He's so rough that I find myself sore afterward
Q. Whichever way I say it, it will sound awkward so here goes.. I have only had a sexual relationship with one guy, as many I didn't really know what to expect blah blah blah so I pretty much let him do anything. He was quite rough especially when ...
A. 30 March 2013: Dear OP,
I think a lot of guys don't have the slightest clue what to do "down there". They suck at fingering and also at oral. They are also reluctant to use condoms or even incapable of putting them on by themselves sometimes. If you want to ... (read in full...)
Am I with the wrong sign?
Q. I'm a Scorpio and in a relationship with a Virgo. We have been dating for about 5 months now and it’s been fun and kind of romantic. We've known each other since childhood but he decided to tell me he was in love with me during my 17th birthday ...
A. 30 March 2013: Dear OP,
There is no scientific evidence that star signs have anything to do with the actual personality.
Focus on those reasons that don't have anything to do with the star sign. The guy you're with doesn't seem so much in love and asks for thr... (read in full...)
Why do women treat nice guys badly?
Q. hi, to all you women who say you want to meet a nice guy, but when you do, you treat him like sh.t, but a bad guy comes around you fall madly in love, you all say thats not true, but think about it,a nice guy you know what hes going to say, what hes ...
A. 29 March 2013: Dear OP and agony aunts,
I always read those "nice guys are sooo poor" discussions because I feel I need to add something why we women like so-called bad guys. It's all a little stereotypical and b/w, but hey, maybe it helps us all to understa... (read in full...)
What did he mean "the moon is not blue"??
Q. Hi, This is only a short question but could do with peoples opinion. I was speaking to a guy I like but I didn't think he liked me back so I made a joke about setting him up with a friend of mine and he said "no you would be better but the m...
A. 28 March 2013: Dear OP,
I have no idea. I even googled it and didn't find anything. The only explanation I found that a blue moon means, when there's two full moons in one month.
And that "Once in a blue moon means occationaly or "Every now and then", becau... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my cousin and don't want to get over it
Q. I've fallen for my cousin. I don't know how it happened but we ended up at a family birthday getting really drunk and just hooking up. We've both come out of serious relationships and I thought it'd be a one off but it keeps happening. I know its ...
A. 28 March 2013: Dear OP,
I somehow get the crush-on-your-cousin thing. I don't know why, but cousins seem to be some a perfect mix between looking familiar but still unfamiliar enough so that they are attractive. Cousins are fascinating to us when we are still ki... (read in full...)
She says she knows what she wants and won't settle for less, is this why she's still single at 42?
Q. So I have been dating someone that is 42,never married and no kids.She is a very smart person,has a great job,has alot to offer.She says that she wants a relationship and hasnt been in too many.Then tells me she has dated alot but they only seem to ...
A. 27 March 2013: Dear OP,
My experience with dating is: You always know the red flag - in hindsight. When it's gone wrong, you find so many reasons why you should have noticed it was going to fail. When somebody hurt you, you look back and think "I should have kno... (read in full...)
My husband jacks off with other men!
Q. My husband jacks off with other men I just found out he has been doing this for years. I'm shocked to find this out. Even more shocking, are all the sites where married men communicate and set up times to jack off together. He says he will sto...
A. 26 March 2013: Dear OP,
First of all, thanks for starting this thread - I never knew men would actually do something like that when they are grown up.
While I can understand your shock, I would recommend you don't make too many assumptions or harsh judgem... (read in full...)
Does the depth of a woman reveal if she was sleeping with another person?
Q. I have been having sex with my lady friend for over 15 years and I used to be able to hit the back wall of her vagina because she used to say it hurt when I went to deep we had broken up for a little while she said that she did not sleep with nobody ...
A. 26 March 2013: Dear OP,
No. It does not mean that. I have the same problem and it depends on what stage during the intercourse the man goes "deep". And also it depends on the sex position. ... (read in full...)
Are women put off by skinny guys?
Q. I'm a skinny lad and I was wondering is this a turn-off? I mean I know some girls like guys to be teddy bears but is there really any market for us skinny guys? I'm 5'11"/180 cm and 143 pounds/64 kg and feel as though I'm not bulky enough for women ...
