Should I be worried about the text messages she's getting from this guy?
Q. Should I be concerned with flirtatious text messages that my wife gets from an old co-worker? My wife gets flirtatious text messages from someone she used to work with. This person left the company she is with about 12 months ago and they were fr...
A. 26 September 2009: Your wife is having an emotional affair with this guy, and even if she didn't sleep with him, she is entertaining sexual content with another man and that is something that violates trust and fidelity in a marraige. I would question what is the ... (read in full...)
Should I leave the relationship or stay unhappy?
Q. I am forty years old and have been in a relationship with my partner for five years. We have a three year old daughter together. For the last two years we have only had sex twice, and now our daughter remains sleeping in our bed, while I choose to ...
A. 23 September 2009: Find a good counselor and talk to her. Discuss how you feel about your relationship and think about ways of improving the situation. Once you've exhausted all other possibilities, you will feel better about moving on without him. You may also ... (read in full...)
Will a puppy heal my loneliness?
Q. Hey.. umm I have a question. Im 18 years old, i just started college and im about to go away to school next semester. i met this boy in school, and we got together. i fell in love with him and as my first love, i lost my virginity to him. when i was ...
A. 23 September 2009: Well a puppy is no substitute for a baby, but in your case I think it is just what you need. Puppies can give you an outlet; a place to turn your love and affection to that is not as demanding as having a baby. The responsibility will help you ... (read in full...)
Am I just over sexed or is sex just over rated?
Q. im 21, multiracial, mostly black female and my fiance is 31yrs white male we been together going on 3 and a half years and im frusrated because i just want him to have sex with me am i just a hornball because im young or is he just not into my sex i...
A. 23 September 2009: He soundslike a wonderful man! Maybe he just has a low sex drive. Men do start to slow down in their 30's. Is it possible he is on any kind of medication (like high blood pressure pills) which can affect his sex drive...? Perhaps he was raised to ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable in asking him to stop this behavior?
Q. I have an issue with my boyfriend who gives a light kiss on the lips of a married woman every time he passes her. He said it was just a game that they played before he started dating me. This has been over a year and he continues to do this. I ...
A. 20 September 2009: If it bothers you, he should stop. End of sentence. Anything beyond that is disrespectful. ... (read in full...)
I need help to gain confidence in my small breasts
Q. Ok, this is kind of a stupid question. First of all, I don't live in America nor do I live in Europe. In the country I live in, men are obsessed with big breasts. They are just ideal - real or fake, they're just considered better than small ones. ...
A. 20 September 2009: Well don't be so sure you're past your growth spurt. When I was 19, my boobs were 34B. Which was pretty small to me. But in my later 20's I gained a little weight and they blossomed out to 34C, then 36C. Boobs are nothing more than extra fat in ... (read in full...)
Am I blowing this out of proportion? I really want to get a divorce because I feel like this is going to be a never ending pattern
Q. OK well i have been married for two years in october and total time together will be 3yrs. My husband is a solider and we got married before he went to iraq. After seven month when he got a 2 week break everything was fine and loving but he used my ...
A. 20 September 2009: He's cheating on you. Clearly he should not be married right now. He still has too many wild oats to sow, as the saying goes. File for divorce and move on.... (read in full...)
My wife's new work 'friends' are making inappropriate suggestions
Q. My wife and I don't have a problem with us, but we're not sure how to handle her new friends. My wife and I got married very young, 1 year after high school. She stayed home and we have 3 kids, now she started going to work to help pay for our...
A. 3 September 2009: Maybe they are just jealous that she met a great guy and did all the right things, in the right order and they can't resist the urge to mess with her head. As long as your wife isn't easily influenced by other people she should be able to keep ... (read in full...)
Do men over 40 still get hard ons?
Q. I want to know if man over 40 will still have hard on. My husband lost it, and went limp. What is going on?It is hard to know, how common is that,when it happens to you.. You can't see others bedroom life. He also don't care about sex, and he used ...
