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Just Two

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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...

A little humility goes a long way

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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...

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My boyfriend is a good guy but I don't know if I am wasting my time

Q.   My boyfriend dated a French girl for 2 years and was very open about it. They went on vacations, posted affectionate pictures online and lived in as well. They broke up amicably and remain friends. My boyfriend and I started on a rough note. I wa...

A.   4 August 2017: You're jealous of his past aren't you? Isn't that why you had a rough beginning? Because of the French girl and how secure his relationship seemed with her? Honestly why are you with him if he's commitment phobic? You're scaring him, pressuring him, ... (read in full...)

How do I break my news to the family?

Q.   My bf and I have known each other since high school, he have been dating for 10 months. We have talked about marriage a lot and have started looking at houses together. Three weeks ago I found out I was pregnant. I was using bc but recently switched ...

A.   31 July 2017: You didn't go about this the right way. You should have told then about the pregnancy first. Of course they're pissed, they have every reason to be! They have no clue what's going on and you suddenly spring "I'm getting married on Thursday. Be there ... (read in full...)

He changed his mind about getting married so who keeps the ring?

Q.   A few weeks ago my ex fiancé basically told me that he didn't want to get married then he told me he was no longer in love with me. Then a few weeks later he basically tells me I'm in love with you but your not my soulmate. I was annoyed and I do...

A.   30 July 2017: *Pressed send without completing my answer ... Yeah so I was saying, the man wasn't ever madly in love with you so I doubt he'll want to stay friends now. Just give him back the ring and don't hold on to relics of the past; they will only serve as... (read in full...)

He changed his mind about getting married so who keeps the ring?

Q.   A few weeks ago my ex fiancé basically told me that he didn't want to get married then he told me he was no longer in love with me. Then a few weeks later he basically tells me I'm in love with you but your not my soulmate. I was annoyed and I do...

A.   30 July 2017: I'm sorry this is going to sound harsh but this is not a contest to see who can get more petty. He's asking for something that he had gifted and you're refusing to give it back. Neither of these actions are in good taste. How will keeping the ring ... (read in full...)

Tired of my freinds' boasting about their conquests

Q.   My friends are all in relationships, all very serious, one just got engaged. I'm happy for all of them, really I am, but here's the thing, the last time I had any sort of relationship was when I was 15, and I clearly wasn't enough for him because he ...

A.   28 July 2017: Your weight isn't the problem. Your friends are. Just because they are in relationships doesn't mean that you have to be in one as well. It's not a contest. And I really doubt how happy they are because if someone is really happy and secure in their ... (read in full...)

Is what we are doing right?

Q.   Hello everyone actually I'm quite curious to tell about my relation as I'm dating a guy and it's been just 1 mth that we have been in a relation and he always likes licking my boobs and he always like to put his hand n rub in my private part i a...

A.   27 July 2017: This has troll written all over it! In any case if this is a serious question, we're not here to moralize. You're 18 years old, it's your choice what you do. Just be safe and don't let anyone take advantage of you. Proceed with caution when you... (read in full...)

I thought he liked me but now I'm confused

Q.   Hi all. My brother came from his college and he was sharing his experience with me. He is studying abroad. His friends had seen me in pictures because obviously my brother should have shown them our family pictures. Once my brother showed one of h...

A.   27 July 2017: Don't do anything. Because you've initiated contact first and my guess is that he knows you're interested in him. I don't believe in these excuses that he's hesitant to talk to you because of your brother. If someone is interested in you then ... (read in full...)

think they are way too secretive and just honestly don't want them anywhere near each other!

Q.   Okay so before me and my bf were dating he had a crush on my best friend but nothing ever happened because he was actually dating someone else. We winded up dating about a yr later. We were kind of like a trio before our romance started but as time...

A.   16 July 2017: He's right. You have to give him credit because despite being an idiot, he's given you two great options and both very do-able. He's actually solved your problem for you and has shown you the exit route! Just do what he says. You need to brea... (read in full...)

