Why is he keeping me a secret?
Q. Been dating this guy for a while. He's not willing to introduce me to any of his friends or family. He's been divorced for the last 4 years or so and still talks a lot about his ex and what has happened and still doing things for her. The sex is g...
A. 10 March 2008: No I do not agree with Laura1318. I think it's very odd that your boyfriend is planning to give a gift to his ex after she gives birth to some other guy's child. That is just weird in my opinion. I think once they got divorced, the gift-giving ... (read in full...)
I have tried for 6 years, but I don't really love him. Should I leave?
Q. I am a 27 year old female married for a year now. I ve known my husband for 6 years now, since the last yearof college. Prior to that I was in a relationship with a very wonderful guy in college for 3 years and due to faults and mistakes which I am ...
A. 28 February 2008: What you have to do is ask yourself how you would feel if you divorced your husband, only to discover that the previous b/f you've been obsessing about for the past 6 years does not want you and you must live alone on your own for awhile until you ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of faking happiness when I know my wife's getting so personal with someone else... in the Internet. Is this tolerable?
Q. Hello everyone, and God Bless you all. This is a good thing that you are all doing. I feel guilty for doing this, but about 6 months ago, I had this strange feeling that my wife was using her computer at work and the computer at home to talk to ...
A. 28 February 2008: May I suggest marital counseling. Your wife is suffering from an emotional disconnection from you -- it happens frequently when a more out-going woman, falls in love with a strong, silent man. At first she sees you as strong (hence the title) and ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am emotionally cheating on my long distance lover...but I can't cut this other man out of my life.
Q. My story has taken me across the world, but yet a part of me could never leave home. Three years ago, while traveling in China I met him. Newly single, and out of the safeness of my own surroundings he seemed to bring security and grounding to my ...
A. 27 February 2008: You my girl, are afraid of intimacy so you have created a world where you will never be completely attached to either man, and thus you keep your comfort level (and each man) at a certain arms' length. By ping-ponging between two countries you are ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of faking happiness when I know my wife's getting so personal with someone else... in the Internet. Is this tolerable?
Q. Hello everyone, and God Bless you all. This is a good thing that you are all doing. I feel guilty for doing this, but about 6 months ago, I had this strange feeling that my wife was using her computer at work and the computer at home to talk to ...
A. 27 February 2008: You're wife has been having an emotional affair but the question remains -- Why?...Most women who seek this kind of attention are not getting it at home. Are you the strong, silent type? Do you feel you give your wife enough attention, make her ... (read in full...)
Why is he keeping me a secret?
Q. Been dating this guy for a while. He's not willing to introduce me to any of his friends or family. He's been divorced for the last 4 years or so and still talks a lot about his ex and what has happened and still doing things for her. The sex is g...
A. 27 February 2008: Are you absolutely sure he's actually divorced?...... (read in full...)
Can she really have stopped loving me so suddenly?
Q. Me and my girlfriend went for 8 months together, it was very exciting and we shared everything together. We had the perfect bond of best friends before and also during the relationship. The week of this Valentine's Day we got into a fight..it didn't ...
A. 27 February 2008: It's possible she was more in love with the idea of having a boyfriend, than actually loving that boyfriend. She's young. I suspect she's yet to discover the meaning of real love. No one turns their feelings off that fast. So you have to wonder ... (read in full...)
Should I give her another chance, or has she hurt me too much?
Q. I have recently been contacted by an ex girlfriend, whom I haven't seen for 7 years. We have met up a couple of times recently and seem to get on as well as we always did, but I'm unsure if I should try to get back together with her or just move ...
A. 27 February 2008: She seems flighty to me and a bit like the type of person who just uses people and then throws them away. I think you're better off not going down that path again. It will surely not have a happy ending I fear.... (read in full...)
I think this is highly inappropriate behavior from a married woman...should I confront her??
Q. My wife and I have been married for a about a year and a half. We dated for three years prior to that and we have a one year old son. She found an old crush on myspace and they have been talking regularly. I've logged into her myspace account and ...
