel ...
A. 13 February 2013: Dear OP, I know enough girls with the same BMI or more who got boyfriends and you should not let some Index decide over whether you are comfortable with yourself. Personally, I really adore women with curves, I think it's feminine and sexy. It's w... (read in full...)
Is it OK to see someone you've broken up with one last time to end things on a positive note?
Q. I met a man a while ago and we started dating. It was going well and I really liked him and still do, but unfortunately, because of circumstances outside our control, we have to go our separate ways. I won't go into it because it's a long story but ...
A. 13 February 2013: Dear OP, I think your idea is great and I hope it will bring you and him some closure. Of course you have a right to ask for this, he can still say no. However, in my experience, closure can only work if both parties are ready for it. I trie... (read in full...)
Woman I met on a lesbian dating site is actually bisexual and married! How could she be so deceitful, and should I confront her?
Q. I'm a lesbian and a few months back I joined a lesbian dating site. Shortly thereafter a member contacted me and expressed an interest in me. I was impressed with how she presented herself, what she conversated about. I have since taken a fond ...
A. 12 February 2013: Dear OP, I can understand your anger. Yes, she's been very deceptive and fake. But you know what? I bet this woman is "pathetic, childish, unethical" etc. because she is not only lying to you, but to herself as well. She's the one who obviousl... (read in full...)
Should I send Valentines cards to the 2 girls that I like?
Q. I am becoming more confident in asking girls out, but I'm not sure about these, so I need some advice: The girl who does my massage has a great personality and is very sexy. I have had feelings for her for a while now, and when I go and see her w...
A. 12 February 2013: Dear OP, I may sound old fashioned but I honestly don't like that you want to send a valentines card (or better, card and flowers) to two girls. You completely miss the meaning of such a gesture. To send a woman something like that means she is... (read in full...)
I can't stand his personal hygiene! Am I shallow?
Q. I have this great friend and we have gotten really close this year. I feel like our friendship is effortless and we could work as a couple but there are a few issues. I feel so shallow saying this but i can't stand the smell of his breath. I have ...
A. 12 February 2013: Dear OP, I completely agree with the others. I know it's very hard to tell someone but you're not shallow. Maybe others have noticed his breath as well. And although he won't be happy to hear this, you're probably doing him a big favour. He can... (read in full...)
How can one tell the children about divorce when your spouse is too emotional to be rational?
Q. For many years now I have been unhappy in my marriage. My wife and I have been together for twenty years. After our children were born my wife became very emotional, and she tends to react to situations by shouting, swearing and crying. She's bee...
A. 12 February 2013: Dear OP, I agree with Mandy. If you don't want your children to be crying and begging you to stay, if you want to lessen your wife's influence on them, silently escaping is not going to help, on the contrary. Your kids won't understand how yo... (read in full...)
Please help :( I love my boyfriend, but could he be gay?
Q. Okay guys, I really need your help. I am such a mess from worrying about this. I've explained a lot below...read it and let me know what you think? I am 22. I've been with my boyfriend, who is 23, for about a year, and I love him to death. We get...
A. 5 February 2013: Dear OP,
I agree with tasteofindia, he sounds more like depressed.
Of course he could be gay. But he could as well just be very sensitive, as you already told us. Men can be like that and be straight. Also, his dislike for oral sex doesn't prov... (read in full...)
I'm gay but afraid to come out about it. How long will it take me to accept this about myself?
Q. I am in a relationship with a woman for my first time. To make the story short, I broke up my engagement with my 8 year fiance not only because he was cheating but also because I felt l for this girl. We've been dating for about 4 months now. I ...
A. 5 February 2013: Dear OP, You've just been through a massive, massive change in your life, a divorce with your husband of eight years. It's normal that you need some time to find yourself and deal with missing him. So, in my opinion, this woman is asking to... (read in full...)
Does anyone else feel cursed?
Q. I wonder if anybody has the same experience I do? It is very hard to find any info on this subject, and Im hoping someone might knows the right resources for me, So I have this strong feeling, that I have been ''cursed'' or something like that. So...
A. 4 February 2013: Dear OP, I don't believe in curses. Even if there is a very small chance that many bad things happen to you in a row, there's still a chance, and it doesn't have to be karma or a curse or whatever. Simple, plain bad luck. The feeling ... (read in full...)
Confused about masturbation and things related.
Q. Right some questions, masturbation when in a relationship - isn't the whole point of masturbating because you can choose who you want to look at as in porn/think about and not many people think of their own girlfriend because there is no point? ...
A. 4 February 2013: Dear OP, If I understand you correctly, this post is not about him watching porn, but about masturbation and sexual fantasies. I would never let anybody tell me to stop masturbating, no matter if I'm in a relationship or not. The point, ... (read in full...)