A. 3 September 2009: Yes men over 40, 50, 60 and beyond can still get erections. But there are a few underlying health problems that can cause this problem to become an issue early in life. High blood pressure, diabetes, depression, certain medicines and alcohol. He ... (read in full...)
Wasting my time and he isn't that interested?
Q. I have been dating a great man for a for a few months now and just recently, a friend of mine mentioned that he was back on the dating website we meet on and he is active. My friend had signed up when I told her how wonderful it was meeting him, she ...
A. 3 September 2009: He is planning his time very carefully if you ask me, keeping you on the shelf until he's ready for girl number one, that allows him to juggle girls two and three without getting too close to any of them. You will have to have a frank discussion ... (read in full...)
We had an affair, he's divorcing his wife but what will others think of us?
Q. In Jan 2009 I moved across Canada to do my student teaching practicum in a small town. for the most part most of the other tacherswere really nice to me and I made alot of great friends. With in a few months of teaaching I started having an affiar ...
A. 3 September 2009: Unless this small town has alot of "open minded" people you are in for the ride of your life. I think your b/f is so in love with you he is blinded by the reality of what you're in for. You could say to hell with what everyone thinks, but is he ... (read in full...)
Crush on friend how do I act?
Q. Here's the story. I'm going into grade 12 and have a crush on one of my friends from camp who is going into second year at university. I worked up the courage to let her know that I liked her, even though I knew that she didn't like me. Although...
A. 22 August 2009: I think you should sort of forget about her. It's not cool for a college gal to date a kid from highschool. It's only cool to date younger men when you're 30. Otherwise it just looks pathetic. Maybe in a few years, she'll be more interested in ... (read in full...)
I can't get erect when I'm with my girlfriend
Q. Okay, I've been with this girl for about 4 months and we just recently got to the sex stage. The problem is, I am erect or can get an erection up until we get naked, then it just goes away. I can get erections around her and when I'm alone, it's ...
A. 22 August 2009: I think you're letting your nerves get the best of you! You say you're not self conscious about your body, but guys frequently DO put pressure on themselves about their performance and subconsciously worry that their penis won't be large enough, or ... (read in full...)
Playing games? Or likes me?
Q. I kissed this guy a year and a half ago but the following night he said that he was drunk that night. I met him a few times since but nothing ever happened and we just talked. I bumped into him in a bar last weekend and he apologised for what ...
A. 22 August 2009: He said he was going away for a month. So don't expect much until he returns, and then you may attempt to book a lunch date, or a date for drinks and see how things go. If he makes excuses or acts distant, I wouldn't contact him after that. He's ... (read in full...)
My feelings about group sex have changed - where do I go from here?
Q. My husband has been aking for us to have sex with another couple for years now. Before we were married I have had 2 foursomes (2 guys/another girl) and they were ok, but the first one ended my previous relationship. I have also had a threesome with ...
A. 22 August 2009: Your husband is basically asking for permission to cheat on you with another woman, and calling it "okay" because you'll be there. Trust me, you will regret this with every ounce of your fiber. So the choice is yours. Leave him with your dignity ... (read in full...)
Damage through prostate massage?
Q. Earlier this week, I gave myself a prostate massage. Since then, I have struggled to get an erection or even become aroused. Is it possible that I have somehow damaged myself? I've never felt like this before. My Penis feels sort of... not "numb"...
A. 18 August 2009: It's funny, you didn't mention anything about your current ? I hope your doctor also checked you for high blood pressure because that can indeed cause the type of problems you are experiencing with your penis and worrying makes it worse(because it ... (read in full...)
How do I obtain an explanation from him about his feelings related to our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months recently told me he did not think our relationship was working out. This is very confusing to me because last week, he said we could not break up because we're both in this for something serious (marriage) and we both have ...
A. 18 August 2009: It seems like he really rushed into the break up rather suddenly. He may be impulsive like that. Men who are kind of emotional (yes they do exist) tend to react rather extreme in certain situations. I'm also tempted to say, you should throw him a ... (read in full...)
