Given his ex is on the scene should I even be considering marriage?
Q. My fiance continues to talk with his ex. I believe it is her that initiates the contact. I've read his emails to find this out. She says things like, I miss you more than ever and I miss you so much I could puke. It has been 3 years since they hav...
A. 31 January 2010: He needs to chose. You or her. If he chooses you, and obviously seems to since you are engaged to him, then he MUST tell her that he is engaged to someone else and to stop contacting him immediately. Then sit back and see if he does. If their ... (read in full...)
I got my period twice in a month. Am I pregnant?
Q. Hey guys i am new to this i am in serious needs of answer... Okay so here the problem I had my period Jan. 14.2010.. Me and my boyfriend started having sex Jan 2nd 2010.... and then we had sex on the jan 12th 2010.. so i got my period a day after we ...
A. 31 January 2010: You are not pregnant. Breasts become tender and swollen around your period. It's normal but not a sign of pregnancy in your case.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to kiss him coz I can't stand his gross teeth.
Q. okay, my boyfriend is amazing and sweet and i really like him but im afraid to kiss him to tell you the truth his teeth are gross and i just cant stand them but i want to kiss him but idk wat to do. should i kiss him and see how it goes first or...
A. 31 January 2010: Any guy I can't stand the thought of kissing is no boyfriend, but just a nice friend who happens to be a guy. Relationships are about fire, and chemistry and yes kissing.... (read in full...)
Should I take police advise and sue my ex?
Q. I have an awful ex - he abused me emotionally and sexually for years (physically only right at the end, when I was finally getting out). I'm wondering if revenge is worth it at all? I could either do nothing and continue working through my issues, ...
A. 31 January 2010: If you have the financial means to pursue legal action, it may give you the ultimate closure and force him to quit hiding behind a mask to his friends and collegues who do not see the real person he is. The downside is, you will have to re-live the ... (read in full...)
Why do I always end up just being 'the friend' when I want more than that?
Q. Why am I one of those guys that women want to be friends with but nothing more? Of my ten closest friends, nine are female. They all say I would be a great catch. I have asked them, seriously, what I could do to make myself more appealing but ...
A. 31 January 2010: Women like a challenge. Maybe you are making it too easy for them by listening endlessly to their problems and giving them advice on their boyfriends. Instead of approaching a woman in this way, call the shots first. Ask them out for coffee or a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has an anger problem and I'm worried about my unborn child
Q. im pregnant and worried about by boyfriends anger. been to the doctor as he has hit me in the stomach and i am worried bout hurting my baby. my friends say i should leave him! i don't know what to do. please help ...
A. 31 January 2010: Leave him. There are no other choices.... (read in full...)
Hubby wants sex all the time!
Q. I wanted to ask a question, my husband and I have been together for 15 years. I love him and he loves me but we've had some problems in our realtionship lately. Nothing that we can't work out together, but since the problems started, he seems to...
A. 25 January 2010: Could be a number of things; 1.Midlife crisis (needs to know you still find him attractive) 2. Secretly experimenting with Viagra and too embarrassed to tell you 3. New female employee at his office that has turned his head and made him feel sexy ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my roommate to leave me alone without making her mad?
Q. Hi, I'm a freshman in college this year, and I'm on my second roommate. The first was a bipolar schizophrenic who decided not to inform me or the school about it until after she screamed at me and kicked me out of the room for commenting on the room ...
A. 25 January 2010: I think you should room alone.... (read in full...)
Do or I or don't I have sex with my 31y/o virgin girlfriend?
Q. Hi all, I never thought I would come a cross this at this stage of my life and age, I meet this girl that I have been dating for about 2-3 months now, she is 31 and I am 40, she is great we like each other and I am not a starter in dating and se...
A. 25 January 2010: Wow that is totally uncommon!! You need to talk to her and find out what's up with that? I think she has serious hang ups or religious committments. Either way you need to know where her head is at so you can figure out how you fit into this ... (read in full...)
I've got itchy balls.
Q. what does it mean if my balls itch but theres no spots there is it herpes?...
A. 25 January 2010: Sounds like jock itch. This happens sometimes in slightly damp conditions and can be annoying. Try using baby powder. It may help. Of course you can always google it on the web for more info, or ask your doctor.... (read in full...)
I can't get my penis in her vagina!
Q. how to properly insert your penis into a vagina? me and my girlfriend tried last night but it just wouldnt go in... she was wet and lubricated i just had no reference point of where to put it. Please help...
A. 25 January 2010: Your girlfriend surely knows where her own vagina is located at, why not have her guide you in the first time and then it'll get easier after that. And if she's a virgin, it may feel really tight, like you've hit a slight wall, but gently continue ... (read in full...)