Things were good until his ex' got involved

Q.   I met a guy online in January who is a really great guy. He's a bit older than me but that doesn't bother me. He's 37,I'm 27. We spoke for about 3 weeks before we met for real. We got on instantly and after a few weeks, we began spending more and ...

A.   16 July 2017: Ten stars to Aunty BimBim... Couldn't have said it better!! Yes, and in short, run for the hills. Plus, you don't even know who or with how many of them he's involved. Are you really naive enough to think that you're the only online girl he's dup... (read in full...)

How can I stop liking my married coworker?

Q.   How can I stop thinking about my coworker? I have developed a crush on a new coworker in my new job - he is quite handsome but married. He is friendly but we have never been innapropriate - we on chat about silly things and we added each other on ...

A.   11 July 2017: Nothing wrong with having a crush as long as you don't act on it or expect anything to happen. It's not a crime to appreciate beauty and to find someone handsome but you should know that he's off limits and expect nothing from him. Don't ever all... (read in full...)

How do I get out of loving the "other man" when I'm a married woman?

Q.   4 years ago I became colleagues with a man I met online. He knew I was married from the beginning and he was always platonic with me, or so I thought, Things soon started getting weird between us and he started acting jealous whenever I'd men...

A.   11 July 2017: You only have yourself to blame. If you're so weak that you allow this man to just walk in and out of your life and take all these liberties with you then it's your problem, not his. You could have told him to take a hike, to get lost, to never ever ... (read in full...)

Is she interested or a flake?

Q.   Hey there, I am recently out of a relationship and ready to start dating again. Went back online and met a cool girl who I really clicked with. We messaged a few times back and forth, exchanged numbers and text quite a bit. Before our first date s...

A.   9 July 2017: I think she's just not interested enough and you said it, she's a flake. She's come up with every excuse as well... Working overtime, bad day-need space, sick. Nah, not worth it. I say you move on.... (read in full...)

How to cope with abuse for mixed race relationship?

Q.   Hello, I have been with my amazing boyfriend of 3 and a half years and we are more than happy. I am a black female and he is a white male and we constantly receive horrible comments and a few uncomfortable stares in restaurants, beaches, cinemas ...

A.   9 July 2017: Verbal abuse when you're walking down the streets? Really? It's that bad? I'm surprised reading about this because I hadn't thought that discrimination on this basis was so extreme. I'm sorry you've had to go through this but really you have to ... (read in full...)

Why is everyone sceptical about a 'friends with benefits' arrangement?

Q.   So a while back me and my friend had sex a couple of times. We actually live in a shared house with other people, although they don't know that anything happened between us. We had known each other for about a year before this happened, and had ...

A.   5 July 2017: Why do you bother about what other people say and why the need to discuss your sex life with your friends? If it's working for you then it is and that's that. Enjoy it without thinking too much about it. I must admit however that it seems yo... (read in full...)

Trivial Fights getting out of control

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years. We have had our ups and downs. When it is good it is REALLY good. The passion is high. We share a lot and are similar in many ways. But we have had our share of down-at-the mouth fights. Somehow we ...

A.   5 July 2017: If there was one piece of advice that I could give you then it would be to run for the hills. These are not trivial fights and he's not just another annoying boyfriend. He's someone who is not to be trusted, he has anger management problems... (read in full...)

Does this mean he just wants casual sex?

Q.   There's this guy who used to work with my dad, who's a few year younger than me but we seemed to get on. Every time I went into his work (a pub) he seemed to be having the usual barman banter and fun with me (sometimes he'd go a little further ...

A.   5 July 2017: If you're into casual sex then it's your call but I would stay away from this cheap, creepy guy if I were you. ... (read in full...)

He lied to my face, only admitted it after I told him I had seen proof

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for two years. We broke up for about a month or so in between, in which he admitted to kissing a girl. That's it he says.I don't care about any of that, we were broken up. However, I found a condom in his backpack. We ...

