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writes:i had a one night stand with a guy just over a month ago and now im pregnant. im still in contact with him but how do i tell him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2008): I was in your situation not so long ago, I delivered my daughter in January who was conceived during a one night stand. Telling the father was terrifying, i actually considered not telling him at all...but i did and it was the best thing i could've done! I simply called him up and said we need to meet up, got something i wanna talk to you about. He pretty much figured it out without me having to say a word. You'll feel sooo much better once you tell him and know that you have someone there to support you during a very scary time. I wish you all the best and pray for you a beautiful, healthy baby! Good luck!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): "Hi, remember me? I need money for an abortion."
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): I am the same situation as you I think. I haven't taken the test, yet, but I have been having all the signs. We were a one night stand, but we laugh about it and are friends now. I am going to take the test and if it is positive I decided it would be best to tell him in person. I don't believe in abortion, but, hypothetically speaking, if I were to get one I would still tell him. My plan if I am pregnant is to take him to the park, sit him down on the bench, show him the test, and let it go from there. I'm going to make sure he knows that he is either in or out. I personally had a father who was only in my life when it was convenient, so I won't do that to a child of mine. I know you are freaking out right now so I hope that helped. Good luck!
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reader, lady_km +, writes (24 March 2008):
 heya..im in exactly the same position as you are. im 17 yrs old...nearly 18...and have been going off the rails lately, drinking too much and having one night stands. i associate drink with sex now i think...anyways...i had a one night stand, stupidly unprotected, on valentines nyt and now im pregnant. i have no idea what to do?? im also still in contact with the bloke, but i dont kno whether i want to keep it or not?? im really confused!!just thought id answer your question to let u kno that there are others in the same position as you!mail me if u wanna talk :)good luckxx
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 Hi,
well I can only assume that you are keeping the baby. So you simply ring him and tell him. He had unprotected sex with you so he is equally to blame. You are going to be a single mother so you will need his financial support to help you. By law he has to do it. I assume he is also young so dont take any crap from him, if he tries to get out of his responsibilities head down to the DSS and ask them what your rights are. If need be they will force him to take a DNA test to prove he is the father and then they can make him pay child support.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): Strewth. It's quite simple really - you pick up the phone and talk to him. You say "Guess what? You're going to be a daddy!" How simple is that?
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reader, Yos  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 How do you tell him? You call him straight away and tell him. You are both jointly responsible for this, and he has a right to know, and a duty to help you, whatever you decide to do.
Having said that, you can't force him to want to be a father, so don't expect him necessarily to want to be round if you decide to keep the child.
I also strongly recommend telling your parents if you can, and haven't already.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): You have to tell him and he has a right to know. It takes two so dont put any blame on yourself. talk to him sooner rather than later, but be prepared to have to bring the child up yourself.
take care
xx
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reader, sexi  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 It is his responsibilty too so he has a right to know.I think you should just tell him and do it as soon as possible. Tell him in person.
Good Luck.Mail me if you wanna talk
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