I told her I was socially awkward and she laughed it off.
Q. I spent a day with a girl I like and her friend. I'm kinda socially awkward and didn't say much to them at all. It was really ridiculous on my behalf. She did say that she wanted to see me again so I don't think I came off too weird or creepy. So ...
A. 28 December 2013: Dear OP,
Just be patient and wait it out. Maybe she wants to see you again, maybe not. Either way, it was brave of you to go and spend a day with two girls when you feel socially awkward. See it as a success, or at least as a good step in the righ... (read in full...)
I am terminally single and want a surrogate baby!
Q. I am 30, straight male, never had a girlfriend or relationship and I have come to a point where I am thinking, I want a baby of my own. I have given up on the prospects of finding a girlfriend. Dating game has always been my weakest point. I have b...
A. 27 December 2013: I quickly want to answer here.
Dear Wiseowle, I agree that todays times, we need more flexibility in defining what a parent, what a family is. And that there are many different arrangements which work out for people, for children. I see that. An... (read in full...)
I am terminally single and want a surrogate baby!
Q. I am 30, straight male, never had a girlfriend or relationship and I have come to a point where I am thinking, I want a baby of my own. I have given up on the prospects of finding a girlfriend. Dating game has always been my weakest point. I have b...
A. 27 December 2013: .. dear Wiseowle,
I just wanted to answer something, because you said some of the arguments are the same as those against gay-parenting. Probably you thought about me.
I lived in a lesbian relationship for 6 years and I was confronted with ... (read in full...)
I am terminally single and want a surrogate baby!
Q. I am 30, straight male, never had a girlfriend or relationship and I have come to a point where I am thinking, I want a baby of my own. I have given up on the prospects of finding a girlfriend. Dating game has always been my weakest point. I have b...
A. 27 December 2013: Dear OP,
please don't do this. Don't start a child's life like this, in a state where even I over the internet can hear your desperation and sadness.
You are 30, as old as me. And my whole intuition tells me, you are not ready to give a baby ... (read in full...)
I said and then she said ..... so whose opinion matters?
Q. Hi, Basically me and my GF had a big arguement over something really pathetic. However I believe her comments towards myself were personal and hating. The arguement was over the tiny statement that I made regarding " I would never include reciepts ...
A. 26 December 2013: Dear OP,
When it comes to the question of keeping or not keeping the receipts, I totally agree with Cindycares. A gift is for the people you give it to. So if they don't like it, you should give them the option to return it. This christma... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me she doesn't like girls anymore then broke up with me
Q. My gf of 6yr recently up n told me she doesnt like girls anymore but she loves me. I asked how is that possible and she said it faded. So we ended up breaking up and getting bk together and she started acting distant from me. I came home fromwrk ...
A. 22 December 2013: Dear OP,
This is a horrible story and I am so sorry for you. Especially it's so unfair that you can't see your daughter anymore. But there's no legal advice that I could give you about how you could change that. Unless you are in a state where ga... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a man loving you unconditionally?
Q. I wanted to ask for an opinion of dating. I used to be in an abusive relationship for five years before enough was enough (called me fat when I was 128 and 5"3 - spit on me controlled me and I gave him everything) I walked away I hopes of finding a ...
A. 21 December 2013: Dear OP,
You've been given great advice. The only thing I want to add is completely ignore your coworkers advice and never complain to them again about being single. Really, women can suck at giving dating advice, they often don't have an objectiv... (read in full...)
Has anyone used a 'safe' option to reclaim self-esteem and then dumped 'safe' for 'hot'?
Q. Hello, Have any of you ladies on here suffered with some depression, low self esteem and insecurities to the point that while seeing a hot man, you can't enjoy it for the endless worrying that he will dump you for someone better? So, you end up d...
A. 19 December 2013: Dear OP-
I've never done that.
But I'm familiar with the impulse of 1) ruin things with attractive people so I don't have to be afraid of rejection and 2) trying to date someone who I don't find that attractive because it's less scary.
I... (read in full...)
What do women in particular think of a guy who's 30 and never had a girlfriend?
Q. Anyway, I want to hear some opinions. Guys are welcome to comment, but I think that girls may be able to offer me some valuable insight as to what exactly my problem is, and whether or not anything can be done about it. I've always been rath...
