I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 13 July 2014: Dear OP,
If I leave aside the moral issues here, I feel sorry for you. I can sense that you would actually like things to be different, but you feel like you just don't have any other chance. This makes you sound cynical and takes away your mot... (read in full...)
I want a child and can't gamble more time on dating and ending up alone. Should I have a baby with this guy even though he doesn't want a relationship?
Q. I have been sleeping with a guy from work he is 32 years old and I am 38. and it just keeps going on and on and he says that he doesn't not want a relationship and he cannot be my boyfriend yet we spend weekends together and I go to his parents for ...
A. 26 March 2014: Dear OP,
You might need to decide what you want the most: Good sex, a long-term partner or a baby.
You can keep on with the good sex right now, but then you can't have the baby (or else the guy will dump you).
You can have the baby, but then y... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be anxious after becoming engaged?
Q. Did I just make a huge mistake accepting a proposal? I've been dating a wonderful man for about six months, and he just proposed yesterday. I love him, and I feel like I can see myself having a happy life with him. I am freaking out right n...
A. 26 March 2014: Dear OP,
I think it's normal to be a little anxious, but you also have some real reason to worry, because to be asked for such a strong commitment after only 6 months of a relationship is quite a lot. Especially after a divorce: You already ... (read in full...)
Does sex always have to be with someone special?
Q. Hey, people!!!! Haven't been on here for some time! You seriously can't understand how bored i was. anyway, i've gotta question that's not a problem, but it'd be nice to have some opinions. so basically, my friends and i were having an argument...
A. 24 March 2014: Dear OP,
Since you asked for opinions, there I go:
I think sex doesn't always have to be with someone special, meaning a long-term partner or someone you're in love with.. but it should always be with someone you find attractive and l... (read in full...)
Why won't he dance with me?
Q. My husband to be dance competitively in college - salsa, tango and ballroom with his ex wife for many years. We've been together 3 1/2 yrs and not once has he taken me dancing. Our wedding is this summer and I don't know how to deal with the first ...
A. 23 March 2014: Dear OP,
"Clearly I assume" - so you don't know. You don't know if he doesn't want to dance with you. And even if you did know that, you still don't know why. It's probably not because he thinks you're unattractive, or else why would he marry yo... (read in full...)
I am already pregnant. So how do my husband and I handle his parents who flipped about the pregnancy because my husband is disabled?
Q. I need some advice on how to deal with the things going on in my life at the moment. I Will tell u the back story. My husband and I were involved in an accident a few years ago and it left my husband significantly physically disabled and I'm now ...
A. 23 March 2014: Dear OP,
I am so sorry to hear about this.
I suppose your in-laws need some time to let this sink in, because apparently they didn't know you were planning on having a baby and underwent fertility treatment, so they must have thought you ... (read in full...)
Are my friends right? Is my boyfriend not treating me right?
Q. Dear Cupids out there, I really really need help :( please help me ...This is going to be a long post.. But I'm really lost at what to do. Ilove my boyfriend very much. And iI'm quite sure he loves me tpopular. He tells me he loves me. Ho...
A. 22 March 2014: Dear OP,
Thanks for your update.
LOVE is not just some sentimental feeling that has you stick together. Love is actions and it's way more than words. If he says he loves you, but is too lazy to make any effort to keep you - that's not love in ... (read in full...)
When is it going to be my turn in dating?
Q. Hi, Well, here I am, a 25 year old woman and I have never had a relationship with a man, in all these years have never even held a man's hand. I don't know what I can do to improve my lot in life, because I feel completely rejected by the entire m...
A. 22 March 2014: Dear OP,
Chances are you're not doing anything wrong. Some people just have a harder time finding someone. But here are some thoughts of mine about how to improve your odds:
1) Finding a boyfriend may greatly depend on the number of single... (read in full...)
I hate seeing this woman hurt and string my friend along. Is there anything I can do to help her?
Q. I need some advice. I have a friend who I am really close to. We share a lot with each other and have the type of friendship where we can speak openly. Recently she told me that she felt she could always come to me with a problem because I was ho...