A.   1 July 2017: I guess your question is, should you trust him? Well here's your answer. You choose your worries. If you decide that he's not worth the headache and the drama then just leave. Why bust your head over someone who's not worth it?... (read in full...)

New Flatmate Is Already Causing Trouble. How To Deal?

Q.   I'm a working professional, returning to uni in October and as my previous flatmates were moving city I found a room for the summer. Basically there are three international students who usually live in this flat but two of them went back to their ...

A.   1 July 2017: Both you and the other girl should speak to this guy and ask him to keep it down. Ideally the other girl should put in a word with the landlord but my guess is that she won't. I guess that leaves you with two options. Either you hope that thi... (read in full...)

What's going on? I am confused why my partner is now an issue.

Q.   I need some objective clarity. So here goes. When we were teens, say 16 years ago, he had a major crush on me and we went out a few times. I never reciprocated because I guess there weren't any feelings there, and I distanced myself from him. He ...

A.   29 June 2017: No, he doesn't have feelings for you. I think he sees you as someone running after him and he enjoys the attention. He may lead you on for the ego boost because at one point of time it was the other way around but he's not interested in you. Your ... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend had me arrested for harassment charges! Has anyone else experienced this?

Q.   I need some advice please. I was with my boyfriend nearly 2 years and the relationship was great, we had so much in common and were lovers but also best friends. I have abandonment issues and eventually started to self destruct until, after weeks of...

A.   26 June 2017: How can you get arrested for no reason at all and for no fault of yours? If that's the case then you shouldn't be writing here, you should be fighting the legal system! I have a feeling though that there's more to what you're telling us. ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriends best friend trying to break us up? Should the relationship be put after his best friend?

Q.   So this is a bit of a long story so I do apologise in advance. Back in December my boyfriend broke up with his ex girlfriend, then on a drunken evening on New Year's Eve he slept with his best friend, that was all it was to him. We are all part of a ...

A.   21 June 2017: Sorry and I forgot to add and basically to answer the headline question, I don't think she's trying to break *you* up per se, she'll do this with any girl in your place. Like a dog in the manger thing.... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriends best friend trying to break us up? Should the relationship be put after his best friend?

Q.   So this is a bit of a long story so I do apologise in advance. Back in December my boyfriend broke up with his ex girlfriend, then on a drunken evening on New Year's Eve he slept with his best friend, that was all it was to him. We are all part of a ...

A.   21 June 2017: High maintenance? My God you're the exact opposite! How you're putting up with so much is beyond me! He's slept with this woman, he's kissing her in front of you, she is making declarations that your boyfriend is hers, she doesn't let you two spen... (read in full...)

Is there something going on between my husband and his co-worker?

Q.   Why is my husband gets annoyed when i ask him a question about the woman that he always with most of everyday at work? Is he having an enotional affair with this woman? It does not mean that i am doubting him. I tried to not be negative about i...

A.   20 June 2017: As difficult as this is for you, it's not going to make things better if you constantly keep asking him about her. Not only are you giving him ideas when hopefully there are none, you're giving that woman way too much importance. I know it's tem... (read in full...)

I changed my mind about having children, he wants children would this be the end of our relationship?

Q.   Hi everyone, this one is a difficult one for me. I recently got engaged to a man I love and think the world off, the time we been together we have had minor disagreements, but other than that the relationship has progressed smoothly. Lately I have ...

A.   16 June 2017: I don't think that anyone has ever regretted having a child. Saying "fine I won't have a child, problem solved" is not solving the problem at all. It's just pushing the problem under the carpet. I think you're very angry at him now and since you ... (read in full...)

My partner is making me feel bad for not letting him live with me permanently. What should I do?

Q.   When I first met my partner, I explained in the first 3 months my views about living together before engagement. I explained that I have lived with an ex in the past and it didn't work, so therefore I want to wait until engagement before living ...

