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Older women Vs younger... What do you think are the advantages and disadvantages?

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Question - (16 August 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 16 August 2009)
A male United States age 30-35, *eganutts writes:

Datin older women, its a fad that's taking over under the radar more than you think. I love older women, between 28 and 39 is awesome, they just know more about what they want and either already have it or are very close to getting it. I have been intimate and dated an older women before and let me tell you, its something. My question this time is, what are the big advantages of being with an mature woman versus a younger woman. Of course I know but maybe there are men my age that would like to know also. I would like to hear from the mature crowd on this one.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009):

I found older women to be MUCH better, for the following reasons:

1. They can hold a mature conversation

2. Completed their education and have a career, not still in school with a job

3. More confident in and out of bed

4. Comfortable with themselves & downright adventurous!

5. They usually have a plan of what they want & how they're going to acheive it (earn it, not be handed it!)

6. Higher income allows for travel and a better lifestyle.

7. earning likely to be same as yours, so going dutch (if she want's to -is OK).

I dated women that had been previously married (with and w/o kids). I qucikly determined that w/ kids, and your dating the ex husband too- no thanks, no need for the baggage. Ultimatly I found a single 40 year old, never been married professional woman (I was younger, divorced once, no kids) and it's been GREAT! We travel, each sold our homes and bought one together w/o a mortgage. We're able to plan for retirement, and are going to make it there far more faster than most- and we have zero debt, which in this crummy economy is a great thing.

I'd never date anyone younger again - tried that, first wife was 4 years younger, first GF after her was 15 years younger - cute, hot and firm, but no conversation worth having, no money (for ANYTHING) and no real job... the sex wasn't worth the rest of the package...

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009):

I just don't want older women because of their past relationship baggage.

I meet a lot of beautiful 35yo women. But I don't meet very many of them where I will be having a relationship with just the woman alone. Their exes have invariably done so much bad stuff to shape their psyche that they might as well just bring the exes along on the date so I can meet them too.

Men are subject to all the same stuff. But with men I do not think it is there as consistently as with women. Or as young.

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A female reader, Basschick Australia +, writes (16 August 2009):

Basschick agony auntWomen in the age category of 28-39 are more comfortable in their skin. They're smarter; more interesting because they've done more by this age. And are in their sexual prime. Which means, they like sex ALOT so it's a perfect pairing to find a younger man who has the stamina to keep up with them. Younger women typically are still trying to figure out who they are, so they tend to be more self absorbed; they usually don't enjoy sex for the act as much as they enjoy it for the "power" it gives them over men. The downside of older women is the fact that they're not as firm, they don't have flawfless skin, or tiny waistlines (some do, but most don't) and they may run out of patience for their hot younger men when they act like silly little boys, so don't snort cola out of your nose or fart in bed. She won't be impressed. The other downside is, long term committments usually don't work out, so just have fun and see what happens.

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A male reader, RAINORFIRE United States +, writes (16 August 2009):

RAINORFIRE agony auntI think it depends where you are in your life i think young guys under 25 should date older women 25 and older instead of all the emotionally unstable immature teenage and barely legal ones that are posted up in the club with there fake ids.

Older women are generally pass the high school drama stage they have there own there independent hell they can take you out buy you dinner and ride you around in there lex gas is getting expensive,

30 is the new 20 its the era of the grown n sexy and the fairer and finer sex are getting better with age.

if your an older guy it can be refreshing to dip in to the fresh out of highschool and college gene pool a young shorty can put a little spark into your cubicle dweller life routine if you can keep up with the emotional rollercoasters and wild nights out trade the crystal and grey goose for kegs and beer bongs and show that young girl how you used to get down back in your day.

Younger women can be more trusting more care free there not as concerned with careers kids and menopause. but be prepared to change girls everytime they change cell phones.

if your a 19 year old guy try finding your self a i nice 25 yr old librarian and vice versa women dont reach there sexual prime untill there 30s and of course guys always think there in their prime .

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A female reader, purple_butterfly Canada +, writes (16 August 2009):

Girls of my age are more confused, less settled and need to be pampered and understood more than we like to understand and act mature. Girls your age, are less sorted out as theyre not settled, or not done studying and have not been with enough guys or not seen enough life , to handle some mature guys in their 20s. Now , the advantage you get being with a mature woman is that : she would have been in enoug relationships or would have seen enough of them to be sure of what she actually wants in one. She will create less drama. I guess. Shed be sure of what she wants from a relationship or anything in general.

With girls of my age, you need a lot of patience and understanding towards them. We are confused most times if we dont find sumone who understnds us. and this creates drama.

thats probably a reason i would guess!

hope it helped :P

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