Will they grow? Do I have time?
Q. Hi, I’m 17 years of age, going into my senior year of high school. All the girls around me have big breast and I’m a simple 34A... will they still grow? Do I have time? I’m not too confident with my small boobs. Honest opinion and informat...
A. 17 August 2009: Yes there is a good chance they still have some growing to do. The best indicator is to look at the size of your mother's breasts. Some of our breast size is genetic. When I was your age, my boobs were the exact same size. Then at 19 years of age, ... (read in full...)
Would a court take my baby and give it to that monster?
Q. I just found out I was pregnant two weeks ago and I'm only in my seventh week. A week before I found out I was pregnant I broke up with my boyfriend who I had been on and off with for 4 years. Ironically, I was finally through with him for good ...
A. 17 August 2009: The American court system typically rules in favor of the mother unless there is gross negligence or abuse. In your case, I think it's safe to say there's no way your b/f can have your baby taken away from you, but I would be more concerned that he ... (read in full...)
My husband stopped having sexual desire!
Q. I really need some good advice here. I'm having lots of trouble finding it out why my husband stopped having sexual desire. He went to the doctor and they said he is healthy, so it's must be some psychological stuff. Now ,we also went to sex ther...
A. 17 August 2009: I'm assuming he's not on blood pressure medications, so does he still find you attractive?....Maybe you just need to change things up a bit. Do you ever give him a blow job?...Sometimes if you start out like that, he will be able to maintain an ... (read in full...)
What makes a woman want to do that for her man?
Q. This has happened to me on more than one occasion, the chick I could be with, goes down on me, and I'm thinking(assuming really) that she knows what she's doing. It starts off nice, it feels good, I get into it, annnnnd. TEETH. SCRATCH. SCRAP. CHEW ...
A. 17 August 2009: It's all about the tongue and the lips. Your girlfriend should think of licking an ice cream cone. Using her tongue, swirl it around the head and up and down the shaft, then slide it gently into her mouth as far as she can handle without gagging ... (read in full...)
Can I make myself tighter
Q. I feel like my vagina is looser than most womens even though I do kegel exercises everyday and exercise plenty. How can I tell if I am loose? I think I am because I can not feel when my boyfriend cums inside of my vagina, but I can feel him cum ...
A. 17 August 2009: Unless you've given birth by vaginal means, I suspect you are plenty tight. The problem may be the size of your b/f's penis (it may be kind of small?)....another thing that may be causing you to feel this way is too much wetness. If you get super ... (read in full...)
Any experience with the effectiveness of prayer?
Q. I wonder if someone would share some of their experience with me, the effectiveness of praying... I'm not a religious man, yet, but I really would like to see, what God would tell me if I would ask him. Some people has beautiful stories, how pra...
A. 17 August 2009: Those who earnestly seek Him will find him. It may not be bells and whistles, the sky will not part, and there will not be a loud voice that booms from heaven, but you will have an unmistakeable peace in your heart. The confusing thing about asking ... (read in full...)
Depression caused big problems, Break up. Now getting better, need advice!
Q. Got together with my girlfriend about 3 years ago. I was happy and confident then, funny, charming and social, enjoyed going out and having drinks here and there. She fell in love with me. I also fell in love with her. She was similar - also happy ...
A. 17 August 2009: Why wait until you go there? Why not just tell her now. Call her, or sit down and write her a long, heart-felt email message telling her all about the depression and your path to good health. Ask her point blank if she'd be willing to reconsider ... (read in full...)
How do I obtain an explanation from him about his feelings related to our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months recently told me he did not think our relationship was working out. This is very confusing to me because last week, he said we could not break up because we're both in this for something serious (marriage) and we both have ...
A. 17 August 2009: Number one, was either of you drunk at the time you had this minor argument?....Because if so, then he probably acted out of the influence and later felt like an ass (hence the reason he hasn't rushed right over to claim his stuff)....Number two, ... (read in full...)
I'd like to hear about women's experience with implants!