A. 27 February 2008: I think your wife is playing with fire and blatantly so, right under your nose. But next time, you need to be honest and if you're uncomfortable with her meeting someone, anyone for a lunch date then say so. Don't be so macho and then let it burn ... (read in full...)
Why would my 15 year old have open diapers inside her closet? I have not mentioned my discovery yet.
Q. Well, I was cleaning through my daughters room as usual while she was at school and I go through her closet to clean it up and all and I find a bag of diapers (open) inside her closet. I wasn't really sure what to think at the moment besides that I ...
A. 27 February 2008: I think you should just ask her. And simply tell her the truth. You were cleaning her room, and found them. Perhaps there's a logical explanation but you can wonder all day on your own, or ask her what's up. You haven't really violated her ... (read in full...)
How can the pill affect my periods?
Q. Im worried as my period has become alot lighter then usual. Ive been on the pill for a few years now, but ive also heard actually worrying about the period can make it stop. its just because its the second month now and once again its not back to ...
A. 27 February 2008: You're stressing too much. Generally speaking, the pill makes light of our periods as well as the usual mind-numbing cramps and extreme bloating. I found when I was on the Pill, I had it pretty good. I only bled for maybe 2 days, it was light and ... (read in full...)
Why does he need time to think before marriage? Has something changed recently, for him to hesitate?
Q. I am engaged currently and we had a date picked out already but now he is saying he needs time to think about getting married now. I can't be mad because he is being honest, but at the same time what do i do? I know that i love him and want to spend ...
A. 27 February 2008: For many men, saying "I do" is more than just a love committment. It's saying that you have the means and the capability to take care of a woman, should the need arise. It means paying mortgages and saving up for a family, rather than blowing off ... (read in full...)
My BF's comment made me realise I need to improve my self image and confidence, how can I do that?
Q. This is a silly concern. Today I was telling my BF I lost 2 pounds out of nowhere. He was happy for me. I've lost a lot of weight since we started dating. He's always been very attracted to me. We were talking about my weight and height... he not...
A. 13 February 2008: Confidence in who you are is what helps you care less about what others think. But a good work-out like biking, hiking, or aeorbic dance will help you stay in shape and keep toned. You can't really change your bone structure, or height but you can ... (read in full...)
Should I give my teacher a valentines day card?
Q. Hi i fancy my teacher, should i give him a valentines day card or would that just weird him out? help.......
A. 13 February 2008: No I wouldn't go there. He probably already has a girlfriend (or wife) and being scammed by a student would just be too weird. Don't cause problems for him. Teachers are best left alone to teach and nothing more. Otherwise you could jeopardize ... (read in full...)
What are the best male sexual enhancers?
Q. I was just wondering, I think I need some help, so I was wondering what are the best male sexual enhancers? Like ones for increasing stamina, sex drive, and better orgasms? and has anybody had success with these? ...
A. 12 February 2008: Other than Viagra, I don't know of any others, but I'd be interested in knowing if you find others. BTW, you seem pretty young to be worrying about this. Talk to your physician and see what he/she recommends. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Any advice on how I can get this contraceptive implant removed??
Q. My mum forced me to have a contraceptive implant, and i now am desperate to have a baby with the love of my life. I want it removed, how do i go about this, i dont want to be judged since i recently had an abortion(against my wishes). I really r...
A. 12 February 2008: Your physician is the only one who can remove it safely. But my advise is to keep in in place until you can live on your own and support a child completely without the help of your parents or anyone else. Your b/f might bail on you later so before ... (read in full...)
Will she like the gift even though she dislikes Valentine's Day?
Q. Hi. last week i bought my girlfriend a valentines teddy bear and the other day she said to me that she doesn't like valentines day. I really want to give her the gift but i'm not sure how she will react when i give it to her. Personally i think she ...