Breaking up after 7 years, but none of his reasons are true..
Q. I need help, my life has just gone down the drain. my boyfriend and I have been together almost 7 years,living together for 6 and half., I am 24 his 29. we had a huge fight over the weekend, he has now started clearing out his stuff, I asked ...
A. 25 January 2010: You have compromised yourself so much, you don't even realize what's really happening here. He's got you so wrapped around his finger, he's actually trying to make you think it's YOUR problem that he has issues with fidelity. He clearly has no plans ... (read in full...)
I'm responsible for my demanding 60 year old alcoholic father.
Q. my dad is an alcholic. he has just been relsed from hospital after seven months after he suffered multiple organ failure and very nearly didn;t pull thru. whilste this was happening his home was being reprossessd and all his money was gone (he had ...
A. 25 January 2010: I believe you are looking for is some kind of closure should he pass on since you didn't have a good relationship earlier in life. Though you should not blame yourself for the shape he is in. You've done more than some kids would in the same ... (read in full...)
Trust issue has cropped up with my bf! Is this a warning sign?
Q. I have trust issues and my boyfriend knows this . Once in a while I go through his messages, a lot of the time he's right next to me when I do this, either not knowing what I'm doing or just not caring. I know that I'm asking for trouble by looking ...
A. 25 January 2010: Yes you should be worried. You don't say how long you've been together; if it's early in the relationship (3-6 months) he probably doesn't see you as a "couple" yet. Men at this age, rarely do and typically like to keep their options open. If longer ... (read in full...)
How can my ex's rebound last when he's already cheated?
Q. Hi, so my boyfriend got into a "rebound" 1 month later after we broke up maybe even before then. So two months into his new relationship we became friends and he just made out with me. So hes already cheated on this new girl only 2 months in, do ...
A. 25 January 2010: Not your concern. He's your ex. Time to move on.... (read in full...)
How do I set boundaries with my married boss and work to keep them? We have already kissed...
Q. I need help....I let something happen with my boss when one night we were out after a long day out of town we were sitting in the bar having drinks and one thing lead to another. I really thought something weird was going on but thought it was just ...
A. 25 January 2010: The problem seems to have all started when you began going to the bar with your boss. That's not the type of relationship I have with my boss, so the bells and whistles should've gone off when he invited you to have a drink; you should have said No. ... (read in full...)
Is he worth waiting for?
Q. My partner rejected my marrage proposal. We share a child. He says he's not ready to commit to me. He is still contacting his ex. I love him. Is he worth waiting for?...
A. 24 January 2010: No. If a child hasn't convinced him to leave the ex alone, I'd say you're wasting your time.... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another woman, please help?
Q. My husband recently left me for another woman. We were married for 16 years and he met her at work. I just wondered if anyone else has had that happen to them? and how did it turn out? how long did it take the hurt to go? ...
A. 24 January 2010: You can learn from this experience because there are always symptoms going on in the marriage before something like this happens. A wise spouse will spot the signals before it spins out of control. I've seen it time and time again among friends and ... (read in full...)
When is a marriage just not worth trying for anymore?
Q. Do you think ,is it foolish to stay in a marriage ,which does not make you happy sexually and emotionally,or it is not ,because marriage is more important than some happy sex and feelings? I mean ive been in therapy to try to and save my marriage, ...
A. 24 January 2010: Suggest a trial separation. Either you move out or ask him to. This can sometimes wake up a tired marriage and get a man's attention. But be prepared for it to be the final straw if need be. Give yourself 6 months of living apart to decide if there ... (read in full...)
My wife is very dry when we have sex...why is this?
Q. Dear sir/Madam when I had sexual intercourse with my wife the vagina of my wife it is become very Dry I can not move my penis in side the vagina so what you suggest me for my wife she has to go to doctor to check this thing please let me know ...
A. 11 January 2010: Hopefully you're not just rushing to satisfy yourself, but taking time to make sure she is aroused. Hormonal changes in women can sometimes cause this. Just use lubricant and it'll make a huge difference.... (read in full...)
I married him not realizing what a deal breaker his kids would be!
Q. I have recently got married for the second time. I have known my husband for 14 years and we were always really great friends. He has 3 children by different women and sees them all regularly. One is now grown up but the other two are 8 and 14. He ...
A. 11 January 2010: It seems like you would've figured this out long before the marriage took place, since you've known each other for 14 years. But nonetheless, I think you should sit your husband down when they are not there, and just be honest. Be tactful, don't ... (read in full...)
Scared of Anal sex?
Q. I'm 19. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year, and I've built up this barrier in our sex life. I'm afraid to have anal sex, so much so that I've made him believe I can't have it or I'll freak out. I know he had anal sex in his previous ...
