How do you define "cheating"?
Q. Hello everyone? My question is very simple, and i'm just interested in knowing what your opinions are on this. What do YOU class as cheating? I'm going through a situation right now where i'm wondering whether the lad i'm close to is 'cheeting' o...
A. 4 January 2013: I agree with the other agony aunts that cheating is defined individually by each couple.
Cheating is for me "breaking the rules" or not caring anymore while pretending to do so. It's emotional disloyalty, lying, hiding your true feelings... (read in full...)
Premature Ejaculation. Where do I go to get help? Who can help fix this? Because my Gf is getting sick of sex with me.
Q. My gf and I have been sexually active for about 2 years now, but lately she seems so bored of with sex. I mean she seems to have enough. I gave her long breaks from time to time and no im not trying to force it on her. Its just that when ever we...
A. 4 January 2013: Dear OP,
Well, there are many online resources that have tips for curing premature ejaculation, for instance this one:
http://www.askmen.com/dating/dzimmer/14_love_answers.html
So I think in time you will find a method that works for you.... (read in full...)
What am I supposed to be accomplishing through sex?
Q. In every magazine I have come across, whenever they write about sex it always has to deal with orgasms. from this I have the perception that if I am having sex with a woman she has to orgasm every time otherwise I won't be a real man and she will ...
A. 3 January 2013: Dear OP,
That's a very interesting question and I guess there are many answers.
Sex is not a sport or a competition or a job, so it's not about an accomplishment, really.
In a relationship, it's a way to express your feelings with your partn... (read in full...)
I am attractive to men so why don't they ever approach me?
Q. Please don't take this in a wrong way and call me conceited and superficial,I'm putting the problem as it is.. I am 23 year old woman, and by god's grace I have the charm, personality, the beauty.. I can walk into a room and have men look at me, ...
A. 2 January 2013: What I'd recommend is that you find out who you find attractive. And then, if you spot a guy that you would like to be approached by, send some clear (!) nonverbal signals. Make eye contact, smile, run your fingers through your hair.. maybe ev... (read in full...)
I'm 20, I'm a virgin, and I'm ALWAYS horny. Help?
Q. I'm 20 years old, I'm a virgin and I'm horny ALL THE TIME. This only became recent, I have been masturbating for a few years now, maybe 2-3 times a week, sometimes I'd go weeks without doing anything. But at the beginning of December, I was see...
A. 1 January 2013: Oh I know how you feel - there are phases when I'm very very horny and it's really hard for me to think about anything else. Being a virgin makes it maybe worse for you, because there's a huge curiosity and longing in you that wants to be released ... (read in full...)
My wife has not had vaginal orgasms with me and it makes me feel very bad.
Q. I've been married for 3 years. This is my second marriage. I do love wife very deeply and she loves me. She has had many previous sex partners (around 25) and we met each other when she was 40. There is something I can not get over: She does not...
A. 30 December 2012: Dear OP,
Please believe your wife and the other posters. A lot of women don't come through intercourse and it's not because of penis size.
I can come through intercourse if there's some clitoral stimulation at the same time. If you want to c... (read in full...)
Suspicious of my wife. I keep a voice recorder in the house and heard her and my younger brother being over familiar. I am confused.
Q. Hi all, Seeing other posts, I think I can get opinion here. Please suggest for below a thing that occurs in my home. Me and wife, 28 and 24 yrs and are married for 3 years. We have good relationship. But due to some suspicion, I kept voice rec...
A. 26 December 2012: If you ever ask about that, then you will have to admit that you're creepy enough to put voice recorders in your bedroom and drawing room to supervise your wife. And that you listen to private phone calls and conversations.
Which is a very con... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to a prostitute?
Q. I have been single for years I cant seem to meet women interested in me. Women I have dated all dumped me for other people , they all say I am a "lovely guy" but they always see, to go for arrogant pretty boys who usually treat them like crap.Every ...
A. 22 December 2012: Well, to answer your question: No. No you shouldn't. As a woman, I'd rather deal with a male virgin than a guy who's been to a prostitute. Because when a guy goes to a prostitute, I'll think two things about him: 1) He's too ugly/sel... (read in full...)
