When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 1 May 2013: Dear OP -
congrats and I love how you added some humour!
I'd also go with so-very-confused and offer to meet her close to public transport :)
Now I wish you both a great date!
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My ex. When I see her now I get a burning feeling in my stomach and tears are always close. What to do?
Q. I need help dealing with this. I've recently broken up with my first serious relationship. Anyways i feel like I'm bipolar. I am sad then depressed then I'm ok for a short while, then back again. I miss her a LOT. I don't know how to handle...
A. 27 April 2013: Dear OP,
I don't think you are bipolar or unnormal. Remember that song "the first cut is the deepest"? It's really like that. Until you' ve experienced your first unhappy love or your first breakup, you wouldn't believe how much pain it can caus... (read in full...)
When to reveal a disability during online dating?
Q. I have a disability, cerebral palsy. Unlike some other people with cerebral palsy, I am not in a wheelchair, I run my own business. I have been exchanging messages with a girl on Match.com now for three weeks (only small messages.) So: 1) When s...
A. 27 April 2013: Dear OP,
I would agree to those that say reveal it rather before a first date. As an online dating woman, I would still go on a date with a guy who tells me about his CP. But if I didn't know it in advance and would be surprised by some obvious ... (read in full...)
I found a sex toy in my boyfriend's room.
Q. Hi, Today I visited my bf in his house. We don't live together yet. It was a little mess, so I started to clean his place a little. Then I founf this, a sex toy, quite like a simple hole cup. Maybe it was there before, I just didn't noticed? ...
A. 24 April 2013: Dear OP,
Don't worry. 95% of men masturbate and the other 5% are lying :)
To use a sex toy for that is nothing special. Maybe it's time to get a little more intimate now, you both trust each other and you are very close. If you don't feel ready f... (read in full...)
This cute guy is all I want but I'm too shy to talk to him, it's killing me!
Q. Why can't I get him out my head? This is killing me:(? My ex boyfriend lied cheated and dumped me and i lost all my confidence so I decided to join the gym and I'm in the best shape in my life. Guys all say I'm attractive. But there's ...
A. 24 April 2013: Dear OP,
You need to do something, even though you're scared to death. I face the same problem when I'm attracted to someone. But if you don't act, you'll never know what could have been and you'll regret it.
Don't be too straight forward... (read in full...)
My husband wants to have a baby with another woman. He's says I'm making this out to be a big deal. Am I over-reacting like he says?
Q. Im 20 years old and have 2 kids. My oldest is 4 and she is from a past relationship. Im now married and we just had our son in February. Recently my husband has been talking about having a baby of his own with another woman. I thought he was k...
A. 24 April 2013: Dear OP,
.. I am lost for words here, I don't even know where to start explaining why this is wrong in so many ways. No dear, you are NOT over reacting, you are under reacting.
Having kids is not about "fairness" and evening out the number o... (read in full...)
What is Girl Talk?
Q. my girlfriend tell me that she wants this relationship to last for a long timethe college and just life and we have been dating for 2 months and then we spend the whole day together and then she tells me she is headed to get friends house to have a ...
A. 23 April 2013: Dear OP,
Girls talk is just what we girls talk about when we're on our own :) We talk about our personal lives, little worries, our bodies, boyfriends, other girls, tv series we like, fashion, clothes, some funny stories or some sad ones that hap... (read in full...)
Love versus hate? Should I stay or should I break up?
Q. Hi all. Just hoping for some sensible advice and support... It's a rather complicated story... and I really appreciate no one wants to listen to someone waffle on so I'm cutting it real simple When I got with my bf a year ago we worked together...
A. 22 April 2013: Dear OP,
If I was you, I'd run. Do you really think that in the end, you will be better off than all his exes or his poor daughter? Yes, for three months he has made some efforts.. real men make that effort every day of a relationship and it's not... (read in full...)
I created a fake ad on Craigslist to see if my boyfriend would make contact. He did, now what do I do?
Q. A little background info first: my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. He always told me I was his first love and I'm the first girl he's even considered marriage with and so on. His family has even told me I'm the first ...
A. 22 April 2013: Dear OP,
End this relationship. You both don't trust each other. He obviously hasn't had much success with women so far and now that he's got a girlfriend, he's finally got some confidence.. which he uses to cheat on you. You're not meant for each... (read in full...)