A. 22 March 2014: Dear OP,
You're a great friend to have! Someone with open eyes. If you were my friend, I would want you to be honest.
I'd recommend you don't say what you're thinking, in a way which is too obvious, just point out that some things seem odd ... (read in full...)
I realize what he did makes him sound bad but he's a nice guy, do you think he likes me?
Q. I have liked this boy in my year for about 3 tears now and I really like him and sometimes he gives me signs that he likes me back but then he also flirts with other girls, he looks at me a lot and smiles at me a lot and we have loads in common ...
A. 21 March 2014: Dear OP,
He sounds like a "bad guy" type. So, I don't think he would reject you, but probably have a good time with you.. then have sex.. then dump you. Like he did with that other girl. You might have a connection or chemistry, yes.. but he d... (read in full...)
Are my friends right? Is my boyfriend not treating me right?
Q. Dear Cupids out there, I really really need help :( please help me ...This is going to be a long post.. But I'm really lost at what to do. Ilove my boyfriend very much. And iI'm quite sure he loves me tpopular. He tells me he loves me. Ho...
A. 21 March 2014: Dear OP,
How do you know your boyfriend loves you? By looking at his actions, because they speak louder than words. Is he making you feel good, trying to make you happy? Is he acting respectful and looking out for you?
From what you're telli... (read in full...)
It's early days, but after just two dates - were his actions charming or creepy?
Q. Hi Agony Aunt folks I have a question , So I met this guy online we had 2 dates so far he is a cop and seems very nice a lot different form the last guy I dated I have had bad luck lately in the men department and seem to end up with abusive men so ...
A. 21 March 2014: Dear OP,
First, I think it's good to be on-guard when it comes to men, but there's the possibility of over-doing it and overanalyzing harmless actions.
From my point of view, it's too early to judge the guy as potentially abusive or creep... (read in full...)
I feel like my dreams are dying ...
Q. I'm 29... finding myself and becoming skilled at something... discovering my talent or passion... if it was going to happen, it would have happened by now? I feel like my dreams are dying, because I don't have any special talent or quality to de...
A. 15 March 2014: Dear OP,
From what I read, you are gifted, blessed even, with more than enough talents and skills. It takes practice and perseverance for every artist or person to develop and learn, to get to that place where you find your niche. The niche is... (read in full...)
He uses his past as an excuse for all the drama
Q. Hi, I'm 27 years old and been dating a 37 years man, He's physically been there for my daughter and I and very kind and sweet to us but he has an mental issue where he always use his past for excuse for, I loved him, but I think it's time to move ...
A. 15 March 2014: Dear OP,
I was reading your post and at first, I was thinking "good for you, let him go!". But then I came to the end where it says that you actually hit your boyfriend because you were angry at him. And physical violence is not acceptab... (read in full...)
I have a history of dating flakey guys, have I done it again?
Q. Dear cupid, I recently met a guy. He is 33, good job, we get on well. however, he has a kid with his ex - the kid is only 1.5 years old. He was with his ex for over 4 years. I don't have any experience dating someone with a kid before and do...
A. 9 March 2014: Dear OP,
I have never dated a guy with a little child, so my advice here is limited.
I can only give you an opinion.
The points 1-3 that you listed don't indicate "flakyness" to me. Relationships break up, even with kids, even if both parties... (read in full...)
Am I just extending my heartbreak?
Q. Me and my girlfreind who I loved very much broke up last week. Safe to say I am devastated. She told me her feelings just were not the same anymore. She felt she loved me but only as a freind and she was not in love with me. I personally think...
A. 9 March 2014: Dear OP,
Sometimes, you can fight for love. If there are obstacles in the way, like long distance, disagreeing family clans, different cultures etc.
But you can't fight for a love that's just not there, is unrequited, gone.
You can't fight t... (read in full...)
Hairy as, I am so hairy its embaressing!
Q. Im 15 and am VERY hairy, it is a genetic thing, now i can handle the hairy legs, arms, feet, hands, face but i have no idea what to do down there. Its very out of control, in the sense that it spreads, its not thick but its black and i cant wear ...