Q. My question is about breast implants and confidence. I have very small breasts which appear very far from one another and no matter what I do they will not grow. Even on birth control they haven't changed in size or fullness and it really affects ...
A. 17 August 2009: From two friends who've had them, yes they feel like foreign objects that seem detached from the rest of you. Oddly enough, you cannot feel a thing when a man caresses the nipples -- completely dead. Their boyfriends also complain that they feel ... (read in full...)
Can you say things drunk and mean them? If so why hasn't he left his gf yet?
Q. I’ve liked this guy for ages but he has a gf so I backed off. We have late night conversations and are fairly close. He gets jealous when I am with other boys. I went on holiday for two weeks didn't see this lad except the odd text which he woul...
A. 17 August 2009: If you like this lad, then give him the ultimatum; Either he ditches the girlfriend to be with you in a more permanent arrangement, or he needs to quit calling, texting and acting pissed off when you're with someone else. WTF?....He's either in or ... (read in full...)
I'm married with a child but I'm still in love with my ex from 10 years ago, who I work with! How do I get out of this mess?
Q. I can't stop thinking about him, I saw him a couple of weeks ago in a new band project I play bass guitar in that my musician friends threw together, one guy who did put it together told me my ex was still in love with me, what am I suppose to do, I ...
A. 16 August 2009: Maybe just enjoy the venue of the gig, appreciate him for what he brings to the band, keep things from going personal. No you are not over him, but he has been with someone for 9 years. Something must be okay with that situation or he would've ... (read in full...)
We both think going down on each other is gross. What can we do?
Q. im dating a guy who was a virgin before i met him. we have basically done everything except oral on me. he tried oral on me once but didnt like it. he thinks its gross because of my natural scent. i told him there is nothing wrong but he insists its ...
A. 16 August 2009: If it doesn't appeal to either of you, then skip it. I don't think anyone should do something they don't enjoy. Sex is about pleasure. So if it doesn't bring you pleasure then skip it.... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to be more dominent when having sex, but I don't enjoy it...What can I do?
Q. I have a sex question. My husband and i have been married 5 years and our sex life has declined a lot. We have sat down at long last and talked about it, which was good... But what came out of it, is now a bit of a problem for me. This h...
A. 16 August 2009: Well I personally think sex should be less about love and more about the raw element of pleasure. Women tend to think in terms of "love-making" which is alot of slow kissing and romantic soft talk, and that just bores most men to death (and some ... (read in full...)
My wife's sex drive is nearly extinct and I don't know what to do anymore!
Q. My wifes sex drive is nearly extinct, I don't know what to do, 9 times out of 10 she states she doesn't want sex when I try to start intimacy, or she has some other excuse. My wife (common law)is a very sexual person, in the first 3 years of us ...
A. 16 August 2009: As painful as this may be, I think your wife has lost interest in you as a sexual mate. I have experienced this first hand, and though it pains me to even type this out, it sounds all too familiar. I don't know exactly what happens to us, in our ... (read in full...)
Is it a problem if my right breast is bigger than my left breast?
Q. please, is it a problem if my right breast is bigger than my left breast?...
A. 16 August 2009: Perfectly normal. When ever we have two of something, there's a good chance they are not exact.... (read in full...)
Older women Vs younger... What do you think are the advantages and disadvantages?
Q. Datin older women, its a fad that's taking over under the radar more than you think. I love older women, between 28 and 39 is awesome, they just know more about what they want and either already have it or are very close to getting it. I have been ...
A. 16 August 2009: Women in the age category of 28-39 are more comfortable in their skin. They're smarter; more interesting because they've done more by this age. And are in their sexual prime. Which means, they like sex ALOT so it's a perfect pairing to find a ... (read in full...)
Orgasms since I was six, is that unusual?
Q. I'm male, in my 30's. And I've been able to have orgasms since I was 6. Maybe even younger. Serious. (Of course I was shooting blanks back then). Is that normal? Anyone else?...
