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writes: Ive just started sleeping with my bfhe's amazing and we're so close it's amazingand the sex is great,any way i went down on him the other night and he omg he loved it....last night he hinted that he wanted me to do it again which i did happily and we had amazing sex etc...but why doesn't he go down on me?? :(i don't want to ask him i mean it's early days in the bedroom but i really really want him to go down on me.i've done it to him 3 times nowand i like doing it and i don't do it just so he does it to me but i really want him to :Pbut i don't want to ask himdo you think there's a reason why he doesn't want to go down on me?he says i'm gorgeous and stuff and i'm all waxed down there and stuffplease help!! :( Reply to this Question
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 There is always a possibility that he has some kind of hang up about putting his mouth "down there," but he probably simply lacks experience and confidence at his likely age bracket. I think all of us "willing" guys need a bit of guidance from a willing teacher the first few times, and a bit of reading can certainly help and encourage giving it a whirl. There are writings on DearCupid that help educate about techniques.
But in my opinion, oral pleasure is a two-way street, and a sharing between lovers because of the potential ecstasy and intensity that it can provide talented and willing partners. My belief is that getting into the rut of giving, but not receiving, is not a sharing of the pleasures. Withhold the pleasure if he refuses to reciprocate or even try to learn. As "mandy7" suggests, just ask for it - for starters. And guide him to the educational writings if he is willing.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 I agree with Collaroy and Mandy 7. Just tell him that you want oral, too. I believe frank and open communication is always best, even if it seems blunt at first.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (18 March 2008):
 Hi there,
for a lot of guys who arent very experienced ( and this is the litmus test - if he doesnt go down on you he isnt experienced ) the female vagina is a treasure chest that no man can master. So a lot of guys are intimidated by it.
But practice makes perfect, we all end up down there and most of us enjoy it - there is nothing better than seeing your girl being brought to climax through oral.
So just tell him. Pure and simple, after you give him oral tell him to return the favour. If he is reluctant be bold say that he is a brilliant lover but would he let you guide him to the right spots. That way he saves face and you get to ensure that he wont be rummaging around not knowing what the hell he is doing.
If he simply doesnt want to do it, then you will have to revise your position about him being a great lover.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): Hi Hunny
To be honest... You have to be just that sweetheart honest and ask him. Tell him you would love the favour returned that it turns you on hun, I found you a link hope it is of help hunny....
http://www.kissmegoodnight.com/dating-advice-and-tips/get_what_you_want_in_bed.shtml
I could be more to the point but Im sooooooooooo shy use your imagination hunny and jump on him TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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