Sexless marriage and clinically depressed.
Q. I have a problem that seems to be just the opposite of some recent Q and A's. We have been married for 33 years and busted our humps to correctly and lovingly raise our Daughter and Son, now 31 and 24 years old respectively. Nobody could ask for a ...
A. 22 April 2013: Dear OP,
Your story has really moved me, that's why this answer's going to be rather long. Of course I wonder what has kept you two together in a marriage when there was no physical affection at all, but when I look at the age of your kids, I ... (read in full...)
He never told me earlier. Is he really gay? If so , why be with a woman to begin with? What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and no sex! He was in prison for 15 years before we meet and while he has never told me he had sex or was raped I have a strange feeling. He did try once to have sex with me the first year and I...
A. 21 April 2013: Dear OP,
I couldn't agree more with AuntyEm.
The guy didn't like to face the fact he's gay, so he said he hates sex and used you and your hopes to build a stable live. Maybe he didn't do it really on purpose, but that doesn't matter. Break up... (read in full...)
He resents me for revealing to others he is a cross-dresser. Can I fix this?
Q. So I completly messed up my relationship. When we fell on hard times over a year ago I told my not so best friend that my boyfriend was a cross dresser. Honestly I am pretty inky I like it. Well she tossed it in his face cats out of the bag now and ...
A. 21 April 2013: Dear OP,
In our society, men that dress up as women are being ridiculed and made fun of. So it's obvious this is no bedroom story that a guy is proud of and wants his girlfriend to tell others. It's probably just as hurtful as if you've told you... (read in full...)
My girl who used to have a sex addiction, now thinks sex is dirty and won't be intimate with me. What can I do?
Q. Recently, my GF admitted she had a past sexual addiction. I was not totally unaware of this, but recently we've been having our own tension when it comes to sex. She now views sex as "dirty." She now is not capable of being intimate with me...
A. 21 April 2013: Dear OP,
I agree with janniepeg - why would you guys want to rush into marriage right now if there are REALLY important questions that you both can't answer yet?
Marriage won't fix this.
It's not just about a temporary sex withdrawal.. thi... (read in full...)
What is seeing a psychiatrist like?
Q. Hey all. I don't want to sit here and write a sob story but throughout my entire life (I am 18 right now) I have been through some really bad things. Not only am I not over the things that have happened in my past, but even right now in my life I am ...
A. 21 April 2013: Dear OP,
I've been in psychotherapy for years (several depressive episodes) and had three psychotherapists in total.
What I can say is, that if you find a person you feel that you can trust, therapy can help you enormously! If you go to a ther... (read in full...)
Experimenting SEX, and I am Virgin
Q. Okay, I'm 13 and I'm a girl and my girlfriend is 15 she tells me she wants me to get a toung ring so I can eat her out . But were BOTH virgins nd I feel that I should finger her first befor I eat her out but I don't know how to tell her or know if ...
A. 18 April 2013: Dear OP-
First of all, what is a tongue ring (is that a piercing?) and why in the world does your girlfriend think you need one for oral sex?? I've been in a lesbian relationship for a long time and had oral sex (and received it) and I've been ver... (read in full...)
I don't want to raise another child alone. I don't think this relationship will last. Should I have an abortion?
Q. Hello all, I need some major advice. I am 29 and a decent paying job. I have a 12 year old that I have raised by myself. I am currently 13 weeks pregnant and fully comitted for about 3 years. This would be his first child. His job is not that gre...
A. 16 April 2013: Dear OP,
Abortion might seem to be the fastest and easiest solution to a complex problem. But if you don't want to raise a child alone, you have at least two more options:
1) fix the relationship with your husband/boyfriend! right now it sou... (read in full...)
She hurt me, I love her but should I just live with a broken heart and no violence?
Q. Hello. I am 21 and I am gay. My girlfriend and I got into an agrument one night at her house, so I grabbed all my stuff and told her I was leaving. I was actually leaving her for good, and she fought it. Thst's nice, but I needed to go home to cool ...
A. 16 April 2013: Dear OP,
It's sad, but sometimes we get attached to people who aren't good for us. I don't know why, but somehow, we sometimes get ESPECIALLY attached to people who treat us like sh*t and tell ourselves that they can/will change. We start to make ... (read in full...)
