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writes:I'm not talking about one or two rejections; no--not even three. I mean like, 75% of the dates you went on, the guy didn't want to see you again. After being single my whole entire life, I can't help but to question where I went wrong on the date when the guy has no interest in me. I started dating kind of late and not very consistently, but on the dates I've been on, only a quarter of them liked me enough to want to go on many more dates with me. I am not seeing myself as a powerless victim, so I educate myself by getting relationship books and always reflecting upon myself to see where I could have gone wrong. I believe in myself, I feel I am a catch, I feel I can really make a man happy. However, by consistently getting rejected, it makes a girl wonder, you know?So for ever, I've been reading articles, books, and watching videos on how to be on a date, how to improve myself and the do's and don'ts of dating. I just can't seem to get it right and everytime I don't hear from a guy or hear "he's just not that into you" I can't help but cry. What's wrong with me? I self analyze and self improve every chance I get. But honestly, I can't be the only one???? Sometimes I feel like I am though. Has any other female had this hard of a time getting a man? Reply to this Question
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reader, Stephsav76  +, writes (5 December 2016):
Aunt honesty and rejection central hit the nail on the head. I also feel like you. Maybe like me your too nice and too accommodating. I always wonder why some girls get everything, it's because there not being too nice or accommodating. And when the girl gets commitment she softens . Also date diffrent types, and date more than one guy, so your not focused on one man at a time. I met this guy, planning to go out for dinner at the weekend. His not my type at all, but I feel excited with slight butterflies
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reader, RejectionCentral  +, writes (3 December 2016):
I have been rejected by everyone I was ever involved with including a 35 year marriage in the end. Too nice, too accepting, too understanding, too forgiving...at the peril of of my self worth. Plus don't get overly invested. Guys seem to respect what they cannot have. I made the mistake of coming out of a marriage into an all new, foreign relationship world thinking that the best policy was to say how I felt. (The I love you unconditionally policy) It isn't. Don't do it. Keep your feelings to yourself until they make their move and even then, don't give it all up. I have had to rethink everything about how I am as a person....it is foreign and uncomfortable to me. I have always felt that honesty was the best approach but it makes the other party feel completely at ease that no matter what they do, they have you.
I'm sorry for how you feel. Truly sorry. I know your pain. Too well. And it is physical, breaking heart, pain. Be kind to yourself...it is their shortcoming that makes them unable to see your worth. It's hard to teach oneself that but it is a very valuable and necessary lesson. Be well. But most importantly, learn to love yourself and be comfortable with your own company.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2016): Best way to meet potentional partners is somewhere where you see them regularly. This could be through work, an interest you have, church, gym etc. when you see someone regularly you are bound to make friends. From there relationships gorn. I think it's unnatural internet dating an expecting a relationship to form straight away. Also don't be too choosy and dress like a sexy confident woman. Not too much flesh or make up.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (8 October 2016):
 You're trying too hard and thinking way too much and maybe, in the process, you're coming across as too strong or too needy. You almost remind me of Charlotte from Sex and the City, who was utterly desperate to find a man and went all out, doing everything she could to find someone to marry.
Just relax, enjoy your alone time and do things that you love. Take your mind off dating for a bit. You might just find love when you least expect it.
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (8 October 2016):
You're trying too hard and thinking way too much and maybe, in the process, you're coming across as too strong or too needy. You almost remind me of Charlotte from Sex and the City, who was utterly desperate to find a man and went all out, doing everything she could to find someone to marry.
Just relax, enjoy your alone time and do things that you love. Take your mind off dating for a bit. You might just find love when you least expect it.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (7 October 2016):
 Or just ask your friends, not yeasayers but people who you trust to be brutally honest. Do you have any guy friends? Maybe you can ask them to take you out on like a mock date and then ask for feedback? I mean maybe you could do this with a gal pal too. It's hard to tell from here whether it IS just bad luck, something you're doing, or the people you're picking.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 October 2016):
 Sweetie it could be the type off guy that you are meeting up, do you see a pattern? Do they talk sexual? Want a bit of fun? Try going on dates with different types off men, don't go just on looks, give everyone a chance and keep open minded, you need to kiss many frogs to get your prince, don't give up. Enjoy dating.
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