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What's up with this man? Why does he try to look good when I'm around?

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Question - (29 October 2016) 3 Answers - (Newest, 29 October 2016)
A female age 18-21, anonymous writes:

Hello there! 3 years ago, a male in his early twenties was hired in my school as an teacher. I met him because he became an assistant moderator for the club I went to. During the first year, we treated each other as friends... but in the second year (when I wasn't part of the club anymore) I didn't feel the need to say 'hello' to him in the corridors. My friends would tease me about him and tell me stuff. Now, I'm not a student but keep myself updated in school. I show up in important events to support my batch. During these important events, however, I catch this particular teacher staring at me often. It's not weirding me out or anything. I kind of appreciate the attention.. but I'd also like to know the reason why. I might've been close to him, which makes me confused about how I feel, and more so what he feels. What do I do? Why does he try to look good whenever I pass by him? Or is this just some coincidence?

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A female reader, RubyBirtle United Kingdom + , writes (29 October 2016):

It's coincidence. Or more likely wishful thinking on your part.

When we have a crush we become hyper-aware of the person we're crushing on. It seems that we notice every glance, every smile, every gesture and start to over-analyse the situation wondering if they like us back. We wonder about behaviour that we simply wouldn't have noticed in someone else.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (29 October 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntI think you have built this up a lot in your head because maybe you have a crush on him and you are hoping people will tell you he feels the same way. I don't see anywhere in this post that would suggest to me he likes you. Also you say he tried to look good when he sees you, how is it possible to know that?

Now I do understand what it is like being your age and having a crush, we build it up in our head until we convince ourselves the teacher likes us, he stares at us, smiles at us. More likely than not he is being friendly like he would to all people.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy + , writes (29 October 2016):

Anonymous 123 agony auntYou can't possibly not know the answer to this very obvious question and you want us to tell you what you want to hear. That he's attached to you.

Don't play with fire. It's flattering to think that a teacher likes you but don't let it get to you.

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