A. 19 December 2013: Dear OP,
If I like a guy, I won't mind. I've dated more than one guy who hasn't had a real girlfriend and that was never the reason why it didn't work out (it didn't work out, though, for other reasons).
Rejection etc. is very common in online... (read in full...)
Help, how can I fulfill my sexual urges without losing my self respect?
Q. I don't know if you have heard of the relationship advice book 'the rules' but if you have you will understand when I say I'm a strict rules girl. I've been out of my healthy, good relationship for 5 months now, we split due to being busy building...
A. 16 December 2013: Dear OP,
My rule is: KNOW what you want. And be upfront and honest about it. If a guy says "yes" to what you want but gives you something else, you ditch him. That's self-respect.
Your post sounds like you aren't sure about what you want, a... (read in full...)
Is this creepy or flattering?
Q. Hey, everyone. So, I'm having a problem with this guy that I just met. He's a very sweet guy, but sometimes the things he says are just plain overboard! I gave him my number and we started talking. But, he came right out and said that he liked me...
A. 16 December 2013: Dear OP -
Not wanting to be a jerk is a good thing, but it's not a sufficient reason to keep up a friendship. There has to be genuine sympathy from your side, a genuine interest in his life. Judging from your post, it rather sounds like you pity... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of divorcing my wife because she isn't pretty enough
Q. I will be as honest as I can, so i can have some honest responses.I need some suggestion from people who are on the same shoes or from anyone. I have been married for 3 years. I am 26 and my wife is 24. In my opinion i think my wife looks 6/10....
A. 15 December 2013: Dear OP,
I find this a very good solution. You are being honest and you both try to fix the relationship; however, you've set up a deadline, which means you won't try to reanimate something forever (by which I mean the love between you two). I ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of divorcing my wife because she isn't pretty enough
Q. I will be as honest as I can, so i can have some honest responses.I need some suggestion from people who are on the same shoes or from anyone. I have been married for 3 years. I am 26 and my wife is 24. In my opinion i think my wife looks 6/10....
A. 15 December 2013: Dear OP,
Do you want to grow old with this woman? Do you feel you can work on this issue? Or was the whole marriage just a big mistake that you made in your youth?
In my opinion, it's better quitting marriage now or trying to fix it one last ... (read in full...)
Should I send this letter to my narcissistic ex?
Q. My ex dumped me 6 months ago. A few months ago after I read something on the Internet, I realized that I'm a narcissist victim. I'm trying to move on, but I still think about him a lot. The last time i sent him a message was 2 months ago and he ...
A. 14 December 2013: Dear OP,
It's already been said in very good words before.. don't send that letter. If you send it, it won't help you to let go. You will sit there and wonder "has he already got the letter? did he read it? how did he feel then? what does it mean ... (read in full...)
My husband is angry about my photoshoot even though he was there
Q. Hi everyone. My husband and I are having a difference of opinion and I wanted to get some objective views... so here I am. First of all, my husband (Dave) and I have been married a bit over two years but have known each other for about four years...
A. 13 December 2013: Dear OP,
I agree that technically, nothing bad happened.. in your eyes. But I can understand the whole situation was way too awkward for your husband to handle. Really, a photo shoot with your ex? I am sorry, but this is not cool and will never be... (read in full...)
I want a relationship but my past makes me too afraid
Q. I'm afraid of being in relationships. And I'm now at an age where I think I should have gotten past this already. Please bear with me because I'm going to tell you stuff I haven't discussed with anyone, ever. My self esteem has been low from a ...
A. 12 December 2013: Dear OP,
First of all, I want to tell you that I really admire what you've already done to make your life better. You've accomplished many good things!!
- You were able to survive all the bullying
- You made an effort to improve the grades and y... (read in full...)
I feel like more of a sulky teen than an adult!
Q. hello, hope you can help am living with my boyfriend and we are really happy things are going great, am in danger of sounding like a spoilt brat so please bear with me... my boyfriends ex (a girl he really liked who he dated for a while) is due to ...