A. 24 March 2013: Dear OP,
There is a market for everything. And the body itself is not always that important, it's also your attitude and how you present yourself. If for instance you always wear old xxl-t shirts with comic figures on them plus some jeans that don... (read in full...)
I am a fem dom. Can I convince my man to be my sub?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a very attactive and girly girl feminine woman. I appreciate the beauty of a woman but am not sexually attracted to women. I am sexually attracted to men but I will not allow a man to have intercourse with me in a traditional ...
A. 23 March 2013: Dear OP,
If you love him, don't CONVINCE him of anything. Tell him your wishes and accept if he can or can't fulfill them.
If he's a public school crossing guard, he could lose his job for showing up as a sissy. Maybe he could wear some ... (read in full...)
Is my hesitation about online dating justified? What must I keep in mind if I try online dating?
Q. I have just come from a long term relationship of two years. I got over it but ran into a old friend and his new girlfriend, who took pity and bought me a couple beers. This other women was fantastic, good looking, smart and had a good sense of ...
A. 23 March 2013: Dear OP,
I agree with you - go to the pay sites. I don't know about the american sites, but in my experience, going for the more expensive sites is the best option. Quality has its price. The free sites are the place where you will find dodgy pe... (read in full...)
Is my hesitation about online dating justified? What must I keep in mind if I try online dating?
Q. I have just come from a long term relationship of two years. I got over it but ran into a old friend and his new girlfriend, who took pity and bought me a couple beers. This other women was fantastic, good looking, smart and had a good sense of ...
A. 23 March 2013: Dear OP,
I'm kind of a long-term online dater and so far, I've never had a really dangerous situation or anything like that.
But it's a weird social experiment sometimes, because you meet people that you would never meet, otherwise. So th... (read in full...)
How do I confess to my wife and my children that I have had countless affairs and 3 children came from these affairs?
Q. im not in the best of health and im trying to find the lord and confess my sins. just not sure how to tell my wife who im separated from that i wasnt as innocent as she thought. we got married in the military had a son and daughter and i let her ...
A. 22 March 2013: Dear OP,
I don't think it really matters how you say this, there just IS no simple and easy way to make a confession like this. It will be awkward, painful and sad anyway.
So, don't think about the best time to approach her or the best way to ... (read in full...)
"The one"???
Q. How do you know if someone is "the One"? Just generally....
A. 21 March 2013: Dear OP,
When I fall in love at first sight and think "this is THE ONE".. the man/woman usually later turns out to be a terrible narcissist who loves himself more than me. So, if I always followed my "feelings" and my heart whenever it has some... (read in full...)
I want this creepy man in my art class to back off, but I don't know how to tell him how. Suggestions?
Q. Hello nice people of this site! I take drawing lessons weekly with a group of people. They are fun and I really enjoy it, but recently a new guy has joined the class and he's the problem. He doesn't talk to me, he doesn't talk to no one a...
A. 21 March 2013: Dear OP,
I agree that you shouldn't be aggressive, but you need to be clear and specific(!!) and make sure that you say that you don't want this. If he still continues to approach you, you can tell your teacher or eventually sue him for sexual h... (read in full...)
I can't accept that my husband was in prison for a sex crime but the families all give me a hard time!
Q. I've been married 20 years, my husband has been a troubled person for the majority of those years, we now have 2 adult children. 6 years ago my husband was sentenced to 6 years in jail shortly after his conviction, I learned that he was doing time ...
A. 21 March 2013: Dear OP,
The other agony aunts all said the right thing, so I have more nothing to add than another voice of support for you.
If he went to jail for six years and hid all the facts of the process from you, this man must have done something h... (read in full...)
Can you get sick from cuming in someone?
Q. So my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. I was topping and the day after he said he felt like crap. Can you get sick from cuming in someone?...
A. 14 March 2013: Dear OP,
The problem is not that he came inside you, I can't imagine that.
Maybe he suffers from postorgasmic illness syndrome? That means, some people feel really bad after sex, they get headaches or in a depressed mood.
