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writes:I have this great friend and we have gotten really close this year. I feel like our friendship is effortless and we could work as a couple but there are a few issues. I feel so shallow saying this but i can't stand the smell of his breath. I have givenhm gum and hinted at the smell but its still really bad. Also he puts alto of grease in his hair and then wants ne to touch it. I get repulsed by it. He really likes me and i like him as a friend but ican't take it to the next level because of the bad hygiene. Like it grosses me out to think about a kiss. Am i sallow for thinking this. Should i get over it. Am i playing him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2013): Sinus infections and tonsil stones can both cause terrible breath. He needs to see a doctor. He might need antibiotics.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 February 2013):
 I don't think you are shallow... grooming and self-care is critical
a couple of things.
if his oral care is not up to snuff then we know what the problem is... however if he brushes and flosses then the bad breath may be from his stomach or even his tonsils. I Had a very bad case of bad breath and it was because my tonsils were so diseased they were dying and causing the odor... once I Had my tonsils out (at 31) the problem stopped.
DO not hint... tell him point blank... that while you really care for him, you are concerned for his health...
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/bad-breath/DS00025/DSECTION=causes to give you ideas of what could be causing the bad breath...
as for his hair and the grease... you could say I would love to run my fngers through your hair but it's so well done and in place with your hair pomade I would hate to wreck it.. let's take a shower and wash it and dry it so it's ok for me to mess it up...
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reader, when nothing goes right go left  +, writes (12 February 2013):
 No you are definitely not shallow by not liking this and if you like him and feel that it could go further if it wasn't for this you need to get your point across to him and just explain how you about him and the
problem. Because you have done everything else so you just neex to be honest with him.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (12 February 2013):
Dear OP,I completely agree with the others. I know it's very hard to tell someone but you're not shallow.Maybe others have noticed his breath as well. And although he won't be happy to hear this, you're probably doing him a big favour. He can still decide to do nothing about it, but at least you've given him a chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2013): First, you need to be BLUNT, and tell him outright that his breath STINKS. Some guys simply do not take "hints" and totally miss the point. As for his hair, again, be blunt and tell him that it grosses you out. Don't be playful, tell him without laughing and make him repeat it so you know you've been heard.
You are not shallow, there is NOTHING to get over and I see nothing to indicate that you are 'playing' him. Do him a huge favor and tell him...
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reader, hotmommanell +, writes (12 February 2013):
Uh, hell no, you're not being shallow at all. Being disgusting to touch and kiss is a problem when it comes to an intimate relationship. The time for hinting has past. Anyway, guys don't respond well to hints at all. Frankly, I think you need to screw up your courage and tell him exactly what you wrote here. That you really, really like him but the greasy hair and stank breath are an obstacle to a relationship. Good luck.
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