My inability to orgasm is causing me to not enjoy sex with the man I love.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year. We love each other very much, he's my best friend, he's so caring and we are very affectionate. However, whenever we have sex.....I just don't enjoy it! I find him incredibly attractive, but ...
A. 21 December 2012: Since you were a virgin before and you can orgasm when you're alone... well, maybe it's just a problem between you and your lover. So, no, you're not unable to orgasm. He's just unable to make you come. A vibrator and masturbation is ... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from falling in love with someone I can't be with?
Q. Hi. About a week ago, I posted a question about how I still had lingering feelings for the ex-girlfriend of a friend of mine. I was having trouble dealing with the fact that she was in a loving relationship with another guy and had simply chosen to ...
A. 21 December 2012: You can't stop your feelings. But you can stop torturing yourself by keeping up the communication with her and keeping her in your life, so you can always see what you are missing.
You are like somebody who wants to start a diet and then puts his... (read in full...)
He's secretly masturbating when we're in bed and he thinks I'm asleep!
Q. I really don't know where to start - my boyfriend and I have been together a little more than ten years we've been through a lot together and we also have two beautiful children together, anyways about three years ago i started some medication that ...
A. 18 December 2012:
Of course, none of this is your fault. You were on meds and it wasn't possible otherwise.
But I think he's secretly holding a grudge against you, because first he had to shut down his sex drive and survive three years without it. He's got use... (read in full...)
Does female ejaculation smell like urine?
Q. Mostly ladies responses are needed here but men you will be helpful too..... I am new to adult toys and have only had sexual intercourse with someone once. Not trying to be explicit so I will be as conservative about this as possible. Wak...
A. 17 December 2012: Dear Steelers,
I can confirm that female ejaculate doesn't smell or taste like urine. Actually, it didn't taste like anything, maybe water, or sex flavoured water, or a little sweet, like litchee juice. Since I wanted to know the taste of my ejac... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being rejected by girls. What is it that I'm doing wrong with girls?
Q. girls, a question for you... why is it that girls can complain so much about things guys don't do, but then when a guy does those very things girls cry? i have been in four relationships, still in the fourth one as of now. but every girl i've...
A. 14 December 2012: Hi,
I don't know what it is.
But I suppose it's not because you remember birthdays and are an understanding person. Those are a huge plus in my opinion.
When I read your post, it sounds like you are desperate to please other people. But de... (read in full...)
I'm not comfortable with the behavior between my husband his adult niece.
Q. My husband is 49 and had recently reunioned with his niece. They have lost contact for 30 years when she was 9. I was very happy for both of them until recently, I accidentally found their email exchanges when she call my husband daddy, and he calls ...
A. 10 December 2012: I can understand that this is a weird situation, because he seems to contact her so often and they seem to be very intimate. Also, they are only ten years apart and she's almost as old as you, so there could be attraction, or some sort of nostalgia, ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend pressured me to throw out all things from my past but she lied and didn't do the same!
Q. After 6 months I bowed to constant pressure and threw away all my old photos, holiday photos the lot (except the ones of my son). My girlfriend was adamant that they belonged in the past, was nothing to do with "us" and told me she had thrown all ...
A. 9 December 2012: I don't know what's with her but this story is sad and it will continue in a sad way if you let her treat you like this again.
SumGuy says it like it is, she' s going to turn you into one of those guys. Shadows of men, bossed around by some scr... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my mistress, but can't divorce my wife.
Q. Hi all. I just registered to this forum after googling to see if I'm alone. I am in the same situation as many of you and I'm completely devastated. I have been married for six years and have two wonderful kids with my wife. over the past six yea...
A. 6 December 2012: Dear OP,
You don't have to be exactly like your dad. You can still make a difference by not completely ignoring your children and showing them you care. When your kids will be grown up, they won't only remember your divorce but also the years th... (read in full...)
Are the disabled unlovable?
Q. How does anyone get a girlfriend? I'm 24, almost 25, and every woman I ask out rejects me. I've tried over and over again. I use a wheelchair, but I'm finishing a degree in Web design/development to start a career in Web design and my specific ...