You can also read... (read in full...)
Do men get anxious about heterosexual anal sex?
Q. I am wondering if it is common for men to get anxiety about heterosexual anal sex. I recently had it with my girlfriend for the third time and she was the one who became quite forceful about it. It freaked me out a little at the time. I thought ...
A. 8 March 2013: Dear OP,
By "heterosexual anal sex" - do you mean sex with a woman and you are still the active/penetrating part - or do you mean sex with a woman and you are the passive/receptive part?
By forceful, do you mean she has a strong desire to ge... (read in full...)
How do I end the relationship with a woman who has nothing?
Q. I have been with this girl for 14 years I use to love her but now it's gone. When I met her she was basically homeless living in a shelter. She has always been mentally unstable at times and I have found someone i think i love. How do i put her out ...
A. 6 March 2013: Dear OP,
I would find it fair, if after 14 years of relationship, you give her some time to find a new place and help her sort out her situation before you ask her to move out (I assume you both are living at your place). A break up like this mig... (read in full...)
How to test my gf for being a sociopath
Q. Ok so I can't really tell if my girlfriend is a sociopath or not, I know all the symptoms and read ALOT about the subject but I can't tell if in emotionally in denial or maybe she just had a bunch of bad boyfriends in her passed and has always been ...
A. 5 March 2013: Dear OP,
Obviously, you don't have any real ground to believe your girlfriend is a sociopath and you lack the diagnostic skills you need in order to confirm your suspicion.
No one who really is serious about psychology can give you advice on ho... (read in full...)
Men: Would you date a woman who won't give oral sex?
Q. I do not like giving blow jobs at all. I could live my life quite happily never having to do it again because for me its not really a pleasant thing even if my partner enjoys it. I'd rather him miss out than endure my gag reflex telling me how ...
A. 4 March 2013: Dear OP, I am not a man but I myself would really, really mind if my partner was unwilling to give me oral sex. It's my favourite form of sexual pleasure and I think that many people feel the same. Of course it's not tragic to not get everyt... (read in full...)
Am I gay now, if I had sex with my friend once?
Q. Mod note: OP is a male. I'm a young man. Some time ago I broke up with my girlfriend, it was very hard and painful, because we had a long relationship, but I had to end it because she lied to me, cheated on me and did other nasty things. That even...
A. 3 March 2013: Dear OP,
Your biggest problem seems to be your intolerance and your prejudices against bisexual and homosexual people. This puts you in a big conflict because you can't deny you actually liked a tender moment between you and another man.
... (read in full...)
I'm afraid he might reject me because of my body!
Q. I have this guy that I have been chatting with online for awhile now and he has become almost like a boyfriend of sorts. We don't refer to each other as such but the conversations that we have give the impression of two people that really like each ...
A. 28 February 2013: Dear OP,
Body issues or not, I wouldn't want to have sex on a first date (anymore, because I've learnt my lesson..). And no matter how long you both have been communicating online, this will be your first real date. Isn't this a bit of a rush, to... (read in full...)
I don't like him but I don't want to hurt him by breaking up
Q. ok so i been dating this boy for 2 weeks and i feel so embarrssed like everyone says im to pretty for him and that he is ugly and stuff and i just feel sad and im not attracted to him either and he is in love with me and im afraid if i break up with ...
A. 28 February 2013: Dear OP,
Let me tell you this from experience: Never date someone out of pity or in order to not hurt his feelings. This never goes well. If you don't have true feelings for someone, just let it be.
No matter if ugly or not, people want true lo... (read in full...)
I need help overcoming my addiction to prostitutes
Q. Hi I've been seeing prostitutes for 15 years. It started off out of boredom. I have always had a strong sexual appetite, I started masturbating from a young age. Every time I use a prostitute I beat myself up about it. At first I had protecte...
A. 28 February 2013: Dear OP,
Listen to chigirl and iamheretohelpyou.
This thing is way too big and has gotten out of control for you to fix over some internet advice. If you've had this habit for 15 years and couldn't stop even after you promised you would, you w... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin. But due to my thoughts I'm worried that I might be becoming a sex addict. Should I be concerned?