A.   16 June 2017: Why did he sell his place without first having secured some other place to live? Where are all his belongings at this point of time? How can a grown man just sell his house and have nowhere to go to? I find this very strange. He's banking on you to ... (read in full...)

I'm devastated because I tried my hardest but I couldn't make it to the Universities of my choice. How do I break the news to my parents?

Q.   Hi everyone, I literally just got my results of my exams today and unfortunately i did not make the requirements of the universities i have chosen. I fell a little short of the requirements so its not too bad. The problem is, both unis actual...

A.   14 June 2017: What a brilliant answer by Aunt YouWish!! If only there was a rating higher than 5 stars! This is not the? end of the road for you; this is just how life is going to be now that you're out in the big bad world. OP when I was a student, I too de... (read in full...)

Why am I so stuck on social media?

Q.   Hello everyone About two years ago I used to hang out with a group of girls that weren't that great - they were gossip fueled - vain - and all they cared about is showing off and getting married. For two years I fell into that hole - I started...

A.   12 June 2017: What makes you think that getting a guy is equal to winning? By the way, you should also keep something else in mind. The best sign of a healthy relationship is no sign of it on Facebook. I don't think this needs any elaboration, doe... (read in full...)

I'm married and have fallen for a married friend. Do I pursue this?

Q.   I am 29 years old. Im maried in 2010 with 2 kids (3 and 5). I met my wife when i was 15 and have been with her ever since. I have never cheated on her or even talked to another woman inappropriately. But the other day we were hanging out with some ...

A.   12 June 2017: I don't think anyone is going to encourage you to go ahead with this affair and break you're marriage over this. You got married at 22. That is way too young to get married because you're still growing up and just beginning to see the real wor... (read in full...)

How can I end my feelings of regret

Q.   Hi aunts. I was in a relationship for six months which he ended two months ago now. I fell in love, we both did and shared a special connection. However he ended it after we had a problem between us that kept surfacing in that I am very tactile and ...

A.   12 June 2017: Was this the only reason that he gave you for breaking up? If so, then he's not being truthful. There has to be something deeper which he's not telling you. ... (read in full...)

Upset because I was not included on a night out

Q.   If you were not invited to a work social event and 3/4 the rest of your female colleagues were would you feel left out? It was a one colleague's 24th birthday, and later that same day another colleague's, who is 29, hens/bachellorette dinner. Pic...

A.   11 June 2017: It's very normal to feel upset. I do feel it was rude to have left certain colleagues out of the parties that were hosted but then you can't do anything about it. If it were me, I'd either have invited everyone or no one at all from the workplac... (read in full...)

Am I too sexual for him? Our sex life seems bland.

Q.   Hi need some advice on my sex life. So I've been in a relationship for two years and I love my bf very much. The problem is that our sex life is quite bland. I am quite adventurous and kinky I love to go down on him but he doesn't reciproc...

A.   11 June 2017: This is a very interesting question because it throws open the debate to the very subjective interpretation of an adventurous sex life. So here's the thing. It's not that your sexual desires don't align, it's that yours is on a different ... (read in full...)

I advised the male friend that jacking off is normal, but telling me all about it is not. How should I deal with this issue when I raise it with my Bf?

Q.   Hello, I've been here historically and your answers have really helped me so I am hoping you can help me with something else as I honestly don't know how to talk to anyone about this or if I should. Before I get into it I need to point out that I...

A.   10 June 2017: I would not keep this guy in my life. Way to much drama and let's face it, you're not really getting anything out of the friendship other than a headache. How exactly is he a friend? Can you share your innermost thoughts and secrets with him? Can ... (read in full...)

How much should I spend on my boyfriend's kids' graduations?

Q.   Hi, I'm not very familiar with the US culture. My boyfriends son and daughter are graduating from high school and middle school. They have a party soon and I don't know what's the norm here and what I should get for them. Do you think spending l...