A. 5 December 2012: Hi there, No, the disabled are not unlovable and I wouldn't take the rejection as proof of that. Most men get rejected many times by women and vice versa, if not, there wouldn't be so many posts about it by non-disabled people here on DC. As a... (read in full...)
I am at a complete loss about my sexuality. Please help!
Q. I'm a male just under 25 and I am completely at a loss to who I am as for the past couple of years I have been confused about my sexuality. I don't know if I am Straight, Gay, Bi or simply going through a phase or perhaps suffering from hocd. I mu...
A. 5 December 2012: Dear male,
I don't know if I can give you the certainty you want, I can only share my thoughts. Maybe you find them useful, maybe not.
When I was in my early teens, I liked boys. Then with 17 I fell in love with a girl and was only interested ... (read in full...)
I just found out that my boyfriend got another girl pregnant (before we got together) and dumped her.
Q. I just found out today that before I was with my boyfriend, he had sex with other girls, got them pregnant, told them he would marry them If he had too then left them. I'm so confused this is the first guy that I have really seen having a long ...
A. 5 December 2012: Wow. That guy is a serial liar.
Your instinct about him - fear that he will disappoint you - is totally correct, so you're not naive at all.
I can understand that this truth hurts so much that you wish there would be some sort of explanat... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my mistress, but can't divorce my wife.
Q. Hi all. I just registered to this forum after googling to see if I'm alone. I am in the same situation as many of you and I'm completely devastated. I have been married for six years and have two wonderful kids with my wife. over the past six yea...
A. 5 December 2012: Oh my god. I feel so sorry for your wife and your lover who have your babies and whose life you've messed with so much. I am sorry but I'm a woman, it's impossible for me to feel more compassion for you than for them.
The damage already has been... (read in full...)
I need help getting back to normal life after a traumatic experience
Q. Ok a long time (few years) ago I made out and got intimate (no oral/vaginal sex) with what I thought was a women but it was a mtf transsexual with full surgery. That was a traumatic experience for me and I have been depressed about it ever since. I ...
A. 4 December 2012: Dear male,
First of all, let me say I'm sorry about you feeling so bad after this and suffering from the event so much.
But from what it sounds you're completely confusing your own shame/repulsion/trauma with the opinion of others.
As a... (read in full...)
What is the key to being single and happy?
Q. I am a 24 year old female. I have a good head on my shoulders, I'm career oriented, and for the most part, lead a very balanced and fairly busy life. But ever since I started dating in high school, I've noticed that I've never really been happy when ...
A. 4 December 2012: Thank you for this post, because I feel just the same. And I am so happy somebody said that they feel like this, too. I loved being in a relationship and since I am single, I am not as happy as I used to be. I was a good girlfriend, I lo... (read in full...)
Have I slept with too many guys?
Q. I lost my virginity a few months before I turned 16. Since then I have slept with four guys. The fourth one just happened about two weeks ago? I really worry about becoming loose and never being able to find a partner. Some of my old friends have ...
A. 3 December 2012:
Dear OP,
First of all, I agree with anonymous, that your vagina won't become loose because of this.
Second, I agree that sleeping with many partners doesn't make you a bad person or morally low.
But you need to find out why this makes ... (read in full...)
A friend has asked me to have a threesome with himself and another male friend of his. Should I do this?
Q. A man I have liked quietly for some time and known for over a year reently messaged out the blue with a few out of character messages. We have always just been casual friends as he is with many people. These messages were very come onish and at ...
A. 2 December 2012: I would NOT do it. Nothing against experiments. If you enjoy a threesome, why not. BUT threesomes should be something spontaneous and funny, no? A weird idea that pops up all of a sudden, between three curious people, not something proposed via text... (read in full...)
I don't want to have sex with her, I just want to play with her breasts.
Q. Hi, I'm 20 years old and in college. I was leaving a restaurant and I saw a young mother who was in my college class last semester, and I'm fairly attracted to this woman and she remembers me from class, so I went over to talk to her. She was still ...
A. 2 December 2012: Dear CEP -
before we can give you any advice - have you ever had sex before? Or touched breasts or played with breasts? Did you ever have a girlfriend who let you feel her body? Did you enjoy it?
