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Question - (18 March 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 19 March 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hey :) I broke up with my 2 year boyfriend, whom I lost my virginity to, about two months ago and a month after I started out with another guy.

We've been having sex too but I'm quite disappointed, and I know it sounds cruel and it's not the most important thing to me but sex is a huge part of a relationship and it's just nowhere near as good.

If I were giving myself advice I'd say give it time :S I didn't realise how much penis size differs but compared to my first, my new boyfriend is tiny and feels nowhere near as good.

In attempst to find a way around the problem, I went on top the second time we had sex but he was so small I could hardly move without it... coming out.

I hate how mean this all sounds but it is still putting me off slightly because I LIKE sex. Any positions you could suggest? xxx

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (19 March 2008):

DoubleM agony auntDepending on how much emotional involvement you have invested in the two-month boyfriend, which would not seem to be too extensive, I am compelled to agree with "Collaroy" that this relationship may be headed "south," as we say in the U.S.A. I'm not sure about the Empire, but an average member on this side of the pond is purported to be about 5.5 inches. Much less would tend to be little stimulus for many American women, but may certainly be fine enough for smaller women. It is doubtful that any position would adequate compensate for a three- to four-inch erection for some women, but please do not tell this boyfriend anything of the sort. Too much cruel brain damage involved there.

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A female reader, yeahsureyoubetcha United States +, writes (19 March 2008):

yeahsureyoubetcha agony auntDo you talk to your partner about what you like? Do you tell him what feels good. Sex is about a whole lot more than just a penis. You can have great sex with a partner no matter what the size. You just have to want the same thing, to get your partner off. The rest is just intention and determination.

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A female reader, velvetluv21 United States +, writes (19 March 2008):

I actually had a very similar experiance once. i stuck with the "smaller" guy for almost a year and I actually got used to it and when I first had sex with my current bf it wasn't great becuase I was so used to the smaller size. I agree size does matter but i've learned you can work with anything. My guy was no joke no more than 3 - 4 inches at the max.

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A female reader, Jargenhunter United States +, writes (18 March 2008):

I agree completely with Collaroy, but I think there is something else that you need to think about. You broke up with the guy you lost your virginity to. Not having that connection can lead to a change in how you feel towards sex. Take this into account as well. Best wishes.

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A male reader, Collaroy Australia +, writes (18 March 2008):

Collaroy agony auntHi there,

Is he really small or just small compared to your previous partner who was big? If he was just your second lover maybe you were just fortunate to have a large penis before? You may just need to adjust to the smaller size.

Because if he is normal sized and you were simply used to a larger penis, then all positions should work well. But if he is genuinely small, then I would suggest doggy style to start with - the vagina tightens up in this position. Also, in the missionary position close your legs when he enters you, this will make it tighter as well.

But you may just have to face it that if he continues to leave you unsatisfied and sex with at least a normal sized is the minimum you need then it might be time to graciously make an exit. Normally I advise in these type of situations that you should always make good with what you have got, use toys to substitute etc, but at your age I believe you have the right to be a little selfish, you are just starting to explore your sexuality and there are many wonderous years ahead of you - why should you have to stay with someone who is not satisfying you? But whatever you if you split up with him , dont tell him its because his dick is to small!

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