A. 12 December 2013: Dear OP,
You are really happy with your boyfriend and things are going great. Hold on to that! He chose you over his ex and if he really minded you "only" have an office job, he wouldn't have dated you in the first place.
The woman might look h... (read in full...)
I'm considering changing my personality to become a jerk in order to date!
Q. So, I've recently, after the same bullshit of "I see you more as a friend", decided to change myself into the complete opposite of what I am now, knowing that it will take a long time. Today I behave like a Gentlemen when dating, red roses as a ...
A. 12 December 2013: Dear OP,
I can understand why you'd feel bitter but please hang on. You don't have to. So many men are on dearcupid and feeling the grass will be greener once they're on the other side.. having changed into bad guys/jerks/a**holes.. that their qu... (read in full...)
Advice on how to mentally get in the frame of mind for sex with him when I don't really want it?
Q. Hi, i need help to resume my sex life with my bf after 9 months of no sex please. We have been together 3 yrs, lived together for 1.5yrs after he proposed out of the blue, and have a gorgeous 11month old who he dotes on. We stopped having ...
A. 11 December 2013: Dear OP,
I don't agree that you should fake the desire until it comes back. Because I can totally see why you don't want to have sex right now. You're tired, stressed out, and having a baby etc. has gotten you emotionally distant from your hus... (read in full...)
Why are gay women so picky?
Q. I am a gay female, quieter, average looking, feminine and looking for same,dating (which makes it harder) friends I don't care. Am not into the bar and club scene, am getting too old for it and am a non drinker and dont feel comfortable around h...
A. 11 December 2013: Dear OP,
Dating women as a woman IS hard! And there needs to be a lot of luck involved to find someone!
Don't blame yourself and your personality for your troubles. You DON'T have to be an amazing superstar. People would admire you more, but wh... (read in full...)
Men aren't interested in dates these days, they just want to shag!
Q. What is wrong with guys these days?? I am a newly single woman on my 30s. I ve been married for many years since I was 21, and have a teenage son. I meet men often, I started going out, but I don't only meet guys in bars, but just randomly ...
A. 8 December 2013: Dear OP,
I have met many men that are really interested in dating and put a lot of effort in arranging for nice dates. How did I meet them? Well, they were certainly not the strangers that walked up to me on the street, in clubs or at bars. No... (read in full...)
I want to tell my fiancée I sometimes wear women's panties, but I'm afraid of what she'll think!
Q. Hello everyone, I've got an odd thing goin on. Basically I like to wear girls panties, but mainly just when I masturbate or at night when goin to bed. It makes me feel more intimate and they are more comfortable than my boxers. I sometimes wear them ...
A. 5 December 2013: Dear OP,
I agree with you that you should be honest and tell your fiancé. You don't want to enter marriage with a secret. You two sound like you've got a good relationship and she might find it weird at first, but she won't stop loving you.
Y... (read in full...)
What does it take to attract a woman beyond friendship?
Q. I am seriously confused by this. No matter what I do, how hard or little I try, how direct or subtle I am about my intentions, women only seem to want to be “just friends” with me. At this point I’m pretty sure I’ve heard it all. “You’re such a ...
A. 5 December 2013: Dear OP,
First of all, I feel for you. I'm bisexual and I'm being friendzoned by ladies a lot, so I know what that feels like.
I don't claim I know the solution to your problem, so I'll just give you some random thoughts on the matter.
M... (read in full...)
I am struggling to accept it for myself
Q. I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I am bisexual, and I'm really struggling. I've always been a big LGBTQ rights activist, done fundraisers and been to gay pride. My parents wouldn't have a problem with me being bisexual, which is not ...
A. 4 December 2013: Dear OP,
I'm bisexual too and I had a hard time accepting this at first. What is really good about your situation is that you have accepting friends, and parents.
You are not lying if you're not ready to come out yet. To me, bisexuality ... (read in full...)
Wife admitted she used to be a prostitute! Should I cut my losses and leave?
Q. My wife and I have been married now for 23 years. When we began dating I realized she was probably more worldly than I was used to going out with. However , I was starting to fall for her, and at 27 I wasn't meeting anyone that came close to her . ...