A. 9 March 2014: Dear OP,
I agree with the others that if your growth of hair is really out of control, you might see a doctor about it.
If it's just a cosmetic problem and you neither want to shave nor wax, I could recommend trying one of those new IPL th... (read in full...)
I am insecure about my body ........
Q. I really need help on overcoming my insecurity and body image issues . I have been married almost twenty years and am now separated . I have met someone and am extremely nervous about getting naked with him . I know he has been with women who have ...
A. 9 March 2014: Dear OP,
There is no magic recipe about body confidence, but my advice is that first, YOU accept your body as it is. You can't change or hide your age or the fact that you've had four children. But would you want to do that? Those are the traces o... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend of 2 month its too soon too marry?
Q. I'm 23 plus and my guy lives close to our neighbourhood is 29 plus. we've started dating each other getting to two month. we both love and care for each other so much and now he is asking me to marry him which is too early. and also my parent never ...
A. 8 March 2014: Dear OP,
Just tell it to him like it is. His idea to marry after only two months of dating is quite head-over-heels and it's better to ask for time. If your love is strong enough, it will last without the ring, if it's not, it's well better y... (read in full...)
Nude pantyhose or sheer black? Help!
Q. I am a female in her early 30's. my boyfriend and I are going on an overnight cruise out of NYC this weekend. I bought a "dressy casual" dress. Green top and lace bottom with a white pattern under the lace. I have black closed heeled shoes. My legs ...
A. 5 March 2014: Dear OP,
I agree with Alice and SVC, I'd wear a nude colored pantyhose. The black pantyhose would probably look weird with the white skirt.
Have fun on your weekend!... (read in full...)
I'm the 30 year old virgin and don't want to be the 40 year old!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 31 and still single and I don't want to be the 40 years old virgin. It's not like I haven't been trying. I took other people's advices, read books, I even tried using those cologne that makes a person likes you. But none of t...
A. 5 March 2014: Dear OP,
No, I didn't mean for you to become a gangster and go to jail. That was not what my advice was about. I actually wanted to encourage you to try harder to meet new people. Which would require you to go out to different places and chat to ... (read in full...)
I'm the 30 year old virgin and don't want to be the 40 year old!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 31 and still single and I don't want to be the 40 years old virgin. It's not like I haven't been trying. I took other people's advices, read books, I even tried using those cologne that makes a person likes you. But none of t...
A. 4 March 2014: Dear OP,
My advice is simple and I bet it's not the kind of advice you want to hear, but it comes from the heart:
Just try harder.
So you read some books, used some cologne, took some advices, tried online dating (probably a free site, s... (read in full...)
Girls, would you date a guy who isn't funny?
Q. Girls say all the time that they want guys who are funny, well the truth is, that not everybody can make everybody laugh and be the life at the party. Some guys like me are not funny or sarcastic and generally don't have a sense of humor. I'll n...
A. 4 March 2014: Dear OP,
I don't need a guy to be "funny" in the sense that he has to entertain me or make me laugh with jokes or wit. But I really appreciate it if I can have some fun with the man, for instance if we can both find something to laugh about. T... (read in full...)
What does "trying too hard" mean in the context of dating?
Q. Hi cupid I was wondering what "trying too hard" refers to when a girl/guy is pursuing a match or maybe trying to date? What are the ways to know if you are trying to hard and how does it come out as a big turn off ? Cheers ...
A. 3 March 2014: Dear OP,
"Trying too hard" for me, it means a guy who is not himself, but trying too eager to please me, entertain me or impress me, especially in the beginning of a relationship/dating phase.
Over the years, I have become increasingly... (read in full...)
My man wants to sleep with the traveling chick we picked up in MY van...
Q. So me (24) and my boyfriend (42) pick up a traveling girl, we helped her break up with her boyfriend. Well my BF had been talking about bringing another girl into the bedroom with us... I'm not really into sharing and I warned him I might hurt her ...