A. 11 January 2010: Stop beating yourself up. If you don't enjoy it, don't worry about it. There are so many other ways to enjoy sexual excitement, that is just one tiny thing and personally I'm not sure that orfice was designed for that. I've actually seen people ... (read in full...)
Abortion: I said I wouldn't do it again but b/f wants me to!
Q. I'm 23 and just found out i'm about 5 weeks pregnant. i've told my boyfriend of 4 years who i live with and he doesnt want it he isnt pressuring me to get rid of it but he definately wants me to. I've already had one termination while i've been with ...
A. 11 January 2010: It's your body, your baby. Boyfriends come and boyfriends go but this baby is forever. If you don't want to have the abortion do NOT let him convince you otherwise. You will end up resenting him, probably break up with him later and always, always ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him if he's planning on seeing his ex?
Q. My boyfriend of almost a year is going to visit his relatives in a week by himself. In the time we have been together, he has only been to see them once, and he and I went together for a holiday. I normally would not think anything of this...
A. 11 January 2010: Can't you just go along with him? Tell him you could use a break from work and going together might be good for both of you. It'll be like a mini-vacation. He doesn't have to know it's because you're wondering about the ex. If he lets you go, ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever tried or does anyone know anyone who has ever tried "natural breast enhancement pill?"
Q. Has anyone ever tried or does anyone know anyone who has ever tried "natural breast enhancement pill?" My husband says that he is most turned on by me when I feel sexy and it's hard for me to feel sexy but I want to turn him on. So I thought maybe, ...
A. 8 January 2010: Maybe not but usually you have to fight to get your money back; letters back and forth, it's a hassel. I don't know how small your breasts are, but I can tell you from Ifso experience they may increase in a few years, on their own. Take a good look ... (read in full...)
Anal anxiety!!!
Q. I've never had anal sex nor had my ass eaten out. My boyfriend wants to try something new and I'm up for it. If I've never had anyone barely even touch my ass, will it feel good when he does it? Or will it take some getting used to. I'm kind of ...
A. 8 January 2010: It's an individual thing; some people get into it, some are grossly turned off by it. So start slow and see how you feel. You'll know if it's enjoyable or not and if it's not, then don't let him continue.... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever tried or does anyone know anyone who has ever tried "natural breast enhancement pill?"
Q. Has anyone ever tried or does anyone know anyone who has ever tried "natural breast enhancement pill?" My husband says that he is most turned on by me when I feel sexy and it's hard for me to feel sexy but I want to turn him on. So I thought maybe, ...
A. 8 January 2010: Fenugreek: A spice made from the seeds of Trigonella foenum-graecum, used in Indian and Thai cooking. (How is that going to increase your breast size?)
Fennel (Foeniculum vulgare), is a plant species in the genus Foeniculum .... Fennel seed is ... (read in full...)
Husbands holidays away are causing problems...
Q. I have been married for 26 years and for the last 3 years my husband and I have been going through a rocky patch. We have always spent our holidays together, and despite not getting on quite as well have still really enjoyed time away together. ...
A. 8 January 2010: How often are these golf trips?.....And are you really sure they're trips with the men?....... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever tried or does anyone know anyone who has ever tried "natural breast enhancement pill?"
Q. Has anyone ever tried or does anyone know anyone who has ever tried "natural breast enhancement pill?" My husband says that he is most turned on by me when I feel sexy and it's hard for me to feel sexy but I want to turn him on. So I thought maybe, ...
A. 8 January 2010: They don't list the ingredientson the ad. You'd probably have to shell out some money and buy it before you really know and some ingredients are well hidden by names you cannot even prounouce, much less understand. I think it's a waste of your ... (read in full...)
Heeelp!!! I can't get him out of my head. Any tips?
Q. I can't get him out of my head. Any tips? I know he is not right for me, but I miss him tremendously. We were good friends who then had sex a few times -- I am married but that is complicated and he understood the situation - but now he won't ...
A. 8 January 2010: He doesn't want to be hurt. I mean, are you going to leave your husband for him? And how do you really feel about your spouse and your marriage. Take an objective look at your life and if you are willing to cheat on your husband, there's a good ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have experience with larger men?
Q. I am a virgin and yes I'm aware of protection and wait till you're ready. I am ready now and I'm going to be in a relationship soon with a boy who's kind of on the big side. I wondered what kind of things am I going to have to do.. as I'll hav...
A. 8 January 2010: Ugh! I have been with a large man, but not on my first time. This may be uncomfortable to say the least. I found sex with my ex, who was quite large was never really enjoyable. There is a point where being big is not a plus. Tell him to go s-l-o-w. ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever tried or does anyone know anyone who has ever tried "natural breast enhancement pill?"