I ask this because maybe if you have never had se... (read in full...)
To those who are married/in relationships: Do you masturbate? If yes, why?
Q. Hello I want to ask people who are married or in relationship if they masturbate, if yes how often they do it and why? Thank you....
A. 29 November 2012: Well, I'm still single for the moment. But back in the days where I was in a relationship - of course I masturbated. Whenever I felt like it. Sometimes I didn't for a month or so, but then again sometimes I did it several times a day. Why? ... (read in full...)
Why do I act this way?
Q. hey guys im so confused i dont have any attraction to any girl nor guy when i get close to a girl i sorta hype myself up and think i like that girl but i have no true feelings when i actually think about it please help me try to understand (im a 15 ...
A. 29 November 2012: Hi dear,
Don't worry if you don't have any attraction to a girl for the moment. There's this old song, "you can't hurry love" and it's true. Love happens (so does attraction). If you check all the time why you're not attracted to this girl or ... (read in full...)
Is my behavior my fault, or the fault of the person who caused me to behave this way?
Q. SIMPLE QUESTION: if i tell someone (in this case a family member) not to do or say a certain thing b/c it'll get me really angry, and then they go ahead and say or do what gets me angry anyways, and i blow up and get mad, am i at fault, or ...
A. 29 November 2012: I agree with the others that you're responsible for your actions.
But, now that we established this (don't forget!), maybe I know a bit what you mean.
My father used to say very provoking things to my little brother and he always got very ang... (read in full...)
I feel that I am not the best lover for my wife
Q. First of all, I give my excuses for my English. I am from Argentina. I got married 3 years ago when I was 44 and my wife was 42. We met each other one year before our marriage. The thing is that I am extremely jealous of her sexual past. She insis...
A. 29 November 2012: I absolutely agree with Eddie. This is obviously a woman who had other possibilities to get married, but she chose to be with you, so I am sure she says the truth about being very happy with you.
I can't have a vaginal orgasm and that doesn't ... (read in full...)
I showed my online boyfriend a fake picture. Now I'm afraid he wont accept the real me.
Q. 3 years back i met this sweet guy through online.Hes very sweet, after 3 years of chatting i never expect i will fall in love with him and he told me he fall for me too. he always say im the sweetest gal he ever met he has my number and we talk and ...
A. 28 November 2012: You have to come clean and be honest.
Yes, you will risk this relationship, but if you meet him one day and he sees the real you without any warning that the picture was fake, then it will be over anyway. And what is weird, that you never even chat... (read in full...)
All my life I've felt like something was wrong with me,
Q. This isn't really about relationships, but it kind of does. All my life i've felt like something was wrong with me, and the more I think about it, the more i realize that I'm a loser, I'm a pathetic loser and nothing I do seems right, I know th...
A. 28 November 2012: Hi dear, Please stop bringing yourself down so much. Maybe you are together with the wrong kind of people who don't get you. Maybe you're sometimes a bit socially awkward? That's no reason to kill yourself, because I can promise you, it's possib... (read in full...)
My partner is wanting to move out because he feels numb...
Q. My partner want to move out... he has been in depression for 2 years... He has started counceling but after 4 months quit, because he felt the councelor was really not helping..He is taking 150 ml of zoloft. He has been saying that he is numb, not ...
A. 27 November 2012: Hi dear,
I suffered from depression and numbness as well, it almost ruined my relationship so I know how it feels to be like this. I couldn't feel love, only guilt and shame and feeling completely useless.
The other ones are right, tell him ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friends fiancee she's being cheated on?
Q. I've recently found out that my friend is cheating on his fiancee. It wasn't a drunken one night stand either. He's been meeting up with this girl for quite some time now behind her back. I don't know his fiancee, but since i've found out, should I ...
A. 27 November 2012: Hi,
I was/am in a similar situation. I know that a good friend of mine has cheated on her fiancee twice- and what's really bad, she cheated on him with two of his closest friends.
I have to admit I didn't tell him. I just felt like I would get... (read in full...)
I have trouble reaching climax and ejaculation.