A. 4 December 2013: I don't have anything to add, just wanted to say this was a really beautiful 5-star post by Code Warrior. I actually copy-pasted this post into my diary so I can read it again for inspiration. ... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong?
Q. I think I am doing something wrong when it comes to dating. Every time I am with a girl I seem to screw it up or the circumstance won't let me advance further. For example, the other day I was in a party and I was hanging with a girl who seemed to ...
A. 3 December 2013: Dear OP,
Rejection IS part of being a man and approaching women, that's just how it is. If you pity yourself and hide every time it happens, you won't get anywhere.
It also sounds as though you're quite indecisive around women. You gain their a... (read in full...)
If you were me, what would you do?
Q. Hey Cupids, Not sure what I am asking for here but I wanted to share something with you. I have a friend who I was close with for the last 3 years, let’s call him Ed. We became close friends after issues happening in our lives made us need suppo...
A. 30 November 2013: Dear OP,
If I was you, I would appreciate the new friend without forgetting the old one. You don't have to chose.
It's right, you probably can't solve Ed's problems. But you can still let him know you feel for him and you care, right? I mea... (read in full...)
Wife admitted she used to be a prostitute! Should I cut my losses and leave?
Q. My wife and I have been married now for 23 years. When we began dating I realized she was probably more worldly than I was used to going out with. However , I was starting to fall for her, and at 27 I wasn't meeting anyone that came close to her . ...
A. 30 November 2013: Dear OP,
I am sorry about what you're going through. I would be devastated about this, not because of the prostitution, but because she lied to you for such a long time. And because she made you move out of state without telling you why.
My adv... (read in full...)
Can a woman orgasm too hard?
Q. Can a woman orgasm too hard? I really want to push my girlfriend to the limit but I don't want to hurt her, if I kept stimulating her past her usual limit will it give her more pleasure (more orgasms) or is there only so far a woman can go? ...
A. 26 November 2013: Dear OP,
If she feels scared and sickish it's definitely time to back off! But that's not because this is her personal limit of pleasure and she's scared to burst with orgasms, it's just that YOUR technique was too harsh and made her sick.
... (read in full...)
I've never experienced intimacy with a person and don't know how to.
Q. Hello My problem is I’ve been rejected by girls sooooo many times in my life that I’m no longer able to be attracted to them. I literally don’t like people anymore and I don’t know what to do. And if someone shows interest in me I shun them or give ...
A. 22 November 2013: Dear OP,
I am really sad that you have to go through this and from your post I can tell you are very exhausted and you feel helpless right now.
There's not the one good advice I can give you here, because if it was that easy, I am sure you coul... (read in full...)
I feel I need to warn other women on the dating website about this aggressive jerk
Q. I need help dealing with a situation. About 18 months ago I met a guy. He was fine and gentlemanly. On the fourth date, he got quite intimidating and clearly wanted sex. He got lairy. I was scared and intimidated but luckily as he did not have ...
A. 21 November 2013: Dear OP,
I think you already did enough.
In the end, if the guy wants to be aggressive towards women, he will be so. Whether he meets the girl in a bar or on a dating site. Even if you were able to remove him from this site, he most likely would... (read in full...)
Things have changed so much because of her illness -- can we get back to where we were?
Q. I need advice as am completely stuck. I'm in a long term lesbian relationship that for the past year has been incredibly difficult. When I first met my partner she was my ideal woman. Literally the moment I met her I fancied her. She was li...
A. 21 November 2013: Dear OP,
First of all, wow, you actually managed to stay around such a depressed partner and help her through it all. That's not something everyone could do. I can totally understand why after months of almost being a nurse/therapist/mum to her, ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to believe all lesbians are of the lower class and are unmotivated without ambition. Where are all the stable single lesbians?
Q. Why is my dating pool so tragic? It's like all the women I've tried to take serious were going nowhere in life. I don't judge never did but today I realized they all have the no drive in common to be and do something greater in life. My first chic ...
A. 20 November 2013: Dear OP-
I'm not from the U.S. but in the time when I was dating women, I found that there are indeed some very troubled women who identify themselves as lesbians. I also met other women, however, academics, artists, nurses, teachers, police o... (read in full...)
Is it too much to kiss on the first date?