Q. Has anyone ever tried or does anyone know anyone who has ever tried "natural breast enhancement pill?" My husband says that he is most turned on by me when I feel sexy and it's hard for me to feel sexy but I want to turn him on. So I thought maybe, ...
A. 8 January 2010: Never tried them, but I'd be willing to bet they don't work. And why put crap into your body when you don't know what it's doing to your liver, or your kidneys? There's alot of junk out there that can cause toxic problems with things you can't ... (read in full...)
Amazing boyfriend but I have switched off!
Q. I have an amazing boyfriend but for the past few days i have switched off. I find the need to be alone and dont like him intruding. We live in the same hostel so its hard to avoid not meeting him all the time. He wants to spend every waking and ...
A. 8 January 2010: Everyone needs a little ME time. Set some boundaries. Tell your loving b/f that you need one night a week (or one hour a day, whatever suits you) to spend doing something alone. And then pick a quiet place and your desired indulgence; could be ... (read in full...)
Losing virginity to stranger?
Q. I'm a female and I'm 18 and a virgin. I was recently on craigslist because i want to find some one to have sex with me. I'm sick of being a virgin cause I'm always horny and i just can't take it anymore. So is it wrong to lose your virginity to a ...
A. 8 January 2010: Nothing I suppose but I wouldn't use Craiglist. You may not only lose your virginity, you could lose your life. Why not pick someone you know a little bit. Picking random strangers you know nothing about, is not something a smart woman does these ... (read in full...)
Indecent proposal...he thinks I cheated!
Q. so what do i do when my husband thinks i have cheated because of talk from friends with a mutual aquaintance (i didnt by the way) its obsurd but my husband has locked me out emotionally and other ways claiming not being able to get past the thought ...
A. 8 January 2010: You have to ask yourself two questions. Why would your friends tell him something like that? And why was he so quick to believe them?....It doesn't sound like your marriage has a solid foundation. Perhaps there are other issues we are not aware ... (read in full...)
Small boobs-- boob job??
Q. Hi I really need some advises :( I feel like i'm too skinny and i've been a skinny girl since i was little. (im 21 at the moment) Tried to eat loads but never work out. I'm tall (5'8), skinny, so my boobs are just 32A or maybe AA when i drop wei...
A. 2 January 2010: You're young. Later in your 20's your metabolism slows down and you'll probably gain a few more pounds, which will result in more fat in your boobs. So for now, invest in some really sexy push up bras that have padding on the sides to push what you ... (read in full...)
Men and Rejection
Q. I once heard that once a man has rejected by a woman he will never pursue or respect her again. I am very curious to know how bad does rejection hurt the male ego. Is it really that hard for a male to get over the rejection and just be friends with ...
A. 2 January 2010: Depends on the man and his level of stability/insecurty and so forth. One answer does not fit all men. ... (read in full...)
I seen pictures of her on facebook and she doesn't look the same and now I feel shallow!
Q. I have been talking to this girl online for almost a year now. She doesnt live close by, but we have been planning to meet. I talk to her on the phone all the time and I have added her on Facebook. I feel so very horrible and shallow though. She ...
A. 2 January 2010: I don't think you should schedule a meeting. It'll just make it that much harder to end it and by meeting her, she will assume everything is okay. It would be better to gradually extract yourself and move on. She doesn't have to know the truth, it ... (read in full...)
I don't have the balls to get divorced because I feel guilty!
Q. I had been married for 10 years, my marriage was failing since the wedding night when we were not able to have sex because she had too much pain. I centered my attention in working and getting my doctorate and I can realize now that I put my relat...
A. 2 January 2010: You need to come to terms with the fact that you no longer love your wife the way a manshould (if he's going to be married and stay faithful) and then file for divorce and move on. I am assuming you've always had sex problems in your marriage, ... (read in full...)
What kind of sexual contact does she want with me?
Q. My aunts try to brush their nipples onto my elbow. Lately one aunt (married to my mum's brother) on new year's eve brushed her nipple on me as she walked past me from behind. What kind of sexual contact does she want with me? BJ with me to come ...
A. 2 January 2010: Perhaps some of your aunts are a little attracted to you now that you are all grown up. The one with the ovarian cancer may simply grasping at the opportunity to feel alive again, and having a fling with her unattached nephew seemed like a possible ... (read in full...)
Was this rape? Or consensual?
Q. About a year ago, I was in a relationship with a guy who was 21. I was 16 at the time. We had sex, and I consented (well, I couldn't legally give consent, but I said yes). Now that the relationship's been over for a few months, I'm feeling more ...
A. 2 January 2010: No it was not rape. Being pressured to have sex, but then agreeing, and having your clothes ripped from you in a back alley, held down against your will and violated are two different things. I suggest you learn a valuable lesson; men can be ... (read in full...)
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