A. 12 February 2008: Well, I don't know how big the teddy bear is but if it's bigger than breadbox I'd shelf the idea and get her something more low key. A card (something funny but romantic) maybe a smaller bear or take her out for a delicious dessert. Since she ... (read in full...)
Worried that I'm going to become obsessed by this new girl. Is this a mid-life crisis?
Q. I'm 37 and I have just 'noticed' a much younger girl. During my life I have really fallen hard for two women. Once was when I was 18 - which was unrequited, and the second time was a couple of years ago when I was abroad for a week on business (this ...
A. 12 February 2008: Yes it's mid-life. You are comparing a long-term, loving, committed relationship to an infactuation you have with a young thing. Not realistic at all. If you do not love your wife, then you should consider divorcing her so she can have the kind ... (read in full...)
I want a baby after I was forced into an abortion by my family. Will I feel this emptiness forever?
Q. in november i found out i was pregnant, i told my bf and he was sooooo happy, he was ready to be a man, look after me and the baby, this is something we had talked about for a long time, just felt we were too young. but then i became pregnant and we ...
A. 12 February 2008: No, you will not feel this emptiness forever. Just for awhile. You have gone through a tragic situation but take heart. You are still young. You have your whole life ahead of you, and believe me there will be plenty of time to have another baby ... (read in full...)
Anyone know what this dream means?
Q. I'm really confused. I like this guy and at one point I thought he liked me too, he always looked at me when he laughed at something and used to stare at me a lot. But recently he hardly speaks to me yet I keep thinking that he likes me because like ...
A. 12 February 2008: I think your dream indicates your desire to break down the barriers between you and this guy, and be close to each other. His age, and his readiness for a girlfriend is getting in the way and I suspect it will until he grows up a little more and ... (read in full...)
I need help with my marriage
Q. My wife and I have had a lot of problems during the last 6 of our 21 year marriage. She cheated and was caught. To this day I have a hard time dealing with trusting her. My insecurities have been agrivated by her close friendships with a few men, ...
A. 12 February 2008: Yes if you want your marriage to work out, you both need to be attending the counseling sessions together. Her unwillingness shows that she really doesn't place much value on your relationship. In an otherwise healthy marriage perhaps a few male ... (read in full...)
How do you get rid of stress?
Q. I'm 18 and I get stressed really easily. Can you please suggest ways to get rid of stress....
A. 12 February 2008: Learning how to deal with stress, is like learning how to stop taking yourself (and life) so seriously. I suspect your level of intensity is greater than some. So you must practice ways to re-focusing your mind in order to relax. Deep breathing ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a neurotic, possessive gf but...is he cheating on me??
Q. My boyfriend (34 yrs old) and I have a long distance relationship. We felt we were not seeing each other enough, so I made the effort to book all my holiday off on days that my boyfriend is off work yet so that we could spend more time together ...
A. 12 February 2008: I think you are afraid of what you'll find if you do resort to checking his phone. He has all the classic symptoms of a man who's juggling more than one female. I think if you ever want this relationship to go anywhere, you are going to have to ... (read in full...)
Why did he think I was hassling him?
Q. Before my guy called it off with me after a month,he come out with saying he did not want the hassle?what did he mean by this?? he had a bad relationship in the past in which it got a bit nasty with her hurting him but he still has to have contact ...
A. 12 February 2008: Maybe there hasn't been enough time since his bad break up from thus said woman who he has a child with and having to still deal with a shitty "ex" he doesn't have the mental capacity to deal with another woman right now. He has a bad attitude and ... (read in full...)
Will he be scared of me now that I've dished out some of his own medicine back to him?
Q. my ex has been controlling me, emotionally, verbally and sometimes physically abusing me for a very long time and never once did i stand up to him really. i now have took enough and i have humiliated him and disclosed something to some people who ...
A. 15 January 2008: A bully scared? Doubtful. You'll be lucky if he doesn't seek revenge. Men who abuse women physically may think nothing of killing a women that pisses them off or goes too far. Games like this are never healthy. So don't toot your horn just yet. ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to be 'just' friends with a guy who wants to date me?