After10 years of sleeping with a married man who swore he never touched his wife I get a HPV. Was he lying to me? What do I do?
Q. Help. This might sound wrong and sinful of me but I don't know what to do or how to deal. I been having my routine pap smears, blood tests for STDs, and always a HPV test done since the birth of my son, 12 years. All tests have been negative HPV and ...
A. 4 February 2013: Dear OP, This man lied to you. I don't know where he got the HPV from but it could have been from someone else than his wife. It doesn't really matter that much, because no matter how he got the HPV, no matter how he managed to infect you, he... (read in full...)
I want to try being a transgender hooker. What are the pros and cons?
Q. I am a male who loves crossdress on a regular basis. I am small in stature and a bit feminine so I have no problem passing. I have dated and have had sex with men as well as women. Last month I decided to take a vacation in a city that has a big ...
A. 3 February 2013: Dear OP, Ok, here comes my list of pro's and con's for you: PROs: - a job where you don't need real qualifications (sorry, being young and transgender doesn't count) - self esteem boost because people pay to sleep with you, which might make y... (read in full...)
Are my parents right to be worried and should I worry a bit more about my crush on this 49 year old salesman?
Q. I am a 19 year old apprentice hairdresser, I have fallen for a 49 year old salesman who delivers product to our salon. I have always fancied older men and have had a few affairs and slept with them. My parents are worried that he his using me and...
A. 27 January 2013: Dear OP,
I think your parents are right to worry about you.
I mean, what kind of guy wants to have a girlfriend who is 30 years younger? Who could very easily be his daughter?
If you are safe.. well, I don't think he'll physically harm you.... (read in full...)
Is a man wearing a women's swimsuit really a 'sexual offense' especially as the man did it drunk at a party?
Q. I have recently found out my 24-year-old daughter is dating a convicted sex offender, she had inadvertently mentioned it when talking about her new boyfriend (he's 32). I feel sick and disgusted but at the sametime am powerless to stop her. She...
A. 24 January 2013: Dear OP, Before you can judge this guy you need to know if his story is true. It sounds highly unlikely. But you can't know that right now. Maybe there are ways to find out if you get to know the guy and ask for his criminal record, or anything... (read in full...)
I regret my transsexual surgery. What to do?
Q. Hello everyone, Im having some troubles now. I went through a transsexual surgery some time ago and turned from a male into a female. However, recently I start to see some identity crisis in myself. The main objective of the surgery was so t...
A. 23 January 2013: Dear OP, You just went through a long and life changing transition. Of course it can happen that from time to time you'll regret this. It would be a miracle if you just enjoyed everything about your new body without even the slightest identi... (read in full...)
Whats a fair amount for boyfriend to pay if he moves in?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years. We are both late 20s. Lately we have been talking about moving in together. i have my own place and he still lives at home. Its not the best time to try and sell my house with out loosing money (he ...
A. 23 January 2013: Dear OP, Your feeling is right on this one - of course he'll be getting a free ride and that's not fair. Sounds like expects you to love him and serve him just as mommy did and this will get on your nerves. Please don't be too nice now, you wi... (read in full...)
Why am I thought of as being a weirdo when other guys say much more sexually charged things but the girl is ok with it?
Q. I'm not currently actively looking to date right now, but I'm still feeling pretty confused and frustrated being unable to "woo" a girl, especially when I try to watch and see what the more "successful" guys are doing to attract women. And honestly, ...
A. 23 January 2013: Dear OP, Maybe you have some general misconception about women. We don't necessarily like people that are trying to be non-sexual, since we enjoy sexuality as well. Women aren't all innocent, immaculate virgins that shy away by the simple notio... (read in full...)
I'm dating a nice guy but want to end it because I don't want to get hurt again
Q. i have recently moved into halls for university, and moved in with a guy and we instantly hit it off. this was in September. now we are properly together and i like him so much, he makes me so happy and is definitely helping to repair the damage a ...
A. 22 January 2013: Dear OP, No, please, don't end it with him if he seems to be a nice guy and treating you right. Maybe you just need to take some speed out of the whole thing. You've already fallen deeply for this guy and have put a lot of your heart at stake... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can make sex more comfortable for my girlfriend? She thinks I'm too well endowed.
Q. We have been dating for about 4 and a half years now and used to regularly have sex, sometimes 2 or 3 times in one day and she could handle it, granted she was 16 and I just turned 17 when this happened. We have since slowed down a lot, down to ...