Q. Im 17 I'm a junior in high school and I have a problem. My prob is I think I might be a sex addict....so here's the catch: I'm still a virgin. I have never gone farther than making out and even that I have only done that two times. Both with t...
A. 28 February 2013: Dear OP,
No, I really don't think you will become a sex addict.
Sex has a different value and meaning in each time of our lives and as a virgin, it's very natural you're curious about it and fantasize about it a lot and wish to try out. And it'... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm disgusting to my boyfriend, why won't he make love with me?
Q. I’m a 29 years old man and I’ve kind of a love problem. I’m gay and I’ve a boyfriend, he’s 25. We’re together a bit more than a year and I’ve to say it has been the best year of my life. He’s perfect, he’s that kind of person I’ve always wanted to ...
A. 28 February 2013: Dear OP,
There are two options.. either he doesn't feel comfortable having sex with you in particular, or, what I think is more likely, he has some serious problems with intimacy.
The fear (?) of having sex and the feeling of not being ready,... (read in full...)
Can one waste so much time thinking about the ex that one could miss out on what could be true love? how can one stop dwelling on the ex?
Q. Bit of a general question here, but if you are trying to get over an ex, how are you supposed to know when to give up wondering and hoping? What if you decide to give up and then you never rrally find true love because you were meant to be with the...
A. 26 February 2013: Dear OP, I would say you should give up wondering and hoping immediately after the break up. And you should never look back. Take your time to grief, no matter if there's a new crush or not, in a year. Of course, after a break up, there ... (read in full...)
Married friend is mad at me because I told him I won't get messed up with a married guy.
Q. Hi everyone. I will make a long story short. I am friends with a married guy. We work together. We are attracted to each other but have not crossed the line. Recently I opened up to him that I was involved with a guy who was married once and...
A. 26 February 2013: Dear OP, You did the right thing. You made clear you won't get involved and you got out of this thing before things got really difficult. Now, of course the man is upset and hurt.You can't turn down someone and expect them to be simply happy a... (read in full...)
Is he bored with me? I caught him yanking off in bed next to me!
Q. I have been in a relationship with a man who was married for over 20 years. The last 7 years it was a sexless marriage. We happen to have sex very often but there are times where I find porn on his phone and have caught him a few times masturbati...
A. 26 February 2013: Dear OP, I can understand you don't want him to watch porn or masturbate when he's next to you. In general, I think porn consumption and masturbation don't have to be a sign of sexual frustration. I wouldn't worry about not making him happy... (read in full...)
The one thing I always wanted was passion. Just broke up. Am I asking too much? Wanting passion in a relationship?
Q. I was wondering if the idea of real romance like in the movies is really impossible to find in relationships? Of course I realize they are only movies but a girl can dream right? I always hated romance movies because I think yeah right! But ther...
A. 25 February 2013: Dear OP, No one can answer for you if you will find the one-of-a-kind love. However, I just want to warn you about believing too much in romance movies. They usually start when people get to know each other and stop when people get together.... (read in full...)
Would a guy text you every day if he just wanted sex?
Q. Hi, Would a guy text you every single day if he was just after sex. Me and this guy ( i know him yrs as were in the same group of friends years) had a drunken kiss at christmas. He had been trying it on a few times over the last couple of y...
A. 24 February 2013: Dear OP,
I don't know this man, but from my experience: Yes. Yes it's possible that a guy texts you every day just because he wants sex.
Guys don't think like women. They don't think: Hey, isn't this a bit ridiculous, to text the girl all the... (read in full...)
My girlfriend snores really loudly. How can I raise this sensitive subject, and not hurt her feelings? Because I can't get proper sleep myself in this situation.
Q. Yikes! I've got a bit of a small problem, but it's still causing me some issues. My girlfriend snores really loudly. It makes it almost impossible for me to sleep. I toss and turn. It's not pleasant, and is getting to the point where I don't wa...
A. 23 February 2013: Dear OP, Yes, it's a sensitive topic and of course, no woman on this earth will want to hear she snores. However, it's better you talk to her about it. Like always: What you don't talk about becomes a bigger problem over time. If you're not hone... (read in full...)