Q. hi i have a boyf of 3 years who i love very much. but i have a male friend who i get along really well with, i dont have any romantic feelings for him but i know he does for me, but he knows i am with someone. we txt alot and see eachother on nights ...
A. 15 January 2008: No. You're leading him on and everytime you text him, or spend any amount of time visiting with him, you are giving him hope, which is a mixed message if you are truly with someone you love. You can say hello to him when you bump into each other ... (read in full...)
I'm going mad! I love this other woman and I love my wife...help me!
Q. Help Im going crazy Im a 47 year old married man with 4 kids. About 6 months ago I meet a lady shes 35 years old 3 kids I meet her at work her husband had just walked out on her and I was concerned about her there was nothing sexual about it I was ...
A. 15 January 2008: You began an "emotional affair" with the woman the moment you became her crutch, her therapist and her close friend. Even though an emotional affair is absent of sex, it is still as destructive to a marriage as a sexual affair. Encourage your ... (read in full...)
MArriage troublesI I need love 'preserver' to stay afloat, Please help
Q. I've been with my wife from the time I graduated high school and I am turning 25 in April. We used to be the couple that everyone spoke about, we were both in great shape, we were very intimate and wild. Over the 7 years we have been together my ...
A. 15 January 2008: Your wife needs serious counseling for her depression, and self harm. She may also need to be on medication to control her desire to self mutilate. I suspect alot of the other problems you've described will be more in balance once she is treated ... (read in full...)
Am I a Dark Horse?
Q. I know its not about relationships but its really bugging me. a really close friend of mine said to me last nite that i have a darkside/dark horse? thing is im not really sure what she ment by it is it a good of bad thing as ive never been told that ...
A. 15 January 2008: Usually when someone tells you you have a dark side, it means they realize you know how to be naughty and sometimes a little "bad". You don't always follow the rules. You don't always do what you're told. You're a bit of a non-conformist; a rebel ... (read in full...)
My bf and I spent a weekend in a cottage and my father is upset! Do I have the right to defend it and tell my Dad exactly, how I feel?
Q. Right so, I am an 18 year old girl. Recently, I spent the week with my boyfriend at a cottage in Wales. It was just a nice little holiday for the two of us. My grandmother told me on the phone yesterday that my father and his sister (my Aunt ...
A. 15 January 2008: Yes you have the right, you're an adult now, not a little girl. But parents do tend to always see us as their babies regardless of how old we are because they love us and only want what's best for our lives. They often don't want us making the ... (read in full...)
Do women actually like the 'needier' man and enjoy caretaking him?
Q. Does anyone think that some women can actually like needy guys who never got love from their mothers?I guess I'm asking are there women who like to take care of men? And if so,why?...
A. 15 January 2008: Women are generally the care-givers in life, which is probably why God made us the gender who carries the babies. So it's no accident that most women are naturally a bit nurturing over those they care about. Of course there are acceptions. It's ... (read in full...)
How do you know if your husband is gay??
Q. How do you know if your husband is gay? we have recently got back together, but when we split up alot of people has asked me was there any chance he was gay, i have heard that gay guys had approach him in the past. The time we broke up i asked him ...
A. 10 January 2008: Only time will tell. Check his computer internet history every now and then and see if there are any gay sites that pop up. Otherwise, I wouldn't worry too much about it right now.... (read in full...)
Does a bigger Penis mean better sex?
Q. I can't stave off something that has made me massively insecure and jealous. My girlfriend of 3 and a half years recently broke up with me for another guy. It was the worst experience of my life, literally :( but it's been 4 months since then and ...
A. 10 January 2008: Good Lord, did she actually get down there and measure it with a ruler or something? How insane! If she broke up with you simply on penis size, how incredibly shallow of her! You're better off without her. But more than likely, there were other ... (read in full...)