Q. I'm a fit and healthy 21-year-old and everything's fine in my life sexual health wise but there is only one problem- I can't ejaculate. I can feel everything fine, but even during unprotected sex I just can't climax. I used to masturbate in the face ...
A. 27 November 2012: Hi,
I'm not a guy so I don't know if this is a more common problem, but I just googled your problem and it seems there's 2 possibilities why you can't ejaculate:
1) neurological problems (nerves that don't work, certain diseases like pa... (read in full...)
I've been told my ex is probably mentally ill and dealing with it is a nightmare. What do I do next?
Q. I have been separated from my husband for nearly three years. With all the difficulty we managed to maintain a friendship for the sake of our daughter but also as the marriage failed i believed we did care about each other. We both went on saw other ...
A. 27 November 2012: Hi dear,
I'm sorry you find yourself in such a difficult position. You know, I've heard some stories like this before.
All I know is that borderline personality disordered people tend to think very much in black and white, so right now you are ... (read in full...)
Is this healthy? is she game playing? My Controlling girlfriend keeps giving me ultimatums or threatens that we'll break up
Q. I have a girlfriend and I'm soon to be divorced with my estranged wife. My girlfriend has been acting weird lately.... She gives me ultimatums to do X or we break up. When I don't do X, she gives me the complete silent treatment and ignores all ...
A. 25 November 2012: Is this relationship doomed? Your GF doesn't act like a grown up, she treats you like you're guilty of everything and your only job is to prove to her your love. Why do you always try to get this woman back in your life when she's so hard to p... (read in full...)
I have very high standards regarding what I find attractive, I mean ridiculousy high. Considering the fact I'm not exactly a prize material myself, it's not really fair and maybe even unhealthy. How do I lower them?
Q. I've been thinking about what caused my mind to be wired like this and I think it's because I've been bombarded with beauty since I was a kid. As long as I can remember my mom talked to me about what it meant to be beautiful and always point...
A. 25 November 2012: Hi dear, your biggest problem doesn't seem the relationship towards men, but the relationship with your mother and yourself. It sounds like you had some horrible moments in your life. And I can understand somehow that if you torture yourself... (read in full...)
I'm a secret cross dresser. Wife is threatening divorce and friend wants me to perform sex act on him! What should I do?.
Q. Hi, I'm a married guy of three year's and been a secret cross dresser for 15 year's. The problem is my wife has caught me and has said if I don't stop then she will divorce me. When I spoke to a friend about it he asked to see me dressed up, he a...
A. 25 November 2012: Dear i-need-help, Yes, you withheld your love for crossdressing from your wife, and you shouldn't have. But I guess that maybe you hid this from everyone until now, since you know very well that a lot of people find this weird. I have a feti... (read in full...)
Does an abusive man ever change for the better?
Q. Does an abusive man change? I was in a relationship with a guy for 3 years who was emotionally, verbally, financially, sexually (and in the end) physically abusive. I have been away from him for months now and moved back home with my parents to heal ...
A. 24 November 2012: Hi bubblygirl,
Listen to Karlos5021, he's so right. People don't change unless they recognize their responsibility and want to change.
Maybe it will look like he's changed for the new girl in the beginning, because it seems that in the beginnin... (read in full...)
How do I talk to the cute girls at the coffee shop without coming across as creepy?
Q. I go to this coffee shop alot to study and there is always a couple cute girls there and i always want to go up to them and talk to them but i don't ever know what to say to not seem like a creeper or a weirdo. any advice?...
A. 24 November 2012: Hi dear,
If I was you, I'd just have them get to know you gradually. Like, maybe one day you coud ask them for a pen or something, then borrow it, bring it back and say thank you. No big conversation, just so they can see you and realize that you... (read in full...)
My small boobs are spoiling my relationship !
Q. Hi everyone. I am in a very confused situation and I need help. Please take time to read and any help would be appreciated. My bf and I are in a relationship for the last 4 years. We both love each other madly and deeply. We want to get married. ...
A. 23 November 2012: Hi dear,
I've got 32B and first of all, that's not small, it's average and I like my boobs. If a guy told me that my boobs are too small for him and was looking at big breasted women all the time, I'd just do what everybody else has already ... (read in full...)
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