A. 22 January 2013: Dear OP, First, I would try different positions. There are some positions - especially when I'm on my back and my legs are up - that even an average sized penis would hurt me very much. It's a question of the angle with which the penis goes insid... (read in full...)
Is he too comfortable with me?
Q. hello so my question is that normal ify boyfriend masturbate in front of me while were making love, cause i feel uncomftable looking to him ? we are ldr so im might been shy to express myself in bed with him...
A. 22 January 2013: Dear OP,
I am not sure I understood your question. When was he masturbating in front of you - while you were making love? How does that work? Do you mean, he masturbated in front of the computer, because you are in a long distance relation... (read in full...)
Would I be a horrible wife if I found another home for this terrible dog?
Q. I don't know what to do about my husband's dog! He found the dog wondering the streets and took him in when no one claimed him. This was before we even started dating. I quickly realized why no one wanted to claim this dog... He was not potty ...
A. 20 January 2013: No, you wouldn't be a horrible wife, just a sane woman.
He's being a horrible father.
I also love animals but I'd kill anything that is a danger to my family with my own hands. If he lacks this instinct, there's something seriously wrong with h... (read in full...)
Sexless marriage driving me crazy !
Q. Dear Cupid, I love my wife very much but I am going insane. We have sex once in three months. I feel a physical disconnect even though I try to cuddle kiss and initiate love making. I believe that in life if you do not want something to hap...
A. 19 January 2013: Dear OP, There are so many possible reasons why someone in a longterm relationship couldn't want sex anymore: too much stress at work or with the kids, lack of sleep, lack of space, lack of "quality time" to build up the mood, stuck in a sexual r... (read in full...)
I lost my only friend because I treated him so badly
Q. i had a best friend i lived with for 7 years whose feelings i have hurt deeply. i don't know what i can do to change his feelings and show him i care about him and love him. he did sooo much for me, got me into school, paid for my tution,, did ...
A. 14 January 2013: Dear Sabeen, You can't just change his feelings. At least not just like that. There's nothing you could say right now, because you really screwed up. The only thing you can DO is finally be independent, as he wishes, and leave his place so h... (read in full...)
I don't believe I can satisfy my girlfriend physically. Should I leave her?
Q. Appreciate any answers. I believe I can't physically satisfy my girlfriend and as a consequence believe I should leave her. I want to leave her if as I don't want a gf I can't please and I worry that this may be a reason for her leaving me so t...
A. 13 January 2013: Dear OP -
Well, that's a weird question. If you can't physically satisfy your girlfriend, you're just gonna run away and hope that you can satisfy the next woman? And by the way, what do you mean by "physically satisfy"? Is there somethin... (read in full...)
Why do I get so angry with my boyfriend and say things I don't mean?
Q. Why do I get so mad at my boyfriend for no reason and say such hurtful things to him that I dont mean? I love him with all my heart I dont want to push him away from me. I can't seem to control my mouth when I get mad. He's really getting f...
A. 13 January 2013: Dear OP,
I know some people that can get really angry and hurtful, they just seem to be less able to control their anger. Has this already happened to you with other people, I mean, is it a general problem, or has this only ever occured with him... (read in full...)
Need help reading situation.
Q. so i met this very cute french girl (and i mean damn beautiful) at a uni pub crawl we met at the 3rd of 5 bars we spent most of the night together talking (about 4 hours) the first hour or so her friend was with us but when we got to the last bar...
A. 12 January 2013: Ahahaha - are you serious about asking if she liked you??? This girl must have liked you so much!! She bought you a drink! You talked for hours! She smiled and held eye contact and made sure you got her facebook name and contacted you th... (read in full...)
I'm the wife of a crossdresser and my life is a mess
Q. I need help i have known for 2 yrs now that my husband is a crossdresser, we have been together 11 yrs and have 4 kids. Everythung was good until he started crossdressing. He is a hard working great man but my needs are not met like they used to be. ...
A. 11 January 2013: Dear OP, now I understand much better. So, it's not only about crossdressing, but rather about your husband not really paying attention to his family any more and only thinking 100% of the time about this fetish or sexual/emotional... (read in full...)
How do I cope? He's going on and I feel like I've been kicked in the stomach
Q. Soooo me and this guy were seeing eachother for 4 months. The relationship was so rocky it wasn't funny! Every (bleeping) week he would find some excuse of why he couldn't be with me. Then when i tried to leave he would come back and say "baby i ...
A. 10 January 2013: Dear OP, Don't feel stupid. You know, you learn from your mistakes, that's more true than you think. I guess everyone who just gave you advice has once dated someone who turned out to be a mistake/asshole/liar/whatsoever. You trusted him and ... (read in full...)