Q. I went on a first date last night.Met online and exchanged a few messages over about a week. Went to two different bars, had some good conversation and laughs. He walked me home and then leant in for a kiss. We kissed passionately for 45 mins ...
A. 17 November 2013: Dear OP,
The are plenty more fish in the sea of online dating. Throw this one back to the ocean, it doesn't matter whether deep down he could still be a good person. You already had a bad experience, you want to stay on the safe side from now. Don... (read in full...)
Don't want drama. Have not talked to FWB since condom broke. So how do I tell him I'm pregnant?
Q. Soo I feel really stupid here but I don't know what to do.... I was in this FWB things for a couple months we used condoms but had an incident when one broke and 9 weeks later here I am pregnant. Problem is I haven't talked to him since the condom b...
A. 16 November 2013: Dear OP,
No matter how you put it, there will be drama over this pregnancy. You can't avoid that. There's no "easy way" to bring up this kind of news, just say it, doesn't matter how awkward you say it. Better now than later. Your FWB won't be... (read in full...)
New to oral and looking for some tips
Q. Hi guys, need some advice…I feel a bit of a soppy fish at the moment….I have recently started dating this woman, we have slept together a few times and shes more experienced than me but I find it difficult to 'go down on her'. I'm not really sure ...
A. 15 November 2013: Dear OP,
Great advice has already been given and got me slightly horny just by reading :).
When I had my first girlfriend, I had the same feeling, like I didn't know what I was doing.
A simple rule of thumbs for me is, there are two things... (read in full...)
Rooming situation is destroying me
Q. Help! I am stuck in a roommate situation with a former best friend, but living with her has made literally everything she does annoying. We bonded at first about being high strung people back in high school. But she is diagnosed OCD and thus say...
A. 15 November 2013: Dear OP,
I don't know about the law situation as I don't understand who you signed the full lease to and how you could get out of it.
Is there any chance you can get her to move out then? As I understand you are 4 people living there, are the o... (read in full...)
He suggested I share the cost of having his vasectomy reversed
Q. Is it wrong of me to feel like he shouldn't expect me to chip in for the cost of his vasectomy reversal? Things have been getting serious with my boyfriend, we've talked about marriage/kids/etc. He had a vasectomy about 8 years ago. I've read t...
A. 15 November 2013: Dear OP,
I see it like that: This guy shouldn't be pushed to have an operation and pay for it himself, just so you can keep the option of maybe having a child some years from now (or leaving him, or changing your mind about children..). He'd be ... (read in full...)
Am I unintentionally kind of leading him on?
Q. Am I unintentionally kind of leading him on? I've been seeing a man for about 5 months. He's very sweet and has a lot of qualities I love...but I'm not positive I'm "in love" sometimes I feel like I am, and I feel like if he were to say it, I wou...
A. 15 November 2013: Dear OP,
I don't think you've been leading him on so far.. but you're not sure you love him, so please don't say it or don't say it back just for the sake of it.
I suppose you not feeling "in love" could have two reasons..
1) The fact tha... (read in full...)
My partner is very good looking but I have no sexual attraction to him
Q. My partner is the male version of me. Before I met him, I was fully convinced there was no one else like me out there, and that I was doomed to spend my life alone. I'm "different", always have been. I'm extremely introverted, to the point where ...
A. 15 November 2013: Dear OP,
You're asking many big and important questions here.. I'm trying to answer as good as I can.
1) Why do you not get turned on, thinking about your partner, but yet you're attracted to ugly men?
Well, maybe there is no objective scal... (read in full...)
He's gone off sex and I don't know why
Q. My partner has suddenly gone off sex and I don't know why. We've been together for a couple of years and up until a few months ago we would have sex 3-4 times a week. Now all of a difference its once a week maximum. He says hes tired every night. ...
A. 14 November 2013: Dear OP,
He says he's tired, goes to bed early and falls asleep right away. Sounds like a reasonable and honest explanation.
If it really bothers you and you're worried, as Tisha already suggested, bring it up. Not in an accusatory way, ... (read in full...)
| *uphoric29's friends
These are mutual friends, so *uphoric29 has
added them and they have added *uphoric29!
|