A. 16 August 2009: It's normal. I was masterbating when I was about the same age. Of course I didn't know what it was called, I just knew it felt good. Even babies have been known to have mini-orgasms. Some people are in touch with their sexual side from an early ... (read in full...)
Turning "off" into "on" in the relationship
Q. Hi all, I hope there is someone here that can give me some pointers into turning an on off relationship into an on one. I have been seeing this guy for over 2 years, we get close then he backs off, and it can be weeks before he contacts me again, ...
A. 16 August 2009: It sounds like you are seeing someone who has a serious fear of committment. I think it's time you issued an ultimatum and tell him what you've told us -- That you're tired of being way down on his list of things to do, and him showing interest only ... (read in full...)
Wife tied me up for bondage then proceeded to list all the things I did wrong, and no sex!
Q. hi aunty,I got married for 6 months now..2 nights back,we decided for bondage sex,so my wife tied me down to the bed with handcuffs..intially she teased me and kissed..once I was tied up properly and at her mercy..she slapped me..and then yelled at ...
A. 16 August 2009: That's pretty twisted. This is not a woman I'd get "revenge" from. She does not fight fair. She went to extremes just to make you hear her complaints. Couldn't she have just talked about it over dinner or something? I see marital counseling in ... (read in full...)
Damage through prostate massage?
Q. Earlier this week, I gave myself a prostate massage. Since then, I have struggled to get an erection or even become aroused. Is it possible that I have somehow damaged myself? I've never felt like this before. My Penis feels sort of... not "numb"...
A. 16 August 2009: Well I'll be honest, I don't exactly know what the hell a prostate massage really is - was this something you did with your hands, or with some kind of vibrator? - If it was the latter, I know the stiumlation of a vibrator can leave things ... (read in full...)
Our relationship became sexual and now we're arguing. How can we fix this?
Q. p /> I'm having some problems with my girlfriend. We've recently started having sex... or atleast trying to. We aren't virgins, but we are having some problems. We've tried having sex twice now. On both occasions there have been distractions...
A. 16 August 2009: I think it's still the "enviornment" you are trying to have sex in -- her parents house, with them and her siblings nearby. That's alot of stress; performance plus being super quiet. I'm sure you if you two can be alone and let things happen ... (read in full...)
We're both married, its been 10 years, why is Ex contacting me now?
Q. Hello, A couple of days ago, my ex-girlfriend (Girl-A) sent me a message through my Facebook account. Here is our background story: Girl-A and I dated for about six months, ten years ago. I broke up with her to date Girl-B, who later broke up ...
A. 11 August 2009: I think your wife is right, and Girl A has a hidden agenda. You should tell her you and your wife are fine and very happy and then tell her exactly what she told you 10 years ago: that you are seeing someone else (called a marriage) and she should ... (read in full...)
Should I have someone check on my husband?
Q. My husband treats my like a queen. However he has lied to me about some very serious issues and some very petty issues.I don't think my husband is sexually cheating on me but I get this gut feeling that something isn't right either. When I get this ...
A. 11 August 2009: Go with your gut, it will rarely lead you astray.... (read in full...)
Is this the start of any affair?
Q. I am confused about whether I am in a frienship or the beggining of a relationship as I have lost confidence and self- esteem . I am divorced with three children after my husband walked out on us. I have known a this guy as a friend for three years ...
A. 11 August 2009: Men always tell women they want to be friends and then 'whoops' they end up in bed together after going out for a friendly drink or something. I think most of them can't even be honest with themselves and their true motives when they strike up these ... (read in full...)
Our relationship became sexual and now we're arguing. How can we fix this?
Q. p /> I'm having some problems with my girlfriend. We've recently started having sex... or atleast trying to. We aren't virgins, but we are having some problems. We've tried having sex twice now. On both occasions there have been distractions...
A. 8 August 2009: If you are trying to have sex at her parents house, while her siblings are just down the hall, at 1:30 AM with the lights out, being so quiet you can't even enjoy a good loud orgasm, that tells me you're both too young to engage in sex. Sex should ... (read in full...)
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