Girls don't find me attractive. Do they prefer the guys who break their hearts and show no respect?
Q. Im 22 years old and cant help it but face the truth and it gets me down. I have always realised I'm not good looking/ attractive. In school, people used to get into relationships all the time, not me, I knew what was wrong girls didn't find me that ...
A. 10 January 2013: Dear OP, I think you draw many conclusions here too soon. And I agree with kc100. Yes, sometimes in life you come to realize that life is NOT what you thought it would be and you face a lot of disappointment. You don't have a girlfriend alt... (read in full...)
I'm the wife of a crossdresser and my life is a mess
Q. I need help i have known for 2 yrs now that my husband is a crossdresser, we have been together 11 yrs and have 4 kids. Everythung was good until he started crossdressing. He is a hard working great man but my needs are not met like they used to be. ...
A. 10 January 2013: Dear Wifeofacrossdresser - I would really like to understand your situation better, before I can give you any advice. Why did your marriage get worse after your husband started crossdressing? Did he always like it or did he just discover i... (read in full...)
BF asked me to tell his teenage daughter that she was dressed inappropriately but I don't feel it's my place! Thoughts?
Q. Hey everyone , I'm 25 my boyfriend is 37 and he has a 14 year old daughter. His childs mother lives in another state and his parents and himself raises her. His mom had a party for New Years and I went, I was extremely surprised when I saw his daug...
A. 7 January 2013: Dear OP, I also wouldn't recommend that you do anything. Teenage girls just sometimes dress too mature, they're still experimenting and don't have a clue about the effects of their appereance. A wrong word from her father might even do damage ... (read in full...)
Do white girls expect boys to propose first?
Q. I want to know whether my Co-worker loves me.I am a south Asian.she is a white girl.Do white girls expect boys to propose first?Or am I mistaking her friendship towards me.But I heard once she was singing my name with hers.I never had a girl ...
A. 7 January 2013: Dear OP, If the girl says she only likes you, but doesn't love you, that could mean for her it's nothing more than friendship. I actually suppose you are in her "friendzone". Which means she thinks you are a nice guy, so she cares for you like a... (read in full...)
Seventeen year gap in communication with an ex... is it too late to try again?
Q. Hello All, I am back again, so I am 41 years old, apparently for my age I am in good shape and do't look my age. But my issue is this, I am longing to settle down and be married but living in London and seeing Societies Women generally either...
A. 6 January 2013: Dear OP I don't know what it is but you men seem to have this sort of nostalgia about your first love. My dad tried to get together with his first girlfriend, after 20 years or so, when marriage with my mom was at a low. And as the other agony ... (read in full...)
I think I want to split with my BF of 3 years but I'm scared I won't meet anyone else and doubtful about ending it. Any thought?
Q. I think I'm having a bit of a quarter life crisis right now and I'm looking for some advice. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. Recently I have come to realise that I don't think I can't see myself marrying him. He is quite a ...
A. 6 January 2013: Dear OP, No one said a breakup was ever going to be easy. It will hurt and you will have to sort your life out and make new friends, maybe even find new hobbies or a new apartment. But escaping from a bad relationship - I did it and in t... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend addicted to sex? Will he cheat on me?
Q. It will be our two year anniversary on march 25th. On our year anniversary i lost my virginity to him. Other than me, he's only had sex with one other girl (or claims so).. and i believe him since he was basically horrible and quick in bed, haha. ...
A. 5 January 2013: You are being way too nice to this guy.
It's not unusual that a guy is always horny, but you can still demand respect from him. Having sex when you don't want to is egoistic and if you let him treat you like that, you basically tell him that he ... (read in full...)
My girl friend is bi-curious and wants a three-some.I'm not sure. Can I have advice on this?
Q. Hi everyone, new member here in need of some help! Background: Me (22), GF (19) Been together since Nov 2012, already in love. Lost my virginity to her (saving myself for someone special, she didn't know I was), she has now had 6 sexual partner...
A. 4 January 2013: Hi there,
As a single bisexual I've made out with couples and I didn't find it made their relationship bad. But it was weird for me, to focus on two people at the same time (although it can also be thrilling). So I am pretty undecided about wh... (read in full...)
How do you define "cheating"?
Q. Hello everyone? My question is very simple, and i'm just interested in knowing what your opinions are on this. What do YOU class as cheating? I'm going through a situation right now where i'm wondering whether the lad i'm close to is 'cheeting' o...
A. 4 January 2013: I agree with the other agony aunts that cheating is defined individually by each couple.
Cheating is for me "breaking the rules" or not caring anymore while pretending to do so. It's emotional disloyalty, lying, hiding your true feelings... (read in full...)
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