A. 3 March 2014: Dear OP,
I am wondering why you want to hit that girl and call her bimbo.. it's your boyfriend (or man-friend, seeing he's so old he could be your dad) who's the ass here.
He's using you and a broken-hearted girl who's trying to get over her ... (read in full...)
Am I feeling scarred by women in general or am I just gay?
Q. Hi Todd here, I posted a comment a few weeks back but only got one comment back, admirable comment, but only one. You can check out my initial question at this link for more info: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/am-i-really-...
A. 2 March 2014: Dear Todd,
I was surprised when I read your post, because it remembered me of myself. I'm actually bisexual, but because I never felt like guys like me or vice versa when I was younger, I've spent a long time in my life as a lesbian. By the way,... (read in full...)
Do guys really find squirting to be a turn-on, or was my partner just too polite to say it grossed him out?
Q. I'm in my mid 20's and I've known I was a squirter since I was about 19/20 due to masturbation. But despite having a couple of sexual partners and previously being married, I have never felt comfortable enough to squirt with any partner despite ...
A. 2 March 2014: Dear OP,
I'm bisexual and a squirting woman is a huge turn on for me- I totally believe your partner! Believe his words, too! I love getting everything wet and messy because it shows how much pleasure the woman is feeling!
Besides, if it's NOT ... (read in full...)
My marriage was a huge mistake but I'm too scared to get out of it
Q. I'm too scared of what will happen after I leave my husband that I can't bring myself to do it. I got married at 21, and he was almost 24. We had been together for two years when we got married and had lived together for a year and a half. I thought ...
A. 28 February 2014: Dear OP,
You cry a lot and you lack sex drive - is it possible that you're clinically depressed? If so, I'd suggest you come back to strength, health and a sound mind before you make such a big decision like ending your marriage.
It's not that... (read in full...)
Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while?
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 28 February 2014: Dear male advice-giver:
If women "trade" sex for love, why not "make love" to us?
... (read in full...)
Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while?
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 26 February 2014: Dear OP,
There are two possibilities here:
1) You make women lose interest in sex
2) It's a natural process because your girlfriends' sex drive declines after the first period of being in love, when everything becomes more familiar/re... (read in full...)
Broken up for 1.5 years yet still cry almost every day
Q. Has anyone else ever thought about something an ex did even though you've been broken up for a year and a half? The thing he did was two years ago. I don't want to say what it was. I cry nearly every day. My parents think I'm mentally ill as I ...
A. 23 February 2014: Dear OP,
I have never experienced this, but unfortunately, I have a close friend who is still broken hearted by something that happened 5 years ago. She hasn't gotten over it.
So, I am worried if you keep on like you do right now, you are maki... (read in full...)
Does having anal sex make me no longer a virgin?
Q. I pledged not to lose my virginity until marrige but it has been hard with my kind of personality seeing naked guys and me getting wet. All the thoughts about having sex. I have a guy in my house currently and he has been here for over a week. At ...
A. 23 February 2014: Dear OP,
Why did you pledge to stay a virgin until marriage?
Because it just doesn't sound like you. You are a young, curious and sensual woman and that's okay. Why then not embrace more modern values which actually match your personality?... (read in full...)
I don't want to kiss my BF because of his bad breath! What should I do?
Q. So when me and my bf got together, there were no problems, 'cos we hadn't kissed until three days ago. When we kissed, I couldn't help gagging at how horrible his breath tasted. I didn't tell him, though. So I played along. We kissed regularly and ...
A. 20 February 2014: Dear OP,
This is a very tricky thing, I understand. We are raised to be diplomatic and not to hurt other peoples feelings. And you're afraid he might be hurt and leave. But in this particular case, you NEED to be honest if you want to save the... (read in full...)
Should I ask him out first?
Q. There is this one guy I'm interested in he often sends off mixed signals about his feelings towards me. So I've been thinking about either telling him I like him or ask him out to test the waters. but Im not so sure if I should be the one asking him ...