First Date : Big Problem for Me!
Q. Hi everyone I'm a male...16 yrs old And my problem is I'm going to go out with a girl on a date...It will be my first date...Yeah I Know I wait the old of 16 for I can go on date...anyway I really like this girl and I'm afraid To make this date the ...
A. 15 April 2013: Dear OP,
First of all, she'll probably be nervous too, facing the same problems with clothes and everything. So don't worry, she won't eat you :) And after some minutes, most of the nervousness will be gone anyway.
Second, you can think of som... (read in full...)
I like a girl who seems more affluent than me?
Q. There's a girl I really like. I met her working with her last summer at a summer job. She seems pretty nice and sweet and thinks I'm every bit as such and we chat on Facebook every once in a while (not frequently), we get along fine and she's ...
A. 15 April 2013: Dear OP,
If a girl is really in love, I don't think class will matter that much to her (unless she's a terrible snob, and who wants such a gf anyway). As cerberus said, it might matter to you somehow, seeing that her life is apparently easier t... (read in full...)
My husband is ill and no longer interested in sex. Help!
Q. My husband has a lot of issues with his heart and lungs (chronic obstructive pulmonary disease). He's only 66 but acts like 80! He does not want me to show him any interest in sex or anything and acts like he wants to give it all up. help! ...
A. 15 April 2013: Dear OP,
I worked with COPD patients for a short time during an internship in a hospital.
From what I know of COPD, it's a very serious, progressive disease with no cure. The lungs get more and more obstructed, people lack energy, because they... (read in full...)
Girls: Do you say no sex to your boyfriend often?
Q. Hi Just like to know if this is normal behaviour for men or in relationships. Last night in bed with my boyfriend I wasn't feeling too well (have a bad headcold) and told him I didn't want to have sex with him, to just cuddle and sleep. He kep...
A. 15 April 2013: Dear OP,
I wouldn't care if it's normal or not, I suppose it happens a lot in bad (!) relationships and selfishness is quite spread throughout our society. That doesn't mean it should happen. Get angry. Say no. Stand up for yourself.
I never... (read in full...)
Am I a sugardaddy or is possible for a relationship with a woman 20+ younger than me?
Q. what are your opinions of an older man getting with a younger girl and getting her pregnant? i met a girl who is 20+ years younger than me. we have talked and not having any children of my own, she said she is in love with me and will have a baby ...
A. 13 April 2013: Dear OP,
If two people LOVE each other and the CIRCUMSTANCES are okay, I think a relationship like this (young woman, older guy) might work.
But so far, I haven't heard YOU saying that you love her. Just that she says she's in love with you, p... (read in full...)
Am I normal? Still a virgin and I do get frustrated. My studies have taken precedence over a relationship. Should I make some changes in my life?.
Q. I’m male 25, single and virgin, never involved in ANY kind of sexual activity with anyone ever. At the moment I’m really focused on building my budding career and personally think that involvement in any relation/flirt might divide my attentio...
A. 12 April 2013: Dear OP,
Do what feels right for you. If YOU feel happy and healthy the way it is, you don't need to change.
If YOU feel like you want to have a relationship and/or a sex life someday, I don't necessarily think you need to compromise your ... (read in full...)
I am his first girlfriend and he isn't sure that I am the one. Should I let him go?
Q. I'm really confused right now. My boyfriend and I have been going out together for 6 months. He's 31 and i am his first gf. So he has nothing to compare to when something doesn't feel right in the relationship. He told me he had this feeling that he ...
A. 12 April 2013: Dear OP,
To me, despite your similar age, it sounds like you two are still at very different stages of live.
You might be comfortable sticking to this man and settling down with him.
He, despite his age, is still in his late teens or early ... (read in full...)
Struggling to accept that my GF has dumped me but what do you think ladies?
Q. After a relationship of more than a year, my girlfriend and I broke up on tuesday. She said she didn't know what she wanted anymore and that she couldn't talk about it. After a two hour talk she/we finally decided to end things. This break-up...
A. 12 April 2013: Dear OP,
I really think the best you can do is give her time and space. Not only time to think about your relationship, but also time to realise whether she misses you or not.
It takes a lot of strength to do this, I know, but if you give in ... (read in full...)