How can I make him orgasm without actual intercourse? I want to impress my boyfriend!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend over a year now and we've started having sex recently, but I really want to impress him. I want to make him remember me as his best, and not his least experienced. Could you maybe give me some tips, on how to make his ...
A. 9 January 2008: Give him a blow job. ... (read in full...)
I discovered my husband had a flig with his ex when he was my fiance! Do I stay with him? Our daughter is 3.
Q. i just found out that my fiancee of 4 years has had a fling with an ex then arranged our marriage i only found out after we got married because she text him to say he was mad do i stay with him or not we have a 3yr old little girl...
A. 9 January 2008: It sounds like he may still be having a fling with her if she is currently texting him, telling him she's mad or whatever. You should confront him first, suggest marital counseling to figure out what's missing in your relationship that makes him ... (read in full...)
Found receipts of my husband's, which I suspect to indicate porn watching. What do you think?
Q. What is Video Pay TV on a hotel receipt. Is it porn? Found it on some of my husbands receipts when he was away on business. He denies it is porn, but has viewed porn many times behind my back, and would deny it no matter what anyway. He says he ...
A. 9 January 2008: You have to wonder if he hides his porn addiction, what else is he hiding? And when he grows tired of watching women he can't touch, what else will he do? Go to a strip club? Pay for a lap dance?....Or hook up with someone at the hotel ... (read in full...)
Was there something else?
Q. My friend's boyfriend dumped her after 9 months together because, according to her, he was fed up with her texting him and wanting to chat to him every day (thats what happens in a relationship!). I thought this was very strange, seeing that he ...
A. 8 January 2008: I think there was someone else.... (read in full...)
Do women cheat because they're not getting enough?
Q. This may be aa strange question, but do women cheat because they can't get enough sex, or is it for other reasons?...
A. 8 January 2008: Of course there are always a few young gals who just can't say no to the attention of other men, and then things go a little too far, but if we're taking mature individuals, I would say there are usually things missing in the relationship that cause ... (read in full...)
Why do I find it hard to get over people?
Q. How come I find it hard to get over people? My last 2 girlfriends I'm having difficulty getting over and I still miss them (well, one!) and want her back. The counsellor said that it may be because I lost my Dad. What do you think?...
A. 8 January 2008: Some people form strong attachments to their mates, almost like an obsession of sorts. Also, the way the relationship ends can sometimes have something to do with our acceptance of it. You may need closure of some kind. Usually when you are ... (read in full...)
My mother says the Bible does not approve of interracial relationships. How can I prove her wrong?
Q. Im engaged to a black man, and I could see myself spending the rest of my life with him, hes just like me in every way. My father is racist, and my mother claims that she is just "against marrying out of your race" because of her "religious ...
A. 8 January 2008: In the Bible, it states that God does not desire for us to be "unevenly yoked" to someone. It's a phrase that comes from the old days when people would put two Oxen's on a plow to sow their fields. If one Ox was large, and the other one small, it ... (read in full...)
Period due in 5 days time, but I've had a blood test which was negative - could I still be pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone, Help - I need some advise. My husband and I have just started trying for a baby. I feel awful - sore breasts, dizziness, reflux, fatigue, vomiting. I have done several urine pregnancy tests including the ones where you can test...
A. 8 January 2008: No, I seriously doubt you are pregnant if all those tests came back negative. Sometimes when we wish for something really hard, our body goes through the motions (i.e. sickness, fatigue, sore breasts etc.) Keep trying it'll happen when the time is ... (read in full...)
Would it be unreasonable of me not to invite her to our wedding?
Q. My fiancee and I are getting married later this year and we are currently planning the wedding together. we are working on a guest list, and he suggested the other day that we invite this one girl who we havent really spoken to for years. Back w...
A. 8 January 2008: Good Gawd, don't invite her! It was poor of him to even suggest it. What is he thinking about--One last fling before he gets hitched? The two of you need to steer clear of her from now on. She has no place in your lives. Have a great wedding.... (read in full...)
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