I resent my girlfriend because she's hot and I'm not!
Q. I'm a horrible person. I have a really great friend. She is by far the kindest and most sincere and loyal friend I have ever had. She's such a true friend that I truley.think if it came down to it she would throw herself in front of a car to save my ...
A. 23 February 2013: Dear OP, Jealousy shows you what you want. You want attention and you want to be attractive. So, instead of putting her down, imagine ways to feel more beautiful and attractive. Throw away those contact lenses, it always looks stupid and by th... (read in full...)
He knows I'm straight, so could I be misinterpreting his actions?
Q. I’m a young guy and I’ve kind of a bizarre situation. I’m a student and I’m living in a flat share together with another guy. He’ s a wonderful person, we have much in common and so we became friends very quickly. He’s also gay, but that has never ...
A. 22 February 2013: Dear OP,
I could imagine the guy has a crush on you. You were very nice to him and cared about him when he was in crisis, so he feels comfortable around you and safe.
It shows that you are a really nice person.
If I was you, I'd try to talk... (read in full...)
Why do ladies not have any respect for men who treat them right?
Q. Ladies, you always complain about all the guys who mistreat you, so why then, do you always mistreat the guys that dont? Why dont you have any respect for guys unless they are bad to you?...
A. 20 February 2013: Dear OP, No matter how long this myth persists, it's not true like that. Women generally wish to be treated well, however, they sometimes fall in love, then they get treated badly, but they still hang on. Because love makes you do crazy ... (read in full...)
Am I cheating on my b/f because I'm depressed and its the one thing I can control?
Q. I've started cheating on my partner, not because of anything he has done, we arent having problems and i'm not bored or anything. It's to do with my past, I've had a lot of problems and depression over the last 2 years or so. (I've never cheated ...
A. 17 February 2013: Dear OP, I don't want to judge you and yes, maybe cheating gave you a feeling of control. However, it's sad that you break up with him now, as a result of this. I don't think cheating on him was worth it. You already lost some people in your l... (read in full...)
Don't want to care what people think, but I do, what should I do?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts, I'm a 17 year old girl, and I've recently got talking to a boy. He's lovely and hilarious, and I'm really beginning to like him. But there's a problem; he's autistic. See, this isn't a problem to me, I really COULD NOT CARE LES...
A. 16 February 2013: Dear OP,
First, I would spend some time with this guy together until you are very sure about your feelings towards him. And his feelings towards you.
If you both really work out as a couple, there will probably this feeling: "You and me agai... (read in full...)
I'm so depressed about the size of my penis. I'm very depressed
Q. Hello i have a really big problem with myself im so self councious i cant live in peace this started 4 months ago when i started going out with my girlfriend she is a really nice person i love her so much but i have an issue. not long ago we start...
A. 16 February 2013: Dear OP,
First of all, you have an average sized penis.
Second, girls are not that obsessed about penis size. Especially since penis size is not related to sexual pleasure. Most women don't orgasm through in-out stimulation of the penis, but o... (read in full...)
My wife wants to have a child, I dont. What should we do?
Q. I’m 31 year old man and I’m having a trouble in my marriage. My wife ( she's 32) wants a child, I don’t. We are married for 4 years. We discussed this subject many times before our marriage. I told her I never want to have children and asked whether ...
A. 15 February 2013: Dear OP, I hate women who tell other women fairy tailes like "just get pregnant, he'll love it in the end".. Maybe they read that in some glossy magazines. It's so stupid and I'm sure it's ruined more than one relationship. Maybe she still... (read in full...)
My younger boyfriend told me I'm ugly, stupid and I'm not smart enough for him! How do I cope with this?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years tod told me that i look ugly, im stupid and i dont measure up to him and he wants to break up. We had problems before like he never spent anytime with me, always ignores me and never responds to my mails or texts. ...
A. 14 February 2013: Dear OP, The solution is pretty obvious: This man's toxic to you so YOU have to break up with him. You struggled way too long to please this man and he's not treating you like he should. The time to be nice and patient and waiting for him to chang... (read in full...)
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