Sexual Abuse at 12 and now addicted to masturbation, help
Q. am a boy aged 19 and single.when i was 12.my brother took me to his friend.he was a man.when we get there.the man sent my brother to market.while i was in the house waiting for my brother.the man came closer to me and he took my hand into his ...
A. 11 April 2013: Dear OP,
I agree with so_very_confused and R1.
One problem is this bad memory of the man that introduced you into masturbation in such a terrible and confusing way. No child or teenager should learn about sexuality this way and I am really ... (read in full...)
I know my self esteem is low. But his list of "RULES" is so long. What should I do about his verbal abuse?
Q. Dear Cupid I know the post is long, please read it through and help me. I have been with this person for 3 years, I cook, clean after him, work and pay 3/4 of expenses at home, get him nice gifts for his birthdays and Christmas, never ask...
A. 11 April 2013: Dear OP,
If you've been strong enough to put up with all this for three years, then you are strong enough to make it without him.
Since you never got anything from him, you're actually independent already. You've got a job that can pay your exp... (read in full...)
He calls me whore bitch slut. Blames me for his poor grades at college. Says he'll marry me if I change college to his. What should I do?
Q. hey My Bf is 18 and we are in serious about our relationship....... We have ups and downs. We love each other..... Still virgins Now the problem is 1) He asked me to join in his college. Then I joined in another college of my parents’ choice...
A. 11 April 2013: Dear OP,
I agree 100% with the other agony aunts. Every a**hole can be charming and caring sometimes, as long as everything goes the way they want.. true character shows when there are conflicts and problems. A really good man will accept a differ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend admitted to masturbating to her male friends of hers. Is this normal?
Q. My girlfriend admitted to masturbating to certain male friends of hers. She even told me which ones. I appreciate how honest she is and regret that I even asked. She claims her fantasies don't reflect real desires- that she really doesn't want to ...
A. 10 April 2013: Dear OP,
Most people would never admit any of those fantasies, because they would know how it comes across.. so, I actually can't tell you if this is normal.
But the few people that I've known close enough to talk about masturbation fan... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and hopeless with girls!
Q. I'm 22, I am hopeless with girls. I have never been with one and now I am too scared to even try. I am a male model (physique, underwear etc) so objectively I am pretty good looking at the very least, very hot at the most... which almost compounds ...
A. 9 April 2013: Dear OP,
I read a motivational for singles and it's so true, so I will post it here.
"If you never get rejected, you're not trying hard enough".
Guys tell me I'm pretty, I have no problems picking up someone when at a party. Yet, it already... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and hopeless with girls!
Q. I'm 22, I am hopeless with girls. I have never been with one and now I am too scared to even try. I am a male model (physique, underwear etc) so objectively I am pretty good looking at the very least, very hot at the most... which almost compounds ...
A. 8 April 2013: Dear OP,
.. so you get shy as soon as you find someone really attractive. I can relate to that. If I really like someone, I act like an idiot, I start to giggle, play with my hair, trip over everything, spill my drink, even lose my earrings... (read in full...)
My son isn't exactly discreet in his masturbation habits
Q. My son (16) steals my unders and we talked but I have not talked or to my husband about him putting things in his hind end while he does this. That bothers me so should I worry? It's been a lot of house hold items I unfortunately have picked up to ...
A. 7 April 2013: Dear OP,
When you ask if you should worry, I'm not sure what you are referring to. Do you worry about him being not normal, or doing something unhealthy, or being nasty/messy?
I grew up with two brothers and while they were in puberty, I stumb... (read in full...)
What guy wants an insecure fat girl when he can have a beautiful skinny girl?
Q. So I am quite embarrassed to post my situation here, but I would like to get opinions about my problem. I am 19 years old and being completely honest here, I have never had a boyfriend or even a good guy friend for that matter. I am also overweig...
A. 7 April 2013: Dear OP,
I agree that it might be harder for you to find a boyfriend, but it's possible. Also, there are men who prefer curvy women.
One of my friends is really overweight and she met a great, caring guy online. He's overweight as well and alt... (read in full...)
My husband has these rapid changes in his life and never seems affected by them. What could be going on?
Q. It is going to be a difficult question,because it is not a very common situation . Im not sure what goes on with my husband, but Im suspecting a mental condition, not sure, and also helpless about how to relate to it. Some mental conditions are so e...