A.   9 June 2017: Whatever you give them, the monetary value should roughly be the same so that neither feels left out or more favoured. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has been mock hitting me

Q.   Hi, we've been in a relationship my boyfriend and I for 8 mth, we live together, he is a musician, gets hard for him to be talkative so I beleive he is not that skillful linguistically, and I understand the musician he is and how introvert he could ...

A.   9 June 2017: This is an instance of 'it's not you, it's him'. This is who he is and I would be very wary of him. It's inherent in him to express himself in this way... Today it's in jest, tomorrow it might be for some other reason... And this is something that ... (read in full...)

Should I commit to moving? Worried about his cheating in past and about leaving my family

Q.   Hi! I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for a little over two years. He is 27 and I'm 21, so naturally he has more experience than I do. 6 months into our relationship, he confessed that he had cheated on me, so we broke up...

A.   8 June 2017: The only advice I can give you is that don't commit to someone who you don't trust. Not now and never in life. ... (read in full...)

Should I be worried? He's 18 years older than me, separated and with kids.

Q.   So I have been seeing this amazing guy for a few months now and I'm head over heels for him. He is the same towards me. The only thing that worries me is he is 18 years older than me and is separated with kids... Advice please?...

A.   8 June 2017: More details please. Where and how did you meet him? How old are the kids? Why just separated, why is he not divorced yet? Who do the kids stay with? How involved is the ex in his life? The next obvious concern is that of age. Assuming you're ... (read in full...)

I'm having an affair with a married woman and she doesn't know if she can ever leave her husband for good

Q.   I am a 26 year old man. I work in a school system and I have now been dating one of my co workers for exactly a year (June 9th) The big problem here is that she is married, with 2 kids, and 11 years older then me. But this is not an affair like ...

A.   8 June 2017: She's a terrible person, a horrible wife and a disgusting disgrace of a mother. She's cheating on her poor husband who's trying his best to give his wife and children a good life and she's fucking you and going on holidays with you despite the fact ... (read in full...)

My husband and I are struggling to move on. Any suggestions on how we can resolve this?

Q.   Hi. I am a married mom mid thirties. My husband and I have been together for 20 years, married for 13 years. We have 5 children together. We have had a wonderful marriage up until recent. Back in Feb 2015 my husband started to receive texts fr...

A.   8 June 2017: It's not going to help if you play everything in your head over and over again. I know you want the details and I know you want to hear everything. It's like not being able to look away from a gory accident on the road. But tell me, how is this ... (read in full...)

I met a very genuine guy, but could this be too good to be true?

Q.   Hi! I'm currently a in college, and have recently gotten out of a relationship about five months ago. He was my first relationship and first love, as we talked for months over the summer before I entered college. He was very respectful and we did ...

A.   7 June 2017: Go with the flow and get to know him better. Good people do exist and it's great that you've met one. Don't question his goodness; embrace it instead and let's just hope that this will be one happy story :)... (read in full...)

Is my perfectionist boyfriend overly critical of my looks? Or am I oversensitive?

Q.   My bf used to think my looks were perfect. But he seems to put me down lately. Like he doesn't like a birth mark on my nose. I can't control that. He tells me that my body is perfect for a woman my age but that I am not 20 anymore. He sa...

A.   6 June 2017: He's extremely insecure about his own looks and doesn't have a clue how on earth he's landed you. He criticizes you to keep you in your place so that you don't start thinking that he's not good enough for you and leave him. It also making himself ... (read in full...)

We've been dating for 5 years. Why does he need so much attention from other women?

Q.   I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years. Throughout the relationship I have caught him engaging in online flirtation. He signs up for dating sites to chat with women, and he uses Facebook to chat with multiple women (sometimes the ...

A.   4 June 2017: Two questions: 1. Why are you still with him when you should have broken up with him in the first year itself when you knew that he was an ass? 2. Sorry for the language but can he get it up and perform? The reason I'm asking you this is b... (read in full...)

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