A. 17 February 2014: Dear OP,
Even here, we still have the "boy asks girl out" rule. And people (in my area) are shy. So I can relate to this question, I know it's uncommon and must feel a little weird.
However - this is also a great chance to stand out! If you reall... (read in full...)
I am writing because I feel so low .............
Q. I'm writing this because I'm feeling so low, and maybe any answers might help. To cut it short, I met this guy many years back, we started off as friends, He lived away from me, but when we met up, it became more than friends. I then found out he w...
A. 17 February 2014: Dear OP,
I've never been in a similar situation, I've only watched friends of mine being in similar positions, so the little advice I can give you, I draw from my experience with them.
First, I can understand why you would fall in love with the... (read in full...)
.Women I am attracted to run when they learn I am also involved with a man
Q. Hey everyone... I'm having some struggles with my sexuality/sexual identity. I am a female, and I am in love with a man. We plan on getting married, we are both very attracted to one another and we're super happy. The thing is, I am also very att...
A. 16 February 2014: Dear OP,
I think your relationship scenario - too bisexual/bicurious partners with equal rights - is the best one to try out the "open relationship" thing. I've met two couples who are like that (bisexual man and woman) and they both said they wer... (read in full...)
.Women I am attracted to run when they learn I am also involved with a man
Q. Hey everyone... I'm having some struggles with my sexuality/sexual identity. I am a female, and I am in love with a man. We plan on getting married, we are both very attracted to one another and we're super happy. The thing is, I am also very att...
A. 15 February 2014: Dear OP,
I am also bisexual, but I feel like I can't have a serious emotional and sexual relationship with a woman and a man at the same time. Maybe if I was older and more mature, but right now I need and want the stability and intimacy of a two... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 13 February 2014: Dear OP,
You've only ever dated few women, sometimes under the pretext of being a study buddy. You've limited yourself to date women of a certain race, probably from a more conservative culture. I think there are very few people who would be succe... (read in full...)
I'm a very sensitive person and I always get drawn to troubled souls. Should I follow my head or my heart on this one?
Q. I have just seen a guy again who I met a year ago. We get on very well and have a connection. I have one dilemma .I am 39 a mother of an amazinh boy. This man is 35 with no permenant job and my gut feeling is that he may be a little troubled. Im a ...
A. 13 February 2014: Dear OP,
To me, it's never "head" against "heart". BOTH of them need to agree on something, in order to be happy. So, if you try to overhear that voice of doubt - that's actively ignoring some important information. Besides.. you said it's HEA... (read in full...)
How do I find a woman who is serious?
Q. Why do women flirt pointlessly? I have had many situations where I meet a woman at her work and she is friendly and flirty. She will tell me things about her son/school/friends/whatever and after awhile I give her my number so we can talk some more ...
A. 12 February 2014: Dear OP,
There is a saying: "If you run into an a**hole in the morning, you ran into an a**hole. If you run into a**holes all day.. you're the a**hole". By Raylan Givens.
Now, please don't get me wrong - I'm not saying you are an a**hole. But ... (read in full...)
I am not getting what I need emotionally from my girlfriend. We have already spoken about it; what else can I do?
Q. Hello to all. I'll jump right to the question. I'm gay and have been with my girlfriend just over a year. I love her with my whole heart, but lately, I've not been getting what I need emotionally, and it's causing me some issues. I'm pretty l...
A. 10 February 2014: Dear OP,
You are not getting what you emotionally need. That doesn't necessarily mean your girlfriend has to learn how to give you more. It can also mean you have to learn how to pick yourself up and have a good time without her.
Talking o... (read in full...)
How do I come out as bisexual to my parents?
Q. I am bisexual. Ive known this fact since like age six. It is NOT a phase . I really like girls and I really like guys. I don't like keeping this from my parents, it just feels awkward. They are straight lgtb allies, so its nnot like they will be ...
A. 10 February 2014: Dear OP,
Since your parents are LGBT friendly, there is nothing to worry about. I don't think there's a rush to come out to them just yet. This is puberty and you have every right to figure things out and to find your way, without your parents ... (read in full...)
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