A. 6 April 2013: Dear OP,
To diagnose someone with a disorder, you need to be sure that the behaviour is dysfunctional, causing suffering or danger to him or others. His loss in interest of the father role might be seen as causing others pain, but it's not clea... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and hopeless with girls!
Q. I'm 22, I am hopeless with girls. I have never been with one and now I am too scared to even try. I am a male model (physique, underwear etc) so objectively I am pretty good looking at the very least, very hot at the most... which almost compounds ...
A. 5 April 2013: Dear OP,
I can understand it's distressful to be a virgin at 22, because I lost my virginity only at 21.
But you are painting this picture way too black!
First of all, do you really think a girl would mind to be the first one to lay hands on you... (read in full...)
I said I'd have a threesome but now I'm having second thoughts about it!
Q. My Fiance and I have decided to have a ffm Threesome, we decided to use an Escort for it. My fiance had Threesomes before with his Ex GF, it is my first one. Also I'm not BI not into other females at all. But know he likes to see the Bi of the ...
A. 5 April 2013: Dear OP,
I agree with the others that you shouldn't do it if you have second thoughts.
And on top of that, I would like to criticize that you both seem to think it's okay to hire a prostitute.
Do you really think this experiment is going ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my penis size and it's getting in the way of my relationship
Q. I dont wanna write an essay but i feel as though i need to fill you guys in all the details. I've been dating my girl for over a year now. We've known eachother for 13 years. She says shes the happiest shes ever been and so am I. We are very muc...
A. 4 April 2013: Dear OP,
First of all, you can be proud of yourself for recognizing the problem and looking for help. Counselling is a good idea, and couple therapy might be an even better idea.
To me, it sounds like you have some self-esteem issue and that y... (read in full...)
My husband abuses me. I love this man. what advice can you give me please?
Q. Have a problem with my husband... We have 2 children boy and the girl. When he’s drunk he will call me nasty names and sometimes beat me. I even slept at hospital twice. He says bad things to our daughter and tell my daughter you are not...
A. 4 April 2013: Dear OP,
The only advice I can give you, has already been given three times: Leave him. You are irresponsible towards yourself and your children, you are dependent on this terrible person who excuses his mistakes with witchcraft when it's actually... (read in full...)
Because of my loose vagina my boyfriend thinks I have cheated on him! What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend has been complaining that my vagina is now lose and accuses me of cheating and I have never cheated on him. I'm so confused and hurt cause this has affected our relationship so badly what do I do pls. Secondly we've been having issues o...
A. 3 April 2013: Dear OP,
Your boyfriend sounds emotionally unstable, irrational, insecure or just mean. I don't know what made him so distrustful or why he acts out his aggressions on you, but you need to stop letting him treat you like this.
Maybe you relax mo... (read in full...)
I like watching lesbians, does that mean I am one?
Q. I enjoy watching lesbians, but I love boys and think they are so sexy, I only want to be with boys but sometimes when I'm watching the lesbians I want to be in that situation for just a second but when I think about it again when I'm not watching it ...
A. 2 April 2013: Dear OP,
Don't try to guess your sexual orientation in real life from your preferred porn :) What works out in a movie doesn't necessarily feel good in real life and what looks boring on screen might feel great in bed. However, sex with women is... (read in full...)
Does he love me even though he says he doesn't?
Q. Last school year my friend and I began to hook up. After he graduated he left for an internship across the country and left me in our hometown. While he was there he would say I miss you etc... When he came home before going to college we hooked u...
A. 1 April 2013: Dear OP,
I don't know if he does, but I would say that either he just likes to hook up with you for the fun, or he has some inner conflict going on why he doesn't want to be with you. Maybe he's afraid of commitment, maybe you mentioned love and... (read in full...)
He's so rough that I find myself sore afterward
Q. Whichever way I say it, it will sound awkward so here goes.. I have only had a sexual relationship with one guy, as many I didn't really know what to expect blah blah blah so I pretty much let him do anything. He was quite rough especially when ...
A. 30 March 2013: Dear OP,
I think a lot of guys don't have the slightest clue what to do "down there". They suck at fingering and also at oral. They are also reluctant to use condoms or even incapable of putting them on by themselves sometimes. If you want to ... (read in full...)
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